about

Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City.



I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.



I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.



I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.



For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)



Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.


advice

ok well today i found out that my best friend has a third degree heartblock and soon will most likely need a pacer...all her life tho her doctor has been telling her she had a "heart murmur" but wut it realli was, was the echo from her heart not workin right..n me, her, her sister n her parents r havin a realli hard time trying not to cry n stuff bcuz eventually it can kill her...im realli upset cuz shes like a sister to me weve been neighbors/bestest friends ever since i can remember n have done everything..well my questions r

Can this kill her netime soon?
How can me n her sister help her get thru it?
And can her mom sue her doctor for telling her tha wrong information all these years??
Thanx ill rate u a 5~!

Hey Sweetie! I am so sorry to hear about your best friend! You must care so much for her, and it will be very difficult for you to lose her so it's a good thing you want to help her!

You can't help her medical problems. It's hard to let this happen to her. She needs you to stick by her and keep being her friend. It would be best to keep doing the things you used to do with her. Because she may feel like people are acting differently around her because of this thrid degree heartblock. If she ever wants to talk about her problem, always be there to listen. Calm her down when she needs it, and cry with her and let her know you are just as nervous. I noticed that you said it's really hard for everyone not to cry. But holding it in will cause a good amount of stress, so by all means cry if you have to. And for her sake, try to talk to her about it when you think she needs it. Spend as much time as you have before with her, don't make her think that just because she has this it will change your friendship. It's hard to act like nothing is wrong, but in this case she probably wants to do the things you guys used to do.

As for the third degree heartblock it is possible she can be dead soon. Your body needs the heart to function properly and when anything goes wrong, it can cause major problems and the body will eventually shut down if it's not fixed. The fact that they can't afford a pacer is not very helpful. Maybe you can help her out. Raise money somehow. If you need tips on that let me know! Anyways, yes she can die because she needs that pacer to live. Medical insurance should cover that though. Because in a complete heartblock your heart skips beats the pacemaker is very important. So it would save your friends life.

Yes, you can sue the doctor that told her it wasn't a heartblock. He/she should have been able to detect and read that was a heartblock through a heart test. It's very easy for a doctor to know when there is a heartblock. And it is part of their job to know all about results from test and tell you the right information. So bring that up with her family. It may help them out with money.

I hope that I helped somewhat. I know you much have tons of thoughts going through your mind. But be strong hunnie! There is hope, and if you get other people involved to help save money for that pacer it can save your friends life! If you ever need to talk or have more questions please ask me! Love ya!

Love,
Mandee

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Things have been going great with my boyfriend. But I can tell my best friend is jealous. I guess I dont blame her but still, I'd like to be able to talk to her about it without feeling guilty like I'm bragging. I've tried to talk to her about like our first kiss or stuff like that but she either gets all quiet or says bad things about him.. like he's a player or something like that (which he isnt, we both really like eachother but thats besides the point). I just really want to be able to share it with her and not feel bad about it. Should I still talk to her about it or just talk to my other friends? Thanx so much.. I rate high!

Hey! That's so awesome that your having a great time with your boyfriend, that you probably wanna tell everyone about it! But at the same time, your bestfriend probably feels left out. She could be jealous for a number of reasons. Maybe she feels like he's taking you away from her and the time spent between you two isn't the same and when you do get a chance to spend time with her you talk about your boyfriend. Or if she doesn't have a boyfriend yet she may feel like it's depressing for her to be the one without a boyfriend. I think you should talk to her not about your boyfriend but about how she feels about him and you. If she doesn't like him, it doesn't mean that you can't either. You love him and it should stay that way. But be sure to cut down on talking about him to her. It's exactly like having her talk about someone you hate constantly. You wouldn't like it, so she probably doesn't either. Make sure you ask her about what's new with her and everything like that. Just let her know that you care about her and the things she does too. That will help out a lot! I know what you mean though, because I've had that happen to me. But I realized when you talk about your boyfriend all of the time to all of your friends they get so pissed off because it annoys them. You can talk about him, but limit it to the people who don't seem too interested. You can get a journal or something to write all about him in if you really want to say all of the sweet things he does. You just basically need to know when and when not to talk about him. Good luck sweetie!!

Love Always,
Mandee

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I REALLY like this guy and he flirted with me all the time and we had so much in common..I definatly thought he was the one..but I was wrong..I found out he likes this girl...and this girl likes him too..they've tried going out but it never worked...ahh and we were getting so close too!! I cried when I found out..and I've never felt this way before about any guy..what do I do??

