BIOGRAPHY:
My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
I'm very genuine when it comes to giving advice. I try to be sympathetic to the person asking the question, but I don't ever sugar coat things. I've learned quickly that many people who ask for help don't really want advice - they want someone who will say what they want to hear. Sorry, but you're not going to get that with me. I'm not here to make friends (if a friendship happens though, yay for me!). You'll always get the truth from me whether you like it or not. While the truth may sting just a bit to begin with, it will absolutely set you free in the long run. If you want to be lied to, please seek advice from somebody else.
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when i am giving my bf a bj do i move the skin up and down or just like slide my lips up and down without moving the skin? (link)
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A good blowjob is a joint effort between the mouth and the hands. As you suck him off, stroke him off too. And instead of guessing and/or hoping he likes what you're doing, simply ask him. Think of his penis as a microphone. If you're willing to suck on it, don't be afraid to talk into it.
Ask him what he likes and if what you're doing is feeling good. He'll let you know. There's really nothing you can do to make it un-enjoyable for him unless you're scraping your teeth against it or biting it. If that's the case, back away from the penis. Otherwise, any attention you give to it will be welcome.
There are things that can be done to enhance the pleasure, but not a lot can be done to make him dislike it. That's why guys love blowjobs. Even when it's not being done right, it's still hot. And with practice, you'll be able to do it exactly how he likes it.
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It's the first time to contact you but I really need yr advice here specially I need such advice from a mature female. I'm 26 years old from Egypt and I'm in love with a women 25 years my senior. She is from TX. We first met in a chat room and we were very nice to each other. Actually I met her after some emotional troubles and depression I was stuck in before our meet with 12 months or more but after I met this women I really found a life should be lived and she helped me to heal my soul. We know each other since last March 2006 and after 3 months we both felt that chemistry between us and she was the first telling me that she die at me and she loves me (as I think), and I also was feeling the same way. She only has one 23 years old daugther who's working in another state, so my lover stays alone at home and she told me that she has met before other guys in chat rooms and most of them told her that they love her also and want to marry her and she had told me that before telling me that she loves me. When she has told me about those guys I explained her that there are alot of guys from outside the US who use this way to get marry with women from the US or Europe for immigration purposes.
I told her that I'll not be ready to leave my country now because I have family here I have to take of and I cannot leave them and she suggested to come and live here but I also found it not good idea because life her is not easy at all.
I have a job here and I like it and I'm afraid if I'll move to the US that I'll never find a similar job but I told my lover that I'm ready to work in any job and will not a problem.
She also as most of the older women have worries about the comments of the friends and family after she talked to them and there are some with and others are against. Her daughter has no rejection for this matter and all she wants is to find her Mom is happy in her life after 2 bad marriages she suffered from.
I know that you will find this a crazy idea because the age difference between us but I see her as the most beautiful women on earth and I guess she finds me that kindhearted young man who loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her. But believe me, I don't mind with her age or the other people's opinion even we talked about having children and I told her that I don't want kids because this could be dangerous to her life and all I want is she.
So, please give me yr advice and I'm waiting for any other details or explains you might need.
Regards,
M. AAMER
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It sounds like you truly care for this woman because you're thinking rationally, focusing on what would be best for both of you instead of just focusing on what both of you want. That takes a lot of patience and a lot of maturity, so I commend you for that.
Unfortunately, you're in a bit of situation where a change is definitely going to happen, and if you want this to work out in your favor, you're going to have to be the one to make the change. I suggest taking some time to think about what changes you are willing to make.
Some people are satisfied with long distance / online relationships. This woman doesn't sound like she's one of those people. She sounds like a woman who needs a lot of support - emotionally and physically. Some people need physical contact to be assured that they'll be OK.
If you're not in the position to where you're willing to move to America to be with her, you need to tell her that all you can be right now is a supportive friend from afar. Sure it'll hurt the both of you, but she'll be happier in time when her needs are being met.
If you want to be the one who meets her needs, you should make the move. I don't think you should accept her invite for her to move there because she has a daughter who still needs her mother. You, on the other hand, are a bright, young man who might be ready to move.
If you're not ready to move, the relationship is going to have to end unless the two of you are willing to continue to wait for each other. I think both of you will be happier when you settle on a decision, so make the time to talk to her and come to an agreement of some sort.
