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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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(Sorry, not sure which category this would fit into.)
I'm a 16 y/o (born) female.
So.. Yesterday on my 16th birthday, I decided to come out 100% to everyone in my family. Everything went well, but for the longest time, I've had problems about deciding what my sexual orientation.
So for now, I'm settling as bisexual. But bisexuality isn't just 50/50. I'm more of 80/20. Girls being the 80. I am staying at genderfluid.
I want top surgery because I want my breasts gone, BU I don't exactly have 10k lying around. I prefer she/Her pronouns, and I always go by my birth name, even though on my more masculine days, I would prefer Spencer.
So.. my problem is..
I can see myself dating a guy, but that's it. I can't picture myself having sexual relations, or settling down and having kids. I can however, see myself with a girlfriend, a wife, and I CAN see myself adopting kids and having a family with a woman.
I want my breasts gone, and I want to cut my hair.
I do not have a problem with having a vagina. I wouldn't want a penis.
(I don't ever plan to have kid through a sperm bank.) -I have a genetic disability that I do not want to pass down.-
So, would that make me trans, or not trans enough??
I'm considering asking my mom to let me take "T". (Testosterone.)
I'm just stuck wondering.
While you have convinced me that you are sure of what you want your present age is a limiting factor. While you may be able to start hormone therapy with parental consent you will not be able to have the surgery until you are at least 18 or a psychiatrist signs off that you must have this surgery.
In order to have the surgery (even as an adult) you want a psychiatrist must agree that you of the right mind for this surgery and it actually takes two psychiatrists to agree in most states. You need to be in their care for at least two years and live as a male, in your case while in their care.
If you are allowed to take hormone therapy your breast will shrink some and your periods should also stop. If they don't then you may also want to consider having your Uterus removed.
With your breast getting smaller it will be easier to live and dress as a male. In effect you will be a transgender person during this period. You are 16 in high school and being transgender could bring about a host of problems for you not the least of which is if the school will allow you to live as a transgender and use the bathrooms of the gender you identify with. This is important as it is part of the requirements of living as a male that you do.
Then there is the other students. Transgender is a relatively new classification of a person's physical and sexual identity. Something that many do not understand and think badly of. You could be bullied at school or worse.
While I won't deny that this is something you want to do and may need to do. I do suggest you think about waiting until you are out of high school to start the transition. This is definitely something to talk to the psychiatrists about.
Okay well I guess my topic is self explanatory. I am confused on my sexuality. I am a 19 year old girl and it seems like everyone around me knows their sexuality. It frustrates me that I still haven't figured it out yet. I have liked boys my whole life or at least I thought so until I met this girl who I completely fell for when I was 17. The feelings were more intense for this girl. Nothing I had ever felt for a boy before. Now I am currently in deep like with this other girl. It seems like my feelings for girls seem to intensify and as far as boys it's more of a "oh he's kinda cute" type of deal. I was wondering if you can give me advice on how I can find out who I am? I'm just so confused and I wish I knew so I could try the dating life, but I want to figure myself out first before I do so. Any suggestions? Thanks
At 19 one would think you would know what your sexuality is. One thing you are not is a lesbian. Scientist believe that Lesbians and Gays are born that way and know this long before puberty hits. Since you have at one time been boy crazy then fell in love with a women you may just be bisexual.
From reading what you have written I get the feeling you may be a virgin in all respects both with a female or male partner. If I'm correct the problem you face is one of experiencing both forms of sex and seeing which or if both satisfies you need for sex. If you have experienced sex with one form of partner then you should try sex with the other form of partner to satisfy what at this time may be just a curiosity, I really can't say.
You are an adult now and entitled to a sex life of what ever type of sex life you enjoy. Given your, shall we say, confusion I believe you need to experience sex with both a female and a male to learn if you are bisexual or not.
