about

Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

advice

I just got braces a few weeks ago and my ortho told me that I would get them tightened every 3 months. But when I talked to all my friends who have had braces, they all said that they got theirs tightened every month. So my question is, what is the normal amount of time that is supposed to be between getting ur braces tightened? Is it one month or 3 months? I really want my teeth to move fast because I hate my braces and I want them off ASAP, so if I tell my ortho to tighten them more often (once a month instead of once every 3 months) will my teeth move faster? I think that maybe my ortho said I would get them tightened once every three months so that i would have to wear my braces longer and then he would make more money. (we pay him every month I have my braces on) Sorry this was long and confusing. Please help i'll rate 5's!

It depends on your teeth and orthodonist. On the contary, your orthodonist is losing money by not getting extra appointments. I'd trust him if I were you. If you really don't like him, get a new orthodonist- that's what I did and I'm much happier now.

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OK... I just wanted to see if anyone else has heard of this or knows what it is...
On my upper inner left thigh ther are these really strange marks. They look liek branches and kind of like scars. they are indented into my leg and pruple-ish. I never scarped my leg there or cut it but they look a lot like scars. By indented I mean if you run your finger along it it's like carved into my skin. Does anyone knows what they are, or how they might have got there? They just came up this past 3 months. thanks for ANY comments

Those are stretch marks. You can buy creams for it at Bath and Body Works, or you can get cocoa butter at Walmart. It's just because you're growing fast.

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You know those Livestrong Bracelets that everyone is wearing now-a-days? Well according to my Spanish teacher, they're also a symbol for hospitals to not ressusitate (sp.) you if you get in some sort of accident and are put in the hospital. Is this true??? Because if it is, that's awful, and I'm not wearing mine anymore.

No, that's not true. There's a bracelet that's the same style that is a different color that means that though.

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i need help im a guy and my hair is like out of control its super wavy and when i try to grow it out it compacts and wont go down how can i straighten it out or fix it please?

My brother has the same problem, and there are a couple of options.

You could buy a hair straightener, like the Remington Wet2Straight. However, you'd have to invest about 20 minutes every morning and probably put hairspray in.

Or you could try a straightening balm/spray. What you do is put it in your hair after a shower then blow dry. L'oreal makes a pretty good one.

Finally, you could get your hair chemically straightened at a hair salon. It's 20-50 dollars and lasts about 6 months.

Keep in mind that if your hair is thick then it won't look flat when it's straightened, I'd try a balm then if you like the look get it checmically straightened. Good luck!

Kristy

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Are there any programs that remove viruses, trojans, and spyware without you having to pay? I'm not talking about just the scan, also the removal.

I use Spybot, available at www.spybot.com

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okay..theres this 1 spot on my head thats hurting like really badly!! its swollen and hurts whenever i touch it just like when my hair hits it, it starts to hurt. Any 1 have any idea what it might be??And should i ask my mom to take me to the doctor? thanx
--Alexa--

It sounds like you bumped your head sometime- maybe it your sleep. No need to see the doctor, just ice it. Hope I helped!

Kristy

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i think i might have breast cancer. there is a lump in my breast and i don't know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. i dont want to go to the doctor until i am for sure that i might have it. I don't know what to do! please help me!!!

It depends on how old you are. If you're a teen, it's normal to have lumps as your breasts are growing. Just see your doctor and get it over with.

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hi again, thank you all so much, your answers and advice all helps but im still hurt. I cant believe i made such a fool of myself in moving too fast. i guess there is still a feeling for him, but its more hurt now thats filling my mind up more.

update on the whole issue. well, i contacted him after i wrote this question

see we were to go to dinner tonight, being friday night, so i was going to call to cancel, cos i wasnt up to it

i called and he answered

arrr. i mean just to here his voice sent shivers down and up my spine. it made me so nervous. anyway, i called and asked him if he was ok to talk to right now. and he said not really he is going out with his room-mate because she is leaving earlier that monday, so i am off to say goodbye.

