Not long ago i came on here for advice between my boyfriend and another guy i really liked and decided to make a go of trying to spice things up.We went out clubbing together and had the night of our lives and soon forgot about this other guy i like.A week later me and my friend got together had a few drinks and decided to have a few more at the local.The other guy was there and as i was plastered, bought him a drink i owed him and danced and chatted with him all night.He invited me and my mate to his house for a few more drinks but my mate left at 3am leaving us 2 alone and then we had a drunkin kiss and ended up sleeping together.Im now meeting up with him and we have so much in common including partners.Now im confused coz i like this other guy but i love my boyfriend.
You said it right there. You like this guy, but you love your boyfriend. While this crush might seem very real to you now, evaluate whether it's just the first time rush of attraction, or whether it's based on things that will really last, like common interests, goals, personalities, and perspectives. Make sure you also evaluate if these feelings are stemming from needing to break away from your current boyfriend, and if it's really love. If it is, you trust him, and he trusts you, and you shoudn't cheat on him with the other guy. So, wait it out, and see if your feelings for this guy diminish with time or get stronger, and make sure you're not throwing away love for lust. Hope this helps, and that you figure everything out soon.
:) Nevaeh
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ok here is the thing....
i went to my boyfriends house the other night and did somethings i have never done before and then he went and told his sister(my best friend) and then broke up with me....
what can i do to feel better about this and to get him not to be mad at me and to keep him talkin to me.....
i really like this guy alot........
so dont tell me to quit talkin to him
please and thank you.....
~kashia
:( i wish i could die
First of all, cheer up. Do some things for you, go shopping, go out with friends, watch chick flicks. Fun stuff like that. :) No guy is worth falling into serious depression over.
Then, start thinking about why your boyfriend might have broken up with you. Maybe he was embarassed about what you two had done, and didn't know how he was going to face it? Or felt that he'd made a mistake, and didn't think he was ready yet, and thought that you might come to expect it? Or possibly his sister had some influence in his decision, even if she's your best friend, siblings can be very protective of eachother.
Talk to your guy, and see what happened. Assure him that you like him because of who he is, and not what you do together. Make sure you know where his boundaries are, and make sure he knows yours.
If he still doesn't want to be together, however hard it may seem, move on. Don't dwell on it too much, because if it doesn't work it's not meant to be, and you don't want to miss seeing that person that's absolutely right for you.
Cheer up soon :)
Nevaeh
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OK so there's thig guy I like. I've liked him for like3 or 4 years. Now he met this girl whos like completley gorgeous and they make out and stuff like all the time. I think he might like her. I think he knows I like him, but what do I do?
(I'm going to use the names John and Sarah for the guy and girl.) So, first off, figure out if John really likes Sarah, or if it's just a crush that's likely to end as soon as the fireworks burn out.
If it ends up that he doesn't really like her, or if they date only for a little while, then just tell him how you feel about him, and ask him out on a casual date, like for coffee or something. If you've liked him for 3 or 4 years he's obviously worthwhile, and who knows, he could like you as well, so just tell him and see what happens.
And don't be made more self-conscious by Sarah's 'completely gorgeous' outside. There are plenty of guys out there who would rather be with a funny, real, okay looking girl with personality than a super model with nothing between the ears. And I'm sure you're very pretty anyways, so go for it.
:) Nevaeh
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When I would sit in the tub for like 30-60 minutes, I would notice that the water would get gritty and then I would rub my skin and it would come off!!!!!! Then there was a lot of DIRT or something on the sides or the tub when I got out, is this normal!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Thanks in advance for helping me (IF YOU DECIDE TO BE RUDE THEN I WON'T EVEN RATE YOU!!!!)
Yes, that's perfectly normal. The skin coming off is dead skin; your body is more readily able to exfoliate dead skin when it's wet or waterlogged. The dirt isn't necessarily all from you, it's probably a combination of the dirt already inside the tub, and other little grimy things in the bathroom.;) Don't worry, you're still getting squeaky clean :)
Nevaeh
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I may be completely over-reacting, but I really need some advice on this;
I'm thirteen, and I started smoking a few months ago... at first it was only a fag or two when I was around friends, but now its almost like I need a few cigarettes to calm me down just so I can start studying... not just around my mates and stuff..
Problem is; I've started to get some pain in my chest, and I've let myself get into a panic by reading that section on a ciggie packet about health hazards over and over again...
and now I'm afraid I may be sick... like i said, I may be over reacting... but I'm panicky... I don't want to die, my parents are doctors!
