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How do I return his things.
My boyfriend and I broke up and he returned my things...He was using the strategy to try and talk to me but i was working so he did not catch me home.....i am usually at school on mondays but i had to be at work because my boss forgot and put me on schedule to work....he thought i would be home but i was working....we ended up talking on the phone and he thought that i hd been hanging out with another guy...he didnt trust me....i didnt trust him either....the conversation ended in him breaking up with me. A part of me is relieved and another in denial......I still have some of his tees and hats and stuff like that....I want to return it but in a very classy way. Would going to his work and giving them back while he is on break be a good idea? Or just dropping a box with his things at his door step? I want it to be a pinch for him...I feel it's so immature of him to break up over the phone....I feel like if he saw me it would be a different story...
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When I broke up with my boyfriend he told me to return all the things he got me because I didn't deserve them. I simply put it in a box and left it on his porch. I sent him a text and said his stuff was outside. (Since it was raining I didn't want it to get ruined.) It's easy and painless.
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I'm confused
You want to be mature and classy but yet you are out to seek some sort of revenge and get a reaction out of it? That isn't classy at all.
You never bring a relationship into a work environment. It's unprofessional and inappropriate
Whatever happened between the two of you, You leave it between the both of you only.
From the sound of it the guy is done. You and him are no longer in a relationship and there is a good possibility he may not want discuss it.
If you want to be mature and classy then just drop of his things at the door and call it a day. Be mature about it because what you've describe is not a real mature way to handle the situation.
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The classy thing to do, is not to game play.
You can't control his reactions or feelings, and it just looks silly and immature when you try. (Just as it looked silly that he tried to catch you at home when he returned your things.)
Do NOT bring his things to his work. It's highly disrespectful to bring that kind of personal business into the workplace. That would be unkind to him, and to everyone he works with. It would look very petty.
If you want to meet with him and speak face to face, just tell him that. Tell him you want to talk, would he please grab a coffee with you. If you don't want to talk, then the classy way to return his things is to put them in a box and bring them to his home and give them to whoever answers the door, thank them, and leave.
Don't try to make this 'pinch' for him. THAT isn't classy. If you want to talk, ask him to talk, but being classy is exactly the opposite of trying to manipulate the situation to make a dig at him.
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How you return his stuff depends on the message you want him to take from it. Do you want him to be sorry that he dumped you or not?
Revenge is a common reaction to being dumped, ripping up clothes, breaking CDs and other stuff then leaving it outside his door in a bin bag is very satisfying but immature and destructive.
You could post his belongings; drop them off at his work, in a smart bag with a card saying "Thank you for giving me my kife back!"; you could ask a friend to give them to him, as you're SO upset; or just bag them, knock on his door, hand them over, give a dazzling smile and leave, without saying a word.
The choice is yours. I'd rather be classy and rederved than spiteful and nasty; depends on how you want him to remember you.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Best wishes X.
To answer your question on the ratings page, yes, sending him a text to say you've left his stuff at the door is OK, shows you care that he gets them back. After all, if he didn't get them back, he'd have a motive to contact you again. Move on but don't tread on him too hard. Who knows, he might be the next mechanic servicing your car, or dentist taking your teeth out! Vest wishes X.
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