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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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Okay, so I have this issue. I tend to block out all negative emotions - or things I see as negative - and have developed a physical habit of stopping myself from crying.
I learned and believe that crying is a good emotional outlet...but it never has been for me. I wondered if it was because there was no one for me to cry to, and along those lines I realized something else.
The only person I'm comfortable crying to is my ex-boyfriend because he made me feel vulnerable, but it didn't scare me. He made me feel like I could cry and it would be okay.
I'm a control freak - I can't stand to feel like I'm not in control of my emotions - and that gets in the way.
I'm at a point now where I NEED to find an outlet because the ones I was using aren't working. The only thing I haven't tried is learning to let go and let myself cry.
I'm almost afraid to do it, though, because I feel like there's so much built up that it would hurt to release it all, and I don't think being alone would be a good idea for this.
However, as I said, the only person I feel comfortable crying to is my ex boyfriend...We're still on very good terms, but I don't know if I can ask him to help me...but I also NEED to find a way to stop blocking out my emotions. It's only hurting me in the long run.
Any advice?
Crying is perfectly fine. You should just go to your ex and seek comfort from him.
Other outlets that I have is listening to music that fits the mood, or drawing, writing poems. Or start a seriously story and get yourself lost in that when you're mad. Keep a diary or journal. Writing it down is a good way for me.
You need to accept the reality and the fact that there are always gonna be negative things in life.
Ok I have this friend who is a guy and i am a girl, I have know him for the past five years, and we are good friends but he has changes in the past few years..he got into drugs...bad. Well long story short he ask me out a few weeks ago and i said no. He got really mad/hurt and is telling how he is sleeping with other girl but pretends it is me. It really creeps me out. He been asking me out like once a week for the past 3 weeks. I feel like he is stalking me. Like everytime I turn around there he is! It scares me. I don't know what to do. Please help me. thank you!
YES! I'm proud of you for saying no to him!
Anywhos 5 years is a long time and it's awesome. Drugs aren't. What was he thinking of when he started them? They shorten your life, they're not attractive, and they certainly don't feel good when you're coming down. Don't ask how I know.
You really should sit down with him in a public place like a playground, pool, mall, movies, etc. Okay, well not movies. Tell him that you want him to here you and not to interrupt or get mad right away.
Tell him that you value the friendship and that you don't want to lose it on some relationship that's not gonna last forever. Friends will last forever but relationship break up and that will leave you two with an awkward position. Tell him straight out that you like him as a friend and no more. And that you want to keep this friendship. And about that drug problem...it could kill him easily. Get facts about the drugs he's taking online and tell him about him. Tell him that he's gonna have to quit or you're going to have to tell someone so he can get out of the drugs. That may and will be hard but it's better to lose a friendship rather than a friend. You need to tell him that he needs to stop asking you out because a no is a no. And about him stalking you, tell him to stop.
If he doesnt, I suggest you break off the friendship because he doesn't respect your choices
ok this sounds REALLY dumb but me and my friend were talking one day and then we were like "what's the difference between french kissing and making out?" so can someone explain the differences lol
French kissing is like a kiss with tongue...
Making out...well it's a lot of kissing and groping. It's more physical and intimate =D
Hey i was wondering how do you get your myspace font to be bigger. Like when people leave me comments or anything like that they can make one work bigger and a differnet color. How do they make it a different color also? Thanks!
oh yay. HTMLS!!!
ochies. here are some you should know:
or starts a new line
makes the font smaller and ends the small font thing. put hi and the word hi will be smaller than the other words
and makes the font bigger
underline
bold
italic
strike thorugh word[s]
http://fp.miranda.f9.co.uk/simplehtml/pages/colour.html
That's a good site for color htmls
Hey. Well I'm 14/f and I'm a freshman in highschool, and a little nervouse. Today was my first day and I only talked to a few people and didn't really make friends. I have friends who go to the school but they aren't in my classes or lunch and I want to make new friends as well. None of my friends are in my lunch, and I'm not really a good conversation starter, so I was wondering if I should just sit at a table with a group of people I don't know and start talking to them? What should I say? And I want to talk to this girl in my Spanish class because she seems nice, but I don't know if we can talk in class and I don't even sit near her. I was wondering about starting up a conversation and talking to her after class, but again, I don't know what to say. Also, if anyone could give me great conversation tips and how to make friends in highschool and to be less nervous I would really appreciate it to the fullest. I know I sound really paranoid, but I get like that sometimes. Thanks!