While you may have a crush on this women she may not have sexual feelings for you so go slowly if you approach her. You also should understand that sex with a women and sex with a man are two different types of sex and it is okay to enjoy both.
You may also find that having sex with a women is not what you thought it would be and that is okay two or sex with a man is okay and something you would like to experience once in awhile but prefer sex with a female partner. This too would be okay.
In short the only real suggestion to find out just what you sexuality is would be to experience sex with both male and a female.
I'm seriously considering attending Gatton Academy (through Western Kentucky University) but need to know- do students stay at the school year round? Are they enrolled all year, or do they return home in summer? I haven't found information answering this question, but it's really imperative I know.
Below you will find a link to the official site of Gatton Academy. You should contact them directly for the best answers. I did look at the school calendar and it does look like a normal college calendar with all the breaks for holidays, semester breaks and normal college activities.
http://www.wku.edu/academy/calendar/
What does brake I p Lt mean?
As Dragonflymagic said we need more information to give you an answer. You need to put it into context if possible.
I will offer this. If this text is in reference to your car then it might mean your brakes need servicing. I'm not sure how it works but the computer in my car sends texts to me when things need servicing. If a tire needs air I get a text. Time to change the oil it texts me. A light bulb is out, it texts me. If anything is detected that is out of the norm it sends me a text message to take the car for service.
I have two friends named jasmine and Jasmyn. They are both really good friends of mine and the both moved but I still keep in touch. I live in Lexington Kentucky, they did too until jasmine moved to Cincinnati and Jasmyn moved to Tennessee. I like them both and I wanna ask them out butim afraid of rejection and that they have a a new life and I'm not a part of it. Plz help.
Rejection is part of life and there are time that a lot can be learned from rejection. Just like when we make a mistake if we are smart and true we can learn from those mistakes. It is no different with rejection. In most all instances it is not you that is being rejected but what you are offering.
Now ass to asking either one of these ladies out. As you have stated the have moved and have a new life. If you were to ask either one of them out they of course could accept or reject your offer to date. I would think that your offer to travel the distance you will need to in order to date either one of them would have to mean something to them an influence there answer to you. One would think you think very highly of either one of them to want to travel that distance to be with them.
On the other hand if the refuse it is not you they are refusing. They are saying no because they may have established a new life where they now live. As much as they might admire you wanting to travel to be with them they may not want to disrupt what they have where they live. So any rejection should not be take personally for it as I believe would not be a rejection of you but a rejection of disrupting what they have now.
I started wetting the bed at college, its been a few times a week recently and Im worried my roommate will find out with the constant wet sheets. I don’t drink alcohol andI’m healthy. What can I do to avoid any embarrassment? Ive been to the doctor and they don’t know what the cause is.
You don't say what doctors you have been seeing. If you have not been seen by a Urologist you need to make an appointment to see one. While there are many different causes for adult bedwetting it is the Urologist who specializes in the this area.
I would also suggest you make an appointment with a nephrologist. A nephrologist is a medical doctor who specializes in kidney care and treating diseases of the kidneys. One of the causes of adult bed wetting is weak muscles in the kidneys.
One questions the doctors should have asked you and if they have not you should volunteer this information. Have you suffered any type of injury to you back in the area of the Kidneys. This would include being involved in an auto accident, muscle strains in that area or possibly for some athletic event.
There are any number of Incontinence products on the market that wear just like underpants. If you wear pajama bottoms to bed you roommate will never know. Some are reusable others are wear once and throw away. Pick what is best for you to use until the doctors figure out how to help you.
I might also suggest you talk with the school psychologist. If this is your first time away from home the bed wetting problem may not be organic and me be triggered by something else that a psychologist can help you with.
