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my life is just screwed up right now with guys i fall to easily for them and then i just get hurt at the end how will you know when you have found the one? how could you trust guys when so many has hurt you in the past most of them try to sweet talk you but how do you know if what they are really saying is coming from their heart?
i need as much as advice you guys could give me ♥
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You'll know-- you'll feel it in your head and in your heart when you've met 'the one'.
Until then, you're just going to have to experimentally date assholes.
My advice is not to fall for the sweet talk. Guys will never ever tell you how they really feel unless they actually care about you. Look at how they act to see if it's coming from thier heart. If he calls you when he says he will, is always on time for dates and such, wants to see you and no one else, is constantly showing you how he feels, and he's not pressuring you.
It's a lot to expect from a guy. But if he really cares about you, he'll show you and tell you. If not, dump him.
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i can relate *PERFECTLY* Anywho, basically, dont trust any guy. Make them EARN your trust. Dont like meet a guy then the next day 'awww *in love*' no, thats a huge NO GO. Get to know him, kinda play hard to get, guys love the chase. Dont let them think your like always avalible and seem desprate cuz thats how you get used and abused sweetheart. Act as if you dont really need a guy, then thats when you'll find the one. If there even is a such thing.
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make friends with the guys and ask his friends if he dumps girls alot.
Good Luck! :)
xoxox bbbeach
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The only way to tell if they are speaking from the heart is to get to know them really well before you get in to deep. Hard to do. Be friends for awhile before you go out with them. :)
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The only thing that kept me going through awful breakups and jerks using me was thinking that somewhere out there was my Mr. Right. He was just lost since everyone knows men won't ask for directions lol.
Anyway there's no fool-proof way of knowing if a guy is sincere about their feelings other than time. The next time you find a guy you like, take a step back and ask yourself "Do his actions match his words?" and "Is this someone I want to be with forever?". Taking a look at their track record with other girls is good too. If the guy tends to break up with girls quick or cheat on them, he's not the one for you.
It takes time to learn to trust again. When you meet a guy, don't give him your heart right away. He needs to earn it as well as your trust. Don't judge all guys by the ones you've had since they're not all like that. However, look at the new guys close for qualities (controlling personality, just wants sex, doesn't like to be seen with you, spends more time with his friends that you, etc.) similar to your exes.
Take things slow with a new guy. When your Mr. Right comes along, trust me you'll know it. He'll be the one that makes you feel like the only woman in the world and doesn't mind waiting until you're sure about him.
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You know when you have found the right guy when he treats you with respect and WANTS to stay with you as long as possible. Girls are more in for a relationship while SOME guys, on the other hand, just want to get into your pants and then, throw you away to the side.
It's O.K. if you don't find the right guy right away. It takes a lot of time.
Nice guys are very rare and hard to find but there is someone out there looking for you. ;-)
And you are SURE to find him soon.
The reason why you fall too easily for them is because they are nice to you in the beginning but you have to know that you can't trust EVERYOINE you meet, right off the bat.
It takes some time. Once you get to KNOW that person, you start to know how he is and what he does and then, it's probably a little safer for you to trust people.
Have you ever heard the song, "Love Your Baby Girl" by Sugarland. She stated in that song, "Everybody's your friend. You can never be sure." That's why you're getting hurt because you trust the guys too fast.
Let them get to know you a little better and you ned to get to know them a little better.
Also, play hard-to-get. Guys love it! They go CRAZY!
My point is you shouldn't go for them just because they're cute because most hot guys are players because girls are all over them and it's hard forhim to say "No." Just watch out and BE CAREFUL. Guys are hard to understand. I'm the same way as you are. I see a hot guy and I fall inlove... I don't even know him! Just be careful with guys and don't trust right away.
You know where I am if you need advice or want to talk. Also, you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck! ♥
Hope I helped! ♥
♥ Kayla ♥
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awww. me 2! well im just waiting and its hard cus i love so many. but im tryin to stop myself. its working! i only like ONE guy.. but he is my best friend so it will never work. juss try to make urself stop!
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