i said, so where do i stand now, and he paused for so long, and i said what

he said nothing and then said, i dont know

so when can i see you, to talk. to try to clean slate my speediness in moving to fast with you,

and he said

well, hmmmm, well um, we can talk on monday. im off work.

so i was like, is this another one of his tricks, because when i go over there, again, i will have to try and contain my emotions, and feeling, and it may be hard. but im still confused on the whole issue. can i paste what he wrote to me yesterday night before i poored my heart out with hurt and sadness. i dont know why i did so, but unfortunatly i did, and i feel like a complete idiot. anyway, on monday night, this coming. i was invited to see TINA ARENA in concert. its 2nd row seats, and he will be there with his friend. well i went to visit his friend today, and i told him that i feel this way for him, and i feel like shit now and he wont return my calls.

well you have to give it time, he is just freaked by how fast you moved.

i was like, but he sent me those mixed messages

and his friend said, yes but you did move faster than normal people would do, i mean, if you want me to be honest, how do you know he is the guy for you, and i was like well, i dont, but i feel a feeling for him, and i just acted on it. may be the wrong way, but i cant change the way i do things or who i am.

his friend said to me 'do you want me to try and hint you toward him a little more, and see where it takes you, and i was speechless. i dont know i said. but he also said that i should take a few days off, dont call him. and just wait to hear from him.

i am seriously well, still have feelings for this guy, i dont know why, cos im hurt but i still cant help not knowing where i honestly stand with him.

by the way, my emotional outburst the night before was only caused by this comment

i messaged him on the dating website and said hi. this is what he wrote back.

Ummm yeah interesting profile....... I know that ive sent this profile a message before and never received anything back.
Anyway this isnt going to happen, friends is cool, but im 21 and still interested in enjoying myself, and no thats not saying i want to fuck around its saying that i am happy with how i am at the moment, and mabey you need someone who is also inexperienced, kinda hard to explain........

well can you understand why i poored my heart out so fast to him now, because i then retreat back and try to make sense of what happened when he put his head on my lap and stroked my legs.

i was so emotional i again scared him off.

so back to todays call, trying to cancel the dinner. i called him, he answers and said he was off to say goodbye to friends. i was like on, he said come over monday and we can chat, i was like on will you message me, and he was like silent.

i really dont know whats left to do. his friend contacted be just before i started writing this response. he said that its ok to come to tina arena. i asked him, and he said fine as long as i dont destroy the concert for him, he is fine....

i feel like i dont want to go now, based on that comment. i may have dissed his clothes and watch earlier, but he is far more hurtful that i was ever.

i guess i want to see the concert but i dont want to destroy it for myself becoming so silent because of him next to me, when all i want to do is hold his hand and say sorry for the past week.

i wanna tell him i love him, but i know that will destroy it, but im sure its love cos i cant stop thinking of him, i cant even keep my brain on work. its so hard. im so hurt.

what do i do....

should i go on monday morning, cos i want to, but im afraid to

he said that he is just after friends. thats it, but i still feel kind of violated, and hurt.

like my heart has been ripped out, and keeps being placed back in just to get re-torn out.

if i say goodbye, this town is only so small, and im sure ill run into him, and feel like a complete shit again.

so, i dont know

basically i feel like i should go, tell him one last time that he has hurt me, and if he says nothing or tells me it will never happen i will again feel like it was a waste of time.

i want to grab him and kiss him one last time, to see if there is anything still there, but again, like his friend has said, i would be moving too fast.

oh boy oh boy, im so bad at this whole thing.

i mean ive done the casual scene, but im now 25 and feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually ready for a relationship, it was the first time i have connected like that with a guy. it was so different to the others.

see this is what i want, i want to invite him over and cook for him, i want to light a candle, and sit and talk over wine, i want to kiss him and see if i can pass on this intensity that i have inside me. but i fear it will never happen,

yeah i know im moving too fast, but i cant help these feelings.

sometimes i wish i didnt meet him last weekend. cos i know i would have still a working heart, without hurt.

by the way, i am lonely, and i guess what i saw in him was trust and warmth, but it went cold for some reason.

i dont know anymore, i will give it one last try, and speak to him, and share my feelings, but should i speak love or chemistry.

i am deeply emotional, but i feel from my heart, not my body. if you all reading this i wish you could feel this feeling for one brief moment, the intensity, the completity, the heart exploding, um its a nightmare right?

thank you again. until the next update.