I hope everything works out for you. You seem like such a nice guy, and if you do come here to America, we'd be lucky to have someone like you here. :)
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Hey, I kinda need alot of help here.
My friend Christie has recently been in a car accident.. on Saturday night. She isnt hurt, but her head is pounding and she has bruises where the seatbelt was and where the air bag burnt her.
Her father is in critical condition, He broke both of his legs and his nose and he is very burnt.
While the collision happened, she was going 40 mph and the guy trying to pass a car in front of him was going 65 mph. It was a head on collision while the person trying to pass was over the double yellow line.
Christie's head is pounding, and I don't know what to say when she says "my head hurts.. it's pounding!" And I told her to go back to the hospital [she went saturday night after the accident, and they said it was just a head ach.] I told her to try to ice it, and just not go in heavy activity and she does anyways. Should she go back to the hospital? And after the told them her head hurts, they told her she probaly is in shock and its just a headach.
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Sorry to sound like a broken record since everyone is giving you the same advice, but your best friend needs to go to the hospital as soon as possible. She needs to get her head X-rayed (possibly a cat scan or an MRI) to see if something serious is going on internally.
I would even hesitate to advise her to take any medicine for the pain. Some medicines containing Aspirin can thin your blood, which is not good if you have an internal bleed. Advise her to go get checked out so she can get the appropriate treatment. She'll feel better physically and mentally when she does.
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Hi i was wondering how to go up to a girl like in the mall.like what to say.and how to find out if their single or not..please help me
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Maybe it's just because I'm older, but if a guy approached me in the mall it'd give me the creeps. Unless you're talking about talking to a girl who works at the mall and then asking for it, you shouldn't just approach random girls and ask for their numbers. The mall is our church. We go there for one thing and one thing only - to worship the act of shopping.
I know this might not be exactly what you want to hear, but it's the truth. I don't want you to get hurt or be let down, so I'm trying to help you avoid any situation where a girl might find your actions bizarre or strange. You might consider striking up a conversation with a girl at a music store or at the food court. As long as it's genuine and doesn't feel forced, you'll be good to go.
You can slowly approach asking for the number if everything is going well and after enough time has passed. It'll be tricky though. If it's too soon or the conversation is too awkward, you'll either be turned down and humiliated or get the green light from some obsessive needy girl who'll be standing outside your window at night watching you play video games.
...Not that I have any experience doing that or anything.
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Ok, So I became friends with this girl "Sara" recently, and I'd say we're pretty much best friends now. I've really, really liked this guy "Joe" for over two years. Anyways, Sara always hangs out with him. She'll call him and ask for rides to parties (which, I'm not really a Partier). And in gym class[I'm in the 11th grade btw, and he just graduated] she would always do stuff to get him to react to her with some comment. I don't think he likes her though. Many others agree that she flirts with him..A LOT. We even went to the movies with Joe and his friend, hoping I'd get a chance to hang out with him [so she said], and she sat by him AND talked to him the whole time. She claims she doesn't like him and that she's "IN LOVE" with my long time[like whole life] friend "Chad" [he just "does stuff" with her/uses her], but sometimes I doubt her truth about Joe. She's VERY flirty and loves attention from boys (not to be mean, but it's true.)So can someone PLEASE give me there's opinion and advice!?. Sorry again it's so long. (link)
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I have mixed feelings about this situation. If you were my friend, I wouldn't be intentionally flirting with the guy you liked; however, if I was a good enough friend to back off and you didn't make a move, I would probably resume flirting with him too.
I get the impression (based on the info you've given us) that you haven't made any attempts to be with him. Two years is a long time to be wanting someone from afar. It's time to stop wanting and start getting. You need to take a cue from your friend and be a little more aggressive.
Guys will never be able to read your mind. You need to be confronting him (instead of her, especially since she doesn't seem to care) and telling him how you feel. He might like you back and this problem can end happily.
Finally, are you sure this girl is your best friend? I can't imagine continuously doing something to hurt my best friend even though she told me it hurts her. You might want to find a new friend - someone who supports you and cheers you on - not someone who competes with you.
