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in the shadow
my friends are always getting the guys. ill plainly say that. i am pretty, or at least everyone thinks i am, and i personally think i have a great personality. i flirt, i try to act interested but the guys always seem to go for my freinds, even if it seems they are flirting with me, or like me. i mean, i have so much more to offer than my freinds. im going to a an art school for painting, i play the guitar, the piano and the drums, i am the life of the party, i paint, i write, i compose. but it seems that my freinds, who personaly i think are...i hate to use the word...posers(even though we arnt goth or anything, they just think they know art when they, exuse my french, dont know shit). but sometimes i wonder, am i just to mature, should i wait to find a guy, or for someone to find me? i just feel that people will give me a second look, but not want to waste their time or energy on a third. im really sorry if this question had no point. and im sorry for wasting you tome reading it. but can anyone help me get out of this shadow?
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Wait for the right guy. Someone who will see your personality and be transfixed by it, someone who can appreciate art, music, and poetry. If you haven't found that person yet, you will, I promise, and sometimes he'll be right in front of your eyes. There's going to be someone who'll love to laugh with you, who will sit still while you paint him, who'll listen to and understand your poetry, and hear the beauty in anything you compose. In short, just wait for the person that sees /you/, and it'll just click. (btw, I'm not just saying this because I've heard all of it, I'm saying it because I /know/ it, I found that person in my life and I can't quite express just how beautiful that is.) Hope this helps. :)
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Just be yourself. Maybe hang with guys when your friends aren't around?
Join clubs and such, and perhaps there you can meet someone who shares your intrests.
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Hmm well you seem to be a very special girl to have all those good qualities. Maybe because guys know that you have confidence they are intimidated by it. I know one of my friends just like you, and she is absolutely gorgeous. But, she never got a boy before. And she fianlly did recently. You have to be patient, it will come. Instead of spending all you're time looking, spend time being you're self. and that boy will come, i promise.! =) keep you're head up. I felt the same way you did.. and finally i hurt myself playin a sport and i had surgery && i stopped looking for boyz cuz i had no time to cuz i was to worried bout my injury & being able to play again.. then suddenly a boy came, and hes the best i've ever had. =) it just takes time. i hope i helped.
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im really not trying to be rude...
maybe boys can sense that you think your better than everyone. by what you wrote up there it seems like your full of yourself. you just need to lighten up around them and have fun!
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maybe guys find you intimidating, or too shy? it seems like you've got alot going for yourself and you know alot, so maybe they find it intimidating... don't worry, just be yourself and you'll find guys eventually. i know it's the cheeziest thing to say but as you get older, it's going to be more and more important for you to just be yourself; especially to attract guys
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You write? Well for one, you have capitalization errors out the wazzoo. And you may think you're some great incredible person but it's most likely a turn off if you are arrogant about yourself and think yourself better than everyone else. It's good to have confidence but sometimes over confidence is a real turn-off.
Number one. You do not know everything, you're friends are not posers, because the term "poser" is not real, unless someone is trying to be popular, or something they aren't, or something like that. So who are you to judge? I mean, you have stated that they get all the guys. So think about it. What are they doing, that you aren't?
Number two. Play it DOWN a notch, guys aren't everything, I don't know how old you are, but seriously.. girls need to figure out that independance is not a bad thing and should be treasured between relationships. You do not need a guy to complete yourself or convince yourself that you are a good person or the right kind of person.
Number three. If you want to show you're mature, try not to flirt yourself around, or throw yourself at guys, or simply make desperate attempts. Guys are sometimes just nice. Give'em a break. I mean girls hope so much that the guy will have some sort of magical romantic relationship with them when maybe the dude just wants a friend. A guy can be friendly and not trying to lead on that he's being OVER-friendly.
You may not like what I have to say, but my advice to you is to wait for the right guy, and not to be jealous of your friends. Who'll be laughing when they have a kid before they're out of highschool and a sleu of STDs? Exaactly.
Good Luck. Best Wishes. Cheese is good.
-Sarah-
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Well just wait for that guy he will come some day and may be you should not try so har to get a huy(not trying to be rude).
I hop I helped
MD_GIRL101
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Since most teenage guys tend to be a little (sometimes a lot) immature, they may feel uncomfortable with you. Also, some guys are intimidated by smart and beautiful women.
Take your time. Engage in a little harmless flirting. Seek out a new circle of friends that share your interests. Don't try so hard to get a guy. When the right one comes along, you'll know it and he'll come to you. Trust me, it's worth the wait.
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A couple of things spring to mind on reading your question.... Either you are
A) A really good looking girl who because of that fact, frightens the guys off, because they are thinking that you wouldn't want to be seen with them because they think you are too good for them... Or..
B) You have such a high opinion of yourself, to the point that you are a boring big headed prick. In which case it is hardly surprising that they do not see the real you. So which one is it? I suggest that you lighten up a lot, stop going on about how great you are. Stop giving lectures about Art and all the other crap you keep raving on about. No I do not think you are mature. I think that YOU think you are mature. Just try to be natural. Remember everything comes to those that wait...
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maybe your thinking of yourself as TOO good to be true? you seem to be good at everything from what you say. some guys dont always care about what your good at or exactly how pretty you are. Honestly If they go for your friends then just think that it wasnt meant to be. You'll find someone but do NOt expect them to come find you, you have to go n try to find someone too. Just dont act so desprate, someone will come along. good luck <3
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your not in the shadow ur just in the dark, the guy will come you just have to be patient, maybe your trying to hard..play hard to get..dont act so intrested..gys like a challenge..you just have to belive that it ill happen and it will..i mean i felt the same way you did ever since i was like 9 and then last summer i met this guy..cory.AND WE ARE STYLL DATING..just beause ur "friends" have bfs now doesnt mean anything that only means that youll get a better one thats not a jerk..well mwahss byeess
hoped i helped
<3asher
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