I feel like I'm my friends social worker and or advice giver and I would like to use this an share my advice with more people.
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I met a guy on deviant art who was 20 (I'm 13 but I turn 14 on January 7th) and we started talking. I never had my age or name up on my profile. Or how I looked like. So he didn't know how old I was or any of that. He saw my art, though and thought I was so great. He had a fan fiction series he was writing and I suggested he made a Wattpad account for it. So he did. And we chatted on there more. One day I suggested he added a cover to his fan fiction and he said he wasn't too good at making covers so I offered to draw one for him. I finished it within a week (I think). He loved it and even told me I did so well, he kinda wanted to give me virtual kisses because of it. I was kinda shocked and didn't know how to respond at first. Then I replied- "That's cute. *virtual kisses* 😘" He did the same. Ever since, we'd been giving each other virtual kisses and I was had been so into him while we were talking as friends so I went along with it. Later on, we got pretty close and I lived it. However, one day I was just looking around at his profile and I saw it. He was 20 effing years old. I didn't know what to do because I was already so into him and thought my age could scare him off. But I ignored it for a while. Months later (and quite recently) he asked me how old I was and my hear freaking SINKED. I freaked out big time and didn't know what to say. I was thinking "Should I tell him my real age?" "What if he never talks to me again?" "What's gonna happen?" Eventually, I freaked out and told him I was 15, thinking it would freak him out a little less (again, I'm 13). His reaction wasn't really good at first but he said he'd wait for me and he thinks I'm turning 18 in 2019 but I'm really turning 18 in 2020. So instead of 3 years, he'd have to wait 5 years for me to turn 18. It's almost been a month since then and I'm in love with this guy. I know how he looks, how he sounds, and everything. He has a YouTube channel as well but anyways yeah. We've been texting on Kik for awhile now. But idk what to do, PLEASE HELP. WE'VE BEEN FLIRTING A LOT AND WE ARE SUPPOSED TO MEET EACH OTHER ONE DAY. IM SCARED HOW HE'LL REACT AND THAT HE'LL STOP TALKING TO ME!!! HELP!!!!!
I don't even CARE if he doesn't want a relationship. Just having him still talk to me will be enough. (link)
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Well i know this seems tough but a relationship with this guy is not a realistic or good idea right now. I think you should tell him the thruty on how you feel but tell hime you just want to be friends. This way you dont have to tell him what your age really is now but if he is still consistent on dating you, i would tell him your real age he may be upset but if you also give him all the reasons as to why you lied maybe he will forgive you and both of you can continue just being friends.
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Hello I'm 13 years old and I have been through a fake relationship 2 years ago and it effects my courage and feelings today. There are many girls that went to my school and are going to my high school that I could have asked but I'm afraid. I think ill either be turned down or dumped. I am not a bad guy but my ex brought the bad out of me. We were friends for 6 months and I was already obsessed with her. Me and her always wrote notes to each other and we flirted alot. Then I gathered my courage before Christmas break and asks her out on the notes and she said yes. After that she never hugged me or touched me. Then she came to me a week later saying that my so call friend named chance said our relationship isn't real and I said why do you believe what he says and she cried and walks away. I talked shit to chance even though he was a football player and I confronted him. He said what she said he said. Then they went to see a movie with the school and I stayed back at school.and people came back telling me chance as holding her hand and I was pissed. I went to MacKenzie in 3rd hour the next day and dumped her and she said I already dumped you when I held chance's hand. That set me off. I said you were never worth my time you worthless bitch and walked away as the bell rang. She cried for the rest of the afternoon. A year later I find her on facebook and I decided to say hi and start as friends and she cussed me out and I don't respond.i look at her page and find her kissing like 50 different boys in sexual positions bit not doing anything but kissing. So I call her a slut and she cried again. She even put me on blast about our old relationship. I'm afraid of asking til this day for that very reason. She also said she'll get her boyfriend who I a wrestler on me if she sees me again.please help.
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Hey there, First thing you need to do is stop looking at her Facebook page, and disconnect all ways of communication. Then if any more threats come up report her and her boyfriend to an adult or someone that has some sort of authority. Once that is out of the way you need to start letting go of what happened, once you do this it will be easier to start moving on. Lastly make sure that the girl you decide to ask out is someone you know and has given signs to you that she likes you. And make sure it is someone you trust and know won't do something like that to you. And one more thing make sure when you ask her out there is no pressure on either person and that you confront her face to face in a private conversation to ask her out. Once you let go of your ex and leave her behind it will be easier for you to do these things.
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I play a Baritone bass clef in my school band, and I'm horrible at it. I do try to practice it, but I can't practice unless I have somebody else playing the same rhythm as me. I know I just need to practice, but I'm kind of in a pickle here. I have to play a solo in less than a month, and I can't play it, and I can't back out of it now. I'm freaking out and I don't know what to do! Asking my band teacher for help is out of the question cause if he knew that I still can't play it, then he'll be fearious! I don't really have any friends that can practice with me either, please help! (link)
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Hey there, what I would do is ask your music teacher for help if he or she has any band or maybe even orchestra background. Definitely practice every day for at least 20 minutes. Try reading over the notes before you practice. Though if none of this is working and you don't have any friends playing the same instrument or friends that know how to read the music I would go to your band teacher. I know it's going to be scary but if you explain to him how you have been feeling about it and you ask for help he will give you the help you need. You have probably heard this before but if you have to go to him just remember it's his job to help you.