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what are good songs that are hip hop rap that stuff that are like about love and missing someone.
plzz and thank you (link)
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Listen to Lily Allen's "Littlest Things."
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when a guy says he loves u does he mean it? (link)
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Some guys are genuine when they say it and some guys are not. It's not what a guy says that shows how much he cares. It's what he does.
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theres this girl at my youth group in my church. I've talked to her online before, but ever since the first time i talked to her (which was barely a min, and it wasnt a direct conversation) its always been hard for me to talk to her.
So i've been talking to her online for about a week now, and we said we'd see eachother at the all nighter, but I just couldnt talk to her, and i tried a few conversation starters (like talking about soccer, since we were playing soccer), and trying to like talk about something random and nothing worked...
I guess I'm just really shy but I want to talk to her. I don't really have a "crush" on her. She is very attractive however, and I'm constantly intimidated by pretty girls who I don't know.
What should I do? What should I say to her? How should I approach her? (link)
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Aww. Don't be intimidated by her. You seem like a sweet guy, and I'm sure there are lots of girls who are just as intimidated by you as you are of her. Right now you're probably thinking to yourself "yeah right!" but just know that she'd probably think the same thing if she thought someone was intimidated by her. Hopefully, if she's a true Christian, she isn't going to act as if she's better than you are when you approach her. That should ease some of your fears.
The fact that you two share the same religion should also make it easier for you to talk to her since you know you both already have one important thing in common. Use your faith as a conversation starter. Talk to her about what happened in your group. Ask her if she'd like to have a group (or solo) bible study together some time at your place. Ask about some of her views on more controversial Christian topics. Us girls are very opinionated, and we love having a good, friendly analytical discussion about something we're passionate about.
Obviously you don't wanna spend all of your time with her talking about religion (or maybe you do), but eventually as you feel more comfortable talking and listening to her, the other stuff will come out naturally. Just keep the conversation nice and relaxed. Talk about things that interest you and her. If you bring up a subject, you'll be able to see it in her face if it's something she's interested in. The more you do it, the more you'll get comfortable with it. Just put on a brave face and have faith that at the very least you'll make a new friend.
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I am 47 years old male and dated a woman of 34 for the last two years. Since we do live in different countries, we see each other about 4 moths a year. She is really nice and has the perfect temperament for us to have a good relationship.
However, since of late, I could not find a good erection t have sex with her. I performed oral sex on her, and what ever she does become ineffective for my erection.
I could have my blow jobs, and more importantly, I have had sex with other two other women since this problem started.
Obviously nothing wrong with me. My question is Has she lost her sex appeal towards me and if so what I can do get it back, since I love her and wants to be with her.
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If you're the one who's unable to get an erection with your girlfriend, why would you assume that it's her who has the problem? It seems like there's a good chance the problem may be you. Maybe you're just not attracted to her any more and that's why you can get an erection with other women but not her. There's more to attraction than just the physical stuff.
Maybe your mind is preoccupied whenever you get the chance to see her since you do live so far away from each other. The stress of traveling could be taking its toll on your concentration when you are being intimate with her. It sounds to me like there could be other issues in your relationship, especially if you're cheating on her with other people.
You should get yourself checked for sexually transmitted diseases. I'm sure some STDs could prohibit you from maintaining an erection in some instances. No matter how informed you think you are about people's sex lives, it's impossible for you to know for certain what they're doing or what they've done. The two women that you're cheating with or even your girlfriend could have other lovers.
As far as your girlfriend's sexual interest in you - it's hard for me to determine what could be going on without talking to her. Maybe distance is playing a factor and getting to be too much to handle. Maybe she wants a commitment. Maybe she wants to be with someone who isn't sleeping with two other women. I honestly don't know because it could be a lot of things, or it could just be you.
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okay. I sold a DVD on ebay for $17.The buyer used Paypal. Also, I bought some decals off ebay for $20. It says my current balence is $0. How do I turn the money I made into cash in m hand? I think that I got it transferred into my bank account,but im not sure. And does it subtract the $20 from my bank account??? Or do I need to do some thing??? I am veryyyyy confused.. Please help. (link)
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I've used Paypal before, so you and russianspy1234 might want to listen and learn. There's three different ways to get money from your Paypal account.