Sorry babe, but that happens. And it really, really sucks. If he likes this girl and she likes him back, they are happy. And if he is your friend you should try to respect his decisions and be with him all of the way. He will recognize it someday and thank you for it later. There is nothing that I can say to help you get over this guy. It takes a lot of time. Girls tend to take more time getting over someone than guys do. You should try and relax though. Drinking tea, exercising, and taking baths to calm you help. Sometimes you don't feel that good about yourself and think you did something wrong when you try to get over someone. But just know that you didn't do anything wrong. Be strong and keep your self confidence up. Pretty much everyoen goes through this, you are not alone. A lot of people out there feel the same away about someone. Just take time and find the right guy for yourself and you will feel so much better. Sorry you had to go through that hun!

Love Always,
Mandee

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okay well im going to be moving the summer of 8th grade so this summer and i told my friends at school and they were really sad because they love me alot or somethin and dont want me to move...and i mean i dont want to move either but it's not my decision...and i use to live where im goin bak to before i moved here like 3 years ago and now i told a guy that goes there and hes like omg sweet it'll be so funn i can't wait ill protect u and stuff but the prob. is this guy used to hate me in like 2-6 grade lol n now he like stopped n he wants to protect me?? lol im gonna be a freshman n hes gonna be a junior.. so anyhow i really wanna c my old friends and start a new life but i dont wanna leave my friends here either..i just wish i can take them w. me lol..

Oh yes, I know how you feel. Moving to Miami was such a big deal to me. It would mean leaving my family, my friends, and my boyfriend. But you're given the chance to start a new life. With new people, and new place to go. And you have to accept that and challenge yourself. It took me about a week to realize this and I just wished I had realized it sooner. You and your friends are going to be sad, but it's sort of like a test. If you can keep in touch with them then that is proof your friendship is real. You can still visit them, and they can visit you. There's e-mail, AIM, and telephones. I know that may not be enough, but you will be able to get through it!


And this guy probably changed his feelings for you. He hated you before, but he probably wants to get to know you again. And he might feel like he can start over to. Saying that he'll protect you already is kinda scary. (lol) I guess he feels like he's your big brother, and it's great to have those types of friends as long as they're not too overprotective. But yeah, I'd wait until you get there to see what he's up to.
Good luck sweetie!!

Love Always,
Mandee

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okay.. this ones for the girls obviously..well i'm 14 years old and my boobs are really weird. like the areola and nipple are blended together.. my nipple is rarely out unless im really cold! this makes them super pointy n ugly!!! is this just a stage .. will my boobs be normal when they grow a little more? sorry but i really need help with this! i HATE it!

Actually, this is normal among most teenage girls. Sometimes when your nipple is sensitive and gets touched or as you said gets cold it will stick out. And that's just it's way of reacting to it. You are still young, and maybe in time...you will grow out of it. But sometimes you won't. Anyways, the only person who is going to notice that is you. It's just the way your boobs are. And you can change that by surgery but I wouldn't recommend that. Because why change what you were born with? No one will realize it. So don't worry everything will be okay!! Hehe. Love Always, Mandee

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all my life i had never had a boyfriend and i thought it was me but 3 days ago my brother finally confessed. he told me that he told all the boys i like not to go out with me, its a rule not to go out with my sister. hes 17 and i'm 13. y does my brother want to........... y did my brother ruin my life?

Hey babe! Speaking in the view an older sister myself, it's definitely common for protection among younger siblings. It's always good to be a good role model, but your brother seems to be overprotecting you way too much. You're 13 and part of being in that stage is to make your own choices and experince new things. And since he is 17 he should be able to relaize that by now. So if you talk to him about it, hopefully you will get your point across. Dating people is part of life, so you should get out there and date. You can tell your brother although you appreciate his effort to protect you, you need to make your own decisions and meeting people and dating is part of that. He should be understanding because I bet he went through the same thing. You're unsure of who you are or exactly what life holds for you, so this is the time to get ideas about that. I don't think he intended to ruin your life, he just wanted to seem tough and scare guys away. (LOL) I don't know about your brother but if he acts like a jerk a lot he might do this to just be annoying. Either way, if you talk to him about this in a serious matter and get through to him hopefully he will back off. If he doesn't it's probably time to get other people involved to help prevent his actions. Anyways, I wish you the best of luck! Love ya! Love Always, Mandee

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my mom and dad separted and now i live with my mom and her boyfriend in missouri. my dad still lives in iowa and i want to go live with him but he doesn't have a permanent place to stay yet. and thats y my mom won't let me move with him. do u think that is fair?

