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please help , im so depressed
ok here is the thing....
i went to my boyfriends house the other night and did somethings i have never done before and then he went and told his sister(my best friend) and then broke up with me....
what can i do to feel better about this and to get him not to be mad at me and to keep him talkin to me.....
i really like this guy alot........
so dont tell me to quit talkin to him
please and thank you.....
~kashia
:( i wish i could die
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Alright, this guy has done something really mean to you.
Yuo and he obviously did somethoing intimate together and he told his sister, your best mate, if he really cared about then he wouldn't have done this to you. Also he broke up with afterwards which meant he wanted to "do" something just so he could say he has.
I know you still like him. Have you spoken to him about this or to your best friend? Maybe talking to them would help?!
Find out why this guy did this to you! If he doesn't know then you should ignore im, but if he gives you a valid reason talk to him about it and tell him your point of view.
Hope this helps,
Gwilwillithxx
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First of all, cheer up. Do some things for you, go shopping, go out with friends, watch chick flicks. Fun stuff like that. :) No guy is worth falling into serious depression over.
Then, start thinking about why your boyfriend might have broken up with you. Maybe he was embarassed about what you two had done, and didn't know how he was going to face it? Or felt that he'd made a mistake, and didn't think he was ready yet, and thought that you might come to expect it? Or possibly his sister had some influence in his decision, even if she's your best friend, siblings can be very protective of eachother.
Talk to your guy, and see what happened. Assure him that you like him because of who he is, and not what you do together. Make sure you know where his boundaries are, and make sure he knows yours.
If he still doesn't want to be together, however hard it may seem, move on. Don't dwell on it too much, because if it doesn't work it's not meant to be, and you don't want to miss seeing that person that's absolutely right for you.
Cheer up soon :)
Nevaeh
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It sounds like you were used/
Tell him off, and get a new, better guy.
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Talk to him all you want. Like him all you want.
The guy used you and tossed you aside...he is not worth your time in my opinion. He tops that off by discussing you with his sister (and who knows who else). You can feel better by getting mad and moving on instead of panting after him like a puppy. If you do that be prepared to be hurt all over again. Forget him and find someone who will treat you with respect. :)
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I know its not what you want to hear but he doesnt feel the same way. he is cruel and a user. you deserve better, alot better.
why is he mad at you? you did nothing wrong.
why do you want to be with someone who doesnt want you or like you, who used you, who was very cruel, who dumped you when he got what he wanted out of you?
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It sounds like you've found one of the many guys that pose as a good boyfriend. He's used you for sex or whatever and once he got it he lost respect for you and moved on. Him telling your best friend is inexcusable. Some things are meant to stay between the people it happened with.
In my opinion, you're better off without him but since you asked how to get him talking to you again, I'll try. Sit down and talk to him and tell him you're hurt by his actions and find out why he broke up with you.
If he doesn't come around, take your time and wait a while before getting back into another relationship. Now you know what not to look for in a guy.
Good luck.
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Since your ex is your best friend's brother, this certainly puts you in a difficult position. There's really nothing you can do to make yourself "feel better," but to cherish what you two had together and remember the good times. I know it sounds cliche, but you can't always dwell in the past. If you're not sure EXACTLY why he broke up with you, ask him. If you're not up for it, wait for a while to let him settle down and cool off. If he agrees to "start over," then you two can be friends, and someday build something more than that. If you decide to confront him now and he tells you to back off or that he needs more space, then do so... You don't want to seem too desperate. I'm assuming that you trust him since you like him so much, so trust that the decision he made to break up had some good in it after all. In these cases, you just need to trust your instincts. If you see him on the streets and your conscience tells you not to chase after him, then don't. If you're at a party with him and something tells you to start a casual conversation, then go ahead. You can't hold back with something if you know you're going to regret it. Then again, don't do something dumb that might ruin the appreciation that he possibly has for you. I hoped I help a little, sorry if this wasn't what you were looking for. If he can't see how hard you're trying to make this work, it's his loss. You have nothing to be guilty about. Good luck!
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try and go up and talk to him privately. ask him why he broke up with you in the first place. if he doesnt give you a reason.. then hes stupid and you deserve better. some guys just "want some" which isnt right at all. all i can say is.. life goes on. im sure youll find another guy on down the road that will treat you better. all you really need are a few good friends.
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