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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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My boyfriend of four years and I broke up about a month ago and within a week I met another guy. He was older, a grad student on exchange from Europe. Since I studied abroad last year, we had a lot in common and hit it off right away. We ended up seeing each other the next night and he stayed over at my house. We did not have sex or anything and I was honest with him, telling him that although I was technically completely single, I wasn't ruling out getting back together with my boyfriend. Less than a week later we did get back together and I cancelled on a date with the other guy who was very supportive and happy for me. I know I made the right decision getting back with my boyfriend because I do love him and things have been difficult because we have been long distance for over a year now, but sometimes I wonder if I missed out on a new and exciting experience. I just am not convinced that it would have been worth throwing away what I have. Did I do te right thing?
Really dating you boyfriend while you may having feelings for someone else is unfair.
If you aren't happy with your boyfriend then end it and keep that way. Decide what you want to do in your life but just to put it out there it should take well over 2 dates before you think of having sex with someone.... Yes, You've pretty much answered your own question. I think it's only fair to be honest with your boyfriend about how you really feel and move on with your life.
how do u make a boy wet
Making a guy wet? Guys don't have vagina's sweetie. You should read up more about sex.....
I'm a single mom of three. Two girls (19,9) one boy 18 today. He won't spend time with me. He stays in his room or hangs out with friends. today is his birthday and he doesn't want to go out to dinner with us. wouldn't travel with us for thangsgiving either. Really worried. He gets good grades and is going to a great university in the fall. He also works. But I fear he's depressed, he doesn't like me or worse...Unfortuneately, Dad isn't a very positive influence. What to do? I love my son. I need to connect but don't know how.
I am going to disagree with the user below me, Your job is not to be his "friend" your job is to be his Mother.
Sounds to me that your son is being a typical teenager. I was the same way when I was that age. I wanted to be alone and I had mood swings. Your son is not only a teenager but he is going through the transition of entering adulthood and that can be difficult for him to handle. At that age, I was confused, angry and wanted nothing to do with anyone. If you feel he is depressed then you can sit down with him and just let him know that if anything is bothering him that you are more then happy to listen and you will support him anyway you can. Then you leave the option to him. Constantly nagging a teenager is basically going to do nothing but fuel him up for a heated conversation. I would talk to him about how you feel but if that seems almost impossible then try writing a letter and putting it somewhere he'll read it on his own time that way he can read it thoroughly and get a better understanding of where you are coming from. In that letter you can write that when he is ready you two can sit down and talk. If you feel he is depressed then you can write your concerns in the letter as well and take it from there. However, One thing I would address when you sit down with him is to assure him that if he ever needs to talk he can come to you.
last night i was looking at my boyfriend Facebook and some girl posted a status saying "I hate sleeping alone, I need a boyfriend with money" he clicked on like and told her "I have money, a living room and a kitchen" she just said "hehehe" but every time she wrote something he would like her comment! There is another girl that i don't want him talking to because she has feelings for him and he knows this. Well last night she wrote a status saying"I didn't went to school!~My clock" He licked her status. Why would he do that.? I just don't understand him. I don't want to tell him anything because I already talked to him about it, but look now. Im so confused. What do you suggest me to do? or if you were in this situation what would you do? :'(
What does your gut tell you? It obviously is telling you something or you wouldn't be here asking us...
When a guy is in a relationship with someone then it should be about his relationship with that person. Although in his eyes he has done nothing wrong, I find it rather inappropriate that he would go and flirt with others on facebook also.
What would I do? I would try talking to him about how you feel. Like I tell many others sometimes when you want dirt on someone you got to dig for it. I'm going to go with your suspicion that he's hinting to other girls that he's looking for someone else. Cheating? Well not really. As far as you know he hasn't gone that far but his willingness to do so is not cool. It's a flag and seeing you asked I would leave and move on. Don't feel too bad because this girl he's talking too will be the next one he treats like crap. Guys like him are idiots and sometimes they never learn. Dump him because the road your going down it's either option A or B.... :/
Is it possible to change my log in email address for facebook? The email is from forever ago and doesnt even exist anymore
Yes it's possible
Log into facebook
On the main page under your name click - Edit Profile
On the lower left hand side there will be a list of options click - Contact information
You now can Add/Remove emails
If I were you I would click the arrow to the right next to the Add/Remove options and set the privacy so that only you can see them and no one else!