Look, I don't mean to be bossy, but you have to listen. He's just going to hurt you again- it's a negative cycle. Don't let him have control over you, babe. Don't call him again. Hang in there.

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I guess the best way to describe how I need advice is to briefly explain my situation.

I met this guy on Saturday Nite. The moment I saw him, I was stuck with a still focus. He looked back and forth, but it wasnt until his friend pointed out to him that I was looking over.

His friend tapped me on the shoulder and said that my friend is interested in you, but scared in approaching you. Nervous, well I guess we both were.

I walked over and introduced myself very bluntly, but friendly, because I thought that it was now or never. I shook his hand, and we briefly chatted, but the nervousness kept blocking both of us in having a normal conversation.

about 1 hour later, I walked back over to him and I gave him my mobile phone, and said 'here can i have your number'? He said yes, and put it in.

He offered to drive me home, as I was not driving that night. I was about to say yes, but I walked over to my friends, and asked them for advice. 2 of them said to say no, because unless you want to have sex tonight, dont go. I didnt go, because I never sleep with someone just for sex. Its more a need to trust first, then sex second.

I refused and said I would call him. He said ok.

I called him the next day, being sunday, and he invited me over for a movie at his place. I made it there at about 9pm. We spoke briefly, but went straight into the movie. It was probable the wrong movie to watch because it was a little erotic. I didnt choose this because of the erotic level, but rather because it had a story to it as well, and it was amazing.

after the movie, we spoke about out past a bit, about our interests as so on. He shared a lot of information, and I listened open minded. Then he asked me about my past. I was hesitant at first, but only because every other person I have met on a previous time has not wanted to see me again based on my past. No I havent murdered anyone, but I have been through a lot with my parental upbringing, meaning my parents subjected me to quite a vast amount of emotional torture. I never really have gotten over it, but everyday I try. I am only 25 but all the pain stopped at approx. 21. but the last 4 years have been very hard because emotionally and spiritually I have been very confused, very lost, and lonely due to it all.

Anyway, I told him that I didnt want to tell him yet, because of people running away due to the emotionally deepness of it all. He still wanted to know, and he put his head on my lap and started to stoke my knee, saying its ok, im not going anywhere. Please tell me. So i did. Not all, but bits and pieces. He still layed on my lap, but he grew more and more speechless and I became more and more confused. He said that although its a lot of information, its stuff people usually never tell people. I said well you persisted in asking me, I wasnt going to tell you, but I did only because you asked.

It was now 3am Monday Morning. I didnt want to drive home, because it was 35 minutes drive, and I said, if i slept here on the couch would you be offended. he said, come and sleep on my bed, and we can just cuddle, and nothing more, i promise.

I said ok. I walked into his room, and he kissed me, I stopped and looked at him, but the kiss was so passionate that I kissed him back. We didnt have sex, he didnt even offer. but what i did was fall asleep next to him, holding his hand.

I woke up, needed to leave, and said I have to go, around 7:30am this was. He said, kiss me, I did, and it was so different, because I have never felt this way. It wasnt love, I know, but it wasnt Lust either, It just felt really nice to be held by someone again. It was a long time since this had happened.

I left, and he walked me to my car. I opened my window, and he kissed me through the car window goodbye.

I drove off confused So Very Confused. Because It was the first time I had ever felt this feeling inside, but I was feeling very weird. He is 21 by the way.

I got home, got dressed, and headed off to work. I took my mobile with me, but because I had not much sleep, and this emotional feeling that was inside me exploding inside me, made me not keep my mind on my job all monday. I texted him later in the day, and I said that I had never felt this way before, and I dont want to scare you off, but am i moving too fast in saying that I feel something with you, something so powerful, something so profound and I cant explain it. He said no. You are not moving fast at all. Its ok.

