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no friends
like i'm totally serious..... not even one!! you see, i go to this school that's all girls, and I guess I've never really gotten along with girls that well. But, someone the other day told me the reason why is because I'm very pretty and they're jealous of me. But, there's other pretty girls at my school, and they all have friends. But, I just feel a little bit lonely at school. Outside of school, I talk to people and stuff, and it's funny because I have a boyfriend but whenever I go online, all these guys IM me, and nobody from school talks to me, but I still feel bad. Why won't anyone hang out with me?? thank you
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I've always had a hard time making friends, especially with girls. I think it's hard nowadays because we've all been brainwashed into believing stereotypes about each other. We all try to fit into these roles we're given, and when we're unable to play the part, we're seen as an outcast.
I don't know you, but I'd be willing to guess that you don't fit into any one group. You're probably a mixture of every group, which is an amazing thing to be and you should be proud of that. Unfortunately, in high school (I assume you're in HS), you get punished for it and it sucks.
I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but the truth is, it might not get better. People suck and high school is very difficult to get through. If you have any friends at all (even outside of school), you should consider yourself lucky. Try befriending those who truly have none.
The good news is that college is a very different experience. Something odd happens between high school and college. People become much more nicer and a lot more mature. The cliques have all broken up and everyone pretty much does their own thing. In short, you're going to love college.
Everyone is more open minded, and there's a greater feeling of acceptance. There is no "cool" or "popular" anymore. That pretty much stays back in high school where it belongs. Subsequently, the "popular" kids have a more time adjusting to college because there is no more prestige.
So please keep trying to look up and look forward. There's going to be brighter days ahead. It may not be today or tomorrow, but they're coming. And in the meantime, instead of waiting for friends to come to you, try getting out there and being the one who initiates friendships with others.
There's a bunch of people out there who're probably wishing that you would talk to them and be their friend. I hope this helps. Good luck. :)
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Just be yourself & try talking to them. It could very well be that you're pretty & they're envious of you, but that gives them no reason to be mean.
Just try talking to them & see if things change. But honestly, it's better to be friends with guys. Girls are evil, decieving & they bring a lot of unnecessary drama to the table.
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well if you say ur very good looking and that could be the case. good things dont just happen, so "perfect friends" arent going to just come to you. start from the bottom of popularity and work your way up. start talking to people that dont exactly judge people as easily meaning the nerds. but dont get too close. because these friends wont be yours for too long. that doesnt mean to be mean to them though. just be yourself, thats the best advice i can give. hope i helped<3
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Honestly dont be sad about not having alot of girlfirends. Girls suck I use to be an outcast too for a year or two in high school and i realized i'm better off without having all these shitty ass girlfriends, they just cause drama and cause problems in your life. Stick to being the beautiful outcast...:-D!
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