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Child Custody: Getting custody of my child back from my mother
I was 17 when i had my son. I was young immature and the father was in the same boat as me. Neither of us had any business trying to raise a child. We gave custody to my mother while each of me and the sons father got seperate visitation because we were no longer together. I am know 22 and married and have held a job three years and have my life set like a adult is suppose to and not like a 17 year old child. I am trying to approach my mother on getting custody back of my son. while i have been in his life she has been his primary care giver and my son and her love each other very much. I'm looking on how to break it to her that im going to seek custody of my son. Any advice would be great considering i sat staring at her 45 minutes trying to make the words come out of my mouth but couldnt.
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If your mother has full custody of your son then you will need to take this up with the court and get a lawyer. I'll be honest but seeing your son is 5 yrs or almost 5 it may be more difficult then it seems. It is a not an easy adjustment to pull a child out of their home and place them in another environment.
I don't know whether you do or not but do you have a stable living environment? If you filed for custody of your son there is a possibility that they are going to want to do a welfare check to make sure that the child is properly placed in a good home.
I do agree with the user below me, After 5 years of raising your son you are now looking to take the kid away?...He may be your son but imagine the emotional damage that it could cause between both your mother and son? If I were in your shoes I would be present and full on in the child's life but I wouldn't pull them from what they've known their entire life. I was a foster child, I've been there done that and being pulled from home to home can be damaging. Just make sure your child understands that your mother is his grandmother and that you are his father. You can still have that special father/son bond as long as you stay present in his life but I wouldn't go and just pull him out because you currently have stability in your life.
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Instead of viewing seeking custody as stealing your child from her, try to see it as you finally giving her the gift of fulfilling her role as a grandmother. I assume your son is aware that you are his mother and that you also love him equally as much as his grandmother. When you break it to her, tell her you are not seeking custody to keep her from him or to hurt her, but to take your first step in putting your life more on the right track and you want the responsibility of raising your own child because you have already lost enough precious time with him. Remind her that you love her and that you are forever grateful that she would sacrifice her time to take care of your son for you and that you know she only wants the best for you as well as her grandson and that now you are ready, you want the opportunity to raise him with her involved in your lives.
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