22/f
My first counselor was in high school, she saw that I had a hint of depression. During this time, I was 18 years old. I was taking 27 credit hours (wasn't a choice because I was also a high school student), working 24 hours/week, and my boyfriend at that time and I weren't doing so well. The next two years, my depression had worsen, my boyfriend (same one from high school) was "dragging me on" and I was waiting for him and didn't completely leave him until I was 21. During this process, I didn't realize that my well-being was winding downward because I was so focused on my relationship. Since then I've been having trouble feeling better. I still feel very sad and I sometimes feel the need to cry for no apparent reason. I sometimes feel sad when I don't even have a reason to feel sad.
I think my anxiety is due to my current relationship with my boyfriend. He has broken my trust several times, and we've been going to couples therapy to try to rebuild trust. But I would sometimes get random anxiety attacks out of nowhere--shortness of breaths, sweaty palms, rapid breathing, mind racing, and feeling as if I'm going crazy. I'm not thinking about anything in particular, but I do fear that something bad has/is going to happen.
I feel as if my life is falling apart. When something good happens, I feel that something bad/terrible happens to me right afterward. For example, yesterday my boyfriend came back from a business trip. I was excited and looking forward to him coming back. Not feeling depressed, I was being very productive in the morning--cleaning, took the dog out for a walk, etc. But when I was about to take the dog to visit my mom, my car was not working at all. This may be a coincidence, but it seems as if something bad is always going to happen even if I feel great.
I don't like my current job (I'm a graphic designer), and I'm trying to get my alternate certification in teaching. However, when I was studying for the EC-6 generalist test, I received a notice that the EC-6 generalist has been discontinued and was replaced by another test. I was advised to buy another test that related to the current test, meaning that I had to start over. My family life is stressful. My family is about to lose the house, my mom (also has depression and anxiety) tends to focus on getting a new car instead of trying to save this house, always being lectured by my mom (regular conversations turns into lectures), and when I'm not being lectured, my older sister tends to complain to me about everything happening in our home or in her current life. I feel as if I don't have a place for myself. When I go home, I'm always being bothered and I feel that the environment at home does not benefit me in any way. When I stay at my boyfriend's house, I feel as if I'm taking care of his chores, taking care of his dog, etc. There is not a place for me to actually relax. I miss my room; I miss my stuff; and I'm just feeling miserable, yet lonely at the same time.
The only reason why I haven't moved away and started over is because I know that my family needs me. If there was any hint that they would be okay without me, I probably would have packed everything and left. A lot of people thought it would be best for me, some say it would be very difficult, but I feel that it would be so much easier than to wake up to my current life.
I don't know what to do, or how to feel better. I've done counseling, I've done different types of exercises to help me feel better (I'm not taking medication, I wanted to do everything naturally), but it only helps with a short amount of time. Most of these things are environmental and not biological. Since my family is going through the same stressors and we don't have any other family members that have depression and anxiety, I'm not sure what I should do.
I agree it sounds like you are depressed. You need to be properly diagnosed as to which type of depression you suffer from. I suffered from clinical depression for many years before I was first diagnosed.
The first time I was diagnosed and treated I did so without medication. Then I was involved in a life changing auto accident and the depression returned. Even though the diagnoses was still clinical depression this time I needed medication to help me see things more clearly and it made the therapy much easier and much more helpful.
One thing about therapy is it works best when patient and therapist work well together. I was lucky the first time and hooked up with a great therapist. When I needed therapy the second time he was not available and I went through2 others before I hooked up with the third one who I clicked with and worked well with.
If the therapy did not work for you don't blame the therapy blame the therapist. If you were to comfortable enough with the therapist as someone you could tell your deepest and darkest secrets to then you had the wrong therapist. Remember one thing about therapy. What is said in therapy stays in therapy no one will ever know what is discussed without your written permission to release anything.
My suggestion is: That you be properly diagnosed as to what kind of depression you suffer with. This starts with a visit to your family doctor for a complete physical and you ask to be screened for depression. The screening is nothing more than questions the doctor will ask you from which the doctor can make a diagnoses. Most of the answers to the questions you have written to us about having the symptoms. The reason for the full physical is to rule out any organic cause for your depression.
