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if a guy sees this question he will know wat i mean.
I have a problem. I am a christian kid but im slipping away from the lord because of things i look at. if ya know wat i mean. I cant stop. I try but nothin works. If you can help, please do (link)
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Hey there! I saw your question and thought I might be able to help you. I've had a problem similar to yours. It feels odd to feel like you're slipping away form the Lord for any reason. It probably feels even worse because you're going against God's wishes by looking at porn. My advice would be just to pray to God and tell Him about your troubles. Ask Him to forgive you and tell Him how sorry your are. Then I would advise you to get rid of any and all temptations. That's what is probably making you look at it over and over again. I don't know what form(s) of porn you have but I suggest that if its magazines or tapes, just throw them away. It's really not worth it once you think about it. Just keep praying to God and I'm sure He'll give you the strength you need to quit. In His arms, Brit.
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Ok, well, i've been looking around advicenators and stuff. I noticed all these kids between ages 13-15 are so damn caught up on sx and shit. Well, for you to know, I'm 13, and in my town people are so layed back. It's a really small town. I know almost like everyone in the middle school which are ages 12-15. No, one does any of that shit. They all think it's stupid at this age. You never have to worry about having sex at the right time and when. Everyone is like a virgin in my school. I was really confused and distirbed about this......do you think 13-15 is to young to be having sex or not? I'm so confused. Is there something in my town that we're not getting?
thnx so much
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yes it is relly to young wate untill your maried or something!
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im 14/f...and the hair that i have above my upper lip has gotten really dark and noticeable...its embarassing...my mom says not to shave it, im scared to get it waxed, it hurts when you pluck it, and well is there anything else?! (link)
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Try Nair it'll work...Promise!!!!!!!!!!1
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Hey, at first it always sounded like you gave rude, and terrible advice, but now, whenever I don't feel good, or when I'm sad or something, I look at your column, and it makes me laugh. There are a lot of ass wholes on this site, but you're more of the funny type of person who doesn't give totally harmful advice, but advice that when someone's feeling down it can bring 'em back up. Your a cool columnist, and I like the stuff you have to say. Just thought I'd leave a little compliment for you!! Oh yeah, and I'm also adding you as a favorite columnist!SoUtHeRn_ChIcKeTy (link)
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my advice does make people feel, im glad you noticed, ive been feeling good about it since my first answere. even though my rating is low, some people hate me and im pretty damn sure ive attributed to at least one or two people completely(damnit spelled that wrong)ruining their lives, i feel good inside and im glad you do to. and another thing wh.....ooooh family guy is on.
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad... (link)
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I'm so NOT athletic that it borders on hilarity. But I think it's great that you've excelled at something like judo which requires not only physical agility and strength, but mental skill and dicipline. Seriously, good for you!
I'm assuming that you're about 23 and that he's probably your same age...which probably means that he hasn't fully matured yet. Nothing against your boyfriend, but that's just how most guys are. I'm actually surprised that he keeps challenging you, normally one humiliating experinence is enough to keep someone away unless it really meant something to that person.
It seems you've tried talking to him. Make sure you've REALLY talked to him though. Sit him down with no tv, music, distractions, and explain to him what you've expressed here.
Personally? I'd accept his next challenge and let him win. He'll probably gloat, let him. Now, don't get mad at me. Just let it go. If his attitude regarding this situation is an example of deeper chauvanistic or egotisitical, it'll come out and you'll be more prepared for seeing it.
You don't need to beat him every time to continue being proud of your talent. You know you're good. Girl, HE knows you're good (that's why he's so upset, even if it's unnecessarily so).
Good luck and I suggest you challenge his friends to a match...and win!
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what is the number for the rejection hotline?