I can't tell them, I'll get into so much trouble... and after they send me for a check up, and if the results turn up fine, then I'll want to smoke again- but they'll confiscate the pack from me... and I won't be able to... Honestly, I have so much going through my head right now, I CAN'T STOP SMOKING, BUT I CAN'T DIE EITHER??
What should I do?!
PS. Sorry for the lengthy question
It doesn't sound like you're getting sick from the smoking itself, it sounds like you're getting sick from worrying about it, so first thing is to just relax, everything will work out alright.
Still, my dad smoked from when he was twelve to just a few months ago, and he's had all sorts of lung problems and got bags under his eyes, smelly breath, a raw, red throat, and possibly the first stages of cancer. You can get short of breath, and get colds much more easily as well. There are too many health risks involved with smoking cigarettes, you should try to quit.
Nicorette gum works quite well, and finding something to take your mind off of it, like playing an instrument, a sport, or excercising, will also help. I would suggest telling your parents that you feel dependent on cigarrettes, and if you're serious about trying to quit, they'll understand and help you. However hard it is (my dad went through huge withdrawals, and it's hard, but you can do it) you should really try to quit.
Good luck, if you want any more info you can ask or e-mail me.
:)Nevaeh
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Ok so ive known this guy for 2 years and he is my best friend and i love him to death . we joke around and say stuff like he is my lil bro because thats how close we are. but recently i noticed that he gets me i mean he understands me completely and cares about me he gets mad if other guys stare at me or say somethin like flirting with me. i really really like him. so i told him that i liked him and it was like awkwardness for 2 weeks,and he didnt tell me that he liked me which i thought he would. so now its back to a brother sister relationship and he is stil my best friend,but i really like him alot and i dont kno what to do ....somebody help me
Alright, I know exactly how you feel. I loved one of my best friends more than anything, but when he found out, (someone told him) he practically stopped talking to me for like a week, and we stopped joking around and studying together and just talking. It hurt, a lot, and I was confused, because sometimes I'd catch him looking at me, or saying something that made me think he liked me back.
So first, determine if your friend is shying away from you completely, or could just be awkward because he likes you and doesn't know what to do.
After about two weeks I went up to my friend and just asked him if he had any feelings for me whatsoever. And he said he really did, he just didn't want to make things awkward, and didn't know how to act.
So next, talk to your friend. Just ask him if he has any feelings for you, or if you should move on. Either way, don't lose his friendship, because good friends are really hard to find, and you don't want to ruin it with a relationship that's not meant to be.
Best of luck to you, I hope it works out.
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Hey Everyone. Well i went to someone with this same question on a different site.. but i wanted to see what others thought too.Um before i start..My name is Katie,im a girl lol, & im 14. Okay, well..My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for a little over a year now. Well i have a friend we used to be like best friends, but kinda grew apart. Somewhere along the way.. my friend lets say her name isssss..um..Jane.Anyway like i was saying, somewhere along the way Jane & my boyfriend started being "best friends". Well he calls her everyday & stuff. It sorta makes me feel bad. Now i duno whats the real story behind this.. but ive asked them before if they had a little more something going on.. but they both said no. i wana believe them.. i really do. But for some reason i have a little bit of doubt.And once i even heard he asked her out when we broke up but of course we got back together. I feel like a jealous girlfriend. Am i over-reacting? Soo what do you guys think.. do they like each other & if you think so..what should i do?? im so confused.PLEASE HELP!Thanks so much!!!
Alright, here's what I think. I have a boyfriend right now who is best friends with a girl, we'll call her Jill. Jill was his first friend when they moved to this town, and they're always there for eachother, like /best/ friends, always. When I first found this out, I would feel a little twinge of jealousy, like everyone in his family knows her, they do a lot together, and he'll give her a hug when they say goodbye because now they live farther away from eachother. Plus, she once asked him to go to her prom, (when we weren't dating), so I was a little uneasy. But then I realized that I trust my boyfriend no matter what. Plus, when he invites her to go places, he also invites me, and when he invites me, we go alone. I just really paid attention to things and realized that Jill and him really were best friends...she would tease him about (finally) getting a girlfriend and give him advice, and things like that. Anyways, just pay attention to the little things your bf and Jane do, and you should be able to figure out what's going on. Hope this helps.
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theres a pool party coming up in about 2 weeks i was wondering if there were any cellulite removing excersizes or creams that would work quickly! or atleast minimize it, I only have a LITTLE under my butt, im not fat or anything, its just embarrassing!! please help me!
Try laying on your back and /slowly/, with both feet together, lifting your legs in the air, it works out the backs of the thighs, and works for me to get rid of most cellulite.