Once you have a diagnoses find a Board Certified Psychiatrist to treat you . The Psychiatrist is mainly for medication. Your therapist will be your primary care giver for treating your depression. Since Clinical depression is generally caused by a chemical imbalance of one or two chemicals secreted into the brain. Even though this is more of a medical conditions, the fact that the chemicals are secreted into the brain the Board Certified Psychiatrist is the better doctor by training to provide medication and treat depression.
I was treated this way and my depression is now in remission. I cannot say I'm cured as I have had 2 bouts of depression and depression runs in my family. I have been taught what to look for and what triggers my depression.
My life is different now then what it was when my last bout of depression was triggered so there is little chance of it returning. still thanks to a great psychologist and a very good psychiatrist who medicated me in the beginning I am now over my depression and love life again.
I've spent a lot of time talking about caring for your depression. I've done so because it is important to improve how you feel before you can tackle the other things you have written about as they are greatly affected by your depressed state of mind.
I would not suggest changing jobs until you have found a good therapist and discussed this with the therapist. I do suggest moving out of your mothers' home as it may be one of the triggers of your depression.
Hello,
22/F. In a 3 year relationship with a rocky stand point. Met a guy at a bar on of the nights that I was out with a couple friends and we were just friends getting to know each other and we started having feelings for each other. Similar life and both very ambitious. We both have very good jobs. We’re both family oriented in fact both our mothers passed with the same disease. But that’s not why I’m asking for advice. After us completely stop talking for a good month which was also the last time we saw each other. I saw him again this weekend. I was drinking my coffee and happened to look up and he had just walked in and we both made eye contact. He looked at me and he made a sad face (literally frowned) and I look at my friend next to me and completely freaked out. Mind you my boyfriend who knows nothing about this is right behind me having another conversation with someone else. The guy, let’s call him M.. M slowly makes is way over to where I was and requested for a coffee and a shot. And he started asking how I was and how work was, then he started teasing me about always drinking energy drinks when I go out instead of actual alcohol. And he pretty much implied to my friend that we should all hangout again soon. M then walks away. My boyfriend didn’t even notice that someone was talking to us. I started giving my friend the (WTF) look and he told me that when he come over he nudged his leg before he started talking to me. There isn’t a day where this guy doesn’t not cross my mind and I don’t know what to do. I don’t get what the purpose of him coming over and starting a convo with me was when we haven’t talked in a month. Even though last time we talked it was a great conversation even if he is a little on the shy side where I’m not.
Please help
It is hard to know exactly why he did this without some more information; information such as in your first conversation with him. During that conversation did you at any time tell him you were involved with someone? Did you say or imply that your relationship was at a rocky point. If you did this would help clarify for me why I think he made a face and why he suggested you all get together again.
You state; "we started having feelings for each other. Similar life and both very ambitious. We both have very good jobs." It is very possible his feelings for you are strong enough that he wants to get to know you but he won't interfere with your present situation. Seeing you out with your friends and current boyfriend told him nothing had changed reason for the frown. His suggesting that all of you get together and hangout again, may have been his way of thinking this could be his way to see and talk to you without truly interfering in your present relationship.
The teasing tells me he does have feelings for you as we in general will not tease people we don't like especially not in a good natured was. This is how I see his teasing of you.
I have nothing but gut feelings and the fact that I'm a male to back up what I have written. The strongest support I can offer is if you in your first conversation in anyway implied there were problems in your current relationship. If he had strong enough feelings for you he could see this as hope for him to have a chance with you.
I am 17 year old girl and is having a bestie from almost 4 years and I share each and evrything to him and last year on my bday he asked me for liplock and as I feel whatever he does is right so I did it and moving onwards we started being physical but not exactly sex and now he wants to fuck me and he says I promise their would be no harm and I wont do it that hard that your vagina would bleed...I want to know should I go for it or is their any harm?? And he knows my family as well ..he is even one of my faraway relative.but he never ever did anything wrong with me and I trust hi more than my parents.