Sorry hunnie, but I do think that is fair. Your mom probably wants to wait until your dad has found a permanent place to stay so that she will know you'll have a place to live and be well taken care of. You can let your dad know you want to live with him once he finds a permanent place. And then your mom will probably allow it to happen once your dad finds a place. Don't worry hehe, just give your dad time to find a place to stay. And just go from there. Love ya!
Love Always, Mandee

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heyy i saw you were rated very high so maybe you can help me =] okay theres this guy i like and i know he likes me too. a few days ago he asked me out and of course i said yes ! but like 2 or 3 days later we had broken up cause i guess we didnt really know each other well enough.. so during the school year we want to. so the day after i go to the movies with my cousin and my bff and there he is. we both waved and smiled but i know i like him and i know he likes me and i dont understand why we cant get to know each other better by going out ? maybe he feels the same or no because he was mostly the one who said he doesnt know me well enough, even though he told me he still likes me. idk please help lol

Hey, aww thanks, I'm glad you decided to post a question!! I'll try to help!

I really don't think he's ready for a relationship just yet...because usually you'll want to know the person very well before you get into something. Either that or he may be afraid of commitment and he doesn't want to date anyone right now for a long period of time. But there is something you can do about this. You can let him know you support his choice and you can just be "friends" for now. If he is smart he will appreciate your support and respect for him. Ask him if you can hang out a lot and get to know each other. That way he won't feel like he's with a total stranger. Comfort is very important in a relationship. So if you build up trust and comfort you both will feel like you can talk about anything. Right now he must not be feeling comfortable around you, and that is something that you should work on (making him feel comfortable around you). He might act like he is sometimes, but often time guys will act out for you. It might not be exactly what it seems to be. Once you both feel like you're ready to go out as a couple you will both feel right. If one of you feels out of place then the relationship wouldn't feel right too. Just give him time right now, he might be really confused. You can't make him go into a relationship sooner than he wants unless he agrees to it. Take time out and become friends. And then he will really what an amazing girl you are and ask you out again! And this time it will be the right time!!! =D Good luck with everything! He will come around! Love Always, Mandee

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ok well Im 13/f and i have a bf and we have been going out for a while and i really like....so on saturday i went over to my friends house and she has this brother and he likes me alot and i like him but i still like my bf....what should i do should i break with bf...or not tell him anything and just stay with...help plz...ill rate high...



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You are obviously in a situation right now where you have feelings for both guys. And since you have a boyfriend that makes matters worse. You should figure out what kind of guy you'd what. I know you already have a boyfriend, but what are some things a guy would need to have that you would like? And also if you ask yourself a lot of questions about both guys that will help. For instance who makes you smile the most? Who makes you laugh the most? Who are you more comfortable with? Who understands you better? Who seems to give you the same kind of love that you show them? Who have you known longer? Spending time with each one and getting to know them more will help as well. Your boyfriend might get concerned with this though. I would take time and really, really, really pay attention to how they act. And when you know them well, you can make a list of things you like and dislike. And I am assuming you want some guy who has a bunch of great qualities. But you do have to make a decision no matter what. And that's really tough to do. I really can't tell you who to pick because you know boht of these guys and I don't. And also you know what you lookf or in a guy. But I would take a lot of time to think it over and pick the best guy you think is for you.If you are unhappy and question another guy over your boyfriend all of the time and stay with him and never tell him you will be unhappy. But if you are in a good relationship right now and you are happy that's all that matters. You want to be happy. And another question to ask yourself is " Why do I have feelings for another guy, and not just my boyfriend?" Make sure you really like your boyfriend a lot. It's just the same as having a guy like another girl. You want his full attention on you and no other girl, that's probably what he wants from you too. But if you constantly have to think about someone else...that could lead into some fighting later on. So just be aware of what you want and what you have now. Honestly, I hope you figure out something that is right for you! Good luck with everything sweetie! Love Always, Mandee

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okay so recently ive been hanging out with some friends that i wouldnt normally hang out with them out of school or sports. They smoke pot and they talk about ti all the time. since ive been hanging out with them i have been wanting to smoke it but i know its not the right choice. What do you think i should do?