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Hi guys! My boyfriend quit smoking at the beginning of this month, April first. He mainly did it for me, I didn't like it and I want to keep him around as long as possible...obviously. So, when he reaches his one month mark of not smoking, I want to do something special for him but I can't really think of anything that I'm really stoked about doing for him, to really exemplify my love and appreciation.
So, if any of you guys have ideas, I would greatly appreciate it! I was thinking a little gift - he's been wanting a smart watch lately so I was thinking of looking into getting the one he has bookmarked on his amazon wish list. He just got a new car, I wanted to take it out and fill his tank for him so he didn't have to do that. Maybe bake him something. I just want to do something for him that really shows how much I appreciate him doing this for me and congratulate him for making it a month and for many months to come.
Again, any help is appreciated! I'm 21 and he is 23. (link)
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Hey there, this is great! I think that you should take him on a romantic dinner. This is something all couples should do to celebrate something special plus it will definitely set the mood to give him a smart watch at the diner. If you do this give him the watch with desert it add more sweetness to the night.( no pun intended) Though I wouldn't go over the top showering him with this and that, but I definitely think the watch is a great idea plus a great romantic dinner, that would make him happy.
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I have two friends named jasmine and Jasmyn. They are both really good friends of mine and the both moved but I still keep in touch. I live in Lexington Kentucky, they did too until jasmine moved to Cincinnati and Jasmyn moved to Tennessee. I like them both and I wanna ask them out butim afraid of rejection and that they have a a new life and I'm not a part of it. Plz help. (link)
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Hey there, first I wouldn't ask either out until you decide which one you like more. I also think that you should think about weather or not you can handle a long distance relationship ( it also depends on age teen years would be harder and probably more stressful older than 18 you maybe can give it a shot). And if they are good friends just remember if you get rejected your friendship will still be there.
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What do you think? Is it ok to love your partner even when you can't stop yourself cheating on him? I know he does cheat on me too but of course I can't blame him. Is it ok to still love each other this way?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Hey there, this may be difficult but this sounds like a un healthy relationship. If you both really love each other I would go to a relationship councilor to help you guys be more faithful. I would also talk to your partner about this to have one on one conversations and make sure you are both up to the counseling. Make sure to follow what your councilor tells you and listen to their observations, and advice. But if these things don't work I would end the relationship.
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Hi, I am 12 years old female, 3 guys asked me out and I don't know what to do, I'm to nervous to say yes to one of them and to say no, I don't want to hurt their feelings and I don't think I'm ready to go out on dates, although that's what I've been wanting for a long time...
What should I do?? (link)
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Hey there, so I have gone through this only it was flip flopped I asked a guy out he said yes and later told me he just couldn't say no because he would feel terrible if my feelings got hurt. Number one it hurt more for him to go out with me when he didn't like me that way then it would have been for him to just say no. I know this can be difficult but if you don't like them you have to say no. And don't date someone just because you want a boyfriend you have to wait for there to be someone that you actually really like, because that happened to me too. I dated a guy who told me after we broke up that he only did it because he was desperate. So I know it may feel mean to say no but it really will only work out for the better for both people. Wait for mister right.
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So im 19/f and I started masterbating 2 years ago. Before then I had never been into anything sexual at all but one day I just started doing it and i havent stopped. Despite my many attempts to stop. Now its become a habit that I have to do almost everyday. I just get the slightest feeling and then I have to do it. Not only that but I imagine weird ass shit when I do it that I would never condone in real life. Like I just have this feeling come over me that it doesnt matter what I think of cause it turns me on, but after im done masterbating its like ew no what is wrong with me and I have to stop. But i never do. I picture my bf with different girls, and with family members. And idk why it turns me on so much. Is there a reason for this? Is this normal? How do I stop fantasizing about these kinds of things so much? How do I control my sensations and thoughts? I heard that keeping yourself busy works and ive done that before but its hard to because Im by myself with a lot of time on my hands the majority of the time. So how do I control it and have more purer nicee fantasies? Thanks! (link)
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Hey, so I was reading that book that every parent gives you when you hit puberty, and in the back it said that masturbating is completely normal and I saw a puberty video that said when you hit this stage you start fantasizing things you would never do or think about in real life. It also said that you may feel guilty about it because no one has ever told you it's okay. So this is completely normal and nothing to freak out about. Though if you feel like you are doing it too much you can try focusing on activities that will force you to stop thinking about it when you feel the urge, but like I said it's completely normal.
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Hi, I have a big problem and you are probably gonna think it's ridiculous, but anyways, I am 12 years old and I don't know how to divide. This is a big problem because everyone in the grade knows how, my dad is gonna ask me to show him if I can divide in front of him and that's a problem. It's not really my fault I don't know how to divide, nobody ever told me how. I know how to divide like, 25 divided by 5 and stuff, but I mean the long methods like 2678 divided by 568 and that kind of stuff.
Please no answers like "You should know how to divide by this age" or "Ask your teacher" only professional answers, or you are getting a 1 at rating. (link)
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Hey there first of it is okay that you don't know how to divide. I used to be really bad at math in like everything and now I get A's in that class. Here's what you should do...
1. Ask your teacher for help I know this can be scary but go in the mornings or after school and get some one on one time with your teacher.
2. Use the web, Khan Academy really helped me.
3. Think positive about it, if you don't think positive it's only going to make things harder.
4. Relax you will get it, you will understand how to do it in no time.
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