I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
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so i have some questions.
any help is appreciated. thanks.
1. what do guys look for in girls?
2. why do guys not tell girls when they have feelings for them?
3. how do guys flirt with girls?
4. what are some good ways to get a guy to notice you?
5. what are some turn ons for guys?
thanks babes.
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I don't go for looks or anything of that nature. I'm the kind of guy who wants to fall in love with a girl not because of her looks, but because of her personality.
For me, love isn't about how great the girls curves are or whatever, what matters most to me is that I fall in love with the person beneath all of that because in the end, when you get past all of what you see, you could be in for a shock and find that it isn't the person whom you fell in love with.
Different guys flirt in different ways, don't ask me how because really, as you might've guessed, I don't go for the flirting. Flirting to me is an act of desperation for somebody to make them notice you. Now that's only my view on that subject.
Sorry I couldn't be much more help on this matter,
triquetra
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I am truly and madly in love with one of my best friends. He knows of my feelings and he is very comfortable with that. Problem is, he has a girlfriend of 5 years, and they are speaking of marriage now. I know I really really really need to get over him now. I've recently told him that I should cut ties with him, at least for now, to help with the healing process. I really need any advice for getting over the one you love. Thank you.
Also... I really want to hug him or give him a kiss before he leaves at the end of this year. He's graduating and leaving for... well I really don't know where. But I'll still be here. I know his girlfriend wouldn't mind if I gave him a quick kiss or a hug, because she knows how I love him and she's really nice and so I'm really hoping for that. Any advice for kissing him or anything will also be helpful. (link)
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This is going to sound a little depressing but it took me over a year to get over the person I truly did love emotionally and mentally.
There is not easy way to get over somebody whom you love. If there was, then I would've used it.
But what I did was to repeatedly tell myself that it would never work, we would never be together because of the awkwardness it would create and our personal situations and that was very hard because I could never imagine my life without this person and the knowledge that they're going out with somebody else didn't help either because for me, that was/is the final hurdle I need to get over: the acceptance that this person is with somebody else now. What I also did was to be happy for this person and just being there as a friend.
For some people, it can be quite a 'painless' experience and for others, it is an emotional rollercoaster.
As for him leaving, go with him and his girlfriend to say bye to him and just before he goes, hug him and a kiss on the cheek and that should be fine. And wish him good luck as well.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i've never had a boyfriend before, maybe because i get bored too easily with guys i really don't know. i've liked this kid for about three years now. he is adorable and so sweet. well i think he always just thought of me as more of a best friend. i was like okay i guess i have to deal with it, but i would still not be completely over it and my feelings wouldn't go away. well recently he started hinting that he likes me. i am really happy about this but now i feel like i see all the bad things about him, sometimes i feel like i'm not even attracted to him anymore when before i use to think he was cute EVERY single day. i see his imperfections and i know everyone is not perfect but these sort of things turn me off. why does this always happen to me! when i hear guys like me, i drift away from them. but this is something i've wanted and waited for so long, i don't want to just push him away because of this but why is it so hard!
19 female. (link)
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What I think the problem is, is that you're scared as to be in a relationship, which means that your first reaction to this is to find reasons as to why you don't want to be in a relationship, so in this case, looking for the negative qualities in these guys.
So, you need to overcome this fear by taking a leap of faith and trusting your original instincts about him (cute) and see how he really is. What you're seeing/hearing about him may not be true, so go and find out about the real guy and see whether he lives up to his old expectations or not.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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16/f
Ok, well me and my boyfriend have been dating a month now and we talked like a month before we even started going out. I really like him and i am so glad that we are dating. We don't get to hang out during the week because of school work and such, never have time, all that stuff. Well anyways, i only see him in school a second and i don't feel like i am that nice to him. I mean, i am definitly not mean but i don't really act like i like him at all and i recognize that. I REALLY do like him a lot but i just don't know how to show it in person. When we talk on the phone, i am fine and i flirt and stuff but in person i get nervous before i see him and i want to show that i like him since i am going out with him but i kinda can't. I don't really know how to do that anyways in like 3 minutes that we do get to see eachother? What should i do? i mean, breaking up with him is definitly NOT an option because i like him way to much. I also have a moustache and i'm always worried that he will see it so i don't like to look at him when i don't have to. It brings my confidence down a lot!! I can't do anything about it either because my mom won't let me. I just feel like i am ugly and i don't know why he would ever date me. I guess i have two problems in one question. Please help!!