Sweetie, you are the only one who can make your decision! If you know in your heart that smoking pot is the wrong choice then you know it's wrong and shouldn't do it. Follow your instincts. You don't need to smoke pot even if your friends do. You're independant and can make your own choices. Do what's more "you"...differences are a good thing. Is it unlike you to smoke pot? Your friends will like you no matter what you do if they are real friends. And you should never feel like you HAVE to do something just because they do it. My advice would be just know who you are and what you r.e.a.l.l.y want to do. ALways listen to yourself before anyone else. Take care!Love Always, Mandee

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Me and my x-boyfriend got back together, and we are going to be in the same class when school starts (Augest 31st). I dumped him cause people were telling me he was cheating on me, but he gave me another chance, what if it doesn't work out? cuz we r gunna be in the same class

Ohhh. Yeah I know what you mean... if things don't work out and you aren't together seeing him everything 5 days of the week won't help. But if that happens you can get past that. You'll have friends in that class and you'll be paying attention to your teachers anyways. Well, maybe. (lol) But I think you'll overcome it. You'll meet other guys and devlope crushes on them.

But, something you should ask yourself is "What if it does work out?" You should only hope for the best and if anything breaks your hope you will get over it, learn from it, and move on. He gave you another chance so I would say he really loves you and wants to makethis work. Don't second guess on it right now. Just take it day by day and live for the moments you have with him. See how things are going out, if you notice some tension then you can figure out what you'll need to do. But for now, start over again. Good luck! Love Always, Mandee

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well i had my period.. n they were like all the symptoms n everything so im sure i had it.. but ive missed my period date?? idk wats going on.. i tried to wait a few extra days but its been like 4-5 days n i sitll havent gotten it? its my 2nd time getting my period so i dunno is that normal? im not very close with my mom.. so i cant really talk to ehr about it.. i dunno what to do! helppp!! ((n i havent been having sex lol so it cant be that))

You should have nothing to worry about because that is very normal. It's only your 2nd time so, it might just skip a month or come at a later time because your body isn't used to this yet. It will take about a year until it will be in a regular cycle. And everything varies. It's hard starting out because you really can't expect it to come at a certain time or date. You just need to go along with it. If you get pains or headaches or something like that a day before it starts, that will help you determine when it will come. As for now, you just have to hang in there! Good luck, there's nothing to worry about! The only thing I can say is that if you are about 18 or 19 and haven't had your period then you'll need to talk to your doctor about that one. But you've already had it and everything is fine with you. So just try and be prepared because anything can happen. Love Always, Mandee

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Hey Mandee. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:

I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.

Aww thanks so much babe! You seem like such a sweetheart, and it's up to you to decide what you wanna do. But that doesn't mean I can't give you my opinions or ideas! :) And yeah, I LOVE helping people out!

You can't change a person, he will do what he wants and become what he wants to be. I've learned this before. And actually marriage wise some people who have be in divorces before have said that they married the person even with one of their most bad habits. ( For example being abusive or an alcholic) and the reason they dirvorced was because they thought he/she would change and they never did. I know that it's great to believe in someone and make them feel like they can do it, but they have to be serious about it and be willing to do it. Writing a letter helps, you can write down your thoughts and tell him how you feel, and it's easy because you don't have to say it to his face. However, I would try talking to him once more. Face to face and tell him " Look, I really care about you, and I know I said I didn't, but part of me still does. I still have feelings for you, and I want you to consider...what you would do for me. Would you give up every girl and just have me to yourself? And would you give up your reputation as being a player?" Make sure you guys are alone. That way he won't be distracted by other things and he won't be able to get out of it. Just be upfront with him. If he says he will, then you can't really tell if he means that. But you can just let him know he will have to earn your trust before you go out. If he says no, then he really doesn't care enough about you to change himself. And to make a relationship work both of you need to care enough about each other that you'd do anything for that person. And sweetie, you really deserve better than that. You should have a guy full of attention just on you and no one else. If he won't do this for you, try and get over him. I know that will be very, very hard for you do (you liked him for a long time) but only hoping for something that will never work will only hurt you. And you don't want to get hurt again. If he won't make an effort to make things work out, why should you? I'm sure you'll find other guys who will love you and do anything else for you. But if he's willing to change make sure he has your support. You can try and help him through this. Just make sure he knows where you stand. But most importantly, do something for yourself..think about what qualities you would want in a guy and see if he matches any of them. I think it would be best, if he says "no" to kind of stop talking to him as much as you were. It will only remind you of him. And if he says yes of course you're going to talk to him! Hehe. But over all, I hope things work out for you! You only deserve the best!! Love you! Tell me how things go :) Love Always, Mandee

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hey guys! i got my hair chemically straightened with my cuzin back in march. my hair doesnt really dry straight from it though. its kinda wavy when it used to be loose curls. i still have to straighten it which used to take me an hour now its like 20 mins. but my cuzins hair dries straight .. mine doesnt. my hair took to the chemicals real fast so they didnt let it sit in my hair as long as they should have. ok well getting to the point.. i have to get my roots straightened again soon and i was wondering if i should say something to them and if so.. what should i say?

