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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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Is it childish to be in college and to miss your parents, especially your mom? How do you handle that? Especially when you haven't been away from your mom for more than three days in YEARS. Like 16 or 17 years. My mom's not far away and I'm lucky because I'll never go more than a week without seeing her, but this still sucks. I'm excited about the good times I'm gonna have in the future, but still. I miss my dad too, but I'm used to being away from him (he travels a lot). Does anyone have any advice. Am I completely childish for missing my mom and dad at my age?

No it is not childish. What you are suffering is called being homesick and is normal. Even kids who have gone away to summer camp suffer homesickness when they go away to college. Part of the reason is they are entirely on their own with no true adult supervision to tell them what to do and when. With the exception of your class schedule your time is your own.

This will all pass as you get into a routine of things in school as will going home each weekend. Slowly but surely you will go home less and less as you make friends and find more things to keep you at school each weekend.

My advice is to relax. Enjoy the college life. Make new friends and get into the spirit of college life. As you do the homesickness will fade away.

Tonight's my first night staying in a house by myself ever. I've seriously never done this before and I wouldn't admit it if this wasn't anonymous, but I'm scared. I live in a nice neighborhood and don't know of a single break in that's ever happened here, but I still can't help feeling a little nervous about it. I'm a woman by the way and I'm paranoid about what would happen if the wrong person found out that I live alone. I have three small dogs who bark at noises. Part of me thinks that will make thing better, but the other part thinks it will make things worse. I feel like they'll let me know if someone's outside or anything. However, I also think they'll scare !e when they bark at nothing and then I'll get used to it and ignore them if something actually does happen. Is it rational to have these fears?

Is it rational to have these fears? Yes, especially for a woman. As long as you don't let the fear paralyze you I would consider this normal. Barking dogs are a good safeguard against intruders. As is leaving exterior lights on and lights on say in the living room and kitchen.

The lights do not need to be very bright, just bright enough illuminate the are a bit. Call it mood lighting if you will. Barking dogs and lights are two things intruders will stay away from as they work best in silence and darkness. Plus they fear dogs as the scent they give off will cause most dogs to if not attack them to continue to bark their heads off.

Another thing to consider is a good alarm system reporting to a central station. I like home alarm systems for two reasons. First they are on duty 24/7 guarding you home. Be that home a house or apartment. Second is fire, all home alarm systems also monitor for fire.

I fear fire more than I do an intrusion. With a monitored system if there is a break in or fire while I am home or away the central station will call the police or fire department. Where fire is concerned the sooner a fire has been determined the better chance the fire department has to limit the damage and save lives.

Last is having a gun by your bed side. If you have nothing against gun ownership then I recommend taking a gun safety class and get what ever permit you may need if any to have a gun in your possession or at home.

Even under the best of circumstances the police are 3 to as long as 20 or more minutes away depending on where you live, be you a city or rural dweller, from the time the 911 operator takes the call. If someone breaks into your home meaning to do you harm, the rarest of break-in circumstances, a gun can save your life. I have had guns in my home for years. For the most part it is a really expensive paper weight. The only thing it has ever shot at is paper targets. I hope I never have to fire it to save my wife's life or mine. If I do it is there for me to do so.

Any or all of the things I have suggested should make you feel safer in your own home. Fear is what keeps us safe. Managing that fear is the difference between paranoia and happiness.

Alright, so let me start with the beginning. I was drinking a slushy type thing that was in a glass cup (It isn't light, it is a little heavy). Since there's ice in it, it "melts" and makes the underneath of what it's on wet. Also the cup itself, since it slowly melts therefore causing the cup to become "moist". Anyway, while I was drinking that, I was on my laptop doing whatever. Once I finished it, it was just an empty cup on my wooden nightstand. I then heard it move, and I looked over and literally saw it moving. I got so incredibly scared that I literally froze and stopped breathing. It scared the hell out of me. I was one of those people who didn't believe in ghosts and thought it was just a bunch of bull, but now I'm not so sure. I am so incredibly scared. Would the moisture/wetness cause it to move? It slowly slid an inch or two. I'm trying to convince myself that it was just the cup, but how would it slip a little then just stop?? When I picked up the cup, the bottom was wet, and I wiped it off and put it away.

I've had the same exact liquid in the same cup before and this hasn't happened to me before. What could this be? Whenever I think about the image of the cup moving, I get so scared and my heart starts beating. It was surreal and terrifying; Even if it was just a slippery cup. I absolutely despise paranormal stuff and that's why I ceased to believe in that sort of stuff. Please help, I don't know what to do and I'm scared. I recently moved to this new apartment (Where the incident happened) a little over a month ago but nobody said anything weird happened.

I do not believe this has anything to do with the paranormal and all the more to do with the science of motion. I would need more information to fully explain what may have happened.

What I believe occurred is several factors combined to cause the glass to slide on the wet spot to a dry spot.

