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Ok..I really really like this guy soo much, but we've only hung out 4 times, one all night..and we talk online & on the phone alot..but I don't KNOW him KNOW him..like i dont know how too explain it.. He's cute, SOO SWEET, and funny, well, he's perfect for me...and he tells me he loves me so much and everything. Today he said if we were older he'd ask me too marry him, which scared me..and now I just feel a LITTLE weird..bc I love him, but I don't know him well enough to marry him. But I really do feel he cares about me...but another thing is that he's older than me...and he's had sex, and I haven't and he walsy says "baby you don't know what your missing.." and "i wanna make this sumer one you won't forget ;)" and i'm thinking that he wants me too have sex with him..but he's told me that he doesn't want too push me into it, but he does it slightly...I don't know..
Any advice???
Lots of love & noise
<3
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My only adice is do what YOU want and what YOU feel like. If you hesitate at all don't do it.
If he scares you and you don't feel safe with him don't be alone with him until you know if you can trust him or not.
Good luck! x
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Well since you don't KNOW him KNOW him. Then try to. Next time you guys are on the phone and stuff just start talking about stuff and then maybe share a memory that relates to that. Because sharing personal things also shows that you trust them and can tell them things. But I don't think you guys should even get married even if you guys DO know eachother well.. that's a little TOO TOO TOO TOO soon. I mean you've guys have hung out 4 times! But it kinda seems to me like he might just want some sex. Cause then that's where that whole," I wanna marry you " line might be coming from. Cause then he thinks if you feel all loved and stuff and that you believe that, it'll make you want to have sex with him then. Just send him the message that you aren't going to and stuff and see how he reacts after that. Cause if he doesn't really talk and stuff like that then that shows that he DID just want sex and that he doesn't really want anything to do with you if you're not gonna do it, which then just forget the guy. But if he still talks to you and stuff, then he might understand you're not ready and etc. But then again, most guys are just like that. They always have sex on the mind and stuff. So just be careful around him and keep an eye on him. If you wanna talk to me more on IM just IM .. MELii x MARiiE! Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
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Sounds like you need to watch your step around this guy. He just wants it.
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I have to agree with you.He is looking for sex. Sounds like he might think hes Gods gift to women. If you like the type then go out with him. The "If we were older I'd marry you"line is just that...a line. Go out with him if you want to, just keep on your toes with this one! :)
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Okay for me to answer this the right way you've got to let me know how much of an age difference, and if ya'll are going out...and what's the situation with that.
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Well, I think you should get to know him better before your relationship goes into sex and marriage. Sex is a special thing and you should experience it in your own time and when you're ready, not when someone else wants to, when you want to. It sounds to me, if you're having doubts, that you're not ready, because if you do it just because he wants you to, you could regret it later on. Get to know him better and then see where it all goes. You guys may break up or get closer which will probably make you glad you waited either way. Just get to know each other better, hang out. Be friends before all the relationship stuff. Good Luck. <3 Lana
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First off don't let him rush you into sex. When you're ready for it, you will know and it will be much better since you waited until you were comfortable. Since you don't know each other that well, it would be better to wait so you're more used to each other and you know he's going to be the guy that will stick around. If he truly cares about you, he will make sure you're comfortable and ready for sex and not push you into anything you're not ready for yet.
The marriage remark may just have been his way of telling you that you're the kind of girl he'd like to marry. I wouldn't take it too seriously right now. Just take it for the compliment it was.
Good luck and best wishes.
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Oh...I don't know. This sounds like a red flag to me.Please be careful!
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Hey!
He may not want to push you but he is. It seems to me that he's pushing you into having sex and you're not ready. He puts pressure on you by telling you, "You don't know what you're missing." and all this junk.
You have to be strong and NO MATTER WHAT, say no to having sex with him. Don't let him push you into it. You have to be smart. Most deaths occur during sex. Why? Because girls like it when the guys touch them and tease them and they don't want to say "No." Also, a LOT of girls get raped and killed. Some live but only if they are VERY lucky.
Don't let him pressure you. Talk to him about it and tell him you're just not ready but when you are, you will do it with him, but while you're young, that's too much for you. Sex is dangerous but it's natural.
If you feel that you are ready and you are mature enough, be VERY, VERY, CAREFUL. Although, at your age, it can be fatal. You have a chance of getting a disease, even with protection.
You need to remain stron, no matter how bad you may want it.
Just know that you are smart and you can say "No." to the pressure tht he is putting on you.
He has confused you, already. You are not sure about it. You have to be sure and to me, the right choice is to not have sex right now!
I was always taught to have sex after you're married. You can have sex if you're engaged, too.
Or if you feel like you really LOVE him and you KNOW you're ready, (not think) you should go with your heart.
Don't do what you think is right. Do what you KNOW is right!
You know where I am if you have any questions.
:-)
Also, you may email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck! ♥
Hope I helped! ♥
♥ Kayla ♥
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I think you should talk to him about this. Explain that by him saying what he says it feels like he's pressuring your into sex. If you don't want to have sex with him, don't. Follow your gut. If he really does care about you, he'll respect your thoughts and will wait until you're ready. If he keeps bugging you about having sex with him, your best bet is to dump him. If he doesn't respect your thoughts, he's not worth it at all. From what he's saying to you about having sex and how you don't know what you're missing, this just makes him look like he's only in this relationship for one reason; sex.
♥ Krissy
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Think carefully. Why do you love him? What would you do for him? I don't think you really love him, not yet, you just have a major crush. And I don't think he loves you either, he sounds like he just wants sex.
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Ok..tell him that you feel uncomfortable..and maybe he will back off a little. If he doesn't he IS pressuring to you no matter how much he denies it or doesn't show it. Please think it over. I hope I helped.
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