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too shy?
theres this girl at my youth group in my church. I've talked to her online before, but ever since the first time i talked to her (which was barely a min, and it wasnt a direct conversation) its always been hard for me to talk to her.
So i've been talking to her online for about a week now, and we said we'd see eachother at the all nighter, but I just couldnt talk to her, and i tried a few conversation starters (like talking about soccer, since we were playing soccer), and trying to like talk about something random and nothing worked...
I guess I'm just really shy but I want to talk to her. I don't really have a "crush" on her. She is very attractive however, and I'm constantly intimidated by pretty girls who I don't know.
What should I do? What should I say to her? How should I approach her?
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Aww. Don't be intimidated by her. You seem like a sweet guy, and I'm sure there are lots of girls who are just as intimidated by you as you are of her. Right now you're probably thinking to yourself "yeah right!" but just know that she'd probably think the same thing if she thought someone was intimidated by her. Hopefully, if she's a true Christian, she isn't going to act as if she's better than you are when you approach her. That should ease some of your fears.
The fact that you two share the same religion should also make it easier for you to talk to her since you know you both already have one important thing in common. Use your faith as a conversation starter. Talk to her about what happened in your group. Ask her if she'd like to have a group (or solo) bible study together some time at your place. Ask about some of her views on more controversial Christian topics. Us girls are very opinionated, and we love having a good, friendly analytical discussion about something we're passionate about.
Obviously you don't wanna spend all of your time with her talking about religion (or maybe you do), but eventually as you feel more comfortable talking and listening to her, the other stuff will come out naturally. Just keep the conversation nice and relaxed. Talk about things that interest you and her. If you bring up a subject, you'll be able to see it in her face if it's something she's interested in. The more you do it, the more you'll get comfortable with it. Just put on a brave face and have faith that at the very least you'll make a new friend.
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