Well, being a freshman means:
1. You're FINALLY out of middle school
2. Better food.
3. Everything new.
4. Making new friends
Don't feel pressured into having to make thousands of friend on the first day. It's hard to find one good friend so it may take a while to find that one good friend you'll keep forever
In the meanwhile, why don't you join clubs and sports or such things to interact with people with the same interest as you =D
At lunch, see a person that you've said a few words to or seem nice? Go sit with him/her, and say whats up or such. Remember, you don't have to do all the talking. Just being a good listener is good too =D
can someone tell me what
1)
"Men fear bearers of truth and will destory them"
2)"defects of society can be traced back to the defects of human nature"
what both those mean please.=)
1)Men hate the truth. They'll avoid it at all cost to avoid it. Whether it's in a relationship (tell a girl that they indeed do look fat in a dress) or for the remote or such, they'll avoid it.
2)Society, it's defined as something like something somethin gbringing the people together. Well, society has everyone sepereted, labeled, degraded. And that is all because of us human labeling, discriminating, being racist, sexxist, etc. We have made the imperfection of a society in such ways
now that i'm going into 9th grade (my last year of middle school), i have started getting depressed lately. i keep thinking about how i've never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, and i keep thinking that nobody likes me. what can i do to make myself feel better about myself. i'm 14/f if that helps any.
THANKS!!
Well, honey, don't worry. You're only 14. You have those four (drama filled) years of high school to get kissed and get a boyfriend =D
Don't rush into a relationship, you don't want your frist boyfriend to be some total stranger that you don't even like or know very well. Or to get kissed by some total weirdo..
Just wait and be patient. Just because you haven't had a bf or your first kiss, that doesn't say that no one likes you. Boys are nothing to get "depressed" over so chill =)
Just know this:
Most guys hate it when girls wear too tight jeans or their hips showing or the boobs about to fall out of their shirt..and they hate it when the girl get overly hyper, jumps up and down, squeals, claps, etc.
Be yourself, don't be shy, make a lot of guy friends =D
Well, I do cuz well, they're much cooler and easier to hang out with than girls for me but w.e. I'm too much of a tomboy =X
okay well i got fingered for my first time and it was great and im still a virgin but after it happened maybe a day or so later ive been dripping white chunky discharge and its sick please dont think im a scum but please help me!!!!!!!!!!
Well, I'm not gonna lecture you on the matter of you and your virginity cuz technically you lost it since..nvm anywhos
Don't worry, it is all normal...just wear a pantyliner [sp?] or such if you don't like that wet, cold feeling thing.
OK. so i wasn't sure which category to put this under but i think its right. ok, back to my question. i've been playing the flute for about 3 years and i SUCK at playing. i also hate my band teacher!he is really mean.i really hate playing too. my mom is making me play until i get out of high school. she is hoping i get a scholership for it unless i do something else for a scholership. i've tried to tell her that i hate playing but i don't know wut to do!help! anybody have any idea wut i could do in high school for a scholership besides playing the stinkin flute? and any tips on how to get better? i practice alot if that helps any. thanks everyone! bye!
Well, I hate violin, but my mom makes me play it and I'm actually really good at it =D
If you want to stick with the flute, you should ask your mom if you can get a private lesson teacher to teach you or another flute player to help you with the flute. Try playing scales slowly everyday in tune.
If you're going to play a piece, you should start out slowly, section by section instead of going through the whole music, not getting it, and then getting frustrated. Once you get all the section pretty well, increase the speed a little and go by section by section
Practice everyday too =X
If you don't want to play the flute for a scholarship, try art, sports, VIOLIN, (or Bass, Cello, they're easier than violin), Chorus...and such.
f/15
i work as a cashier at a grocery store.. and i really like this boy that i work with. today we worked right next to eachother literally like all day and we talked like the whole time. hes really awesome and we talk all the time over the computer... but i dont think he likes me... is there any way i could like tell if he likes me or not? like any kinda body language and stuff because im really confused and i wanna know without just asking him flat out "hey do you like me"
Try flirting with him and see what he does. Does he flirt back with you or not? He might just get the friend vibe from you instead of a going out thing though.
