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Getting over someone you love quickly.
I am truly and madly in love with one of my best friends. He knows of my feelings and he is very comfortable with that. Problem is, he has a girlfriend of 5 years, and they are speaking of marriage now. I know I really really really need to get over him now. I've recently told him that I should cut ties with him, at least for now, to help with the healing process. I really need any advice for getting over the one you love. Thank you.
Also... I really want to hug him or give him a kiss before he leaves at the end of this year. He's graduating and leaving for... well I really don't know where. But I'll still be here. I know his girlfriend wouldn't mind if I gave him a quick kiss or a hug, because she knows how I love him and she's really nice and so I'm really hoping for that. Any advice for kissing him or anything will also be helpful.
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This is going to sound a little depressing but it took me over a year to get over the person I truly did love emotionally and mentally.
There is not easy way to get over somebody whom you love. If there was, then I would've used it.
But what I did was to repeatedly tell myself that it would never work, we would never be together because of the awkwardness it would create and our personal situations and that was very hard because I could never imagine my life without this person and the knowledge that they're going out with somebody else didn't help either because for me, that was/is the final hurdle I need to get over: the acceptance that this person is with somebody else now. What I also did was to be happy for this person and just being there as a friend.
For some people, it can be quite a 'painless' experience and for others, it is an emotional rollercoaster.
As for him leaving, go with him and his girlfriend to say bye to him and just before he goes, hug him and a kiss on the cheek and that should be fine. And wish him good luck as well.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I think that you should try to think about other things that make you happy, etc. It is also best to ask him if you can kiss him and of course ask his girlfriend... and of course you can hug him!...hes yor friend and friends can always use a hug
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