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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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if his mates calls him he is a ladies man in front of me, what do they mean exactly? he intoduced to me with his mates and two of his mates said, he's charming and a he's a ladies man, i was like, ohh ok, i was bit disappointed though and i asked him on the way back home, you love women, don't you? he just seemed really upset and replied,'' i love you'' why would you say that? so what guys, is he not worth to date? as we've been dating for 15 months now. thanks.



Is he cheating?, Is he flirty with other women?


There is a huge difference between being flirty and actually doing something about it. If your man is seeing someone else and cheating on you then of course he isn't worth it. Cheaters are cheaters, Liars are liars. However if the guy is just being friendly then he really hasn't done anything wrong. If it bothers you that he is flirting with other women then you could try talking to him about it. Tell him that it makes you feel insecure when he flirts with other women.

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A couple of times lately I have felt food come up my throat but I swallow it before it reaches my mouth becaue that would be really gross. I don't feel nauseus when this happens but I have a very large fear throwing up. What could this be? It has only happened when I sit down to go to bed even if I have been sitting and lying all day. It's very annoying and scary when it happens so can you pleas help me? Thanks!




Sounds like it could be Acid Reflux which isn't uncommon here is a link that has more info; http://www.acid-reflux-symptoms.com/

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19/f, my boyfriend is 18/m. We've been together for a year and three months. We've been living together for 6 months.


Tonight he asked me to marry him, and of course I said yes. I know in my heart it feels right, and what not.

We also planned to not get married in exactly a year. We wanna wait a little bit for a wedding to make sure we have enough money to afford a wedding along with our basic needs of life, because things aren't cheap.


I was wondering if this is normal to not get married after a year of engagment?

And I want your opinions as if we got engaged too soon??


I talked to my mom, and she wasn't upset. She said she saw nothing wrong with it as long as I'm not rushing into legal marriage when I'm not finiacially ready, and I assured her I wasn't.


Opinions, please?




Again there are two ways of answering the question


1, If you both are financially independent upon yourselves and able to afford it then I guess it would be okay.

My honest opinion though of course is going to be a little critical as that is just how I give advice

Are you both too young? In my eyes, Yes. There is a saying "You do it young, You end it young" This saying isn't 100% true of course but the odds are 95% of the time it's right on the button. Right now things seem to be perfect but marriage life is a little different from just being in a relationship. Financially you both are responsible for bills, living needs, and you support one another. Generally, When people are engaged they wait a year or two before they get married. The waiting process all depends on how many people you are inviting and what you want. Again in my eyes 19 and 18 is a bit too young to be thinking of getting married as most people don't get engaged until they hit their mid 20's. Sometimes if you set yourself up for the long haul you set yourself up to fail but that is just my opinion like I said.

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Okay, So there's this guy. But there MIGHT be a problem...Im 15 and hes 18. But he is still in high school and he JUST turned 18. I haven't really told anyone about it except my closest friends because I dont want to ginx it! I like him alot and frankly Im not sure what our status is right now. Im not sure if we are Talking talking or just friends at the moment. When we text we flirt alot:) But we have never had a conversation on the phone or v-chat before. We say "Hey" to each other in the hall way at school and he smiles everytime he see's me in the hall(:! He is a great listener and he is SO sweet. But I dont know what to do! Im pretty sure he knows that I have a crush on him. Sometimes I am scared to text him because I dont want to bother him or get on his nerves. I also don't want him thinking I am "immature or childish" Which I think I have matured alot over the past few months of being in High School. I really don't want to mess this up because he is already SO AMAZING! I like this guy alot and any advice would help thanks(:





I completely disagree with the user below me


At 18, He is legally an adult while I won't completely lecture you on the age there is a huge maturity difference between the ages of 15 and 18. An 18 year old man shouldn't be looking to date a 15 year old. Honestly, You are young and gullible and many older teenagers tend to take advantage of the younger ones. This guy may seem "amazing" to you but that doesn't change the fact that a guy is a guy. Everyone has their opinions and sure some will say age is just a number but on the other hand is it just a number or is it really a matter of peer pressure?.... I would think someone who is 18 years old would date someone their own age not someone who is a few years younger then them and out for sex.