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It appears to me that you really do care about how he sees you and that you don't want to disappoint him with how you look and you want him to only see you looking good. You may not be aware of it, but I suspect that's what's happening.
I think you need to stop worrying as to what he might or might not see and just be who you really are around him. That way, he gets to know you better which will make him more relaxed around you and you get to know him better. Don't worry about your mustache, if you pay a lot of attention to it, then the increased likely hood of him noticing it.
I'm going to take a guess as to why he dates you: maybe because he loves who you are. When people say that they're in love, I sometimes ask as to what they love about that person and they say "because they're hot/fit" etc. and I always say that that is always a bad reason because you aren't loving who that person is. So him loving you for who you are is a good enough reason to date you.
When you talk on the phone, you're more relaxed because you aren't around him so you don't tend to worry about how you look around him so you're more relaxed and more 'fun'.
So, what to do. You need to be confident in how you look because if I was right about him dating you for whom you are, then he shouldn't really care as to what you wear, as long as you're being yourself and not trying too hard for him. When you're with him, take a deep breath and consciously relax and then be with him.
At school, make most of the time with him such as during lunch times and tea or whenever you get the chance to sit together and just talk.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay, i need a song or a few songs that are like decribing a relationship that changed and saying that you want things to be how they used to be
any helppp?
thanks (link)
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Don't Forget About Us - Mariah Carey
I Stay In Love - Mariah Carey
We Belong Together - Mariah Carey
My All - Mariah Carey
I Still Believe - Mariah Carey
I hope these help,
triquetra
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today i realized that i'm in love with my boyfriend of 3 months. we haven't said "i love you" cause we both want to wait until we really mean it. but i hear from all his friends and basically like everyone that he "likes me soo much and talks about me all the time" ...i really want to say "i love you" but i don't want to be the first one to say it...
and also the thing with me is that this is my first relationship so i'm not really pro on knowing the difference between love and lust, he makes me wet but its more than that i also love to hang out with him and cuddle with him and just be with him.
so my question is what do you think im feeling? please dont tell me you'll know if its love because i think it is...just advice on the whole saying "i love you" ..thankss.
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If you he makes you happy and everytime you think about him, you get these butterflies in your stomach and you feel like as if there's nobody like him in the world, then you're in love.
I've been there, felt that and it didn't work out for me. But for you, I think there is a great chance for this relationship to go further.
Lust is just when you just want to sleep with some guy.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay, so there's this guy at my school, and I guess he's got this crush on me or whatever. sure, no big deal right, that's cool--NO.
he's kind of a creeper person, which wouldn't be so bad....except that he had to ask his friend to ask my friend to ask me what I thought of him. and my friend gave him my cell phone number [oops!, yeah right...] and he's called me three times since thursday, but I don't know what to say to him....so I don't know what to do. I don't really like him like that...at all...and now he's kinda freaking me out. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS!!! SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!!!!! (link)
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I've got five words for you: tell him you're not interested. You don't like him so you shouldn't let him get to you like this.
The more time passes, the more irritating this guy is going to get. And I think you need to speak to your friend about whom she gives your number to.
And I wouldn't call it stalking. My definition of 'stalking' is when somebody SECRETLY likes or wants to be a certain person and takes pictures of them in secret and tries to copy them etc. This guy clearly just likes you and wants to know whether you like him. Don't let him continue on thinking that you may like him because the longer time goes on, the more hopeful he will get.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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14/f (sorry about the length)
7th grade was one of the best years of my life. I had a almost all of my best friends in the same class with me, all of my teachers loved me, and one of the most popular boys had this huge crush on me so he would constantly be around me, and brought all his other really popular friends along with him. The best year EVER.