When to have sex for the first time is a very personal question and not one we can give you a yes or no answer to you. Only you can know if the time is right.
Given that he is more than four years older than you and that we do not know the age of consent for your state. My advise would be to wait until your 18 and legally and adult. Right now if you became pregnant or if your parents somehow found out you had sex with him. They could put him in jail for statutory rape. If you are under the age of consent in your state then even if the sex is consensual he can be charged with rape. Statutory rape in some states can be a life sentence. It is better to wait until you are 18 because of the age difference between you.
while you are waiting checkout the following website, found at bottom of this page). I found this while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why?
This is no real answer to your question. The closest I can come to one is and old saying. "There are people who can everything in the world and still be miserable and there can be people who have nothing and be happy."
The way I explain this is: People who have everything cannot and do not get to experience the more simple pleasures in life. Example is paying of the mortgage on a home something I most recently did. I have written 360 checks to the mortgage company. I cannot put in words the feelings and comfort it gave me to write that 360th checks. For someone who has everything they may not ever experience something like that for the most likely have someone, a business manger who handles mundane things such as paying Bills.
What about buying a car. That has always been a task that both scared me and offered a great deal of fun. Doing the research to find out which car offered the most for what I had to spend. Rich people just call up a dealer and have one delivered.
It may not be they feel oppressed in the true sense of the word. What the feel is pressure from many different angles to part with what they have in charitable or non-charitable ways. Being under pressure like this cam feel like being oppressed for they receive no pleasure from what they have.
Is it Ms. or Mz. addressing some lady you do not know in a letter?
Unless the convention of personal written communication has changed. The proper way to address a female, especially in a business communication is MS. If you have spoken to or received communication that shows her or you hear her address herself as Mrs. or Miss then you use whichever she has used in addressing herself.
I have never heard of MZ. although MS over the phone can and does sound like MZ.
No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell
Lacking more information from you on just what it is you need. The only answer I can give you is this. If you want or need support you generally have to ask for it. Unless the support you need is openly seen by others you cannot expect anyone to know what it is you need or to ask you if you need help or support.
My suggestion is; based on the type of support you need that you go to the family member or friend that is most likely able to and willing to give you that support.
With more information on the type of support you are looking for and need I might be able to give you a better answer. You can write a private message to me if you like and I will try my best to answer you.
my daughter has decided to join the poor clares but she has mental issues do you think they will accept her?please and this is a serious question thanks and god bless
Dragonflymagic has given you a good view of the Sisters organization and who they might accept.
In your question you do not say if you approve or disapprove or if your daughter's mental issues require full time supervision or medication. These are important fact we would need to know in order to properly answer your question.
Even with these answers at best our answers would be a generalized response. What I suggest is you contact the order she is planning on joining. Ask these questions to them and get their responses directly from them. Should there response be negative then you can intercede and explain to your daughter why they will not accept her into their order.
Should your daughter's mental issues be such that you are her full time caregiver and she is of legal age. You need to have court ordered guardianship or conservatorship over her or her legal and financial affairs. Without the court order you are doing things in a legal gray area that could be a problem for both of you.
Again not knowing the seriousness of your daughter's mental issues I can only point out the worse case scenarios and what you need to do to be in proper legal standing. If any of this fits you and your daughter then you need to talk with her doctors and a lawyer and have the proper legal paperwork so you can insure you can keep her safe.
I'm 22 and never did it before. I just started dating this guy and we really want to have sex, but there's one thing I'm worried about.
What if he literally can't fit inside me? I have a super narrow pussy........ the opening is less than an inch in diameter. His cock is big! 6 inches in circumference. And how bad does it hurt to have your hymen broken?
Your vagina has three primary purposes.