I left that phone call thinking that this might be the one. and yes it was only the second day, but my heart was powerfully moved and my emotional connection with him was rapidly moving to climax. I wasnt sure of it all.

Tuesday came, and I rang him that night and offered him to come to meditation class with me. I said that its not hard to learn, and I would really love for you to come. I said think about it and please let me know either way. The class was on Wednesday Night at 7:30pm. He kept referring the whole meditation thing as 'HIPPY STUFF'. But I tried to reassure him that it wasnt.

Wednesday came, I didnt hear anything all day, so I turned on my phone, and texted him at 6:30pm. I said that I am off to Meditation class soon, and are you still coming. He first texted me and said, that you need to slow down a bit, cos im getting freaked out. I was ok, sure sorry I will.

he texted me back and said I am sorry, I am up having dinner with a mate. would you like to come and join us. I replied and said but im not dressed, and im in my work clothes. he said its ok. so i did.

I showed up, and we had dinner. he wasnt as talkative as usual, but I mean, we had been in contact non-stop, well actually I had been, not him, for the past 4 days. But remember he said I wasnt moving too fast. So i interpreted this as ok, keep moving at the current speed, its fine.

I spoke more to his mate and his mate was 15ish years older than him. We all walked to a quiet bar and sat and talked. I drant water because I didnt feel like alcohol. He didnt also. he sat next to me, and we hardly spoke. I guess I was nervous being with him like this, because the more I saw him, the more I grew closer to him. I didnt think it was love, but it sure felt like it.

I spent most of the nite on my mobile phone, texting people, because I was very nervous, and I didnt want to come on too strong, and I didnt want to freak him off. I liked him too much and didnt want to loose him to something so simple as my egarness.

he told me that i should put the phone down, but before i did, I texted him and said "do you know you are so sexy tonight"

he replied saying "haha. I know"

I thought nothing of the comment, and started talking about other things. then a friend from work came in and saw me. I was all nervous, i dont know why, but she walked past and said hi.

she sat over to my left on another lounge with 3 other girls. He was looking over at these people, and lots of others that walked past him. it was a little sad to watch his eyes roll all over them.

then suddenly he put his arm around me and yelled really loud, SO EVERYONE KNOWS NOW! ITS NO LONGER A SECRET. it embarrised me so much, but i didnt hate him, i just grew more silent. His friend told him to stop it, because he was embarrising me.

What confused me was the fact that one minute he is laying on my lap, begging me to tell him my past, stoking my knee. sleeping together, holding his hand. kissing him. kissing me goodbye through the car window. telling me i am not moving fast, and then i am, and that i am scaring him off. then inviting me out to dinner, and not talking to me much, and then putting his arms around me and speaking loudly. I didnt know what messages he was sending me, and it was making me emotionally confused.

We finished the night off, walking along the beach, the 3 of us, and then heading to a bar, where i played a game of pool with his mate. It was an all in all good nite, except he was silent, and he didnt say goodbye to me, but his friend said bye instead. his friend offered me a concert ticket to join the two of them on Monday night. I accepted.

He didnt say goodbye, and I was confused further. I guess I knew something had happened. but what?

I texted him in the morning, and said thank your for the night, and that I enjoyed myself quite a bit. by the way, we had already organised another date just the two of us, a few days earlier. on friday nite to have dinner somewhere.

anyway i texted him saying that i had a great night and that i enjoyed myself. I switched off my phone, and went to work, and didnt switch it back on, because i couldnt take any distractions today due to heavy work load.

I got home at 6:30pm, turned it on, and recieved a text back from his mate and him. his mate said that he got the tickets to the concert, 2nd row. but he texted me saying that I made him out to be a complete slut last night, and that i embarrised him. well I was confused again, but I was so sad to be confronted like that, so i texted him right back, and said I was on my way to talk to you to explain myself properly. He texted me back saying that he would rather speak about it on friday night. tonight was thursday. I said fine, ok, no worries, but also said sorry for any problems I may have caused.