But 8th grade REALLY SUCKS so far. I have my one very best friend in my class and a few other good friends, and NO ONE ELSE-I barely even see my other friends. That really popular guy? He completely and totally moved on and doesn't even look at me now, and he's in my class this year, too. 3 teachers out of 5 HATE me and will do anything they can do in their power to torture me. It gets worse, too... last year I was actually really outgoing and boys were constantly around me... this year, I'm so quiet and I barely talk unless I have to, and only a few boys still say hi to me in the hallway... at home I'm really stressed out, I barely do my homework, and I always get in fights with my sisters and especially my parents... I can't leave myself alone because I beat myself up (mentally, not physically... I just yell at myself), and I'm very ashamed to say this, but sometimes I even masturbate... I know that's disgusting and it's very hard for me to say, even anonymously. I feel really weird after that, too. This year I got permission to have a cellphone, and everyday I check the messages on it, and for some reason I always think maybe SOMEONE will call me, but I don't think anyone ever has. I also got permission to date and no one has asked me out.
So please, I really need help. I really don't know what's wrong with me. As I'm typing this I'm realizing how bad it really seems... I don't know what went wrong--Last year I was popular, I was happy and felt loved, I was pretty, funny, sweet...I didn't have single care. I'm not sure what went wrong. I stayed pretty, I may have even gotten prettier, and I'm sweeter and funnier than ever... but... I don't get it. Someone please help. I need back the self confidence I once had, I need to be outgoing again, I need to hear from someone other than my mother say I'm beautiful... I'm not asking you to tell me that, but I think you get my point. Oh, and please don't tell me to see a doctor... I don't want professional help... I don't think it's bad enough for that... Thank you. (link)
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Well, there are only two things which I can think of: one, you're beginning to go into puberty where you'll experience a lot of emotional changes and other things or two, something happened before 8th grade began which knocked your confidence.
However, I feel like as if this is just a period in your life where you're going through some changes and one of those things which I think should stand out is the masturbation. That's perfectly normal, so there should be nothing to be ashamed about, anonymous or not. So it should just work itself out.
There's no need to see a doctor about this, this isn't a physical problem, it seems to be a mental problem. Not in a bad way, but something has made you less outgoing.
I think you need to begin by just talking to more people than just your friends, talk to the other boys more at lunch times etc or if they're just hanging about, ask if you can join them and have fun with them. Try and find out when your friends are free so you can see them more often and try and meet new people outside your friends. Don't expect everybody to begin calling you if you've got a mobile. Share your number with them so they can contact you whenever they want.
As for your teachers, work out as to why they don't like you and see whether there is anything you can do to make them like you. But don't change who you are just to make them happy, so like if it's small things like talking more in class etc. then you can work on that, but anything bigger than that is a no, no. Or you can just ask them. It's important that the teacher and the student should get on, otherwise, that student won't do well in that class.
If you take a look at my profile, you'll see that I've got a quote which compares life to a rollercoaster and how it's got it's up and downs. Well, last year was the up now this year, it's the down, but what I say is that you need to work your way back to the top of the rollercoaster again.
Sorry if this was a little confusing.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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my friend wanted to suck my blood because he claims hes a vampire. so i thought, cool! why not? well, when the time came for me to slit my wrist, i dug a little to deep and went a little fast, because it CUT MY WRIST, WIDE OPEN. i had used a razor and it made a very fine, half-inch-wide cut on my arm. i freaked out, and had to show my parents. but to keep them from thinking i needed help, i told them it was blodlust. but now the think im losing my faith in God, and my moms mad cuz she knows i wasnt raised this way. i was raised in a christian environment. and i know that. im not losing my faith, im still a christian. but i do have a fasination with dark stuff. eg: im emo/goth. i wear all black and really thick eye liner and i dyed my hair black. ive been severely depressed for about 3 years. i used to cut, and they found out. i also enjoy twilight and other vampire stories. i like scary movies that have to do with demons and vampires and stuff that really would not please my parents. i dont know why i like that stuff, but its a lot better than romance novels and chick flicks, in my opinion.
