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confused feelings and schizophrenia
so me and my fiance of 2 years have had a rocky relationship but its good most days and sometimes bad like any relationship, lately it has been getting worse i have schizophrenia and he knows that and tries to understand what i'm going through and tries to understand what it means to have schizophrenia. lately our arguments have been getting worse he recently physically hurt me and we talked it out and said never again but each time we fight now it gets to the point that he physically hurts me or himself and i'm sure what to do at this point. i love him and i want things to work out but is it the right thing to go through all of that?
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Your schizophrenia does not enter into the problem of physical abuse. Yes; I can understand your illness and the frustration he may have in dealing with it. That by no means gives him the right to physically abuse you. Yes; he does have the right and the need to restrain you if you in the throws of your illness are going to harm yourself in anyway. That is the extent of physical non-loving contact he can use with you.
Hitting, kicking, pushing or any other kind of physical abuse is never acceptable; it is called domestic violence and is a crime in every state. If he is hurting you then you need to leave the relationship and go someplace safe.
Should you need help in leaving you can or should call 911. If you need help in finding someplace safe to go then I suggest calling this number. 1-800-656-HOPE. This is the number for a 24 hour hotline operated by an organization called RAINN. Which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. The volunteers who take your call will help you find a domestic shelter in your area to co to. They will also speak with you about things you can do to help you stay safe.
There is also the National Domestic Violence Hotline. There number is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233. They two can help you.
Most importantly is for you to find a safe place away from your fiance. It may be temporary while he learns to deal with his anger management issues and to better deal with your illness; or it can be permanent. That is for you to decide. Right now my advice is to separate before you are really harmed.
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There are many many methods to dealing with anger and frustration but to go as far as abusing someone is completely unacceptable no matter what the case may be. There is absolutely no excuse for it. Abusive people need professional help, They can only change if they want too. Not because we talk about it and they promise to make changes it does not work that way. Yes, I also agree with Solid from the sound of what you've written this man has abused you in the past. My advice is to get out, Dump him and move on. Sometimes we may care for someone but we need to show tough love and do what is right for us. Do not stay with someone that beats you because if you do you are allowing it to happen and that isn't right. You are better then that and you deserve better than that.
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Mental illness or no mental illness he had no right to physically harm you under any circumstances. From the sounds of it he's done it more than once. It's one thing for him to say "Never Again." and another not to. Talk is cheap. If he's done it once he will do it again.
I advise you to get out, get out now as it will likely get worse. You may love him and that's hard but if anyone physically hurt me I would want to be far away from them after.
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It sounds like if you want to safe your relationship counseling would be best for you. Learning how to deal with the fights is best. I like talking out the situation my husband likes to cool down first. After 2 years of marriage we have finally learned how to deal with our fights not all but most of them
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