Every guys different so it's hard to tell wether they're jsut friendly or if they are flirting...heck even I get confused sometimes =/
But since you guys work together, I would hold back on the "Wanna go out" thing. Invite him to watch a movie with you and your friends or just to hang out.
Well, I don't know if this is a good idea, but have one of your friend blurt out that you like him to him while you're not there...if he says something like I like you too, or w/e, don't wait for him to ask you out, you ask him out.
If he doesn't like you, well, play it off with a cover up like...You meant the other [fill in the name] or she's just trying to get you back for doing the same to her...or something like. Make sure you consult your friend about this so you guys don't get mixed up =X
does anyone know a really good prank? not too mean but anything is helpful.
Yay,I'm proud of you. You're looking for pranks.
There's the not so original one called Ding Dong Ditch. But that's boring. Cow tipping is fun...but not too nice to the cows =/
Making up stupid sn or emails and blah blah and contacting one of your friends saying that you're a secret admirer is fun like woah =D but then I am a girl so it might be boring if you're a guy...
Um...you can always put green food coloring in someones food while they're not there. That's always weird..and somewhat funny...
And the water balloon thing, not so original but switch the balloon with a ziploc bag (sandwhich size) it holds up better than a balloon, doesn't rip when you fill it with water, and the big opening allows you to fill it up with anything you want...like ketchup, coke, etc.
=D tee[hee] have fun =D
HELP!!! I'm 5'3 and about 107 pounds. I feel really fat even thought i play tennis 5 days per week. Is there a way that I can lose around 5 pounds by the time my school starts? (a week from monday). i really want to get toned. i do 100 situps a day but i want to tone my arms. If anyone has any suggestions they would be greatly appreciated!! i'll give good ratings to anyone who answers!!
You really don't need to lose weight...a healthy weight for someone who's 5'3" is 115lbs...
anywhos you can do Pilates to tone up. It's really good exercise and I'm pretty sure you'll like it. If you want to tone your arms, do some weight lifting. Do something like moving around furniatures or heavy objects that you CAN carry without hurting yourself...and don't move around the furniatures w/o asking your parents...I mean having them walk into a room with rearranged furniatures and them not knowing about it...well not a good idea =X
I am 13/f
i have problems makin out with guys or even getting them close to me and i wanna make out nd have a relationship how???
do i ask him out??
wut do i do?
sweetie, you're only 13. No need to rush into these things. Why do you want to make out/get them close to you? Is it to look cool or for popularity...well, if you do it too much, people will consider you a *cough cough slut cough*. So you may wanna keep the distance from being labeled as that.
IF there's a guy you really like, and he doesn't ask you out, YOU ask him out. What's the point of sitting around and waiting for a boy to ask you? BTW, who made up that whole thing about boys always ask girls out? Screw that moral. You should definately ask guys out =D
P.S. if it's a guy that you really like and is also your best friend, good friend, etc...well, I suggest you don't ask him out and keep that friendship. Real friends are hard to find and are much more valuable than a reltionship that won't work out =X
what are some websites ex. myspace vainspace and stuff that you can acctually be thirteen to join besides xanga [ i already have one ]
i believe myyearbook.com does. it's an awesome site. even i have one =D www.myyearbook.com/xchoke_on_dead_hopex
go to my page to see what it's like. it has a lot of special features most sites dont like a flirt list, secret admirers list, bully list, groups, image contests, etc.
iv been listening to the same songs over and over and i want some new ones. i just cant think of any. I listen to rap, hip hop, r&b and stuff like that. What are some new songs that i could listen to?
rock dude[tte?] there's the line of rock which includes--> punk, emo, metal, heavy metal, etc. Some awesomely good bands are My Chemical Romance, Flyleaf, Evanescence, 30 Seconds To Mars, AFI, Breaking Benjamin, Taking Back Sunday, and then there's the indie section like--> Zombies Ate My Neighbors (yes, that's a real band!), Hollywood Is For Dummies, (I think), and such. The Killers are good too...you should definately look into rock because that is the best music genre out there =D
I have a best friend,
and we've been friends for a few years now,
but I'm really getting annoyed with her.
She always wants to hang out and its really frustrating to me to have someone constantly need me, I have other friends, unlike her.