You should tell them what you just mentioned. The fact that you still need to straighten your hair and that it doesn't dry straight might not have to do getting it chemically straight. Because there are different hair types. And your cousin's hair type might be different than yours which might explain why her hair dries straight and yours does not. Whenever you go to get your roots dones again make sure to ask them if there is anything you can do or they can do to make your hair dry straight. And make sure you let them know that last time you came in you weren't sure if the chemicals were in long enough. But speak up! And if you feel like something isn't being done properly don't be afraid to let them know! Good luck with everything sweetie! Love Always, Mandee

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hi does any 1 here have aimutation? if u do will u plz help me download it and stuff? thx

Yeah, I do. IM me and i'll set you up with it! Love Always, Mandee

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13/f ok well..this popular guy might like me (he told my best friend that) and im not popular..we are going to the movies this week..and what if he trys to make out with me? ive never been kissed before..hellp!

Depending on the type of guy he is, he might try to make out with you when you go to the movies. But if you like him, kiss him back...I wouldn't worry about it too much. Kissing is different for everyone, and sometimes you can tell whether you are experinced or not. And the experinced ones might know more techniques for kissing, so I see why you're nervous. If he likes you, he might just want time to get to know you. You'll have to practice kissing him the closer you get. But for the first time, I think he'll be understanding about it. And actually it's harder for the guys..they are the ones who are "supposed" to make the first move. He might be a little scared as well, since he has never kissed you so he might wait until another time. But if you're going to plan on him kissing you'll probably want to know how it's done. And as I said before there are lots of ways. But to start out, put your arms around him and make sure you open your mouth slightly so that he can get his toungue in your mouth. And remember not to just let your tongue stay in one place, always move it around his. Be playful with him! That's always a good thing. Just don't touch his teeth because french kissing is all about the tongues! It's going to take some practice, but I'm sure you'll do fine. It's pretty basic and as you kiss more and more you can do some more intense kissing which is fun. But don't be worried! He likes you and if he's and understanding guy he won't judge you on how you kiss for the first couple times you go out! Have fun and enjoy the movies! Good luck! Love Always, Mandee

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Hey everyone...I need some advice....

Well I met this guy almost 8 months ago. We started talkin and we went out for about a week but things were not workin out because he lived like 30 mins away and neither one of us could drive. So we broke up and didnt talk for a while then we started talkin again and we got really close. He told me he didnt want to go out right then cause we wouldnt ever see each other. He wanted to wait until he could drive. Well he will be able to drive on tuesday. We have had a really hard time the past month or so. He told me he loved me and the whole nine yards. But now he is sayin that he doesnt really want a relationship. And some ppl told me that he said he hated me and never liked me and i asked him and he said he didnt say that. I cant stop thinkin bout him and i really love him a lot. How do I get him to realize that. I have already talked to him and tried to explain. All i want is just to be with him....Please help

Sorry it was so long

One of the hardest things is to try and make someone like you when they don't. It's not something you can force, and it takes a lot of patience and time. You really need to be dedicated to it. And so does he. But it doesn't seem like he is interested in doing that. He's confusing you right now and you don't need that. It's not your fault sweetie, I think he just has some issues of his own to deal with. You could tell him that he needs to take time as much as he needs and he has to decide if he wants a relationship with you or not. Because he can't be doing this on and off like that. Changing his mind all of the time really makes it hard on your part. This way he'll know where you stand. I think the only thing you can do is give him time to figure it out, he probably is lost right now. But whatever happens good luck! Oh, also you'll want a guy who will be as dedicated as you are to having a long lasting relationship, really think about what he's like and if he is right for you. I'm not saying he isn't just be careful not to get your heart broken! Love Always, Mandee

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I'm 16, and my dad still treats me like I'm a "little girl". My mom and I, we get along so well, because she treats me like a young adult, but my father raises hell whenever I ask him to do ANYTHING. We see a family psycologist, and not even that helps. He's just so effing stubborn. I tell him allll the time " dad I'm not a little girl anymore", but it just doesn't get through to him. I know he's going through this "phase", but isn't over 3 years a little much? I am an only child, and a model, and I know he hates to see me take pictures and wear clothes that expose my stomach and it's just a lot to take. He tells me I have no future because I failed one year of math with exelent effort, and that I'll never make it. He puts me down and makes me feel so effing shitty. It's like he wants my respect, but he doesn't give it back. Any advice at all pllease.