Factor No.

1. The table is not exactly level but of a degree or two to the direction the glass slid.

2. The difference in temperatures between the glass and the table was just right so as to allow the glass to slide as if on ice..

3. Motion was caused by a breeze most likely from the fan cooling your laptop or the air circulation from the air conditioning or an open window.

The confluence of those three things coming together at the same time provided just the right mechanics to cause the glass to slide on the wet spot until it reached a dry area and stopped.

Simple science and not paranormal is the answer to your concern so relax I don't believe your house is haunted.

i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby?

I'm sorry sweetheart but by law you have no say in whether or not you are to have an abortion. By law you are one year shy of having medical confidentiality which would give you total and singular say on this.

You also have no choice but to tell your parents for if you have morning sickness they are bound to notice before it is to late to have an abortion. If their choice is for you to abort the pregnancy it is easier on you physically to do so as early as possible.

The best thing is to tell your parents is the truth as soon as possible, today. "You say mom, dad I'm pregnant." "Then stay calm, try not to shout and be ready to answer their questions. Mom being pregnant I'm sure she is going to try to stay calm for the sake of her baby and hopefully dad will also stay calm not to upset mom.

I'm sure there will be many questions, try to stay calm and answer their questions without shouting and crying. They are going to want to know who the boy is and how old he is. As a father I know that is one of the first questions I would ask so be ready.

If your parents some how allow you to continue the pregnancy consider giving the child up for adoption. Your birth mother gave you up for adoption and she was three years older than you are and unable to raise you herself. How do you expect to be able to raise a child while you are still in middle school? It would be in the child's best interest just as it was in your best interest. Think about it, seriously.

When I first started at the college I'm currently enrolled at they told me the total cost of my tuition for 2 years would be around 22k. I took out a loan to cover the first year of $10,500 and then I also had two stafford loans that were around $5k together, so all together I had 15.5k out in loans.

Fast forward to now, I'm 4 months in and they've somehow used up ALL OF MY LOANS and they're saying that I'm only financially covered through the end of the next three weeks (or this quarter of classes). To make things even crazier I've only taken three classes at the campus and the rest were online. So they've charged me $15,500 for only 4 months of schooling and of course they don't accept scholarships.

Now I'm going to have to take out another loan and idk where I'm going to get it from because none of my family members have high enough credit to co-sign. I'm 21 so I don't really have any credit and can't get approved for a loan on my own. Somehow I'll have to figure something out.

Anyways, I live in a super small town but I have a good part time job here that works with my school schedule. I'm currently living with a family member and I really want to move out because they're driving me crazy, but I can't find a job here that will pay me enough that I can live on my own and works with my school schedule. It seems like this town and school will only lead me to financial ruin.

So what I was thinking of doing was applying at a college in another town where I can dorm (I also don't have any other family I can stay with because they all have other responsibilities), that's in a large city with a good job market, allows for scholarships and that isn't so crazy expensive.

Does this seem practical? I don't know what else to do. There's only one college in my current town and I can't drop out and go back later because my payments will come due in six months if I do that.

If I'm reading this right you have gone through one year’s tuition in less than a semesters worth of classes. Depending on how many credit hours you’re taking between the three on campus classes and the online classes that doesn't seem possible. Especially when all you are paying for is tuition, books and any lab fees.

The first thing you need to do is go to the Registrar’s office and ask for an accounting of you deposited funds in writing. Review the accounting with them to see that it is proper and your funds were credited properly. Colleges can make mistakes. Make sure that the funds you deposited are shown as received then they need to account for every penny they charged you. IF there is a mistake or if you are charged for classes or fees you are not responsible for they need to make corrections.

Now if there is some rule they have that prevents them from making any corrections immediately you say the following. "Either you correct the mistakes and re-credit my account instantly or I will leave and go directly to the district court and petition for an emergency court order that you do so." As long as the funds owed you are under the courts limit, which it should be you can summons them to court and let them tell the judge why they can't credit your account." This is small claims or the People Court.

Changing schools is not a bad idea especially if you find this school has mishandled you funds.

As to dropping out of school and returning at a later date. My son has done this twice. Not actually dropping out but completing one course going to work then returning to school for further education. Each time his college loans were put in suspense until he completed his schooling again. All he needed was to send them a current class schedule showing he had to do was send a class schedule showing how many credit hours he was taking.

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So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me.

Of all the STDS out there Herpes is one you can live with. You must always insist on condoms from now on and refrain from sex during and outbreak. Condoms don't stop all STDS but they do protect against many. Today's medications will limit the number of outbreaks if any that you will have.

The health department will want to know who you have had sex with and will contact them and ask them to be tested. Testing your sex partners is how the health department traces the carriers to find the source of your infection. A person can be a carrier of an STD without showing signs of infection. IF they have never had and STD screening they would never know they are infected.