#1. You can transfer that money into your bank account.
#2. You can set it up so that Paypal will send you a check that you can cash at your bank.
#3. You can get a Paypal debit card that allows you to withdrawal money instantly from any ATM machine or it can be used as a credit/banking card.
I've always preferred option #3. The link to get it is below.
https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=xpt/cps/account/DCIntro-outside
There's a few steps you have to complete in order to actually get your card, but once you get it, it's so much easier than all of the other options. As soon as you receive money from a buyer in your Paypal account, having the card is as good as having cash in your hand because you can use it instantly.
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Did you ever stop and think why your are in love with the person you are crushing on. All of the sudden i just stop myself and thougt about, "why am i in love with her? why do i like her?" i am not love blind i know how annyoing and self fish and rude she can be to me but i still like the person, even thou i told her how i felt and she loves me as a friend. why am i still in love with this person. i think its just so hard to find out the true answer of love in this world and why it is important to all of us. it make us happy but then it can be hard to keep that love stronge. life is just odd...
FYI:i am a bi-sexual women. (link)
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There's a myth that people tell themselves - that we are unable to control our emotions, but that is untrue. Emotions, if you don't control them, will inevitably control you. Essentially, emotions are nothing more than thoughts that need to be fed and nurtured. If you don't feed and nurture your emotions, they will die. Since their fate lies in your hands, you have the power to control them.
It's wise that you learn self discipline in order to spare yourself the pain and agony of a broken heart that's fed and kept alive by negative thinking. Instead, choose power and positivity.
I mention this because of your original question. For you, I pose a different question: have you ever stopped to think about why human beings place more importance and value on the love from another than on the love they have for themselves? I ask this because I truly believe that if you loved and respected yourself, you might not allow yourself to be with someone you deem as "annoying," "rude," or "selfish."
Self love and self respect is far more important and valuable than the love and respect of another person. I think if you could learn to love you (more), you would find the answer to your question.
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like i'm totally serious..... not even one!! you see, i go to this school that's all girls, and I guess I've never really gotten along with girls that well. But, someone the other day told me the reason why is because I'm very pretty and they're jealous of me. But, there's other pretty girls at my school, and they all have friends. But, I just feel a little bit lonely at school. Outside of school, I talk to people and stuff, and it's funny because I have a boyfriend but whenever I go online, all these guys IM me, and nobody from school talks to me, but I still feel bad. Why won't anyone hang out with me?? thank you (link)
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I've always had a hard time making friends, especially with girls. I think it's hard nowadays because we've all been brainwashed into believing stereotypes about each other. We all try to fit into these roles we're given, and when we're unable to play the part, we're seen as an outcast.
I don't know you, but I'd be willing to guess that you don't fit into any one group. You're probably a mixture of every group, which is an amazing thing to be and you should be proud of that. Unfortunately, in high school (I assume you're in HS), you get punished for it and it sucks.
I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but the truth is, it might not get better. People suck and high school is very difficult to get through. If you have any friends at all (even outside of school), you should consider yourself lucky. Try befriending those who truly have none.
The good news is that college is a very different experience. Something odd happens between high school and college. People become much more nicer and a lot more mature. The cliques have all broken up and everyone pretty much does their own thing. In short, you're going to love college.
Everyone is more open minded, and there's a greater feeling of acceptance. There is no "cool" or "popular" anymore. That pretty much stays back in high school where it belongs. Subsequently, the "popular" kids have a more time adjusting to college because there is no more prestige.
So please keep trying to look up and look forward. There's going to be brighter days ahead. It may not be today or tomorrow, but they're coming. And in the meantime, instead of waiting for friends to come to you, try getting out there and being the one who initiates friendships with others.
There's a bunch of people out there who're probably wishing that you would talk to them and be their friend. I hope this helps. Good luck. :)
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i'm sorry if this is long, but i really, really would appreciate some help because i'm going bananas....
ok, i'm trying to remain calm while writing this because i'm about to scream at the top of my lungs. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than three months. We are very, very close. We talk on the phone every day, and pretty much he is my best friend and I love him so much. But, he can be very forgetful, and I know that he doesn't do it maliciously because his mom and I talk too, and she tells me how forgetful he can be. he does not have a good memory according to his sister, his mother, and his friends. So, pretty much, I believe it if that many people are saying the same thing.
