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Step son may be being emotionally abused
I have been on here before about this sort of question but its a little different this time. I have a step son who lives with my in laws. They raised him because my husband got a girl pregnant at 17. His mother was wanting another child so she told them that she would take guardianship of him so she could have her insurance cover him they agreed. For years he has wanted him back she absolutely refuses. My step son has a lot of problems so right now we are okay with him being there KIND OF. I think he is being abused emotionally.
- Their house is disgusting. They don't clean anything except the living room. My father in law sleeps in another room. My mother in law and step son sleep on the couches.
- He drinks soda 24/7. He ONLY eats junk food, chicken nuggets, pizza, popcorn, green beans. nothing else at all.
- He gets in trouble for fighting at school.
- He plays basketball and is constantly shoving the other kids
Now he is crying all the time over everything. My father in law screams until he is blue in the face about every little thing if he goes to get a drink during practice which he does every few minutes he says get your ass out there now. if he talk back instead of time out they scream at him
if he throws a fit in the store they get him what he wants.
It doesn't seem bad but it is like this 24/7 not just when he misbehaves its all day all the time misbehaving. I have to keep my son away from him because he emotionally and physically was abusing him. if we get together they have to stay away from each other. my son thinks hes being nice but he has Aspergers Syndrome.
What to do???
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i would say if you are wanting to get away from them report them protective services they will investigate it
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I dont see how you are KIND OF fine with any child being abused in any manner.This boy needs help.Your his step-MOM so step up & get him help!!!You can call the child abuse hotline & be anonymous if youd like,but they have to show up to your in-laws within 48 hours.Its the law.I had to make that phone call myself for neglected children left locked outside in the dead of winter with no jackets shoes nothing.They did come & removed those kids & their Mom got the help she needed.Im so happy I made that call Who knows what would have happened to those little ones if I didnt & THIS IS your step-son.You should be ashamed you havent done something yet.I wouldnt wait 1 more second HELP HIM ! Hes a child..A dissapointed Cheriscope
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Your husband does not have to see it for your to take action to protect your stepson. You do not need your husbands permission to contact CPS. If you feel the child is in danger you call CPS. IF they agree then you husband will have to take notice.
The only thing I can think of at the moment is probably the same answer I gave you last time.
From what you have written this sounds like a good case to get child protective services involved in. If the home is as disgusting as you say it is? If the child is not getting proper an nutritious meals offered to him? If there are uncontrolled behavioral problems? Then CPS can and will remove the child from the home and place him in foster care.
You, your husband or anyone else for that matter can contact CPS whenever they feel a child is in danger. That person does not have to be a relative. You could offer to foster the child for CPS though at the moment I am not recommending it unless you are home, not working, to monitor your stepson. My reason is that you say your stepson abuses your son. I don't think it is fair to your son to bring your stepson into his life unless you or your husband is there 24/7 to monitor his behavior. That though is your choice.
If CPS does remove the child from his grandparents home; your husband should have a lawyer ready to go to court to petition for custody. If this what you and your husband want then you need to strike while the fire is hot and CPS is on your side.
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Your son thinks he is being nice but he has Aspergers Syndrome? That doesn't make any sense.
I have known people that have Aspergers syndrome, That is a form of Autism not a matter of being nice or not.
The father needs to step up if he feels the child is in any sort of danger, As far as wanting the child back it maybe possible but he is going to have to get a lawyer and seek a custody battle. Any proof he has he needs to grab it, When he goes over take photos from a cell phone of the environment but do it in a fashionably manner where the in laws will not pick up on it to avoid conflict. Technically, This is HIS say as this is his child. Again, I'm going to have to say he is going need to talk to a lawyer about a custody battle and you take it from there. Explain to the lawyer that you both have been to the house and the house is filthy or an unsafe environment. Likely, They will send child services to investigate the house hold. Your husbands parents are not willingly going to give up their grandson, They have raised him as their own. Your husband is going to need to fight to get custody and that is probably not going to be very pretty. So first start is he needs to go to a court house and talk with a lawyer.
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