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hey i have really long hair and i wanna highlight it or lowlight it before school starts im in highschool...what colors should i do and should it be chunky or non?
What color hair do you have? If it's brown, I would go with some highlights, some lowlights. I think like a darker copper color and a lighter strawberry blonde would be cool. If you have really blonde hair, don't go with really dark lowlights, and vice versa for really dark hair. You want it to look natural and shimmery. Hope it looks good!
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I've been tweezing my eyebrows for a while now but it's getting too difficult to find a shape I like. Today I'm going to get them waxed but I'm nervous. Will it hurt alot? Will I be really sore afterwards? Do the people who do it find the shape they like for you?
Thanks!
It doesn't hurt very much, but it feels a little funny afterwards, like something's stuck to your skin, and it'll be a little pink for maybe an hour or two. Usually they will find the perfect shape to go with your face, these people are very experienced and know what will look nice. Hope this helps!
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okay, I have tried thousands of deodarants including Exta-dry and none work for me! I want to be able to wear nice shirts and all that stuff but the only thing that stops me are my underarms what advice do you have for me? What deodarant do you suggest? You should know that a girl having sweaty armpits is not atractive. HELP ME OUT!!!!!!!!
Talk to your doctor, there's a simple thing out there that can solve your problem. I think it's called botox, and it's just like a powdery substance that you put on your underarms. Still, talk to your doctor first. Excessive sweating can be treated, and then you won't have to worry about it anymore.
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my friends are always getting the guys. ill plainly say that. i am pretty, or at least everyone thinks i am, and i personally think i have a great personality. i flirt, i try to act interested but the guys always seem to go for my freinds, even if it seems they are flirting with me, or like me. i mean, i have so much more to offer than my freinds. im going to a an art school for painting, i play the guitar, the piano and the drums, i am the life of the party, i paint, i write, i compose. but it seems that my freinds, who personaly i think are...i hate to use the word...posers(even though we arnt goth or anything, they just think they know art when they, exuse my french, dont know shit). but sometimes i wonder, am i just to mature, should i wait to find a guy, or for someone to find me? i just feel that people will give me a second look, but not want to waste their time or energy on a third. im really sorry if this question had no point. and im sorry for wasting you tome reading it. but can anyone help me get out of this shadow?
Wait for the right guy. Someone who will see your personality and be transfixed by it, someone who can appreciate art, music, and poetry. If you haven't found that person yet, you will, I promise, and sometimes he'll be right in front of your eyes. There's going to be someone who'll love to laugh with you, who will sit still while you paint him, who'll listen to and understand your poetry, and hear the beauty in anything you compose. In short, just wait for the person that sees /you/, and it'll just click. (btw, I'm not just saying this because I've heard all of it, I'm saying it because I /know/ it, I found that person in my life and I can't quite express just how beautiful that is.) Hope this helps. :)
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Ok I'm 13/f and I have a crush on someone. I never have in my entire life. I refuse to tell anyone because I feel really guilty and I'm worried people will make fun of me because everyone thinks I'm a nerd. I should be focusing on getting into the Honor Choir and straight A's, not boys! Is it a bad thing? It would be really cool if someone can give me some info! thx
Alright, I'm sixteen, also rather a nerd ;). And still, boys aren't such a bad thing to focus on. Remember that life calls, too, and eventually those straight A's won't matter so much. So, who's this cute guy? If you really like him, tell him. Honestly. I don't know where I'd be right now if I had never (finally) gotten up the courage to talk to the guy I had feelings for. Is he a bit of a nerd, as well? Cause then you already have some common ground, and stuff you can talk about. If he's not, just cross your fingers and say hi. By the way, don't worry so much what people will think, you seem to really focus on that image that people see, like the straight A's and honor's choir. Be who you really are, and if people don't like it, they don't matter. Hope all goes well, ask for advice any time! ;)
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I'm going to be a junior in high school this coming year. I'm starting to search for colleges. I plan on majoring in psychology and I'd like to find a college in Virginia or around D.C. How to I find the right college for me? What sort of things do I look for? Thanks in advance!