Now, I have to start from my first encounter with a boy to really send this message accross. I was thirteen years old when I had my first "encounter" or first started talking to a boy. I really liked him, and this is such a special time in a girl's life. My mom completely had to take over. I guess me going to an all girls school has something to do with it. But, whenever I went on the computer to talk to him, she would follow me into the room, sit next to me, and bring in the entire family into the room to tell me everything to write to him and when I didn't write what they wanted, they would start screaming at me, doors would slam, and you get the idea. I'm not exaggerating, this is just how it happened. Well, he got away all thanks to her just because she liked his best friend better for him. so keep all this in mind
ok, so my boyfriend the other day forgot our anniversary and I was really, really upset about it. But, he felt so bad and he was even like almost crying. So, I felt kind of bad. But, I forgave him because I remembered that he was forgetfull. But, on Wednesday, his sister, whos visiting from colleage, invited me to go to their beach apartment (we live in miami), and she told me to save the date. But, yesturday he didn't call me to give me the address of the apartment. I don't want to call him anymore, I want him to call me, but what should i do.... i need a really good solution and right now honesty is NOT the best policy. He needs a wake-up call and someone has to call him, preferrably a guy, and tell him that he likes me or something. He needs to feel jealousy, rage, and want to keep me away from them. I just need a plan...... BY TODAY!!
Now, back to my mom. All she does is bother me and tell me that he's cheating on me because he didn't call me for one day, and tell me all this stuff and telling me that these are signs of resentment, and i'm done following her advice!! She ruined everything with my first guy, and she's divorced.... so she thinks she knows everything about men, but not all men are the same, people are very different and show things differently, and I don't want her advice on this. I don't want another episode of last time, so I really need your help..... please and thank you
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You're not going to like my advice, but I hope you're mature enough to read all the way through before making any snap judgments about what I'm gonna say. You and your mom sound like you're at extreme opposites concerning this situation - you're being way too naive and optimistic, and your mom is being far too judgmental and pessimistic. Somewhere in the middle lies the truth, and that's where I come in.
Your boyfriend doesn't have a bad memory - he's lazy. I've known a million guys like him, and that's always their excuse to not put any effort into anything. I'm sure his mother and sister and everyone else agrees because before he lied and told you that, he lied and told them that as well. In fact, he's probably used it as an excuse so much by now that he truly believes it himself. You don't have to buy it or let him get away with it.
I promise you that there will come a time when there's something he TRULY wants to remember, and he's not going to have ANY problem remembering. When/if you confront him about it, he'll make another excuse and try to specify what he meant about being forgetful. It'll be something like "well, I'm just bad with anniversaries and birthdays..." Uh-huh. Like that excuse hasn't been used a million times before by like every guy ever.
So what you need to do is call him on it. Yes, I know you've been dating for more than three months and he's the love of your life and yada yada yada, but if he can't remember one day for you then it's obvious you're not the love of his life. Tell him you DEMAND he make an effort to remember things, especially things that are important to you. Tell him that this is a deal breaker - something you simply won't put up with or it won't ever end.
In his defense, I don't know what kind of anniversary the two of you had to celebrate after dating for such a short amount of time, but if you thought it hurt then when he forgot, imagine how hurt you're gonna feel when he forgets your one year anniversary or your wedding anniversary, etc.. This guy doesn't need you setting him up to force him into giving a damn. You either need to step up and be honest with him or find someone else.
Don't waste your time trying to make him jealous. It's not likely to work, and if it does work, the effects will be short lived. You can't make him care about stuff enough to remember, but you can have an honest discussion with him and tell him what you are and are not willing to put up with. Hopefully you respect yourself more than to put up with a guy like this. You've known yourself a lot longer than this guy, so put yourself first.
Oh, and finally, I'm not usually this blunt (OK, I am, but not usually on this advice column), but your mother seriously needs to get a life. I mean honestly, bringing the whole family into the room while you try to chat privately with friends? What the hell is that? This isn't Family Feud. There's no familial participation required. Doesn't your family have anything better to do? That's just odd. You definitely have my sympathies about this.