1. The fertilization of an egg through intercourse with a male. When not aroused the size of a vagina is: Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch; when Aroused Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches. More than sufficient to accept the average size penis when properly stimulated and lubricate.
For the first time having sex it is suggested you use lubrication such as K-Y Jelly for two reasons. The fear of sex and the pain associated with first time sex will most likely not allow you to lubricate enough.
2. Delivering a baby into the world. The vagina is made to spread to deliver a baby. The vagina will also spread to accept a penis with little or no pain provided the male is a considerate lover and takes his time entering you until you are accustomed him and can relax enough to accept him.
3. The bodily function of urinating.
These are the primary functions of the human sexual organs to procreate and to urinate. For the female sex should be pleasurable and not painful. Once her Hyman is broken, which can happen without ever having sex, and she experience sex a few time. The pain associated with sex should diminish completely. If it does not then she should schedule an appointment with her GYN.
In short you may think you have a super narrow vagina. Most likely once you have experienced sex a few times your vagina will be of average size once the muscle become accustomed to stretching to accept a penis. Right now the only thing they may be comfortable accepting is a Tampon and someone's fingers.
I'm sure the first time you tried to use a Tampon it was not as easy as it is today. The same will be true of sex and having a penis enter you. It will get easier each time. Just try to relax and enjoy the experience. You only lose your virginity once and if your boyfriend is a considerate lover he will make this a pleasurable experience for you.
21/f
So I recently started dating again and met someone I'm interested in. We've gone on two dates so far but seem to hit it off well and have plans for another.
That stuff doesn't really matter though..
My mom passed away a month ago. She had a stroke and was in the hospital for a month before she passed. It was heartbreaking. The doctors told us she was going to live. She would open her eyes and smile and was responding and all that. They were looking for homes for her to go for recovery. But she ended up having another stroke.
Anyways I'm rambling..
My friends were shocked when they found out that I'm dating. My dad doesn't seem to see any problems with it.
I think they think I should be grieving more. Well, I am still grieving but I think they expect me to sit in my room and isolate everyone.
Is me dating a month after my mom passes away inappropriate?
I have two thoughts on this. First; everyone grieves in their own way. Second; I do not think your mom would want you sitting around morning for her. Life goes on ,we still must do what we must do on a daily basis after a relative or close friend dies. We go to work, we go out with friends and if the right person comes along we go out on a date.
I'm sure your mother wanted you to be happy when she was alive and there to advise you. Nothing changes just because she has passed away. She still wants the same things for you. After a short period of mourning it is appropriate to try and return to a normal life. Which is also part of mourning for someone.
Don't let your friends discourage you from dating this man. IF you are comfortable dating at this time. Then it is the right thing to do for you while still mourning your loss.
My only advice to you is this. Be careful with giving this man or anyone you heart at this time. For it is very easy to mistake his affection as the love you have lost and looking to replace.
I'm going to make this brief, yet informative as possible. This happened all around 2-3 years ago.
It all started when my mother passed away and we were left with her life insurance benefits. My dad, brother, and me each got around $141,000. At the time I was around 20 or 21 and to me it was quite a lot of money and wasn't sure what to do with it. I wanted to go back to school but my dad told me to wait. So he helped me and my brother set up a money market account with Citizens Bank that way it would sit there and build interest. I wanna say that he might of been the primary owner of the three accounts he set up and we were the secondary owners because we had the ability to withdraw and deposit money into the money market account. Plus I have a document stating that the life insurance was to be divided and entitled to the following beneficiaries correspondingly.
Later on he suggested the idea that we all chip in to pay off the mortgage of our house and that he would put all of our names on the deed. Some time has passed and I asked my dad when we were gonna follow up with it and told me he was getting the paperwork for it. So one day I checked my bank account and noticed my money market was empty and had been withdrawn and so has my brother's.