The first thing you need to know is what type of Herpes you have as there are two different types. Then find out what type of treatment your doctor recommends. I recommend seeing a communicable disease specialist rather than having your family doctor treat you. If you have not been contacted by the health department you should contact them so someone else is not infected by one of your two partners.

Below are some sites I found that you might find helpful. I found them by typing "Living with Herpes," into a search engine. This is not the end of the world. With proper treatment and a slight adjustment in lifestyle towards sex you can still have a sex life and still marry and have children. This is one reason why I've included the URL for dating Web site for people with Herpes that I found when I ran my search.

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/5-myths-about-herpes.html

http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/guide/genital-herpes-living-managing

http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/guide/genital-herpes-living-managing

My daughter who is 12 has recently gotten into the emo music, and it led to her dresssing in black, and being more introverted, and she seems sadder. And now she wears her hair to the side covering an eye and she asked the hair styler to layer her hair and "thin out the ends 3-4 inches" which I found was the emo haircut. Her friends are also starting to pick to pick up on it and dressing in black and acting darker. I looked it up and found out it was a cult and the such....what do I do to stop it?

Emo is not a cult it is more like a phase teenagers today go through. To try and change her or forbid her will only alienate you and her.

What I suggest, having gone through this already, is be a good parent and try to ignore. By being a good parent of today's teenager means checking them for signs of drug and alcohol use.

Being emo does and does not lend itself to drug and alcohol use. The use of drugs and alcohol are unfortunately rampant in today's schools even as far down as some elementary grades.

Good parenting means checking their rooms, backpacks and clothing for drugs and alcohol. Monitoring their behavior for any changes and taking appropriate action if you notice anything different with your child. Going emo is not a change that says your child is into drugs and alcohol. It does mean you need to be more vigilant.

So i'm 14 years old and have never been in a relationship. 3 years ago boys started paying attention to me because I guess "I look mature (big butt) for my age". Anyway I attended my neighborhood school for a month and most of the guys in 8th- 10th grade paid attention to me. I am very shy So they would try and grab my butt or rub my waist. I would get them to stop. But one of the boys he would treat me differently.He's 16 and When i transferred i told him about how boys in that school were and he said he would protect me. Well for some reason I fell for him.Me and him would kiss and do innocent stuff, but we said we would start a serious relationship. My best friend who lived near me told me he was a manwhore and not go for him. SO 3 days ago I was walking past my old school and they were getting out. He walked me home and was all kissing me on my neck and groped my boobs. It felt good but i felt kinda wrong, well i guess I just went with feeling good and me and him went to his house.when we went there no one was there. We sat on his bed and just watched tv. After that we were just kissing and cuddling, after that he started sliding his hand up my skirt and touching my butt. I got up and said "i should go home" he was like "babe... just 10 mins" I said ok. Those 10 mins may have ruined my life. I had sex with him. I feel very awful and don't know what to do I don't know why I did I just need some advice

Well as the saying goes, "closing the barn door once the cow has left won't bring the cow back." You know what you did was wrong in the sense that you are way too young to be having sex. I said it that way because there is nothing wrong with having sex once you are old enough and mature enough to understand the consequences of ones actions.

The first thing you need to do is, if a condom was not used is go to the drug store and get the morning after pill. At age 14 you are old enough to purchase this pill on your own. Taken within 48 hours of sex it is almost 100% effective of stopping a pregnancy and within 7 days it is still effective to different degrees.

As to this boy; like most boys his confuses love and lust. To him the definitions are the same. IF he is the man-whore you were told he is then you can expect him to drop you now that he has had you and had you virginity.

Now the next problem you face is your reputation at school. Will he keep his mouth shut or is he the kiss and tell type. IF you suddenly become the most popular girl in school you can expect it to be because he has told all his friends he had sex with you. Worse is no one is going to want to tell anyone that they dated you and did not have sex. So regardless of if you do or don't they will say they did. This does not mean you should, it means your reputation is going to be tarnished.

Because of your age you are too young to consent to sex under the law. In technical terms even though you may not have resisted he raped you. If you want to make sure he never tells anyone tell him that at a minimum for the next five years because you are under the age of consent you can file a rape charge against him and you will if he you ever hear he has told anyone that you and he has had sex. Then tell him to go away and stay away.

He probably won't believe you so tell him to check the law that you did. That you spoke to a police officer. No I'm not a police officer but I have friends that are and you are not the first young lady to write this type of letter. My friends tell me depending on the laws in your state, which really don't differ much. He could face charges of under a rape law.

No one can tell you what to do in the future with boyfriend(s) that is going to be up to you. All any of us can tell y is to try and remember how you feel now and keep that member alive when you’re getting hot and sweaty with a boy.

Sex is a wonderful thing when the time is right, in 4 years or so when you’re older. If any boy says to you something like, "If you love me you will have sex with me, “run don't walk away from him because he has confused love and lust and only lusts for you. Sex is meant to be an outgrowth of ones love for another, not proof of ones love for another.