but my dad is sort of in shock about the whole bit on my wrist, and for today, at least, they have locked me up in the house and i cant leave unless its to let out my neighbor's dogs. i dont think what i did was a very big deal, and i dont think they care about my well-being at all. i think they just dont wanna look like bad parents because their oldest daughter slit her wrist so some guy could suck her blood.
they think i need help and i know there is nothing wrong with me. so now they barely let me out of their sight and im sick to death of it!! all i can do is schoolwork and get on my computer or read and im totally done.
what do i do? how do i convince them that nothing is wrong?? why cant they just let go?
im 16/f, btw. (link)
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I can't even begin to comprehend as to what made you do it. It's kinda like when somebody asks you to jump off a bridge and from what I've read, you would do it.
Don't even begin to think that they don't care about you, keeping you inside for a while is, in their eyes (and any parents' may I add), the best thing at the moment until they can decide as to what they will do next with you. Telling them that it was 'Bloodlust' certainly wouldn't stop them freaking out, on the contrary, it would make them more scared than any other parent in this world. As far as I'm concerned, they're being the best parents because they've been scared more than anything. As for you trying to convince them that nothing is wrong would be like.... asking a boulder to move out of the way. Of course they would think that something is wrong with you (and I'm not saying there is) but what else are they supposed to think??? I can't stress enough as to how much they care about you, keeping you out of what they think is harms way at the moment isn't such a bad idea.
Cutting is a huge deal, like Razhie, who I think mentioned this, said, any deeper and we wouldn't be answering this question right now. Plain and simple. You say that you were depressed for about 3 years and you were cutting at that time? I get the feeling that there is something which you haven't yet got off your chest otherwise, I think you would've thought twice about it.
Let's take a small walk into their shoes and see how you would react as a parent. Imagine, in a few years time that you had a daughter, the same age as you are now, whom you've watched grow up and grown to love and care for and thinking that she was just being herself, when one day she comes running up to you with a cut on her wrist, telling you that she'd cut herself so that some guy could drink her blood. Think as to how you would be feeling in those few seconds as those words sink in. And then she says it was because of bloodlust. Let that sink in now. Now, what do you do? You can't just let her run off otherwise god knows as to what she will do next, so you'll have to keep an eye upon her till you find out as to what you want to do.
I don't think that the liking for Vampires and those things should have no relevance to this. Films shouldn't influence our everyday (well, not everyday) actions and thoughts. However, I would like to explore as to why you like this kind of stuff and maybe that can explain as to why you behaved in the way that you did. Those kinds of films tend to be very violent and have got the aspect of suspense in them and danger. I'm going to take a wild guess and say that this aspect of danger and violence is what attracts you to them. And the fact that you're goth/emo I think reinforces that fact. I'm also guessing that you find something.... comforting I guess because from this letter, I'm willing to say that you're the kind of person who wants to be tough and non-fearing and confident in yourself, image etc. and you are confident in the decisions which you take. I think you like these films because people have to get themselves out of a very tough and almost impossible situations and I'm guessing you 'feed' off those kind of situations. You're also the kind of person whom doesn't like people who question as to what you do and you wish that people could have some confidence as to what you do and can support you. Sound familiar?
Talk to your parents and try and understand as to how they feel about all of this, and please explain to them as to why you did do it because I'm still lost as to the proper reason why: doing it because somebody claimed to be a vampire isn't a just excuse to do it and you need to tell them as to the full reason why.
I'm not trying to judge you okay, I'm trying to bring in different view points and as to maybe why you love these vampire films etc.
Think about it, okay?
Good luck in the future,
triquetra
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what exactly does it mean when someone says they're on a break with their boyfriend/girflriend? also is it a bad thing to do something with a boy who is on a break with his girlfriend? he said that they've been fighting alot and that they just need a break, and they will see what goes on from there. i just don't exactly know what people mean when they say on a break. does it mean he can do what he wants? or is it like he is still going out with her. (link)
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That is more or less what it means. Basically, when you get into a fight or people are just making fun of the relationship you're in and things of that nature, you feel like as if you just want to break away from it all and just spend some time with yourself and no need to worry about anybody for a while until you feel ready to get back into the relationship or not.