Good luck
People want to fight me and they make fun of me.I want to fight them to make them stop saying ''your to scared,you(CENSORED)retard,ect'',but something in my head stops me. I could when I was in grade 1-3 now I can't,but I really want to.This is going on still 7 years and counting so don't say ''its good to not fight'' What else could I do?
It also made me pretty much emotionless.
(I don't feel scared,happy,pain anymore just revenge.)
Before you say your just nice,this making fun of me thing lasted 7 years and counting...I'm not happy.
I am not going to tell what you asked not to hear but I can tell you that I can relate to what your going through.
I was bullied for 11 years and to make matters worse? They LIVED IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD. So when you think you have it wicked bad just remember there is always someone out there that has or had it much worse off then you do.
Really the best thing you can do is talk to an adult and let them know what's bothering you. If punks are threatening to beat you up then like a user below me said consider some martial arts or a self defense class. Trust me they don't hurt I was in karate for 7 years. The only thing you need to know is that self defense can only be used in a self defending manner not out of anger to get revenge. If your parents aren't an option then try talking to a school counselor or even a therapist to vent too.
Still don't think I had it worse then you did?
I couldn't ride my bike around the block because if I did I'd have rocks throw at me, I've had metal gate locks tossed at me as well. It was hell, Not to mention there was not one but 7 bullies all at the same time. Yes, I had it pretty bad but it wasn't the end of the world. ;) Now I'm in college and 4 of the old punks live at home jobless. Karma's a real bitch isn't it?
I'm 20 years old, I will be 21 in three months.
I'm currently on Yaz birth control, I've been on yaz for a little over a year now. I think that it's caused weight gain (only about 5-6lbs, but it's been hard to even try to get off, I've been changing my diet, exercising. I eat little in the first place and very healthy)
I've looked into Yaz more about side effects and I saw a lot of women under 30 (around my age actually) who have developed embolisms in their lungs and it makes really worried. I know my doctor told me with all birth controls that blood clots and weight gain are all possible side effects, but after reading everything about Yaz I really want to get off it.
The reason my doctor put me on Yaz was because I was on ortho tri cylen lo for about two years and I'd get really bad PMS from it.
I know switching from that pill to Yaz were drastically different pills.
I would like to know if anyone had any good advice in a new oral birth contol?
Suggestions? Something better than Yaz without all the terrible side effects? (I know they all have side effects and I know it depends on your bodies)
I'm 5'3, 126lbs. I take birth control to prevent birth, keeping my skin clear, and controlling PMS.
I would love some suggestions and input!
Thanks!
Just because someone had one bad side effect doesn't mean you will.
Honestly? Yaz isn't a bad birth control to be on and 5-6 lbs is NOTHING compared to what I went through...
Every birth control is different, They all come with side effects. There is no such thing as a pill with no effects but considering 5-6 lbs in a year? Yeah... That's lucky.
I've been on several different birth control over the years.
I was on the depo provera shot for 2 years and over the course of being on it I gain 40 lbs!! Like I said 5-6 lbs I wouldn't be complaining...
Then I switched from being on the shot to getting the Mirena IUD and only did I put on more weight I had frequent ovarian cyst and was recently diagnosed with PCOS about a year ago. Thankfully I lost all the weight after getting off it.
So basically you have it quiet easy being on the pill but if you are really concerned about it then you should talk to your OBGYN and see if maybe you could try the patch. 5-6lbs is manageable and can be easy worked off with a little exercise...Just for that reason I wouldn't go off it.
hi 19/f...does weight loss capsules really work.
is it like a meal replacer or can you still eat your regular meals and is it dangerous to your body??????
Most of them are scams, You can't magically loose weight just by taking a capsule it doesn't work that way.
If you want to loose weight, Then you would need to watch what you eat and exercise. They may have some weight loss supplements that curve your appetite but remember it comes with a catch. However like I said, Most of them are nothing but scams. They try and make sounds as convincing as possible to get people interested.
It's sort of like a penis enlarger, They advertise to get men interested in buying their products. There is no way to increase the size of your junk unless you have some type of surgery. False advertisement
If something sounds too good to be true, It probably is. Save your money ;)
You want to loose weight then I would go with diet and exercising.
So last Spring Break this guy that I couldn't stop thinkiong about asked me out and of course I said yes. I liked him so much that whenever I thought of him (while we were going out) I would lose my appitie. So for the next week I barely ate anything because of the horrible butterflies I got from him.... A couple of months later things weren't going too well and he broke up with me. He said I wasn't good enough for him, which are words from his friends. My friends told him opposite though. Anyway, I know he was a jerk and I shouldn't be worried about this but one of my friends said something that worries me today...