I want to kiss my friend. We are both females. I've never kissed anyone before. I'm sixteen. I've only begun to question my sexuality this summer. What should I do? Kiss her, even though I'm almost certain she's straight? I don't want to ruin our friendship. Another friend we hang out with knows I may have feelings for this girl. I don't want to ruin this dynamic, but sometimes I look at this girl and want to kiss her more than I've wanted to kiss anyone.

Razhie is right you should not kiss someone who may not want to be kissed by you, especially someone of the same sex.

As far as wanting to kiss her and being confused about your sexuality; don't be. It is not uncommon for teenagers at some point during puberty to have feelings for someone of the same sex. It is all part of becoming sexually aware.

It does not mean you are gay. Being gay is how you are born and something you would have had feelings of and even known long before puberty hit. As for being bi scientist are of mixed opinion on that. Some feel like being gay this is how one is born. Others feel it is a learned lifestyle. Regardless of which just wanting to kiss someone does not mean you are either. as I said at some point during puberty as many as 95% of teenagers will engage in some type of same sex sexual activity.

My advice is to relax your normal, just do not go kissing this girl unless she wants to be kissed by you.

Most dairy cows get turned to beef once they stop producing enough milk. Also, in order for them to produce enough milk for humans they get artificially inseminiated to produce more children than necessary, their baby boys get killed and turned to veal, while their baby girls are prepared to one day take on their role. Cow milk is for cows, like human milk is for humans. Humans are the only animal species that drinks the milk of another animal. Chickens can live pretty horrible lives, too. It's said that a woman having 1 egg a day shortens her life as having 5 cigarettes a day. So how can a vegetarian truly be ethical? They can have just as much cholesterol as a meat eater, or even more, too. And before you say that plants have feelings, no, they don't, as they don't have a nervous systems or brains. You can get every nutrient you need from plants, there are even plant based b12 supplements, as b12 comes from soil enriched with cobalt. The nutrients you think that just naturally occur in animal flesh are really through the animal eating plants, so why not just bypass the animal, and avoid dying from the world's biggest killer, heart disease

I don't pretend to have all the answers and this question begs an answer I truly do not have. One could look at this question from a religious aspect and say God put both animal and plants on earth for man to feed upon. Giving man free will to choose between them as to what pleases him.

Why some vegetarians will chose to drink milk and eat eggs and fish I can't say. Some will even eat chicken but not beef. Now Vegans are different, the eat nothing of flesh which include cow’s milk, though they do eat some cheese which most come from milk unless it is a processed cheese.

The only good answer I can give you is that there is no hard and fast rule to being a vegetarian and people decide just how far they are willing to go on a lifestyle type diet.

Before I retired I had a customer that was a vegetarian. When I took her out to lunch she would take me to a place where we could get a vegetarian pizza. I could not tell the difference between the pizzas I normally buy and the one we ate together, other than the vegan pizza was more expensive.

The vegetarian and vegan diets are healthy ways to live provided you get enough protein from what you eat. As long as you are happy that is all that counts. As far as how others chose to live it is a case of; "you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink." People are always going to do what makes them happy and to the majority of us that’s a huge steak with all the trimmings.

My mom tells at me constantly, then pretends like nothing ever happened. She calls me names, one time she kept screaming that I'm pathetic, over and over again, I just can't take these insults anymore. I started cutting every time she breaks me down. I don't make them very deep, but just enough so they bleed. I just hate her so much, if I could, I would try to get some space for a while, but I can't, usually when she does this is at night, and I can't get out because of my curfew. I did try to talk to her about it, but she said it was my fault. I have really bad grades, I just don't care about them anymore. Sorry if there are so many questions in here, but I just really need to vent, and get some advice. BTW I'm a 13 year old female, if that helps.

From what you have written it is quite possible you poor grades are tied to your poor home life. While it may also be possible mom is facing some issues of her own it is not right that she take it out on you to the point that you are cutting. Cutting is serious and is evidence of a serious depression you may be suffering.

Please follow my advice as this is how you can get help both for you and your mother. Tomorrow or Monday, when you are next in school go to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Tell them about your home life and your cutting.

Once you tell them the must take steps to protect you and contact child protective services (CPS). This does not mean CPS will take you out of your home that is a last resort. What they will do is talk to your mother and tell her what her ranting is doing to you. They will see to it that you get help for the depression she has caused you so that you stop cutting. They will try and help mom with whatever is bothering her. They will monitor you home life to see to it you have a proper home life so you can concentrate on what is important for a 13 year old girl.

Getting good grades in school is important. If your home life is bad I can understand not caring about school. This is why it is so important to fix your home life and why your teacher or principal is required to step in and help you once you tell them what is going on at home.

Please do as I advise as soon as you get back to school after reading this.

