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Q: Okay, I don't know what to do. Should I shave my bikini area? I've shaved it before and it was really itchy and painful. I don't know whether it's normal to be shaved or not. Is it?

Of course it's normal.
It's going to be painful and itchy the first time you shave it because of razer burn. When there are little stubs, don't shave it anymore because it will burn it and cut it. It hurts bad! It is normal for girls to shave sown there. I shave down there. Don't worry. Shave it again and it won't hurt bad at all.:-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Q: Okay, I asked the discharge question like an hour ago. My period just came but i dont know how to tell my mom cause someone from her work is here so shes working with her. How should I tell her, i dont wanna call her upstairs, that'd be too obvious but i dont wanna go downstairs to tell her either! HELP!

Welcome to womanhood! Join the club!
Just put a pad/tampon/panyliner on while you wait until your mom's friend leaves. Or put a pad on, go downstairs, tell your mom you need her to come upstairs or in the kitchen or something so it's not obvious and tell her. That should make it look like nothing!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Q: okay. i need to talk to someone and none of my friends can really help. my parents are divorced and i dont see my dad very often. i live with my mother who is an alcoholic and gets pissed off easliy. today my brother and mom got into a huge fight. she is now gone, i mean she just left. i called her and she said that she just needed to be alone. she hasnt returned yet, and i dont know what to do. i am only 14 and my brother 11. she is most likely going to come home incredibly drunk and when she is drunk life just sucks... i dont know what to do anymore because i am just sick of it. this isnt the first time she has just left......

Nobody should just LEAVE their kids and come back drunk whenever the heck she feels like it.

Not only can what she's doing affect her health but it can affect your little brothers health as well. Someone that young shouldn't have to live like that and if she goes too far, she can hurt him or he can hrt himself due to all the stress going on.

You shouldn't have to live like that. You should call a relative to come pick you up. Tell your mom where you are and when she figures out what her problem is, she can come and get you.

You should also have someone try to get your dad to get most of the custody for both you, and your brother.

Children shouldn't live like that and your mom is definitly wrong for doing that to you guys.

Pack a bag or something and have a relative pick you up. An aunt, uncle, grandma, grandpa, or family friend. Call your mom and tell her that you will be staying with this relative/friend until she calms her butt down!

This will help you get away from your mom and let her calm down. Then, she'll relaize what she is doing and figure that it's wrong to just leave whenever you want!

You know where I am if you need advice or want to talk. Also, you xan email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Good luck and I hope you try this! Trust me! It'll work!

Best of luck!♥

Hope I helped! ♥

♥ Kayla ♥

P.S. I am sorry but I have never been in this situation. I'm trying my best to put myself in your shoes and that is what I, seriously, would do! I'm sorry you have to be like this and I'm sorry that your mom is like that! I couldn't imagine life without my mom. I hope best of luck to you and remember, if you need me, I'm online all the time. LOL. Just email me or send me a question in my inbox! I'm on right now!

Q: my life is just screwed up right now with guys i fall to easily for them and then i just get hurt at the end how will you know when you have found the one? how could you trust guys when so many has hurt you in the past most of them try to sweet talk you but how do you know if what they are really saying is coming from their heart?
i need as much as advice you guys could give me ♥

You know when you have found the right guy when he treats you with respect and WANTS to stay with you as long as possible. Girls are more in for a relationship while SOME guys, on the other hand, just want to get into your pants and then, throw you away to the side.

It's O.K. if you don't find the right guy right away. It takes a lot of time.

Nice guys are very rare and hard to find but there is someone out there looking for you. ;-)

And you are SURE to find him soon.

The reason why you fall too easily for them is because they are nice to you in the beginning but you have to know that you can't trust EVERYOINE you meet, right off the bat.

It takes some time. Once you get to KNOW that person, you start to know how he is and what he does and then, it's probably a little safer for you to trust people.

Have you ever heard the song, "Love Your Baby Girl" by Sugarland. She stated in that song, "Everybody's your friend. You can never be sure." That's why you're getting hurt because you trust the guys too fast.

Let them get to know you a little better and you ned to get to know them a little better.

Also, play hard-to-get. Guys love it! They go CRAZY!