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I like to masturbate in the car while my parents go into a store to buy something I'm 13 and a boy I really like to do this of anybody does this or has seen people do this please reply



Masturbation is something that should be done in a private place. Doing something like this in public is considered public exposure which is a crime.

If someone ever spotted you they could end up reporting you for it. If you have the urge to masturbate and have nowhere to do so I would recommend before you go to bed at night or in a bathroom but most definitely not in a public place.

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I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month and he wants to finger me. I'm going to let him, but i don't know what to do before he starts fingering me or whilst he's fingering me. And what feels best? I'm nearly 14




Judging from your post, You aren't ready.

Dating someone for a month isn't long at all, You already want to jump into just like that? I agree with the person below me you are not knowledgeable enough and I suggest reading up on sex, precautions etc. I know you don't want to hear it but I am not going to sugar coat for you. Read up first instead of letting the guy pressure you because sex is NOT everything in a relationship. Slow it down

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This is a question for people that are in or were in a relationship and have had three somes. Basically how did it go (did you enjoy it or not, did it ruin your relationship, any other things that came up with it). I've been thinking about it and its been brought up that both of us would enjoy both types but im a little uneasy. When im really horny it all sounds good having two girls to myself and letting someone else be with her at the same time. But when im not im 90 percent sure i would kick the guys ass or and not let the other girl doing anything with me (i wouldnt mind letting her and another girl do stuff with eachother)


Edit: Nope never actually done it but 99% of the time jealousy plays a role.


Don't do it


In my opinion threesomes are the sore string to a marriage, It ruins it. Sometimes even without intentions not everyone is always on the same page. People can develop feelings for one another without intentions. Shit like that just sometimes happens

Really, Sometimes it is best not to let our curiosity get the best of us. When you have a threesome you are putting your relationship/marriage at risk. Sure the idea of it sounds great but sometimes a fantasy and reality can be two different things. Threesomes often end up turning into reality, drama, jealousy and before you know it you've got yourself chaos in your relationship. My advice to you is not to sacrifice your relationship like that, If you are your partner need a change of taste then take a trip to the sex store together find other ways to satisfy your needs. Never allow another person into your personal lives because when you do you are opening your marriage and relationship to someone else which can very well do more harm then good. I firmly believe that a relationship should be between two people and kept that way. Is your Relationship/Marriage worth the risk?

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This morning I woke up with lots of plegm in the troat and I had a groos feeling stomach (not nausea) that has stayed all day. My problem is that when I get plegm close to my mouth I don't know how to pull it into my mouth and I have to swallow it. :( I have a phobia of throwing up and I know too much of this can cause you to throw up. So what can I do to get the plegm out of my stomach? And how do I bring it into my mouth? Thank You!



Hello there!



I would suggest using Mucinex you can buy it at Walmart in the pharmacy area. It helps with mucus and chest congestion.

Here is a link about Mucinex if you want to read up on it;
http://www.mucinex.com/html/howhelps/3

Good luck and feel better soon

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im 14 standing at 5/8 and is my 7 inch by 2 1/2 penis big for my size





You would be a little above average

If you are referring to being to big to fit into a vagina. No, A vagina is designed to so a baby can pass through the birth canal.

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If you have a dream about something and it happens later on what does that mean?

If you have a dream about something and it happens later on what does that mean?

Have you ever have a dream about something that already happened or something that happened the next day?
I've had dreams about things and it happened after I had the dream.
If that happens what does that mean? are you psychic if you dream about something that is gonna happen and like it does?





You aren't necessarily physic

I've had many dreams that turn into reality. Sometimes it's your conscience telling you something other times it's just a matter or predicament or a coincidence. I wouldn't put a label on it like that


I'll never forget it, I was in the 9th grade and I had this nightmare that my grandmother had passed away. The next day when I went to school I had a pinched nerve in my stomach that something just wasn't right and before you know it I went home and I got the news that my grandmother had passed while I was in school. There were no warning signs, Notta nothing. I just happened to have a dream and boom! just like that


One time I was out with my mother and my sister and we were on our way home and I told my mother to take the back roads and not to take the highway. When she asked "Why" I told her I just had a bad feeling.....That night there was a pile up on the same highway around the time we were on our way home. I never put a label on it, Sometimes we just know. We get a gut feeling... I would say it's just a coincidence. Perhaps you had a feeling it would happen?