I'm 14 and my friend is a year older than I. We've been friends since we were little kids and our parents are close friends. Awhile ago my dad was on Twitter and he saw her page and it said stuff like "I like sex". I told my dad it wasn't hers because I didn't believe she would do something like that plus when we hang uo she doesn't seem like that. So today my friend from church was on Instagram and she showed me a picture of her in only her bra (it was a top of the body picture) and I was like wth. I need to know if I should tell my dad he was right and tell him to talk to her parent or if I should try to talk to her myself or if I should just leave it alone. If I tell my dad I'm scared she might be mad at me. And if I talk to her what should I say? Please help!

You should first try and talk to her for what she is doing is dangerous. When you do talk to her there are two different directions you can take in talking to her.

1. Tell her how dangerous it is to put photos like the ones you have seen out on the Internet. Once out their they can never be taken back. Anyone can see them as they can get passed from one person to the next not just by her friends. There are people out there that see these picture and read some of the things she is saying who have very evil intentions. Not just sexual predators but predators looking to do girls like her serious physical harm.

Then of course there is the reputation she will get at school. True or false once she is labeled with a reputation she cannot change it. She will be seen as promiscuous or easy labels no teenage girls what.

2. If the facts of life in the first way don't work then maybe the legal consequences of what she is doing will. Taking photos of herself out on the web as she has done is called child pornography. Putting those pictures out on the WEB is called distribution of child pornography both of which are felonies for which, even though they are pictures of herself she can be arrested for and charged accordingly.

Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and other social media companies are working with Law enforcement to track down people posting pictures like this on the WEB. When they find them they are charged with crimes their age is not a protection. They are doing this to protect them and others against the predators or lurk on the web to find girls like her who are foolish enough to do this and would be foolish enough to meet these people in person. This is when they get harmed.

If none of the above seems to have any affect on her then it is appropriate to tell your dad. It is better she be alive and mad at you then you attend her funeral.

Im a 21 year old female looking or a german girl that speaks english to help me practice speaking german, doesnt matter if english is not so great ill help you. If interested answer me back so we can trade skype usernames

This is the wrong forum for what you are looking for. This is not a dating or matchmaking site or one that could put you in contact with the people you are looking for.

I I found the following site that might be helpful to you in finding a German to English or English to German speaking pen pal. Check it out and see if it fits you needs.

http://www.mylanguageexchange.com/Pen-pals/Language/German.asp

Hi,
I'm Taylor and I'm a sophomore in high school. I have a boyfriend and I've known him for over a year. We started as best friends and then we fell in love and now we're dating. He makes me so happy and we share a lot in common. He understands my depression unlike any other guy, he's sweet, caring, he looks out for me and he means so much to me. My biggest issue is though...he's biracial. I don't see why my dad is so fucking judgmental of his skin color. He calls him ugly, and a nigger (even though he's actually not fully black he actually looks more white then he does black). Last night, I had a bad day at school. I was on the phone with my friend Haleigh , my dad found out about me dating AJ and he snapped...he said things like "my shit looks better than that ugly nigger" , "you only hang with your friends so you can hang with him, I saw on Facebook" , "you lied to me about your feelings (which in fact I fucking didn't, I told him we were friends a month prior but things have changed since then), he said he doesn't want zebra babies for grandchildren, "you're a princess and he's a frog", and more other hurtful things. My mom said that if AJ leaves me, no white guy will want to date me because I dated a half black guy. I just don't fucking understand why my dad is so fucking judgmental of race, he judges the outside but not the inside and it hurts me very much. After me being upset with school, and then my dad getting into me about something I can control, it was unnecessary. After he found out I was dating a biracial guy , my dad said "I'm no longer his daughter and to not say shit to him and that my boyfriend had mental issues". (Which in this case, no we both have depression and we support each other) I've already lost so much. It hurts me. Later that night, my boyfriend and I talked about what happened on the phone. We talked about the things my dad said and my boyfriend said that I shouldn't let my dad get to me that way , and I agreed. I spent a lot of time crying over my dad yelling at me. I still love my dad, but I don't know anymore honestly...what can I do to get him to fucking realize that my boyfriend is a good person even though he thinks he's "ugly". Please help...any advice would be appreciated. Thanks. And God bless.

Your mom and dad are still living in the past where racism was rampant. Today only some of the African Americans use the "N" word among themselves then get upset if a non-African American uses the word. No one should use that word, including those of the African American community, it is offensive and demeaning. By living in the past your parents are in affect continuing the racial inequality that exists in your community and this country. It is hard for you to do so but you should try to educate your parents on how wrong they are for their tone with you if used outside the house could cause them harm in the wrong place. That's objective one.

You are a sophomore in high school which makes you 14 or 15 years old. I see nothing wrong with you dating a biracial person. Should the two of you break up your mother is wrong as to how your male peers will feel about who you have dated in the past; so just disregard what she has said. My own cousin dated and married a black man. Had two children by him and stayed married for over 15 years before they divorced. She has been married to a white man for the past 10 years.