I went over a friends house that evening, and he was online on the dating website I joined. although we didnt meet through this site, because it was local, we met at a bar. I messaged him and said hey, its me.

he messaged me back 10 minutes later. and he wrote that we could never have a relationship due to what happened last night and that because you hinted to me that you want a full on relationship, and that i dont. He said just because of this comment it doesnt mean that I want to f#%k around, but rather I cant see myself with you now. I am only 21.

I messaged him back, trying to get an explaination for the comment. he said join me in a private message chat room. i did.

he said that because of all of the shit last nite, i cant see myself with you long term. you are ready for a relationship and i am not. his profile on the website also states that he is after a relationship too. so again i was confused.

I started to cry and my friend i was with sitting next to me, was very confused, as to why i was getting so attached so soon to someone i barely knew.

we chatted for approx. 1 hour. and i poored so much emotion out that night, he didnt speak at all. I said all what i have told you, that the mixed messages, moving too fast then im not, so on. and he said, that why are you like this. any normal person would have told you to f#@k off by now, because you are freaking me out. then i was so sad, for that comment, i said i was hurt, my heart was crushed, and so on. [I can still feel the pain right now]. I said that i am not sure if i can be just friends because all i want to do is grab you kiss you and hold you. I feel something so profoundly impactfully stong and powerful, and why you dont see this, is beyond me. I said that if we were to sustain a friendship, after this big week, I would have to bottle all my feelings for you, and put a lid on them all. and try to be just friends. but i said it would be hard.

and then he said very little, but he said he wants to be friends. more than ever. but I was too sad to make a decision that night. he said he had to go to sleep for work the next day.

I couldnt sleep all night, because of the issues looming in my mind. i woke up every 1 hour tossing and turning. I woke up at 6:30am, and texted him one last time being Friday, the day we are to go out for a date. I said i was sorry for last night, sorry for going all emotionally distraught, so on. and I would like to come over tonight and speak to you in person, if that is to say goodbye, or to stay friends, i dont want to do it on the internet or the phone, i need to speak to you face to face.

I did ring his friend and say that I am shocked. that has he spoken to him? and he said no. I told him briefly, that I was feeling so connected to him, and I was afraid that i stuffed it all up, that i destroyed it all, because i moved fast. he said i did move too fast, but there is something you must know about this guy you are in love with. he is a very touchy feelie person. he did the exact same thing to another person 2 months ago. and the same reaction you are having happened. I said that have i blown my chances, and he said i am not sure, but i will talk to him, and say that you are deeply regreting loosing him as a friend. I said thanks. I also said that do you think that i should give the concert a miss because I might be moving again too fast too soon. seeing too much, and he may need time to settle down. cool down so to speak.

he said ill get back to you after i speak to him today.

which brings me to now. writing this.

the advice i am after is:

was i too fast.
am i too emotionally deep
is there something wrong with me
did i do things wrong.
why did i get attached so emotionally to this person
and what was the feeling in my body, if it wasnt love and wasnt lust.

i dont know if its me, but it sure feels like hell today. I am awaiting his return message but i am doubting he will message me and let me speak to him tonight.

ps: sorry my story is so long. i needed to set the story right so you could understand better.
thank you for reading it.

Hi! First of all I'd like to apologize for Snakeeyes. Some people on here are really rude. However, your question is one of the best questions we've ever had.