You need to sit down and have a calm, rational discussion with your mom about privacy and boundaries. Do it in a mature way and she will see that she's been selling you short and that you can handle some situations on your own. Unfortunately, she's crossing the line and making a bad situation for you even worse. Try hard to repair this relationship. Once things are running smoother here, things will run more smoothly in your personal life.
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I have the best husband in the world i love him so much.....but there is one BIG problem he abuses me....he hits slaps pulls my hair elbows me pushes me....but there is another problem i love him to much to leave him i love him so much so leaving him is not an option....what should i do?
Broken hearted and torn (link)
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You might love him, but he obviously doesn't love you. Would you ever treat him the way he treats you? No. That's because your love for him is sincere. His love is tainted because he's a disturbed individual who needs help. Staying in the relationship and letting him mistreat you is not a loving thing for you to do either. You're being an enabler. The most loving and selfless thing you could do for him would be to leave him and motivate him to get the help that he needs, so in the future he can experience the true joys of love.
I suggest you seek counseling NOW. There's someone who's far more in need of love and support than he is and that's YOU. You should always put your own well being first. No matter how much you love someone, you are the only person you're guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. You have to learn how to love yourself and treat yourself with respect before you try to give your love to someone else. And right now, you don't know what love is (or you've forgotten what it is); otherwise, you wouldn't stay in this horrible situation.
Good luck. If you need any additional support, please read my profile. :)
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There's this quote - "A girl should be so hidden in God that a boy has to search God to find her"
I believe in it, and I believe that if a boy has had to search God to find a girl, and while doing that - found God too, that they are meant to be, that God has a plan for the two of you.
Now the question is: how do you "hide in God" ?
How does a guy search God to find me? It doesn't really make sense to me.
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I'm a little worried that you can believe in something and not know what it means. However, I'll do my best to answer your question. I believe this quote, like most quotes, was created to be left up to individual interpretation. To me, the quote means that you should abide by God and follow him, so that any boy who is interested in discovering you will also discover more about God.
For example, if you were dating a boy, and you were considering the idea of having sex with him, I think this quote would serve as a reminder to run away from temptation as fast as you can back into the safety of God's will. According to the Bible, God has a plan for you, and he is against premarital sexual activity. Therefore, when the boy tries to find you, he will also find God.
By hiding in God, you will have to tell the boy about God and about your beliefs in order to explain to him why you can't give in to your sexual desires. In doing so, you will be exposing him to God and to God's plan for his people. It is important to God that you spread his word to as many people as possible. So when you "hide in God," you become an advertisement (of sorts) for him.
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i missed tonigts episode of hidden palms. anyone know a place online where i can watch it? (link)
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Click the link below and then choose Hidden Palms from the panel on the right. Every episode of the show (that's been shown so far) is online. And by the way, two brand new episodes were on last night, and two new episodes will be on next Wednesday as well. Enjoy :)
http://video.cwtv.com/
PS: Michael Cassidy aka Cliff Wiatt is gorgeous.
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Out of about...6 months of school I've had around 45 days off school because school has become such a big issue for me...and I don't want to talk about it.
Anyways I might be moving back to my old high school and have an interview tomorrow. Because of the days I've had off school it slims my chances of getting in. I have to bring my report card.
If I was a really good student my grades would cancel out the days I've had off, but going to school or not going to school I'm not the best student.
I only have two things going for me: When I used to go to that school I had an A+ report card (But this was 2 years ago) and it's really close to me. These won't hold up...
What are other things I can mention so I can get in? (link)
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I would mention that you can't do anything to change the past, but (and obviously I don't know you, but I HOPE this is the truth) that you've changed and are working hard to not repeat your same mistakes. Share with them your goals and what you hope to achieve in the next couple of years. Kiss ass and tell them ways in which their school could help you achieve those goals and how you would be an asset to them.
You might consider volunteering, picking up some extracurricular activities, or joining some kind of youth group. Anything that makes you look like an individual who has turned his or her life around is going to make them want you. Finally, if you do get back in, put some effort into it and don't make them regret taking you back. Join some clubs and committees and get more involved in the school. They'll like that a lot.
It might suck for a while, but you'll get over it.
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The other day there was a Black Panther rally in Dallas, not one affiliated with the New Black Panther Party, is that legal?