I have a friend that is kind of plugged into ALLL of the school drama and such, he said that my ex still realllly likes me. He doensn't really ever talk to me and I text him once a month or so but he never replies. What do you think I should beleive?
There is a rule and that rule is "Don't believe everything you hear until you hear it yourself"
You are going by what you friends say? Why are you allowing people to live the life YOU live. This is how we miss opportunities in our lives.
The person below me is right actions do speak louder then words but they also missed that sometimes our words speak louder then our actions.
If a guy tells you that you aren't good enough then it's actually vice versa he isn't good enough for YOU. What you really should do is find someone who will respect you and appreciate the person that you are. Also for future reference never believe what your friends say. When it comes to relationships it is about you and your partner. Not you, your partner and your friends and I would tell them to mind their business. It's rude to go and bud your nose into other people's business.
I wouldn't believe your friends when they say your ex still really likes you, Again live life for you. If your ex did like you I'm sure he will let you know but believing everything you hear isn't going to make life better for you. In the meantime my advise for you is to move on and meet someone else and really.....I would be making some new friends too. Ones that aren't baggage and know how to respect your friendship.
I was 17 when i had my son. I was young immature and the father was in the same boat as me. Neither of us had any business trying to raise a child. We gave custody to my mother while each of me and the sons father got seperate visitation because we were no longer together. I am know 22 and married and have held a job three years and have my life set like a adult is suppose to and not like a 17 year old child. I am trying to approach my mother on getting custody back of my son. while i have been in his life she has been his primary care giver and my son and her love each other very much. I'm looking on how to break it to her that im going to seek custody of my son. Any advice would be great considering i sat staring at her 45 minutes trying to make the words come out of my mouth but couldnt.
This is a bit complicated
If your mother has full custody of your son then you will need to take this up with the court and get a lawyer. I'll be honest but seeing your son is 5 yrs or almost 5 it may be more difficult then it seems. It is a not an easy adjustment to pull a child out of their home and place them in another environment.
I don't know whether you do or not but do you have a stable living environment? If you filed for custody of your son there is a possibility that they are going to want to do a welfare check to make sure that the child is properly placed in a good home.
I do agree with the user below me, After 5 years of raising your son you are now looking to take the kid away?...He may be your son but imagine the emotional damage that it could cause between both your mother and son? If I were in your shoes I would be present and full on in the child's life but I wouldn't pull them from what they've known their entire life. I was a foster child, I've been there done that and being pulled from home to home can be damaging. Just make sure your child understands that your mother is his grandmother and that you are his father. You can still have that special father/son bond as long as you stay present in his life but I wouldn't go and just pull him out because you currently have stability in your life.
shes constaniy bullied on the bus she super nice and smart people make fun of her cause shes slightly overwieght super smart and non athletic ! its horrible knowing how she was feeling cause ive been bullied to for having a big nose being cuban and just i quess diffrent ... so anyway i almost clocked this chick in the face cause im tired of this i feel so bad for my friend ill do anything i just dont want to get in trouble...help? all help is greatly appreciated :)
People will always have something to bash others about, You could be skin and bones and they will still have something mean to say.
The best thing you can do is to be there and support her. Let her know if she needs to vent you will lend an ear. Remind her that the only fools are the ones that make fun of her. People who bully others generally have insecurity issues of their own and are unhappy about themselves. It's true...
Sometimes the worst revenge you can give is to laugh it off and walk away, When you give a reaction to someone you are feeding them what they want. The best way to solve it is to ignore it
If the bullying gets out of hand then I would recommend talking to someone. Mom, Dad, or a school guidance counselor.
How do I get back into talking and friends?
I used to be very social, talking nonstop, many friends, many parties. Then I got post traumatic stress disorder and completely withdrawled. I kept my boyfriend and hes basically the only one i can talk to even though we dont get into deep conversation like we used to. But my disorder is gone and its been a few months after too..But how do i get back into talking? I dont know how to just have even a small conversation with people or interact in a group i just go silent. I dont talk in school even though i used to be one of the very social party type of people. Its not like I am scared to talk, i really just cant, even though it kills me and i want to, i just have nothing to say..my question is how do i get back to how i was before ptsd, how can i hold conversations/talk to people? any advice about anything on this topic 18/f
You've just described me to a T...
You seek therapy, Even though you assume the disorder is gone PTSD can take years to over come.