She uses that as an excuse to make me hang out with her too.
What do I do?
I've already tried explaning to her
how I feel about it too.
But really shes getting on my nervous.
16/F
well, i'm in a worse situation=X
what i'm doing is i try to seperate myself from her. she has to get everything her way, she has to have me for the boringest stuff, etc.
so over the summer, i just didn't really talk to her taht much. and at school, i know i'm barely going to see her.
since you don't want to cause a big high school drama, you should pretend that you still like her like your bff. you should get involved in activities like sports, or clubs, etc. so you can make up an excuse to be away from her when she gets really clingy...
How do I make my skin feel and look more soft/smooth? My face has patches of red because I blush easily sometimes and then there's my acne. My skin is combination. It's more dry then oily though.
I just want to know how do I cover up my acne?
I was told that I shouldn't try to when the pimple is red. But.. there isn't a single time where it ISN'T red. [i dont pile up on acne products or pick at them, so i dont know why they are screaming red]
whenever i try to put concealer on, it doesn't work. it spreads across and it cracks right on the pimple. -so i usually don't try covering it up.-
I don't know. My skin doesn't feel smooth at all. And my pores.. are just..screaming out there.
Any tips for me?
And no, I'm not 'depressed' over my face.
This is just something to work on even if it takes months.
Yes, proactive works but I can't afford it.
Well, first of all don't apply concealers or such on your face because they have oil and it will go through your pores and clog it up, etc, etc.
Go to the dermatologist and see if they perscribe Differene [sp?] Gel for you. If you can't, well, try Clean and Clear products or Neautrogena products for acne.
Lay off anything red like pizza, ketchup, tomatoes if you get small red bumps on you face. When you wash your face, use Cetaphil [it's a gentle cleanser] and use a face cloth or such and don't use your hands.
Stressing over it will cause more breakouts by the way.
For the red patches and the whole face color not matching, use an Aveeno product specially designed for it...it will help the colors blend in.
Do you think guys prefer girls who show alot of skin, a little skin or no skin at all when looking for a girl to start a serious relationship with?
i'm sure they want girls who don't show too much skin.
they did a survey and it said a lot og guys don't know what girls wear tight jeans and shirts with their breasts about to pop out.
if they're looking for a serious relationship, they're gonna want to look for a girl that's settled down and mature.
showing off every inch of your skin doesnt shout that.
what do you do if you dont blow dry your hair? i get a headache if i dont but blowdrying is bad for you. wrapping a towel around my head doesnt help much. is there a product that will protect my hair as i blow dry it?
Use a conditioner every five days or so, so all the blowdrying doesnt damage your hair.
i won't suggest any hair products for you to buy at the local drugstore or jsut stores for a lotof these hair products can damage your hair in a second.
put it on low heat and if your hairdryer lets you change the heat to cold air, use that instead.
I had really bad acne so I went to a dermatologist and they gave me some really good things to rid of the zits. I guess I used them too much and I completely dried out my face. My nose and cheeks are soo red because I irritated my face. I went back to the dermatologist and they said to just stop putting stuff on my face and wait for 2 or 3 days to see if the redness goes away. It's been like 4 days and my face is still soo dried out and the zits are still there. What can I do to stop the irritation on my face? I waited a couple of days and that didn't work.
I have the saem problem. I use differin [sp?] cream every other night. The dermatologist prescribed me benzeclin but that dries out my skin so i don't use it.
when my skin dried out and it was hurting, this is what i did. i cut off all the medications and washed my face with cold water twice a day with cetaphil. make sure to use a cotton pad or a wash cloth and don't was your face with your hands like in commercials.
afte you was your face, you an oil free, dermatologist tested face cream. there's one from neutrogina that is oil free and won't clog your pores. also, there's a brand of cream called DML which the dermatologist gave me to use.
the irritation may last a week or so. when it goes away, wait for two or three more days. then see what the dermotologist say. or just put on the cream every other day and put in oil free lotion everday and put on a thin layer ontop of the medicine you put on ur face. if you see a light sign of irritation completely stop the use and see what other medication you can have. you can also ask for adroxin i believe it is. it's an oral medicine and it works very well =]
if you want more and complete details just ask me and i'll give you a list of what to do, what not to do, what cream to use, and what kinds of medications you can ask your dermotologist about =]