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is it leading on if i continue to talk to my guy friend even though i know hes trying to get with me? i know i shouldnt talk to him at all but i want to still be friends uk!!




It isn't leading a guy on if you don't let it go that far, If you want to remain friends with him then be stern about it and tell him that you do not want a relationship. If you flirt with him and aren't honest about how you feel then yes it is leading him on and that is uncool.

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I'm 11 and my boyfriend broke up with me and I really seriously can't get over it! I'm madly in love with him but he's dating my bestfriend please please please help!





Friends don't go and date other friends boyfriend/girlfriends. This is not a true friend

You are young, There will be many many more boys that you come and go into your life. Right now it seems like the world is falling apart but I promise you that this is not the end. Why at eleven years old do you need a boyfriend? Relationships should come later in life when you are a little bit older trust me it is nothing to ever rush into. You have all the time to date boys, You don't need to rush things right now. Don't be in a hurry to grow up as I didn't start dating until I was 17 and I don't regret it one bit.

Sometimes dating a little later prevents all the heartbreaks you have to go through in the process. Relationships aren't always fun and games, Sometimes it's just stress and drama. Have fun being a kid and when you are in your teen years then worry about the dating thing but right now you are too young.

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I have the flu and my doctor gave my a tablet to swallow twice a day. Im deathly afraid of throwing up and one of the possible side effects are nausea and vomiting. Also I HATE swallowing pills. I choked on one once and cant do it since then. Will it make me nauseous? And how do I swallow such a big pill? Please help quickly becase I need to take it now, it's sitting right next to me...staring me down :( Thanks!



You see, Sometimes we fear swallowing pills because it gets stuck in the esophagus. However, The more you take pills the easier it will become. Nobody likes to take pills, I take baby pills and I still hate it!

I have taken pills for years and I've found that sometimes a half of glass of juice is much better then taking a pill with water. The juice gives flavor and it won't leave such a pill taste in your mouth. Also, (This is weird!) but if you eat a spoonful of peanut butter and then take your pill even with water it will help tremendously by again not tasting the aftermath of the pill. Even capsules sometimes have a medicated taste which makes me gag at times.

Try doing the juice method first and see if it works out for you, If not then try the peanut butter. Sometimes when you can't taste the pill it helps to swallow it. If you aren't used to taking medication then of course you can expect to have a hard time with it at first but the more you do it the used too it you will get.

Now, If the medication is not in capsule form then you could try cutting it in half and taking half and half at a time. If it is in capsule form then pop it in take a giant sip of water and swallow it down! Make sure you eat afterwards because sometimes taking medication on an empty stomach can make your stomach upset.

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Hello all, I am getting a tattoo soon.
it is going to say "You've got to hang on to yourself"
I was wondering if 'on to' is one word or two, I don't want to have a grammatical error on my arm for the rest of my life!




I would say "You've got to hang onto your life"

That would sound better then "You've got to hang on to your life"

In that case you wouldn't use two words you would use one. ;)

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so me and my fiance of 2 years have had a rocky relationship but its good most days and sometimes bad like any relationship, lately it has been getting worse i have schizophrenia and he knows that and tries to understand what i'm going through and tries to understand what it means to have schizophrenia. lately our arguments have been getting worse he recently physically hurt me and we talked it out and said never again but each time we fight now it gets to the point that he physically hurts me or himself and i'm sure what to do at this point. i love him and i want things to work out but is it the right thing to go through all of that?



There are many many methods to dealing with anger and frustration but to go as far as abusing someone is completely unacceptable no matter what the case may be. There is absolutely no excuse for it. Abusive people need professional help, They can only change if they want too. Not because we talk about it and they promise to make changes it does not work that way. Yes, I also agree with Solid from the sound of what you've written this man has abused you in the past. My advice is to get out, Dump him and move on. Sometimes we may care for someone but we need to show tough love and do what is right for us. Do not stay with someone that beats you because if you do you are allowing it to happen and that isn't right. You are better then that and you deserve better than that.

