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Sex on the third date
I had a new guy date over to my house for dinner and wine for our third date.
We spoke of sex. I said that I wanted to wait. I am 39 he is 37 and we met in a dating site.
We had two great dates out previously. We have been very attracted to
each other. Is it a bad thing that when he came over he gave me
aassage and Oral and I gave him only a hand job. We came together. He seemed distant and sleepy. We fell asleep together but he never cuddled me. He got up and dressed to
leave. He said he will call me later. He was leaving I stopped him for a kiss and a hug and he left. Was it too soon?
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My opinion you jumped the gun way to fast
You met this person over a dating site, A third date you don't even know this man at all. You know this man based on what he wants you to know and what you have briefly seen in the little time you've spent together. The first 6 months is when you are just starting to get to know someone, Did you move to fast? Yes.
Do you want this man to come out and think of you as easy? Getting to touchy with him can end up leading him to the wrong impression. You do not know anything about him, He knows nothing about you. The best way to go about the entire thing is to take it slow. Enjoy one another time, Go out and have fun but lay off on the sexual activity until you both know one another well enough to know that you can trust the person. Meaning at least over 2 months. If he doesn't call you, He isn't interested. Do you know anything about this guy?...How do you know he isn't lying?. These are things to think about. Do you know his past? Do you know if the man is married? Has kids? Divorced? Having sex with someone on a third date is forward and it's a great way to scare some people off.
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The only way you will know if it was too soon is if he doesn't call you, reply or get back to you OR if you talk to him about what happened and find out if he wanted more than just sex. I don't think it was necessarily a bad thing. I just see it as you made your decisions and now you have to see where it goes from there. Maybe he had things on his mind, which is why he wasn't going to hug or kiss you goodbye.. talk to him, go on another date WithOUt sex and then see what happens. Sometimes sex just happens without us foreseeing it, sounds dumb but it's true And the only way to figure out why, is to wait and see... I'm glad you stopped him to hug and kiss him, cuz even though he didn't cuddle you, he needs to know that it mattered to you. Talk to him about how you are feeling and give the relationship time to develop <3
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