It sounds to me like this guy has a little bit of a mental problem. No, he shouldn't been in an asylum or anything- that not what I mean. I hate to bring myself into my answers but let me just explain to you another person like that. My dad. When I was a kid he was normal, but something just snapped. He got his girlfriend pregnant, they have a baby boy, he's a year old and two months ago my mom filed for divorce. My dad insists on thinking my mom has brainwashed me and my brother into hating him. He randomly gets mad about little things and lies about EVERYTHING. One day he's trying to be reasonable, the next he's screaming and threatening. Now, how is this related to your guy? They have the same mind problem, to enjoy hurting people. I've had to battle this, and it's hard- this was passed down to me and my brother. Of course, you'll never be able to prove he's not right mentally, but please just know that something is very wrong with him. Not as extreme as my dad but hurtful nonetheless. You need to distance yourself from this guy. Don't have any contact with him. Create a new username on the dating website. Get Caller ID, if you need to. Don't talk to him or anything- he'll just lie. Just imagine he doesn't exist. It'll be hard at first, but you have to- you can't let him hurt you like this.

I'm sorry in advance for all the rude answers you'll recieve from people who don't understand. Hang in there, and send me a message if you need any more help.

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I'm not sure how to explain this. For example, I'm trying to lose weight, see. And my Aunt tells me that I've lost some weight. I don't like to hear those things from her.

At first I thought it was because I fear success. But if my wife gives me an encouraging comment like that then I take it good. I feel good. I feel encouraged. And it's like that with everyone. But from my Aunt... well, with the weight thing, it'll make me feel like eating more and gaining weight to make her wrong.

It might help if I explain a little bit more about my relationship with my Aunt. She raised me and for a long time I felt like she was my mother; even after she told me she wasn't. In the last few years though I've thought like that somewhat less. I still feel somewhat like she's my mother but not as strongly as I once did.

So what could be the problem?

It seemes like you strongly dislike you aunt somewhere inside you. Not to sound like a shrink or anything, but maybe she did something when you were little and you're carrying that resentment still.

Or it could be the way your aunt is saying that. I know how a compliment can sound like an insult coming from certain people. Maybe you think she's implying you shouldn't or that it's nothing short of a miracle.

You should probably talk this over with your wife or someone you trust.

Hope I helped- good luck on your diet!

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I just moved to a new state and i do not know a lot of people and i want to babysit in my spare time. but i do not know how to get the word out that i will be able to babysit?help me please!

Try typing up some flyers and putting them in mailboxes around your neighborhood. Good luck!

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I use Mary Kay indigo eyeliner (it looks like black. There was no black when I got it). When I use it, I put it on the bottom of my eye, on like the inside part (it's hard to explain). Well when I get to school or wherever I am going, the eyeliner has already worn off! Is it because I use it on the inside and it's kind of wet near my eye? Or is it the brand of eyeliner? If it's the brand, could you give me some suggestions of really good eyeliners? Thanks

You shouldn't put it on the inside of your eye- it can damage your cornea and make you blind. Also you can (as gross as it sounds) tear the skin there. Instead, line right beneath your lower lashes. Good luck!

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okay..i have oily skin on my nose and chin and at the end of the day all my makeup is gone there! and i look terrible cause my nose has a ugly birthmark on it and my chin has pimples..anyone know a good face powder that works really good and will stay on ALL DAY?? (if you need to know..i use face powder from clinique)

Clean and Clear oil absorbing sheets and oil reducing moisturizer work well for me. For powder, New York Color's powder works really well and lasts pretty long, and it's only $1.72. All of these products are available at Walmart and most drugstores. Good luck!

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I have been searching for some selfharm websites that offer support to people who self harm. I haven't really found any good ones so can anyone tell me of any?

Go to ask.com and type it what you what, like "cutting help". I also found some really good sites under suicide help once.

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with an average income, how much would you spend on your 15 year old child?

thanks

Around $150, but a little less for a step child. It depends on whether it's a girl or boy- sometimes girls expect more.

Hope I helped!

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heyy i normally answer questions but now i got one!.. alright well im moving in january and my christmas presents are mainly going to be stuff for my new room.. but the thing is i dont want to get really expensive stuff because were gunna be spending a lot of money on the house.. so i need awsome but inexpensive stuff, i already went to ikea, and pottery barn teen.. and i picked out some awsome stuff.. anyone have any other low priced bedroom places?! x3

Bed Bath and Beyond has really cute stuff.