I've was diagnosed with PTSD 4 years ago after I got out of an abusive relationship. I still to this day am suffering but have come along way through therapy and taking anxiety medication to help me cope.
Try to participate in things, Volunteering is a great way to build up confidence again. Go at your own pace and try to find things you would be interested in doing where you can talk to people you can relate too. Slowly get back to where you used to be but one step at a time. I have the same problem I know exactly how ya feel on that one. :/
My boyfriend and I broke up and he returned my things...He was using the strategy to try and talk to me but i was working so he did not catch me home.....i am usually at school on mondays but i had to be at work because my boss forgot and put me on schedule to work....he thought i would be home but i was working....we ended up talking on the phone and he thought that i hd been hanging out with another guy...he didnt trust me....i didnt trust him either....the conversation ended in him breaking up with me. A part of me is relieved and another in denial......I still have some of his tees and hats and stuff like that....I want to return it but in a very classy way. Would going to his work and giving them back while he is on break be a good idea? Or just dropping a box with his things at his door step? I want it to be a pinch for him...I feel it's so immature of him to break up over the phone....I feel like if he saw me it would be a different story...
I'm confused
You want to be mature and classy but yet you are out to seek some sort of revenge and get a reaction out of it? That isn't classy at all.
You never bring a relationship into a work environment. It's unprofessional and inappropriate
Whatever happened between the two of you, You leave it between the both of you only.
From the sound of it the guy is done. You and him are no longer in a relationship and there is a good possibility he may not want discuss it.
If you want to be mature and classy then just drop of his things at the door and call it a day. Be mature about it because what you've describe is not a real mature way to handle the situation.
Alright, sooo...
-what are some really funny/cute things i can say to this guy im talking to that will make him SMILE? I want to say like cute things i know will make him smile or laugh.
-What are things i can do/say to start a conversation or keep one going? Like to keep him interested and keep it fun?
-What are some things to NOT/NEVER do when i'm texting him? thanks!
15/f and he is 16.
I'm going to answer the bottom part of this question as I really don't know how to answer the first part... :/
Keep in mind that a lot of guys aren't huge on texting which is why some guys try and keep the conversation as short as possible. Whatever you do DO NOT nag the shit out of him through text messages. That is exactly how women become annoying and seemingly needy for attention. I'm not trying to be an ass I'm giving you the heads up so you don't run into this problem. ;)
You can text the guy but be careful on how much you do. Obsessively texting can lead to the wrong impression and you don't want to burn him out.
Not saying you ever would but I'm going to throw in here anyway. Whatever you do... Never send inappropriate photo's through text messages. There was a recent law passed in my state that anyone under the age of 18 that sends a picture that is not appropriate can be charged with child pornography. A cell phone works the same way as a computer even when you think you've deleted evidence it stores hidden files that can be traced. That was just a warning...
What are clubs like?
I have only been to them out of country where i also passed as 21, which was awesome, but what are they like in the united states? I am not really the partier, not shy just pretty chill and quiet. I turned 18 last month and my fiance turns 18 next month. He says to just go have fun and he doesnt mind and doesnt really want to go anyways. But would it be weird going mainly with a group of guys and couples..just advice on how to dance and anything would be great? Im used to either dancing with a group of girls or my boy, but i wont have either. will i be alright? 18/f
Clubs are for people who like to go out and have a good time. If you aren't the social type that likes to go out and party then a club isn't for you.
I once went to a multi club and to be honest I couldn't of hated it more then I did. It was loud, crowded and people hootin and hollering everywhere.
It also probably doesn't help that I'm the quiet type and not into drinking but my friends pretty much nagged the shit out of me to go.
Going alone? Naa. Clubs are for going with friends and enjoying yourselves. If you show up by yourself some people may get the wrong impression as generally people who go to clubs alone are singles looking to hook up with people. Not really a great idea to go by yourself, Grab a friend. Remember don't ever put your drink down! People could spike it.
Is condom a reliable barrier if it did not break even if the guy cum inside and I am fertile at the time probably. Period 19 Feb contact 01 March. Average of 30 day or so cycle.
Other factors are there is no pre cum as the genitals were in contact thru a condom the entire time.
Plus used ECP 12 hours after intercourse.
And also, is age a factor? I am 36 now.
Having said all of the above - what else can go wrong?
Have read a comment from someone in yahoo that condom did not break and yet she is now 9 months pregnant.
Thanks so much in advance
There are many factors that can go wrong with a condom. It can leak, It can break and it can even be expired or even stored in heat where it causes the condom to wear and tear or hell it could even have a slight rip in it.