First, outline what you want in a college. Does prestige matter to you? Location, like in a ticy, or rural area? Class size? Extracurriculars, sports, societies? Figure out kind of what you need in a college, what you strongly want, and what you'd like, but can do without. Then, you can either search for individual colleges in the Virginia/D.C. area, or, and this is what I would suggest, go to Fastweb.com and enter some information into their college search. They taylor colleges (and scholarships, if you want) to your interests, and then prepare a list of links and information about each one. It's really helpful, and it's all free. You'll have plenty of time to get this all in order, your junior year is the perfect time to start. Good luck! :)
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okay well i got my period summer before 7th grade.. and im in the summer before 9th grade right now....and i still havent used tampons!! at first i really just, didnt feel the need to..but now i feel the need to and all my friends do and i just cant.. ive tried a couple times but idk.. ive done it with a mirror on the floor, and one of my legs on the ground and one up.. so i can see what im doing.. and it looks as if there is something blocking where i am supposed to be putting it... does that sound normal? i REALLY want to just somehow shove it up there but i dont know exactly what im doing.. ive read instructions and even books made for girls called Caring For Girls... please help i think there issometing wrong with me down there... thanks a bunch sry if i grossed you out=)
love me
There's a tiny lining that needs to be torn before you can get the tampon in, and it doesn't hurt, but it may feel a bit uncomfortable, as may the tampons until you've used them a few times. You have to insert the tampon at a bit of an angle, like aimed at the small of your back for most girls, and it should be fine. If you still have problems, talk to your doctor. Hope this helps. :)
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This years camp play was supposed to be Annie. I wanted to be annie so bad! But the counciler said I was really good. So I got the part. The next day on stage I was getting my costume on. The tiny red dress, just didnt fit. It ripped in half! I mean I know im overweight but I have never ripped clothes before! What do I do to get a new dress? I cant buy one! The play is 3 nights! HELP!
Do you have another dress? Or maybe a skirt and shirt, or you can talk to other people around camp and cross your fingers. If you don't come up with anything, talk to the director (counselor?) and I'm sure she'll understand and be able to get something before opening night. Good luck!
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Earlier today I was felting a slipper. As you're supposed to do, I shrunk it in the wash so it would turn to felt. But it shrunk too much. It was too narrow. I'm really sad and frustrated because I spent a month knitting this gargantuan slipper and it doesn't fit! Is there any way I oould possibly make it wider? I'll rate 5's for any reasonable answer somebody please help me!!!
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♥ TheHeadHonchoPoncho57
Sometimes I help my grandma with felting slippers, and when they shrink too much, we usually just try to stretch them out as much as possible. If it's really small, that probably won't work, but if it's just a bit too small, it will. Hope this helps.
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im 14/f...i feel like i sleep a LOT! like here's an average day: wake up around 10...take a nap from like 1 to 3 30...then get up and do whatever...then take another nap from like 5 to 6 30...then stay up until like 1 in the morning and go to bed and do it all over again the next day...is this normal or is there something wrong???
Sometimes you really do need that much sleep, it depends on how much your body's going through and how much activity you get besides. But it can also depend on how you eat. If you're not getting enough iron in your body, you could be anemic, which can make you feel like you're drained, exhausted, and feel like you've been hit with a ton of bricks. Talk to your doctor about it, and if you half low iron levels, you can take iron pills.
There can be other things that can make you feel tired, like thyroid problems or sleep problems. Talk to your doctor, he/she will be able to tell you. Hope it works out :)
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hey, im a girl, and i shave my armpits, but there is always this grayish area left. like i dunno how to make it look like just skin, like the rest of the girls do. i mean, it doesnt get mistaken for like not shaving but it still bugs me! please dont leave me mean answers. i really try and i dont want to hear anything you have to say if yur gonna be mean.
If you have dark hair, it's probably not going to go away, what you're seeing is the roots of the hair left under the skin. (When you can't see it on most people, they usually have lighter hair.) I'm not sure of the details, but it can also have something to do with your skin type. If it really bothers you, you can try waxing it.
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My boyfriend have been together for one year and five months. We love eachother a lot and get along really really well. When we first got together a few girls didnt like me, one because, another girl liked him and couldnt suck it up and the other couldnt give up on trying to get him to be away from me. Well its Summer now and school's out, we figured one girl moved away during school and the other would hopefully leave me alone, ( she tried to come up behind me and pull my hair so bacially tried to cheap shot me) she knows im not fat like her or tall so she could have taken me. Well they imed my boyfriend saying to tell his cunt girlfriend to stop taking shit from their aim profiles and away messages. I wasnt even online and both girls are blocked, i now know one has a new sn, because she imed me on it. So what should i do to get them to just give it up and leave me and my boyfriend alone. ( keep in mind both girls have other boyfriends)
Whatever you do, don't sink to their level. If your bf finds them annoying as well, then know that there's nothing to worry about in that department. Try to just ignore them, but if they ever get to serious emotional or physical harrassment, get a restraining order. Might seem a bit extreme, but I've known some cases where this has had to be done. Hope all goes well.
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