My point is you shouldn't go for them just because they're cute because most hot guys are players because girls are all over them and it's hard forhim to say "No." Just watch out and BE CAREFUL. Guys are hard to understand. I'm the same way as you are. I see a hot guy and I fall inlove... I don't even know him! Just be careful with guys and don't trust right away.

You know where I am if you need advice or want to talk. Also, you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck! ♥

Hope I helped! ♥

♥ Kayla ♥

Q: Ever since I was a little kid, for some reason, no one respected me. From 3rd-8th grade people made fun of me non stop. My 3rd and 5th grade teachers hated me, and many of my 7th and 8th grade teachers hated me too. From 9th-11th grade, people made fun of me "just kidding around" whenever I am with my friends they don't treat me with respect. The only real friend I have right now is my sister, and tonight for some reason she didn't want to hang out with me tonight, but she did want to hang out with her other friend. That is the last straw. I really don't know what to do. I am so lonely, and I am such a nice person! I have never had a boyfriend and I just feel like my childhood is being flushed down the drain. Due to people constantly making fun of me, I have ABSOLUTELY no confidence to go out and meet new people. I just don't know what to do anymore, I can't go on like this. I need to be a normal 17 year old girl. Can someone help?

Awww!
This is really sad. But the truth is you have JUST as much luck meeting new people as anyone else on this planet. You need to raise your self esteem. I don't care what people say about ME. I just walk on by. But most of the time, I find something wrong about THAT person and keep picking on him/her. Find stuff you can pick on that person about, and they will leave you alone.

Don't worry about what anyone says about your appearance. I don't look great and people tease me too! They tease me about my clothes and my style. I don't care. This is ME! I'm proud to be me and I wouldn't want to be anyone else!

You need to have the same confidence because you shouldn't change for anyone. Don't listen to what people say about you and don't let it get to you.

When people say stuff about you and they see that you're sad, they do it more. When they see that you're ignoring them, they get bored with trying to make your life miserable!

You don't need to be neglected like this... nobody should have to live like that, especially at school, where you go to learn and get an education!

What people say about you at school shouldn't affect the way you live at home. You shouldn't go on thinking that you're not good enough for the people who say you aren't good enough.

It's not fair to you and YOU don't have to live like that.

I used to get made fun of and I couldn't take it anymore so I fled. I switched schools, which I shouldn't have done because people know that making fun of me worked!

It's not easy being in school with all these people with different oppinions about you. Sometimes, one person hates you and they get other people to hate you and they get more people to hate you and they spread mean and nasty lies about you but that's just them. At least YOU know it's not true and you can honestly say that and if they don't believe you, who cares?

Everybody has different minds and oppinions and if one person doesn't like you, they get other people to not like you. Do NOT let ANY of their junk get to you. Once they see it hurting you, they are satisfied and they get what they want.

If they KNOW it's not bothering you one bit, they are going to be bored with trying to make your life a living Hell.

Trust me on this!

Nobody said school was easy but that's LIFE!

Well, you know where I am if you need me. If yu need to talk about something or someONE, email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?
I'm here for you to take ANY question you have for me. You don't even have to tell me who you are. Just ask me questions. I don't care! :-)

Best of luck! ♥

Hope I helped! ♥

♥ Kayla

Q: Ok..I really really like this guy soo much, but we've only hung out 4 times, one all night..and we talk online & on the phone alot..but I don't KNOW him KNOW him..like i dont know how too explain it.. He's cute, SOO SWEET, and funny, well, he's perfect for me...and he tells me he loves me so much and everything. Today he said if we were older he'd ask me too marry him, which scared me..and now I just feel a LITTLE weird..bc I love him, but I don't know him well enough to marry him. But I really do feel he cares about me...but another thing is that he's older than me...and he's had sex, and I haven't and he walsy says "baby you don't know what your missing.." and "i wanna make this sumer one you won't forget ;)" and i'm thinking that he wants me too have sex with him..but he's told me that he doesn't want too push me into it, but he does it slightly...I don't know..

Any advice???

Lots of love & noise

Hey!

He may not want to push you but he is. It seems to me that he's pushing you into having sex and you're not ready. He puts pressure on you by telling you, "You don't know what you're missing." and all this junk.

You have to be strong and NO MATTER WHAT, say no to having sex with him. Don't let him push you into it. You have to be smart. Most deaths occur during sex. Why? Because girls like it when the guys touch them and tease them and they don't want to say "No." Also, a LOT of girls get raped and killed. Some live but only if they are VERY lucky.