When you're on the break, you spend time time thinking as to where you think the relationship is going and whether you think it's going well or not and see whether you think you can work out your differences.
The partners aren't allowed to do what they want because technically, they're still in a relationship so if anyone of them tries to do something which they shouldn't be doing, then that's a big indication that that partner wants the relationship over or doesn't take it as seriously.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Okay, so, I'm 21 f. I'm a voice teacher. I was born Jewish, but my beliefs have melded into Agnosticism with a touch of Hindu over the years. One of my best students keeps gravitating towards all these "god-songs" (Think David Archuletta, Angels) as I call them, things that talk about believing in "the father" or "my Jesus," and it's really, REALLY getting on my nerves. This student is 23, by the way, so he's not a little kid. His parents are major Catholics (and they hate me).
I suppose I might also include that this guy is my ex-boyfriend-turned-best-friend. So I can't just drop him as a student. Besides, he's fantastic. He has nearly a four octave range full voice, and I enjoy listening to him sing. (Which actually says quite a bit, because I'm one of the harshest critics out there. I'm hard pressed to find any singers I actually enjoy listening to. I can always find something completely off-putting about their singing or their song choice.)
Anyway, my issue is this:
He wants to work on religious songs, and I feel like I can't condone it because I don't believe in "god", I don't feel comfortable with the term, and I just...I don't know. Those songs bother me quite a bit.
On the other hand, I feel I'm being a bit hypocritical because - and I hate to admit this - I sing for a church choir. BUT, I'm getting paid big bucks to do it, and the director has some crazy connections in the music world.
I'm not the most religious girl (obviously) but the one firm issue I have with the three big ones (Christianity, Muslim, and Judaism) are that they believe in this "Almighty God," and I just HATE it for some reason.
I'm not even sure why, but the idea of one of my students/friends singing something like that upsets me.
Anyone have any insight or suggestions? (link)
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I would ask him first as to what kind of religious songs he wants to sing, I mean, you can get the big God songs, but you can also get the lower down Gospel songs which have got a meaning in it.
I don't believe in God, but to be quite frank, that doesn't really stop me from listening to some gospel songs which I can relate to to some level.
Let him have a go at singing some and see how you feel about it.
Here a little story from me which is kinda the same. I listen to Mariah Carey... a lot. Think 24/7 a lot. That should give you a rough idea. Now, my friends don't like her because they think that she' this super bi**** diva who gets her way and thinks she's so high up than everybody else and as to how I can listen to her songs and "scream" is beyond them and they always laugh when I say that her songs can reach to her fans and help them connect to the song. When they ask to listen to one of her songs, I ask them in turn to listen to the lyrics, connect with them and see how they feel... that usually never works. Now, I know that I can't make them love her to death like I do and probably never will, but what hurts me the most is that they judge her, before that know her.
So, what's the relevance of that story? You could kinda put this on your pupil's perspective, he may love these songs because of the connection he can make with them and flip them onto his own life or they express what he feels. And you not liking these God songs could in a way could be hurting him because they're what he loves to listen/sing to.
Now, even though you didn't ask for a song, I'm going to suggest one which is by Mariah (naturally) which is about God, but not in such a huge way and I always listen to it. And I'm not suggesting it just because it is about God, but he can also use his four octave range in it, just bring the high notes down slightly to fit him. Go and listen to this song and see what you think. I'm not asking you to like it, just to consider teaching it to him. It's a gospel song:
"Fly Like A Bird"
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay, so in the time that the "dust bowl" existed, did it rain at all? and was there a certain day it started raining? any other information you have would be awesome too, because i have read about it, but still dont really understand (link)
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Here are some websites which should explain it in a bit greater detail:
http://www.usd.edu/anth/epa/dust.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dust_Bowl
This site gives a rough idea as to what else was happening during that period:
http://www.essortment.com/all/dustbowl_rcmk.htm
This one gives you an idea as to what the weather was like during the Dust Bowl, I can tell you, it makes our current weather look like a drizzle!!!:
http://www.ccccok.org/museum/dustbowl.html
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I am 18 and have been with my wonderful significat other for two years. we've talked about our fairy tail marriage and our little house with a white picket fence.. all of that, anyway i know a lot of girls my age who are pregnant and only one of them is still with the guy who helped this situation :] anyway this is for the teenage mothers or soon to be's, how does it feel to have the baby in your stomach. how do you feel when you look at them every day knowing that they're a part of you? what's your story, how did you tell your parents, were they cool with it or was it a dramatic experience. i'm not looking to get pregnant but i do know i was a born mother :] and i will be very excited when the time comes. (link)
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Okay, I may not be a teenage mother or girl, but I will say one thing: not all teenage mothers are happy, very few are. The number of questions on this site from girls in a panic because they think they're pregnant is phenomenal.