One other thing to remember which I know you will find hard to believe as you are much in love at the moment. High school romances rarely continue beyond high school. Friendships rarely continue beyond high school as once we leave for college our worlds change dramatically. This is where that saying comes in that, "You can never go home again." Home does not change we do. We mature and our goals in life change. Anyone that we leave behind who does not go off to college seem vastly different then they were when we were in school together. Fact is they seem to have become immature. No they haven't become immature, you have matured beyond them. In essence what I am saying is live in the moment for now. Enjoy the company of your boyfriend. In 3 or 4 years things will change I'm certain of that. Try and educate your parents to how wrong they are to judge people by the color of their skin.
Now as to the depression you speak off. It does not surprise me that you and your boyfriend are suffering from some form of depression. How bad the depression is only your doctor can access. If I were to make a guess I would say you both are suffering from what is now called teenage depression; what my parents called a phase something I would grow out of. We know better now and doctors can help you. Females suffer more than males because of all the changes they go through during their teenage years.

You don't have to suffer with this and you will feel better, both of you, if you see your family doctor and get screened for depression. IF diagnosed with depression the doctor can help you to feel better, which will help you do better in school and inter-act with your parents better as well.

In short, I support you dating who you are dating. If you can stand the abuse your parents are giving you then I suggest you continue to date him as long as he gives you a true loving feeling to do so. I generally do not recommend going against a parents wishes though in your situation you are right and they are wrong, very wrong.

Please see a doctor about your depression. You are old enough to make your own doctor’s appointment and to see a doctor on your own if mom or dad won't take. This appointment is covered under your health insurance. All you will need is the copayment if any.

from losing weight? I went vegan for my health and to get skinnier, and have already lost 25 pounds this year. I still have an overweight BMI and have gone from a BMI of 30 (tipping point for obesity) to a 25.7, the tipping scale of normality. my boss frequently comments on my losing too much weight, my dad really hurt my feelings the other day by saying I should just eat the oil heavy, animal product heavy foods or get out (before my parents wished I'd cook more, now they hate that I need to make meals once every one to two weeks, saving money on food costs in the process), and many family members and family friends are very skeptical, in spite of my progress and the fact that it's the first time in my life I've ever been successful at a diet for more than like 2 days (it's been 2 months!), I was on the brink of getting type 2 diabetes medication at my previous weight, I'm finally learning to cook, most of my cravings went away (fast food is expensive. And not only am I vegan, I'm also mostly plant based, but I don't shame myself for occasionally having coconut ice cream or vegan cheese. It's like people recognize all these famous, beautiful people but don't like the idea of me being one, finally being happy with a slim (I want a BMI of 18.5, I don't have anorexic dreams) body for the first time in my life since I started puberty in elementary school (early menarche is linked with dairy, meat, and etc and I ate those with no restraint), or eliminating my risk for various diseases common with my elder family members. I'll just try to not talk about the diet as much and have my blood tests my proof of the benefits of a whole foods, plant based diet, but it's been sad to pretty much have barely any support, especially from family members. At least my co workers are supportive and consider that I'm vegan with things, unlike my parents who joke about me needing to eat animals

Congratulations on your weight loss, keep up the good work. If going Vegan is what has turned the corner for you then be proud and do not let others, including family members drag you down. There is nothing wrong with the Vegan diet; just make sure you get the proper amount of protein in your diet. Also make sure your doctor is monitoring you weight loss. This is very important on all diets when you are losing more than just a few pounds. It certainly sounds as if you and your doctor are working together which is excellent.

My son is a Firefighter/Paramedic who was tipping the scale at 290 pounds. He and others on his shift were all overweight. My son and his girlfriend challenged each other to lose weight. They are now in week 6 and he has lost 22 pounds which is just about the right amount to loose each week. He is exercising with a fitness coach and eating right. Funny thing happened in week three when his weight loss became noticeable. The others on his shift at work saw how much weight he lost in just 3 weeks. Now the entire shift is eating healthier and they exercise together after the house work is done and other things they need to do each shift24 hour shift. Now they are all losing weight.

His fire chief is a friend of mine. I expect that once he sees the results from my sons shift he is going to challenge/order the other shifts to follow suit.

Why did I tell you all that? Simple, most people, me included do not have the will power to diet and diet properly. My son didn't until his girlfriend challenged him to a diet contest. This I believe is where your parents are. I believe that secretly they are proud of you for losing wait but because of other factors such as not understanding the Vegan diet and life style they cannot bring themselves to compliment you. So let me and the other older parent types on here do it for them.

You’re doing good. Stay the course and when you reach your goals come up with a maintenance plan that allows you to enjoy what you obtained and to enjoy you new slimmer, healthier you.