At 36 it is still possible to fall pregnant but unlikely. As you get older your egg count isn't as good as it once was. The person that used a condom and fell pregnant got unlucky. Condoms are only 99% effective and even with that said there is always that 1%
If you are worried then I recommend you take a test, If it comes out negative then you should be fine. If you are still worried you could make an appointment with your OBGYN. I'm not going to beat around the bush but my mother went through menopause while in her late 30's. It's unusual but not impossible....Get it checked out.
I don't know what I'd do if this was true. Please help me! I'm from Australia.
Okay so my Dad and Mum have always had a strong relationship. They kiss each other goodbye each morning and never fight. About a 10 months or a year ago, my Dad added this woman on Facebook. She is American and they met online. My mother being the loving, kind person she is, completely trusted him and never questioned his motives and I kind of forgot about it. However, recently I went on to his Facebook to see if my chat was working and I found her name on the list of people most recently talked to. I clicked on their chat session and found all these messages about her wanting to see him and get a hotel room with him and how when they met up she would wear something sexy and said all this stuff about sex toys, etc. Also, I think worse things might've been said earlier because their earliest message dates back to just January and the first message on there is my Dad saying 'Deleted.'
I have told my brother and he doesn't know what to do either. I really don't want my parents to split up and I don't want to crush my Mum like that, seeing as she loves him so much.
I can't sleep or eat and I am behind in my schoolwork. I don't want to be one of those families!
What do I do? Should I approach her?
I am probably not going to give the best advice on this one as this isn't exactly my sort of question. However, I'll tell you what I would do.
You can message her and explain to her that you are the daughter of your father and that he is a married man with a family. This women may not be aware that he is married as there could be a possibility that he never even told her. After you do, I'd block her.
If your father goes to try and talk to this women he will then know that someone picked up that he is cheating or trying to have an affair on your mother. If he confronts you or your brother then I would let him know that you caught him having an affair with another women and you let her know that your father is married and had a family. If I were in that situation I probably would even let my father know that he has an ultimatum 1, He can be faithful and honest about the affair and messages with your mother. or 2, You and your brother will tell her yourselves.
Sure, No child wants to see their parents split but at the same time not telling Mum what's going on is a loose loose situation but that's just me.
can a virgin woman get pregnant if her partner orgasm outside her vagina?
I am from Egypt
If the penis has contact with the vagina then it's possible to become pregnant.
Hi I am a 30 year old male.
And let me break it right down...
I'm rich, came from a wealthy family...
Has been rich all my life, and it's a girl that I'm dating, well we are long distance...
She's in La and I'm in Miami...
So were now in a long distance relationship...
Ok, so I'm rich and she's not, and it's fine, because I don't judge people based of there income weather I should date them or not.
So a long time ago, she wanted to be my personal assistant, because she knew I was looking for one at the time. And I told her I don't mix business with pleasure, then. Plus I kinda thought that she just wanted to be my personal assistant, for the money and the fact that she could go to the hottest parties and me Celebs. So I was offended that she would offer to be that since we are suppose to be dating.
And so six months pass, and she know I don't have one, because my recent one just quick. So now she's asking again. I've had problems with her before when it came to loyalty. I've found out that she's been talking to her ex the whole time we've been talking... An we have been talking for almost two years.
Just this Christmas I found out that her ex brought her some expensive Red bottom shoes, and she's been wearing them. A couple months ago I found emails, where she had conversations with her ex, telling him she love him. So I know her loyalty is bad, but we have such a strong connection, and it's hard to let go.
I'm not sure if she just wants to be my personal assistant to just make money off of me or what. I cannot understand. And I question her loyalty to me everyday. I mean, i've seen her in slutty pictures and everything since we've been dating. And we also have a eight year age difference as well. So please somebody help me out tell me what you think. thank you so much for reading this, weather you can help or not.
Move on
This women has feelings for someone else and she even admitted to it.
She is nothing but baggage and bad news. A women who is in love with you will appreciate you for who you are and be faithful.
1, She never told you about the emails, She's accepting gifts from her ex..
2, It's plain and simple she is having an affair
Move on and meet someone else that will respect you and treat you the way you should be treated. The women is a gold digger and that's why she is keeping you around.
I am really interested in playing games with others online. I really enjoy lifestyle themed games. I don't necessarily mean "normal" life. I enjoy fantasy. I also can appreciate a good arcade style game.
Suggestions please!
Second life
Its free to play with pay optional
Second life resident 6 yrs...