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My girlfriend's and my one month anniversary is going to be on Thursday. What are some good things to do over the weekend with her, such as Saturday? What is a good gift to give her? I am 14/m and she is 16/f. We love each other very much, and I'm not sure what to get her... please help!
PS: Btw, this is the guy who wanted to ask that girl to Homecomming. Haha, I found a different, better girl who I now love! :)

Hi! I'm glad you found someone better. Anyway, for your advice...

I don't know the girl, but here are some ideas I know I would like (I so wish- my bf is clueless). You should probably go out to a nice dinner- maybe go see a movie, then eat around there? The Macaroni Grill is really close (walking distance) but if you're going on Saturday call them and make reservations, they can get really crowded. Go to fandango.com and check the movie listings (make sure you put in the right day and theater) so you can decide what time dinner is. Then go see the movie and walk her over to the restraunt. (By the way, bring mints- the macaroni grill is very italian, and that means TONS of garlic. do NOT order the mozerella sticks- they're covered in the stuff.) Then when you sit down give her your gift. For a gift, like I said I don't know what she's like, but I'd recommend jewelry. Now don't panic, no diamonds or anything, but a semi-nice necklace. Most girls like the kind that are a chain with their initial on it (mine is a heart with a K). Wrap it up nicely. Or a purse- ask your mom for help on that. Afterwards maybe go to cold stone for ice cream or something. Try to spend as much time as possible with her. Maybe bring her flowers on Thursday- girls LOVE flowers. Or you could (if you know her schedule) put a rose on her desk in each class. Go early to school and early to her classes- maybe have her friends involved to stall her- and ask the teacher or her classmates where she sits.

By the way, you said in your feedback you saw me at Homecoming. Do I know you? Or can you tell a lot about me by my pic? Or were you at sweet tomatoes or something? Sorry for the questions...you don't have to answer if you don't want to- I know lots of people on this site don't wanna reveal their "real world" identity.

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What are some good ways to make your girlfriend feel special, like make her feel like you are the best guy in the world (well I know that's probably around impossible. So I am exaggerating a bit, haha.)? What do you girls think would make you special if your guy said them to you or things like that?

The little things really count.

Bring her flowers randomly, poems, framed pictures, whatever. Walk her to her classes, even if it makes you late. Spend time with her at lunch, instead of hanging with your friends. At lunch, you don't have to really do anything- just hang out. The nicest thing my ex ever did was, at lunch we'd sit between the bookselves in the library (it was nice and warm) and just cuddle- not talk or anything. Never, EVER say "Love ya"- I can't explain it (girl thing) but it just makes "I love you" sound so quick and important. Always say that full "I love you". If you like her outfit or her perfume or how she did her hair, TELL HER! But never ever say something like "You look better with your hair up". Open the door for her, don't sit until she does, and never say "Oops, I gotta go- there are my friends".

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I'm going to sign my teacher up to be on what not to wear. The thing is, on the sign up sheet, you have to fill out where they live, their day time phone number and adress. Obviously I have to find out that stuff without her knowing. Does anyone have any ideas of what I should do to get this information?

Ummm..I don't know....but I just wanted to let you know that at least one person over 16 has to support you, they don't let minors make recommendations, and also your teacher WILL find out it was you that said it! Also, you have to live in the state of new york- they don't travel.

You could ask your parents maybe- sometimes teachers give out phone numbers. Or your school directory. Or look in the phone book.

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Im 14 and about a year ago i started noticing wierd bumps on my thighs and the backs of my arms. The bumps are kinda like pimples they have white dots in them. Even if i dont shave they dont go away. Please Help Me!

Okay I've read all of the answers here, and I really don't think you have those diseases- that's not white bumps, it's a large pink rash. However I have the same exact thing (in patches sorta) and I asked my best friends mom, who's a dermatoligist (skin doc) and she said...

These just mean your arms and thighs are dry. Exfoliate. Also, after the shower, dry off and put on a good lotion- try Bath and Body Works, they have really yummy winter scents right now. Hope I helped!

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