Don't let him pressure you. Talk to him about it and tell him you're just not ready but when you are, you will do it with him, but while you're young, that's too much for you. Sex is dangerous but it's natural.

If you feel that you are ready and you are mature enough, be VERY, VERY, CAREFUL. Although, at your age, it can be fatal. You have a chance of getting a disease, even with protection.

You need to remain stron, no matter how bad you may want it.

Just know that you are smart and you can say "No." to the pressure tht he is putting on you.

He has confused you, already. You are not sure about it. You have to be sure and to me, the right choice is to not have sex right now!

I was always taught to have sex after you're married. You can have sex if you're engaged, too.
Or if you feel like you really LOVE him and you KNOW you're ready, (not think) you should go with your heart.

Don't do what you think is right. Do what you KNOW is right!

You know where I am if you have any questions.
:-)
Also, you may email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck! ♥

Hope I helped! ♥

♥ Kayla ♥

Q: how do you get backround mucic what site?? that isnt complicaded ill rate 5 i swear!!!!

Go to http://www.diamondrains.com and select "MIDI files" pick a song and under the song, there's a little code thing. Highlight it, press CTRL+C and paste it in your biography in profile settings. Press submit and when people go into your column, they will hear your mucic.

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
P.S. If you need any help on your column or something, just ask me. I won't reject your question. :-)

Q: Well okay see I have this friend, and like she finds something that's wrong to start a fight with me..i mean i like her as a friend but sometimes she gets me really mad, and i just can't take it anymore, we've been thru thousands of fights.. and she talks about me.But i dont care when ppl talk about me..but she sooo muchh..and some of the stuff she finds out i say isnt true, but she'll never believe me..she always brags about herself..and she called me last night and said someone said you said something about me and i was like who? but i dont talk about her...so i know its not true and she told me his name and i said i didnt say anything and she didnt believe me..idk what to do, sorry its long..help ?

Honey,
sometimes those "real, real close friends" turn out to be "real, real fake friends". I though I had the PERFECT friendship with this girl. We did EVERYTHING together. I saw her more than my own family. Then, she started talking about me and stuff. If you KNOW for sure you can trust those friends, then you're O.K on that.

I know I sound like every other person in the world but... your friend is jealous of you because you have other friends and she wants to make herself sound important by lieing about you and making you sound bad.

Everybody does it.

It may sound like it's not true but believe me when I tell you that it is. She wants to make you sad and depressed. Don't ask why. People are just like that!

Some people don't get what they need at home. And I have know idea if she doesn't get the love and respect that she needs at home but sometimes that affects the life of that person at school and with friends.

Some people are desperate for action and they are SO desperate that THEY want to START it! That could be what she's doing.

There are a lot of reasons for her to act the way she does. I have no idea which one it is.

I say... talk to her. Tell her that you're her friend and you wouldn't talk about her to someone.
Tell her, either she's your friend or she's not but she's not going to make your life Hell over a stupid lie that someone is spreading.

Be strong.

I went through this situation with my WHOLE school. Everyone thought something bad about me and a fat girl named Jade wanted to beat me up and you know what... I freaked out... I switched schools. Don't do that. Don't let anyone scare you. They're just stupid people looking for someone to talk about and for some reason, they picked you.

We are SO much alike because this is the situation I was in and I was always the innocent one when it came to this kind of thing and so are YOU! LOL.
Well, just don't talk about anyone for as long as you can. That way, when someone accuses you of talking about someone, you can HONESTLY say, "I didn't!" and NOT be lieing and you would KNOW it isn't true! :-)
You know where I am if you need to talk or something. You can also email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck! ♥

Hope I helped! ♥

♥ Kayla ♥

Q: Okay, well.. I've known this kid for like, ever! Since he moved here. And I was his FIRST friend when he moved up here. Well, anyways.. I liked him when I was little. But then I thought, that's kinda weird cause he's my best friend..So then I just started to like him this year. And, I tried to get over him, but I can't. What's your advice for me? What should I do???

Hey!
You're not the only one who has been in this situation. I have. I have known this boy since I was 2 years old and I started liking him a long time ago but then, my best friend started liking him so I stopped. Then, when she stopped, I started liking him again. And we ended up going out.