For some teenagers, it can be seen as a blessing and for others, a big mistake which they should never have been made in the first place. But there is one thing which ties them together: a dramatic change in that girl's entire life which could go either way: supportive way, or a torment to put it bluntly.
As for the parent's, they most likely will freak out because of the whole age thing and thinking that you're not ready yet etc.
*Just to be clear, I'm talking about teenagers under the age of 18 here*
As for teenager over 18, I'm sure that the parents would be slightly worried about you, and probably would remain that way. That's just how parents are.
Now, I noticed that you said that only one of the girls who you know is pregnant is still with their boyfriend, I can't help wondering as to why the others aren't still with their boyfriends. I suspect because they didn't want to get pregnant, because if they did, then they would still be with their boyfriends, wouldn't they? It would make sense, wouldn't it, to stay with the guy who got you pregnant in the first place?
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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a friend of mine has this song on her play list that i think is really cute...but can't find it. it's about myspace. it says something like "i don't care how long it takes/ i save a place on my top 8 for you" anyone know??? (link)
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It isn't Mariah Carey by far. The only song about Myspace which I could find was this one:
http://www.elyrics.net/read/f/feeling-left-out-lyrics/the-myspace-song-lyrics.html
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I am a 29yo single male who has never had a girlfriend in his life. It makes me sad to see everyone else with their gf, and then there's me. There are times when I am feeling so alone and depressed. I don't know what the point of living is anymore. Seems like there's nothing left in life to look foward to except for. (link)
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I think I know what you mean. My situation is very different to yours but they run along the same lines. After each holiday, when I get back to school, I always hear as to how they've all had fun at these different parties which they've been to and so much goes on in their lives that I'm just sitting there and not being able to be part of the conversation and having to play catch up all the times and that's hard for me because I know I'm not the party type, yet, there is another part of me which wants me to be closer to my friends and I always feel... sad and alone as well and down because I can't share part of my friends lives and get to know them even better. And with each passing day, I constantly think about as to how I'll be when we leave school and lead our separate lives because I've grown to depend upon them and I can't bear the thought of leaving them behind as I go off into the world and I feel even more alone.
Whoa, rambling there and going way off topic!!! Anyway, don't let this get you down. Most people find their love later on in life, and just because you don't have a girlfriend, doesn't mean that you won't get one ever. There are more things to life that just love and you need to find it. For every person, there is always another meaning to life, not one person looks at life in the same way. You may be 29, but you've got the rest of your life ahead of you to find love. Your friends may've just found it earlier than you have.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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25/F
About 4-5 years ago, I met a guy that I'll call 'Chris.' Chris and I became friends, and were JUST friends, for about a year. Then, one night, Chris is hanging out at my house and we're both intoxicated and we end up sleeping together. After a few weeks I come to the conclusion that he and I are 'friends with benefits.' Something that I'm not proud of, but that was where I was at that point in my life.
Anyway... Chris and I are 'friends' on and off for about a year and a half. About two years ago I started talking to this guy that we'll call 'Jay' and I haven't spoken to Chris since. Jay and I started dating and we've been together for almost two years.
I haven't spoken to Chris... I haven't thought of Chris... Last night, I had about five dreams just about CHRIS. I can't remember much... Only that I supposedly cheated on Jay with Chris... Jay and I broke up... And then Chris and I were together, and I don't mean in a 'friends with benefits' sort of way either. Towards the end of the last dream, right before I woke up again, I remember feeling really... Happy.
