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I like them both and I wanna ask them out but im afraid of rejection
I have two friends named jasmine and Jasmyn. They are both really good friends of mine and the both moved but I still keep in touch. I live in Lexington Kentucky, they did too until jasmine moved to Cincinnati and Jasmyn moved to Tennessee. I like them both and I wanna ask them out butim afraid of rejection and that they have a a new life and I'm not a part of it. Plz help.
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Hey there, first I wouldn't ask either out until you decide which one you like more. I also think that you should think about weather or not you can handle a long distance relationship ( it also depends on age teen years would be harder and probably more stressful older than 18 you maybe can give it a shot). And if they are good friends just remember if you get rejected your friendship will still be there.
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First concern would be, are you able to travel to where either of them have moved to, in order to date them if they said yes. If not, it's best not to ask them and wait until there is someone local in your area to ask that you grow to have an interest in. Even if you could see each other occasionally in person, the majority of the relationship will be long distance and that is very hard on a relationship. Makes it hard to really get to know or even to trust ones partner. Also, you miss out on having someone near enough to hold hands and kiss with often so sometimes the biggest threat is that either the girl or the boy finds someone local who catches their interest and they start dating in real life while trying to keep in contact with the LDR or they drop the LDR.
Biggest issue though is getting over the fear of rejection. When someone rejects a person, most often, its not personal, they just don't feel a return attraction to you which is important for the romance and chemistry part. They may like certain personality types which you dont possess. You cant be the perfect catch for every girl on the planet, thats life. We all have our own personal preferances in many things, even foods, music, clothing so a preferance in a dating partner is just as valid. Perhaps a really young person, before HS may be too picky, not liking someone or basing judgement on whether how they look, style their hair, clothes they wear, where they live, or the group they are part of, the nerd group instead of the popular group. Those kinds of criteria mean lots of good opportunities lost, lots of good people never met. But some people when young can be shallow like that. It means theyre pretty immature yet, are not based in reality yet/the real world, and most likely would make a very poor date if they are so shallow to begin with so nothings really lost if they say no for such reasons. Just remember to not take personally. I might venture to share links to dating advice but would need to know if you are female or male and your age. Theres a set of tips for teens just starting out and its a bit different for those college age and older. So if you want to know more...let me know those things and what you'd like to learn about.
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Rejection is part of life and there are time that a lot can be learned from rejection. Just like when we make a mistake if we are smart and true we can learn from those mistakes. It is no different with rejection. In most all instances it is not you that is being rejected but what you are offering.
Now ass to asking either one of these ladies out. As you have stated the have moved and have a new life. If you were to ask either one of them out they of course could accept or reject your offer to date. I would think that your offer to travel the distance you will need to in order to date either one of them would have to mean something to them an influence there answer to you. One would think you think very highly of either one of them to want to travel that distance to be with them.
On the other hand if the refuse it is not you they are refusing. They are saying no because they may have established a new life where they now live. As much as they might admire you wanting to travel to be with them they may not want to disrupt what they have where they live. So any rejection should not be take personally for it as I believe would not be a rejection of you but a rejection of disrupting what they have now.
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