Basically my dad withdrew from me and my brother's money market accounts, ALL the money that was entitled to us, deposited onto his account and ended up paying off the mortgage himself and only putting his name on the deed of the house, not honoring the deal we all came to.
So I confronted my dad about it saying he didn't actually pay it off with his own money, the deed should have three of our names on it, but since he did not honor the deal then we should have our money refunded back to us but he won't do it.
So right now he is a different person from before and I believe he has intentions of selling the house we are all living in because all of us can't live together due to conflicting reasons. Unfortunately there is no contract of physical documentation about the deal being recorded, it was more of a "he said this" situation. Basically I've been lied to, stolen from, and cheated by my own dad which became heavily influenced by the large sum of money that was left to us.
What should I do? What can I do? Am I able to put a Lien on the house before he sells it? Or should I get a lawyer involved and attempt to sue him? Go to a debt collection agency? How do I go about this?
You and your brother need to speak to a lawyer as it appears your father has swindled you two out of your inheritance. You might also talk with the local prosecutor, District or State's Attorney, to see if your father broken any laws when he did this as it appears this was his intention all along. If he has you have leverage against him to remortgage the house and return what he stole or go to prison.
As to the bank accounts it depends on the Banking laws in your state and how the accounts were set up. Most likely he has done nothing wrong in withdrawing the funds without your knowledge as it sounds like the accounts were set up in joint. Which gives him full access.
It is my opinion that you would have to prove he took advantage of you and your brother in some manner when the accounts were set up to be successful at trial. Now some states like the one I live in have verbal contracts being binding. If a third party is knowledgeable of the verbal commitment you, your your brother and your father agreed to the court may be inclined to enforces it if your state enforces verbal contracts.
These are all things you need to discuss with a lawyer. Most lawyers will meet with you without charge for the first meeting to access your case. In a case such as yours if they feel they can win the case for you they will take it on contingency. Meaning the get a percentage of what the court's orders your father to return to you.
It is well worth your while to discuss this situation with an attorney and get competent advice. Our advice while well meaning is not the type of advice you need or what can be considered competent advice.
Good luck, you deserve to win back what your father stole from you. If it helps any I know exactly how you feel as my father stole from me. Unfortunately I did not have the recourse available to me that you might have available to you. So please check with an attorney. If you do not know one call you local Bar Association for a referral.
I’m a bit worried about the last couple of periods I’ve had. I’m 22 year old female, virgin, not on Birth Control or anything like that, I’m not taking any medicine or tablets (apart from the normal cold&flu remedies) my periods have always been fairly regular and normal but then up until a few weeks ago that changed. My periods came around the normal time it’s supposed to but I suddenly stopped getting period cramps. I always get cramps when I have my period and it goes away after one day. My last period was on September 20th (no cramps just period). Now period suddenly turned up today on October 4th. It’s been 14 days since my last period and suddenly it’s turned up! I don’t think I’ve got the date wrong of my last period but I’m getting worried now since it’s so unlike my normal periods. Is this anything to worry about? Should I see a doctor?
You will find this hard to accept but any OTC Medication such as Cold and Flu medications can affect your periods. The effect can be as you are experiencing to completely missing a period or two depending on what OTC medication you are taking and how long you are taking it. Not having cramps prior to your period arriving I would think is a plus. Having your period show up without warning is a definite minus.
I suggest you give the Cold and flu medication a chance to work its way out of your system. IF your next period is not a normal period with cramps and back to your regular schedule then it would be time to check in with your GYN.
If you are really concerned a phone call to your GYN's office with an explanation of what is happening as you described should ease your mind. The doctor's office will tell you if the doctor feels it is necessary for you to come in for an examination.