Which is odd. Because, like I said, I haven't even thought of Chris in two years. During the times that Chris and I were together, I knew that he wasn't relationship material. I never had any delusions about being in love with him. Which just makes these dreams even stranger.
Why am I having these dreams? And why now? (link)
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Dreams are...'portals' in which we can enter so we can feel or experience our inner desires (ID), even when we aren't aware of what they are. They play upon our emotions and that's how they develop. They aren't random dreams. There is always some kind of meaning to them, whether they're big neon signs saying this and this or whether they're just small things.
Could there be the possibility that feelings for Chris could've manifested over the two years with Jay? You may not know it, but you could be having feelings for Chris, I'm not saying you do, but it's a possibility and to be quite frank, I can't think of any other reasons as to why you had those dreams unless they were playing off something already there.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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It seems like noone is good anymore!!! I need good music! I dont like country, rap, and most pop. I like rock and a tiny bit of pop. Oh yeah and I like artists like rihanna and beyonce, I dont know what thats called. So does anyone have any good bands or songs I could listen to???? (link)
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Rihanna and Beyonce I think fall under the RnB category.
Some of my favorite songs are by Mariah and here are a few I think you'll like:
It's Like That
Dreamlover
Shake It Off
We Belong Together
Bye Bye
Make It Happen.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I'm a travel and tourism student and i'm doing an assignment on Disney for my promotional materials unit in college.
The assignment is made up of about 25 pieces of criteria that I need to cover, i've done most of it but theres a few bits i'm stuck on for what to write in detail and was wondering if you could help.
- How Disney meets the needs of its customers
- Segments of the market that Disney COULD appropriately target
- Aspects of the marketing mix that Disney uses
(product, place, price, promotion)
- Promotional activities that Disney uses.
(advertising, direct marketing, displays, public relations, sponsorship, demonstrations, sales promotions, personal selling)
- Why Disney uses the types of promotions it does
I'm doing about Disney as a whole, not just the disney worlds/movies/merchandise but the studios, cruise lines etc... just everything Disney!
thankyou (link)
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1) It has got a range of activities, plays, rides etc. which can be for all of it's customers, primarily children. It puts on parades where nearly all of the famous disney characters are seen and the characters themselves interact with the visitors. It also ensures that even the adults and teens have a fun day by including rollercoasters etc.
2) It mainly focuses on children, but it could try and attract more teens and adults.
3) It re-releases the more classic Disney films in better quality (at the moment, they've released the Platinum edition of Sleeping Beauty), they make numerous toys for children including costumes for them to dress up in. Not really sure about the price, but they mainly use TV adverts to promote them.
4) Should you ever go to Orlando, you'll see billboards advertising Disney everywhere and all aspects of it. It also mainly uses the TV and it's reputation to attract families. To keep it going, it creates new rides for everybody to enjoy and is constantly trying to improve what it's got to make it even better.
5) In Florida, it relies upon leaflets and the billboards to advertise. Whilst in other countries, again, it will use television to advertise what it's got and what offers it's making to families.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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What are some good bording schools? I would really prefer one that has to do with performing arts. But whatever works. Also, i'm 14/f freshman so a high school. THankss! (link)
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Again, where about in the US? We could recommend something in Florida when you live in California!!!
triquetra
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17/f
Over the last month I have been having the worst luck! I can`t help but laugh at some of the things that have gone wrong but some of it has been rather traumatic. A secret I kept for over three years is suddenly not so secret. I'm slightly amazed by the number of other things that have gone wrong, as well. I realize no one really knows for sure, but this just happens sometimes doesn`t it? I'm not doomed for a lifetime of misfortune? Thanks for the insight, I appreciate it. :) (link)
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Well, things happen to us throughout our lives. Just because you've had a run of bad luck, doesn't mean that you're destined to be unlucky for the rest of your life.
This is just probably a one off. I mean, this has only just happened, right? Well, before that, didn't you have a whole lot of good luck, a period of time where you thought that nothing could go wrong. Well, this is the opposite of that.
Wait it out and something good may happen at the end of it all.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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