The catch is go for it! You know him really well, which will make your relationship work!

You will know what he likes and you will know everything about him. Therefore, you know that he will not do anything to break your hearts because you guys are best and will continue being best friends until the day you die. Relationships like that never fade.

Those kind of relationships are the best ones a person can have. When you like your best friend (opposite OR same sex) and you end up going out with him/her, you'll have a REALLY good relationship because you know each other so well.

Go for it!

Flirt a little and if he starts to hesitate or pull back, stop but if he smiles and finds to like it, keep going!

You'll do great! I know it!
Just don't give up on love. But remember this... if love is meant to happen between you two, it'll happen. Don't force it! Let it flow gently.
You know where I am if you need to talk or something. Also, feel free to email me ANYTIME at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: Not long ago i came on here for advice between my boyfriend and another guy i really liked and decided to make a go of trying to spice things up.We went out clubbing together and had the night of our lives and soon forgot about this other guy i like.A week later me and my friend got together had a few drinks and decided to have a few more at the local.The other guy was there and as i was plastered, bought him a drink i owed him and danced and chatted with him all night.He invited me and my mate to his house for a few more drinks but my mate left at 3am leaving us 2 alone and then we had a drunkin kiss and ended up sleeping together.Im now meeting up with him and we have so much in common including partners.Now im confused coz i like this other guy but i love my boyfriend.

Unfortunately,
you'll have to choose. If you REALLY like the guy that you slept with and you think you can be with him for a long time, break up with your boyfriend before you do anything else with the other guy. If you think you can last longer with your current boyfriend, keep him and dump the other guy.

Stay friends with the other guy. When/If you and your boyfriend break up, you have back-up. Trust me... it'll work. If you continue doing other things with the other guy, break up with your boyfriend. You have to pick one or the other.

Life is rough!

You KNOW where I am if you want to talk or need more advice. You can also email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck! ♥
Hope I helped! ♥
♥ Kayla ♥

Q: My sister and I planned a one week vacation in Paris. She lives in Colorado and I live in California so we do not get to see each other often. I made all the arrangements and was very much looking forward to going. Recently, she got back together with her boyfriend and has canceled her trip with me because she would rather do something with her boyfriend. I feel hurt about my sister's choice and resentful towards her boyfriend (although my sister says it was solely her decision). I say she can see her boyfriend every weekend and during the week too and that she can go on vacation with him next year. She says this is her only opportunity to go on a vacation this year with him and she doesn't want to miss it. I know my relationship with my sister is more important than any vacation, but I'm having trouble feeling ok about this. Should my sister have honored her commitment to me? Should I just get over it and wish them well on their vacation?

Honey,
you have a RIGHT to be upset. Your sister shouldn't have made plans with you if she was just going to blow you off for her boyfriend!

Something like this happened to me but it was with my aunt. I was about to go to Florida for 3 weeks last summer with my aunt but she blew me off because she had to go "sight-seeing" in Kentcuky with her boyfriend.

I talked to her about it and she made it up to me by taking me out to ice cream and then, we went to Florida.

My point is you should talk to her and see how you can arrange something else with her SOON. I'm really sorry!

You know where I am if you need me! You can also email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck! ♥
Hope I helped! ♥
&hearts Kayla ♥

Q: On Saturday night I went to my best friend, Sidonie's party. A guy that she broke up with a month or so ago was there and I really liked him. We ended up kissing and the next day he asked me out, I said yes. Now I'm not so sure if I made the right decision by saying yes to him. For a start, I just feel like his rebound girl. When my best friend broke up with him he was very upset and I don't think he's fully over her. He keeps saying things like "You're so much like Sidonie." Which is kind of irritating and off putting. Secondly, I hardly know him and I wont be able to see him much as he lives on the other side of my city. I do like him but I'm not so sure if I want to just be his rebound girl, should I break up with him or see how it goes?

Hey!
I have to say that what you did wasn't very... friendly.

1. You are now going out with your BEST FRIENDS ex-boyfriend. Never do that... UNLESS she says you can/should.

2. You KISSED your best friend ex-boyfriend. Even though he's going out with you, I think he still has feelings for HER!

If a guy truly LIKES/LOVES you, he WON'T talk about his ex-girlfriend while kissing you or just being with you. I think he is using you either to get back at Sidonie or because he just doesn't want to be single ever!