Hai. So I'm Leah and I'm a 13 year old. I'm female by birth but am genderfluid. So I recently became friends with a girl who I sit next to in maths, she's really nice and funny and very pretty, and we have almost exactly the same interests. We've been friends for a few weeks and have gotten on really well. A couple of days ago I came out as bisexual and genderfluid, and it turns out that she is also bisexual and gender-questioning. She hasn't been in a relationship before, but I would out that she has a crush on/ is in love with her best friend. She has already told her best friend and her best friend was kind about it but didn't return her feelings, and she had accepted this. I really like this girl, and I want nothing more than to be in a relationship with her. I know it'll be best to wait a bit, and get to know her better and all that- but is there any possibility we could ever be together? And if so, any advice on how to make her like me more or drop hints about my feelings?
Thanks for answering, Leah. xxx
Would you young people please slow down and take the time, to in a manner of speaking, smell the roses. What is the hurry to stick labels on yourself especially ones your peers will not understand and could possibly hurt you because of it.
You are 13 just entering your teens and in the early stages of puberty. It is absolutely normal for any teenager, boy or girl, to be sexually interested in someone of the same sex. It does not mean you are genderfluid or bisexual. What it means is you are exploring your sexuality just as your mom and dad and grandparent have done before you.
Bisexual and genderfluid are somewhat synonymous as a person switched between sex with both genders. At 13 years of age and having no sexual experience there is no way you can say for certain exactly what your sexuality is or will be. TO have feelings for someone of the same sex is natural and part of learning about your own sexuality. You may very well become a bisexual and there is nothing wrong with that. Just wait until you are older, 16, 17 or 18 and have actually experienced sex with both genders. Then you can identify your sexuality.
Today by declaring your sexuality you are doing yourself great harm. You friends in school are not enlightened enough to understand anything more about bisexuality other than they believe it is part of gay sex. Teenagers can be very hard on those they believe to be homosexuals and can even cause them physical harm.
My advice is to rescind the label. Continue to explore your sexuality and after you have actually experienced sex then make a determination on your sexuality. But slow down on when to have sex as well for right now you are far too young to do more than engage in heavy petting.
because I don't want to hear how you think I'm dumb and that this is a load of bullshit.
But along with many people, I believe that affirmations can collect like energy in the Universe and can create/bring your desire. I constantly say my affirmations everyday. Are you able to feel your desire spiritually with you, or is it just me?
Again, don't answer if you think this is bullshit. Thanks.......
I can't say whether I so or do not believe in this. What I do believe is if this gives you comfort there is nothing wrong with you believing. There is nothing wrong with anything that is legal; that allows you to function to your fullest and be comfortable doing so. If affirmation is your key to comfort and ability to function in your daily life do not let anyone talk you out of it.
By the way Razhie is correct in what she wrote to you. You can not write a question such as this and expect to get answers when you restrict your answers to those that only agree with you. Doing so does not allow you to learn everything. What I believe is the most important part of daily life that allows us to grow and move on is the ability to learn and prosper from what we learn.
Refusing to learn, even if we do not agree with what is offered to us in the way of information, does not allow us to grow. IF we don't grow we become stagnant.
Ok so I was in math class with my teacher(female) who I had a crush on and when I looked at she was always looking at me but whenever she around me she smiles and I just try not to, but idk what to do because i know that it is wrong to like a teacher bug I think she likes me...😶 but I can't tell but if she does what should I do?
You do nothing. It is not only wrong for a teacher and student to have any type of relationship outside the classroom it can be illegal for the teacher depending on the type of relationship.
It is not unusual for a student to have a crush on a teacher it is part of teenage life. When I was in school I had a crush on my 7th grade Science teacher, 8th grade Math teacher and a 12 grade English teacher. Heck every guy in school had a crush on the English teacher. When we were Freshmen she was a Senior. When we were Seniors she was back doing her student teaching. Having gone to our high school also meant she lived in the area which meant we saw her at the community pool every summer.
There is nothing you can do or should do about a crush you have on any teacher. I'm positive that because of the crush you have on this teacher you are reading way too much into a returned smile. Just relax and enjoy the fact that she is obviously a great teacher or you would not have a crush on her.