Long story short I worked for a man for 7 weeks doing his marketing, graphic design, ect for his real estate company. What I thought would be a good opportunity turned into a nightmare. He promised me a steady part time job (I need part time as I'm a full time med student) and within a few weeks he demanded that I work more than part time or he'd fire me which he knew I couldn't afford. I worked as many hours as I could but my schoolwork started falling behind.

Then he became extremely disrespectful to me, insulting my career choice because he "made so much money" in real estate. He also decided he wanted me to work on real estate tasks in real estate programs, which I didn't know how to do and he hardly even tried to train me. When I tried to ask questions he became volatile and yelled or cussed at me so I got scared because he's a tall and large man and I was a 5ft tall college girl stuck in an enclosed office with him totally alone.

He also started refusing me lunch even though the hours I was working required it telling me "you can wait until the end of your shift).

I wound up having enough and quit after one particularly horrendous week.

Since then I've tried requesting my final paycheck twice and he refuses to give it to me.

He told me if I try to sue him for it he will counter-sue me for "more than I have in my bank account". He says that because I quit he took a huge financial loss and would accuse me of deleting his proprietary information(after I quit, I deleted everything I made for him off MY personal laptop but he never asked me for any of it and as I said, it was on my personally owned laptop NOT his business computer. I did not want to keep anything that reminded me of him after I'd quit) and maliciously making a typo on his business cards so he couldn't use them, costing him the money he had to spend to print them. However I had given him multiple proofs of the card before I sent it off and this "typo" is actually a miscommunication on what his website URL is. I actually have emails proving I sent him proofs that he approved. Would any of this hold up in court?

I live in a state where there are no laws regarding last paycheck so I would have to take him to court to get the money but at the same time I don't really have any money to take him to court...

What can I do? Should I just let it go? The check would only have been for around $300.

I disagree somewhat with Razhie in that since he did not pay you for the work and the work was on your computer the work is your intellectual product. Then there's the fact he had you doing real-estate work without a license. There is some work within a Real-estate office for which no license is required but much of the work does require a license.

I also find it hard to believe in this day and age that your state does not have a wag and hours board. All states have some form, possibly under a different name. It is the job of the wage and hours board to see to it the child labor laws are respected and that employers pay minimum wages. Check with your state government I'm sure there is some form of this board within your state. These are the people you would file a complaint with.

Failure to pay wages owed can result in the loss of a business license. I once had an employer try to withhold from a final check several thousand dollars as his cost to replace me. I took him before the wages and hours board. My attorney, which they paid for, had me account for every penny they did not pay me correctly during the entire term of my employment. At the courthouse door they settled fro every penny for if we went in to court they not only would not have had to pay me every penny but the fines would have been more than double. I sued them for x amount then ended up paying me that and half again based on what I accounted for to my lawyer.

You could be looking at more than $300 dollars as daily interest compounds plus whatever other charges you can add based on the labor laws that every state has. So call the state government hotline and find out just what rights you have.

You can also call the Real Estate board and report him for unfair labor practices. They could if they see fit yank his license which is worth a lot more to him than $300.

My advice in short.

Step I. Call the state government or visit an attorney. Most attorneys will not charge you for a first visit. If your labor board is like mine he or she will accept what they pay for representing you.

Step II. Ask the Attorney about filing an unfair labor practice complaint with the Realty Board.

I do believe there are laws on your side of the table. Don't let this guy bully you out of $300.

Hi i was with my fiance. his penis touched my back hole and anus but he didnt discharge on vagina instead he discharge above anus. when i went to clean i didnt see any discharge on anus but small quantity at stomach.. at vagina there was alot of discharge because i was also excited, im v worrying that this can cause pregnency?

Semen discharged outside the vagina will very rarely cause a pregnancy. As long as no intercourse took place, his penis was never inside your vagina, there is little chance you will be pregnant. If you did have penile to vagina intercourse then and he pulled out then it is more possible you could get pregnant from the precum that is emitted during intercourse. He cannot control this emission and it has enough semen to get you pregnant.

If it has been 7 days or less since this event took place it is still possible to take the morning after pill. The morning after pill has been known to still be effective up to 7 days after intercourse.

The pullout method of birth control is the least effective especially during the 7th to 21st day of your cycle when you are the most fertile, this the time when most women will produce an egg and eject it into the fallopian tube for fertilization. Because precum has enough sperm to fertilize an egg the pullout method of birth control has the highest rate of failure. Condoms should always be used for birth control and STD protection. Condoms protect against most STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.

When I was young the girls all had a motto; "No rubber, No Lover." Back the HIV/Aids was not a thing yet it was strictly birth control. Girls today would do very well to adopt their grandmothers’ motto.

Hi, if the penis touches anal and uretrhal areas and both male and female are in standing position does it cause pregnency?

First; You cannot get pregnant through anal intercourse or semen entering the anal canal. The female reproductive system is not connected in anyway to the anal canal.