I think you should break up because that's not right and Sidonie should mean a LOT more to you than that boy. If you THINK you can handle everything in the end, you can see how it goes with this boy but... If I were you, I would not throw away my friendship over some boy.

Whe a guy misses his ex-girlfriend, he starts talking about her and talking about her and... TALKING ABOUT HER. LOL. It's annoying... I know! But I don't think you should go out with him. It puts pressure on Sidonie and him!

You know where I am if you need me! Email me ANYTIME you need anything else! I'm here for you! :-) Also, you may email me x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck! ♥
Hope I helped! ♥
♥ Kayla ♥

Q: Heyy! I rate high! I was jus wondering if any one will give me any tips to giving good advice!Please and thanks!

All you have to do is put you in that person's shoes and think... WHAT WOULD I DO IN THIS SITUATION? That's what motivates me and helps me.

You need to think about what you would do or say in a situation like that.

Also, make sure you KNOW what you would do in that situation.

If you don't know the answer to a question, the best thing to do is leave it alone because if you say "I don't know." or "I'm sorry I couldn't help you.", you're going to get a one.
Good luck!

It's easy to give advice... you just have to know what you're going to say!

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: is it just me, or have some of the questions lately been seeming fake, made-up, and unrealistic? i have no desire to answer some lately because they seem like they`re put up on advicenators to get laughs.

I agree. A lot of people HAVE been writing questions just for fun. None are actually REAL! Some people are actually having problems but you never know who those people are because the people who JUST want to write a fake quesrtion blend in. A lot of them are real, though. Just keep looking! ;-)

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: I am trying to make my column as cute as possible, and I was wondering if any of yall know some good html wesites or some other cute websites where you can get cute icons or things like that? Thanx in advance!
♥ Me

http://www.starlightmks.com
http://www.diamondrains.com (diamonrains.com has music for you to put on your column)
http://www.ticklishdsigns.com
http://www.carrielynnesworld.com
http://www.dolliecrave.com

That is where I got my graphics! I got them from all of these websites!
Take a look at my column to see what it looks like once yu're finished!
:-)

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: dose anyone know any cool html code websites?

Yes, I know a few!
http://diamondrains.com
http://ticklishdesigns.com
http://carrielynnesworld.com
http://dolliecrave.com
http://starlightmks.com

Those are just a few but there's more! Just keep looking! ;-)
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: okay, well ive known this kid nick for about 4 months now, and we like eachother alot. but his best friend john keeps getting in the way, making up these incredibly stupid lies, and trying to get me and nick mad at eachother. i want to be friends with both of them, and sometimes i dont know who to belive. they both sound so sincere, i love nick, and i want john as a friend still... any advice?? please say yes =(

Yes, as a matter of fact I DO have advice for you.

Tell John that you are going out with Nick, and if he can't handle that, he needs to leave you alone. He doesn't need to be spreading rumors/lies about you so Nick will hate you. Nick likes you, you like Nick and he can't do anything about it.

Tell him, "I want to be your friend but if you keep trying to make trouble, I don't see how that will happen."

If he's really immature, he may not understand you but if he's understandable, self explanatory.

This should work... I guess you would call this having a... heart-to-heart thing with him. lol.

Just try it!

I can't guarentee 100% that this will work but I think it's worth a shot! :-)

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla ♥

P.S. You know where I am if you need me! Also, you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Q: alright so iv been dating this guy for almost 9 months now and me and him broke up about 15 times and the last time we broke up was bc he lied to me about stuff he did with a girl (back at the pond he kissed her and she touched his dick n all this) and he lied about it he swore on my life that nothing happened and he swore on our relationship. . . and i believed him of course then yesterday his cousin told me the truth . . . and i asked him about and he addmitted it i was like OMG! then we broke up and he said whateverrr!! really mean and i hung up and he didnt even call me back and i didnt believe his cousin i was like no he loves me too much he wouldnt lie. . . but he did lie! and he cried a lot and begged for me back for like 24 hours or so and i reallyyyyy love him with all my heart but during the almost 9 months like in the beginging he was soo nice then he just started lien to me a lot. . . and i found out and asked him about everything and he told me he wasnt hiding anything else and i believed him and that was after we dated for 5 months or so and he was really good after that then he flirted with a girl right in front of me which that hurt so bad!! then he called me a bitch and hit me 4 times but i really love him and this time i took him back bc i love him soo much. . . did i make a bad mistake??