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Having your own father put you down all of the time is a hard thing to cope with. What I'm guessing is that your dad has had his parents become rough on him when he was young to, and children learn ways of parenting from watching how their parents raised them. Are you an only child? Maybe because you are his only child he feels like he will never get a chance to raise a child again. And he may be having a very hard time letting go because he knows that you are his only child. Even if that isn't the reason behind this, there is a reason for his behavior towards you. The problem is that he is not learning to accept that you are growing and maturing and he can't handle that. It's painful for him to see. Like I said he probably has a hard time letting go maybe because of deaths in the family. I'm not sure. You really should talk to him no matter how many times you have before. And don't lose your patience. Be very kind when you speak with him, speak like an adult. I think you will have to earn his acceptance if you want it that bad. Not relying on other people should be a good start and let your parents know that you are independant. Talking to you dad saying that " Dad, I have a life of my own and when I get older I'll have to decide what I want to do, not anybody else. And I will make it in the future, maybe if I studied more and worked harder during school this would be a way to improve myself. I really want your support because I know that I can make it, and even if you doubt that at least try and give me some encouragement. Modeling is a job for me, and I know it's hard for you to see me showing skin, but this is what I love to do. Even if you are against it, it's what I need to do not because I just have to but because I want to. And I want you there for me to, I respect you guiding me in the right direction, but please let me chose which way to go on my own because that's how you learn in life." But hun, if that still doesn't grab his attention and he still does not support your decision you'll just have to go your own way. But at least you'll know that no matter how much people try and put you down you'll become stronger from it! Good luck with everything and never give up...because if you work hard enough you can achieve anything you want!! Love Always, Mandee

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my b/f goes to NH every weekend and has a lot of friends up there .. a lot of them are girls .. i am obviously wicked jealous because he is seriouisly very cute/hott.. so girls would like him.. anyways, some girl keeps callin me from his phone and asking for me then hanging up.. she did it yesterday and at 9 in the morning today .. its really pissing me off - what should i say to him when he gets back!? HELP! i dont wanna come off like a bitch but i want him to know that im not takin his shit anymore and he cant just walk all over me like that ..sry its long

Having his friends do that to you isn't right, so let him know that. Maybe when he gets home you can "Hey Sweetie! I'm glad you're back, but I was kinda of confused because on your phone there were all of these girls asking for me and then hanging up. And I'm sorry but I just can't take that. I can't let you walk all over me and I don't want those girls calling me in the morning. Can you talk to them about it and tell them to stop?" Something along those lines lol. The main thing is to let him know and understand that you mean what you say. Because he shouldn't do that to you and his friends shouldn't either. He probably knows you are somewhat jealous of them and don't like the idea of him being around all those girls and he's just making it harder on you. So I would just talk to him and try and see if you all can work something out. Good luck with your boyfriend!!! Love Always, Mandee

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My boyfriend and I have been going out 4 about 10 months. Just a lil while ago he told me how the first few months of our relationship he was in2 porn, but then (him being his sweet self) said that the reason why he stopped was me bcuz he didn't wanna hurt me. Of course I 4gave him and everything, and I no I should b happy that he stopped cuzza me, but I still feel kinda hurt. I also feel... I don't really know... but I have a very small chest and just about no butt, and I feel kinda like he would want more than just me. He always says he loves me and I'm so beautiful and everything tho, so I'm happy about that. I think I'm just bn paranoid or w/e about this... but should I still feel a lil hurt that he was in2 porn instead of me? Also, should I worry about how he thinks of my (pretty flat) body?

You seem to be worrying more about the past than now, and that shouldn't matter as much. The thing that does matter is that he stopped for you. He said that he didn't want to hurt you and it seems like he meant that. That shows love. To give up something for someone. Don't be worried about something he has done before, just be worried about what he does now. The way I see it is that he wants to earn your trust back. So let him know you trust him. To him he probably thinks you are gorgeous, he has told you that you are beautiful before, so that his word on that! Hunnie don't ever ever ever worry about how he thinks of your body. He loves you and thinks you are beautiful don't try and change anything! Just believe him when he says he loves you, because he is showing it. No more worrying! Hehe. Love Always, Mandee

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