Now can you get pregnant standing up? The answer is yes if you have sexual intercourse. This means the male penis has entered the vagina and ejaculated inside the vagina. The penis just touching the exterior of the vagina with no exchange of semen will not cause pregnancy.

If there is semen on the penis and the penis does enter the vagina there is a chance pregnancy can occur if everything else is in order. Meaning it is during the females fertile time of the month which in most females is the 14 days between the 7th and 21st day of their cycle.

If your going to play like this then the male should always cover his penis with a condom. In this way there can be no accidental exchange of semen.

My wife posted a very slanted and highly edited version of the events that have led to the breakdown in our marriage here yesterday. She has shown me it today and has agreed to let me now post the full story without any details omitted, so that all the facts can be taken into account before any advice is given.

We have been together 5 years, married for 3, I have a 7 year old step-child and Emily is currently pregnant with my child. In yesterday's account, she implied the sole reason for me considering leaving was finding out about a threesome she had with two males when she was younger. She painted me as "paranoid" and, for lack of a better word, abusive. The truth is Emily has had a serious issue with compulsive lying for as long as I've known her. When we first got together, she told me that she had been raped at knifepoint when she was a teenager, however every time she told this story the details were a little different and didn't quite add up. She later admitted she made it up. Yesterday she mentioned making up "awful" things about me to other men for attention, what she didn't specify is the awful thing was allegations of domestic abuse. She not only told this story to men she was interested in to make them feel more comfortable with meeting her, but also to a lot of my male friends.

The reason I found out about the threesome in her past, was because she was having an ongoing custody battle with her ex-boyfriend. Emily had always told me this man had no intention of seeing his daughter, so I had adopted her and raised her as my own. Even though me and Emily agreed if he ever came back we would let him see his daughter, when he called to try and arrange this, Emily screened his call and blamed me. This man also heard Emily's allegations of domestic abuse towards me and rang the social services, who investigated us. Obviously, as I'd done nothing wrong, this case was dismissed. In her ex partner's witness statement against Emily, he cited the threesome as the reason their relationship broke down. When I asked Emily about it, because it didn't seem like something I'd ever imagine she would do, at first she denied it. Then she admitted it, but said they raped her. Then when I said I would contact the people involved, she admitted it was consensual.

Emily's compulsive lying has perforated every aspect of our lives, even on a day-to-day basis. The lies and fabricated stories are frequent and taken to extremes. She once had a "pretend" phone call with a company simply because she had forgot to make an order I'd asked if she could do, implying the company were to blame, despite my reassurances it didn't matter and she could put a stop to it at any time. Afterwards, when I asked if I could see her phone to see if she'd actually dialed a number, only then did she admit it. She is seeing a psychologist tomorrow and we suspect she may have borderline personality disorder or something similar. She has always been very flirty with other men and I strongly suspect she may have cheated, although I cannot confirm that. On one occasion she got very drunk and angered one of her friends by trying it on with her ex, they stormed out as a couple and Emily followed them in her car, was arrested and lost her driving license for a year. I considered leaving at that point, but Emily promised she would change so I stayed, but things haven't got any better since then. I do not love her anymore and can't trust anything she says to me, but with a son on the way I feel trapped. Whilst Emily promises she can change and that she loves me, her pathological lying makes it utterly impossible for me to know what's real about her and what isn't. I do not want to be a weekend dad, but I also don't want to raise my children in a loveless, unhealthy environment. Emily says that the love and trust will come back in time if I persevere through this "rough patch", but I don't believe I will ever be able to forgive or forget everything that has happened.

Wow, I can't remember the last time I read anything this sad about one couple. The first thing that comes to mind are questions. Does she, can she, will she, is it right for him to stay in a marriage for the sake of the children.

The last part is easy. No, children pick up on things very easy. staying in a marriage where one partner is not in love with the other is a cause for great tension. The children pick up on this tension and it affects them in many ways. that are harmful to their development. It is far better that Husband be a weekend dad and happy then horrible husband and miserable at home with the kids and wife he does not love. Is it possible for him to fall in love with his wife again, yes but it takes work on both parts.

Now for the wife. You are talking all the right things but can you be believed. The proof will be in the doing. You have to continue seeing your therapist even when you disagree with what you may being told. Therapy does not change a life time of wrongs overnight. You must be in it for the long haul.

At some point and this will be up to the therapist your individual therapy should become joint therapy working towards marriage counseling if this is what the husband wishes to do. Marriage counseling is the first step into trying to fall in love with your wife again.

One of the first things you want to do with the help of the therapist is to reestablish trust. You cannot have a relationship of any type without trust. IF trust can be reestablished then there is a chance the marriage can be saved and you can move forward. You move forward by simply dating again. This is how you fell in love the first time it should work the second time.

You hire babysitter, ask friends or parents to watch the children and you date just like you did before you were married and you continue with the counseling.

If you two really work together then there is a chance. The onus is really on the wife she has the longest road to hoe and the major changes to make.

Good luck to both of you.

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