They were yelling racial slurs at my brother, he and his co-workers were setting up pavilions for them and they were all caucasian. (link)
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Hmm. I don't know if it's illegal, but I wouldn't just lay down and take it. I would talk to your local authorities about what went on or call your local news stations and tell them what happened. I would complain, make a scene, and use MY right to freedom of speech. Just don't stoop to their level of ignorance by saying racist things.
I'm sure there's a lot you can do inside your community to fight against this. Possibly start a rally of your own - one that fights for equality and to put an end to injustice. It might not be easy, but you could make a difference. There could be a reason this happened to you. I'm a firm believer in destiny, and this could be a wakeup call for you to get more involved.
Let me know how things turn out. :)
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im a pretty friendly person i guess... i like talking to people and i always try to be really nice to everyone. so i talk to a lot of different people on myspace, AIM and texting. but when i start talking to guys and get to know them, sometimes they end up thinking that i like them. and then they start liking me. its not like im being flirty or anything, i just talk about normal stuff. so im not leading them on or anything. but i feel really guilty, cuz i just like them as friends (and btw i do have a bf). sometimes i think, maybe i shouldnt talk to guys at all, cuz it will only make them think i like them. is it possible to talk with guys and just be friends? or do they always end up wanting it to be more? (link)
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It's much easier for girls to have platonic friendships with guys than it is for guys to have platonic friendships with girls. It's a sad reality for us girls, because many of us LOVE having guy friends. Personally, I don't really get along with girls, so all my friends are guys. And I know all too well what it feels like to find out the guy that you like/love as a friend likes/loves you in a completely different way.
There really is no way around this. Girls and guys have different agendas. We think with the head on our shoulders and they think with an entirely different head. Whereas most of us girls are satisfied with the relationships we have with our guy friends, they're usually not satisfied until they've sealed the deal. To put it bluntly, they want to get in our pants. That's why many (most) guys refuse to have girls as friends - most can't fathom the idea of being friends with their prey.
Don't get me wrong, we're not perfect - we have our agendas too. While guys are on the lookout for sex, we're generally on the lookout for love. The difference is, we tend to be collectors - we want it all. If we meet a nice guy, but he isn't a compatible mate for us, we still want to hold onto him and keep him as a friend. When guys meet a girl and realize it's not going to go anywhere sexually, they tend to discard the girl and move on to continue their hunt.
If they don't discard the girl, just know that way back into the creepy dark corners of their minds, it's because they still think there's a possibility for sex. That's why girls and guys make the best friends when there's flirting involved. It keeps both us and them intrigued enough with the possibility that there could be more, while we get our friendship fix. So if you're strictly looking for a platonic friendship, you have to be honest about what it is you're looking for.
It may be a while before you find that great guy friend, but he'll be there. I have a few guy friends that I can't imagine my life without. The friendships we share are fun, flirty, and sincere. I wouldn't trade them for the world. So just keep being honest about what you want and you may be lucky enough to find some guy friends who fit your requirements. Just know that one day when you're sad and low, crying on their shoulders, they're still going to be looking down at your cleavage when they think you aren't looking. :)
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I am 100% addicted to soda, my doctor has even confirmed my caffine addiction. However, I really need to stop drinking it for volleyball and just my own personal health. I'm in very great shape, but I feel the soda slows me down in conditioning. So, I would like to cut the drink out of my life.
I've tried so many methods, but I always give in and drink even more then I started with. I drink about three a day right now. Any ideas how to quit? (link)
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I agree with the person who said stop buying it, but addiction is never that simple. I would gradually decrease my intake, drinking maybe 2 cans of soda a day for a week, one can a day for a week, then none at all. If at any point it becomes a problem, buy a diet soda that doesn't have any caffeine in it. It's much healthier for you than regular soda and doesn't pack on the pounds or make you hyper.
Also, use this time to experiment and find out what else you like to drink. Try buying some Kool-Ade or Crystal Light. Drink some milk or orange juice. Try some green tea. Since you're so active, try finding a sports drink that you like. Also, there's nothing better than purified bottled water. Try drinking more water and clean out your system. I bet a lot of your addiction stems from your body needing to be flushed out.
Good luck to you. :)
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