Oh my gosh!
I don't mean to be blunt but... YEAH! You DID make a mistake.

1. He's breaking the law for hitting you... and he did it FOUR TIMES! That's not right and for all you know, he could be a serial rapist or something.

2. He cheated on you after you had just regained your trust for him. He diid all that with another girl... NO WAY!

3. He flirts with people IN FRONT OF YOU! If a guy really loves his girl, he LOVES her, not LEAVES her every 5 minutes to go with another chick.

He's not worth it and you will get hurt again. Face it! He's a ladies man and he doesn't have self control. If he sees a "hot" girl, he shoots off and then, after he kisses her a few times, he comes back to you when he has no one else. He's just using you.
Honey, you are WAY better than he is and you know what's right but right now, what you're doing isn't right.

You may THINK you love him but he's just going to keep doing what he's doing...
\He's never going to change for ANYONE! That's a TYPICAL man!

If you love him and you think you can trust him again, by all means go for it! But I think you might get hurt and I don't like to see that happen to anyone. I have been hurt and I DO NOT like how it feels and trust me... I KNOW how it feels.

Stay strong and don't let him push you around. Don't let him LOOK at chicks, THINK about chicks, and especially... NO PLAYING AROUND with chicks. If he loves you, he'll only do those things with you! :-)

Give him one more chance and see how he does. If he does O.K, than, he's alright but if he EVER hits you again, tell the police and he'll get put in jail and YOU can get a restraining order against him. Also, you can press charges and sue him. You have the power to do that and make sure you do.

Don't be scared of him!

You know where I am if you need me.
Email me in my advicenators inbox OR email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla ♥

Q: hey i been friends with Ashely for about 6 years and we are best friends and we were going out to dinner and a movie with group of friends and i pick here up and i walk in and i show her cuting her self and her dad and mom was not home i dont want Ashely to get her or i know some times u can die from cutting your self do u think i should tell some one or just keep it to myself?

Hey!
She shouldn't be cutting herself and she CAN get hurt. You HAVE to tell someone about it. If you don't, she'll continue doing it and she could seriously hurt herself or even kill herself.

The reason why she does it is because that is the only pain she can control and you need to show herthat you care about her and don't want her dead or hurt in any way. If she does not believe you or does not listen to you, tell an adult like her mom, dad, or guardian.

It's the best thing you can do at a time like this. I think it's good that you really care about her and you're not leaving this alone. That's good. If she refuses to stop, don't give up on trying. Try everything you can to convince her that you love her as a friend and she could kill herself.

That would probably convince her that she's better than what she's doing and she needs to talk to YOU about it, rather than letting the anger out on herself. I'm really sorry and you know where I am if you want to talk or need more advice. Also, you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

I guarentee you, in the end, it'll work. Don't worry and STAY STRONG! :-)

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla ♥

Q: okay one of my best friends and i have dated before and we still care about each other even though we're not together anymore. we still care about each other a lot..but everytime i try to tell him that i still care about him and that no matter what happens to our relationship i'm always gonna be here for him..but everytime i try to tell him that he just pushes me away by saying whatever, sure, or mmmmhmmm...it's driving me crazy cause i'm always trying to make the situation better but he just makes it worse..it kills me to know that i'd do anything for him but he doesn't even care..if i had to i'd go lay infront of a car for him..i just wish he wouldn't push me away so much..PLEASE HELP!! i really love this kid!

Honey,
this means that he's still upset about break-up and even though, you're telling him you care about him, he doesn't want to get hurt and he doesn't want YOU to get hurt either.

He's just a little upset and embarassed and sad from the break-up. Even if HE broke up with YOU, he's still upset because he's not over you.

If YOU broke up with HIM, he's definitly sad because he most likely loved you and you broke his heart but I don't know if you broke up with him or he broke up with you.

Either way, it's just a phase and he'll get over it in a snap. Let him regain his trust for you. The best thing you can do right now is to wait a little bit because you should probably just be friends right now. I'm not saying you can't SECRETLY love him ;-). Just don't put that much pressure on him.
You know where I am if you want to talk or need more advice. In my advice column, my email address is in there.

Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla ♥ ♠ ♣