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Female/16
My boyfriend (also 16) teases me tonnes, to him it's hilarious - anything that winds me up is hilarious to him - but to me, it's irritating and well, I cannot stand it anymore.
We've been together a few months and were seeing eachother for about six months pier to going out officially.
For example, when getting intimate and say I move him on top of myself, he says 'Alright, Claire!' - Claire is a friend of mine, she tends to sleep around and in his eyes is not attractive at all, he also hates her - this really, really irritates me, for obvious reasons, and I just really wish he'd stop it. As for one it completely ruins the mood and it's almost like he's thinking of someone else (even though I know he doesn't like her.)
I've tried telling him to stop, but he wont as he thinks it's really funny.

How can I help to stop this? Any help will be much appreciated and sorry for it being fairly long.
Thank you.



WHOA


You are being sexually intimate with someone and they are calling you by your friends name?! Sweetie that is a huge no no

Sex should be a special experience with someone that you love and trust, Not some dude that is visualizing someone else...That is wrong. Clearly, Whether he may say he isn't attracted to her at all to some extent he is apparently. Dump his ass and move on he isn't worth it! Someone who loves someone doesn't slip up like that. Also, No offense but that is extremely immature. Find someone who cares about YOU and wants to be with YOU not your friend.

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My 11 year old sister likes to wear makeup. Any good makeup sites?


Also, don't say stupid stuff like "Uh, too young!" or "Ahaha. Wanna be 16 year old!" or anything like that. It's her choice.




Believe it or not, Youtube has the best stuff for hair, makeup and things like that.

Just look up "Makeup Tutorial"

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A friend was rapped and she says she wants to kill the baby in the womb without abortion but with tablet. But she's 8 months pregnant





Seek abortion or adoption but trying to harm the child is not an option, Performing self abortion can end up killing you.

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I have been on here before about this sort of question but its a little different this time. I have a step son who lives with my in laws. They raised him because my husband got a girl pregnant at 17. His mother was wanting another child so she told them that she would take guardianship of him so she could have her insurance cover him they agreed. For years he has wanted him back she absolutely refuses. My step son has a lot of problems so right now we are okay with him being there KIND OF. I think he is being abused emotionally.

- Their house is disgusting. They don't clean anything except the living room. My father in law sleeps in another room. My mother in law and step son sleep on the couches.

- He drinks soda 24/7. He ONLY eats junk food, chicken nuggets, pizza, popcorn, green beans. nothing else at all.

- He gets in trouble for fighting at school.

- He plays basketball and is constantly shoving the other kids

Now he is crying all the time over everything. My father in law screams until he is blue in the face about every little thing if he goes to get a drink during practice which he does every few minutes he says get your ass out there now. if he talk back instead of time out they scream at him

if he throws a fit in the store they get him what he wants.

It doesn't seem bad but it is like this 24/7 not just when he misbehaves its all day all the time misbehaving. I have to keep my son away from him because he emotionally and physically was abusing him. if we get together they have to stay away from each other. my son thinks hes being nice but he has Aspergers Syndrome.

What to do???




Your son thinks he is being nice but he has Aspergers Syndrome? That doesn't make any sense.

I have known people that have Aspergers syndrome, That is a form of Autism not a matter of being nice or not.

The father needs to step up if he feels the child is in any sort of danger, As far as wanting the child back it maybe possible but he is going to have to get a lawyer and seek a custody battle. Any proof he has he needs to grab it, When he goes over take photos from a cell phone of the environment but do it in a fashionably manner where the in laws will not pick up on it to avoid conflict. Technically, This is HIS say as this is his child. Again, I'm going to have to say he is going need to talk to a lawyer about a custody battle and you take it from there. Explain to the lawyer that you both have been to the house and the house is filthy or an unsafe environment. Likely, They will send child services to investigate the house hold. Your husbands parents are not willingly going to give up their grandson, They have raised him as their own. Your husband is going to need to fight to get custody and that is probably not going to be very pretty. So first start is he needs to go to a court house and talk with a lawyer.

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Well i have my period and i dont want it to leak during school. What Should I Do



Try wearing two pads instead of one and bring an extra change of panties.

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