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770 908 7383
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I know you are going to say im wrong but im crying as i am writing this i dont feel anyone in my life cares if i live or die i have a boyfriend but it is to his advantage he dont meet my needs i have 2 children one is almost 18 and just hit me tontie i felt that she and i were quite close till this i guess i was wrong my son acted up so bad he had to go live with his father over a yr ago and he hardly comes here to visit maybe i would be better off if i died i am miserable (link)
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I'm very sorry for your distress. And I'm here to help give the best advice I can. Since you didn't ask me a direct question it makes it hard to give the advice you seem to desperately need. But I'm going to try and help and you let me know if it helps or not. It's the best I can do.
You say you feel everyone in your life doesn't care if you live or die. What you need to do is ask yourself, "Do 'I' care whether I live or die?" You have to push aside your perceptions of what people may or may not think and focus on yourself and your priorities.
Okay, you have a boyfriend and the relationship is one-sided, leaning in his direction. Talk to him about it. If you already have and he hasn't responded or just doesn't care, leave him. Find someone else that will treat you and cherish you for who you are. Find someone that will fulfill your needs and desires. Find someone that respects you, that you respect in return. That person can be found in someone else, but I'd prefer if you found that person in yourself. You don't need anyone in your life in order to be a person that is well liked and loved.
As far as your 18yr old is concerned: You're the parent and shouldn't take that from your child. If I was in your shoes and she hit me she'd be out like a light. I did that to my mom once, I've always regretted it, but you know what? She kicked me out and it's the best thing she's ever done for me. Our relationship is stronger for it. If you feel that's too big of a step for you, talk to her. Talk about the hitting and find out why she did it. She's an adult and should act like one, as well as you. Try to compromise, but stand your ground. But remember, tough love.
And your son... Have you tried talking to his dad about maybe coming to see him? Have you called him recently or often? Maybe he hasn't come to visit because his dad doesn't have the time to take him back and forth. Or your son just doesn't like coming over for some reason. Again, talk to him about it. Call him up and ask why he doesn't want to come over. There may be a possibility to work around his misgivings about visiting. Talk to his father to see if it's a problem with drop off and pick up.
No one is better of dead. I can understand and sympathize about the miserable-ness of the situation, but only you can change the situation. You can sit there and let things go on as they are and be miserable or you can stand up for yourself, get yourself out of the situation and make a better life for yourself.
All you have to do is keep on trying. That's what I do. And sometimes, yeah, I think I'd be better off dead. But you know what, there's always at least one person out there that doesn't agree with you. Life is hard, but life is precious because of it. Be strong, be brave, stand up and fight, and turn things in the direction you WANT them to go.
Good luck my friend and I hope you feel better soon.
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I'm not even sure if you want to answer such an immature, teenage-like question. I probably wouldn't. I'm sure I'm making you more and more anxious to read and answer this, aren't I?
I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?
The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scars origins? Should I just drop it then or what?
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Well, I can't really say what your age limit should be, being that my husband and I are eight years apart in age. But, you'd also have to take into consideration the age laws in your area. Four or fives years apart isn't a huge age difference, but when you're 20 and she's 16 it could be a problem. If you were 30 and she 26 it wouldn't be. It might be that you're guessing her age completely wrong.
As far as her cuts/scars are concerned I wouldn't ask unless you somewhat know the girl. Since you don't know her age I would say that you don't know her all that well. But you are concerned and that's an admirable trait that you can try using to your advantage. Maybe next time you see her and can see her cuts, take the hand of the arm that's hurt and just ask, "Oh, 'insert name here', what happened? Is there anything I can do? I'm really concerned and that looks painful?" etc. If she's a cutter there's a good chance that she'd pull away before lying to you about it. But it really isn't any of your business until you get to know you better.
Now, as for getting to know her better (even though you haven't asked). You can already talk to her, but you're using the excuse of going in and buying something in order to talk to her. You need to take the next step, but leave it up to her. Give her your phone number or messenger s/n and tell her to call you. Tell her you'd like to get to know her better. Even if nothing romantic comes out of it you'd have made a friend.
Sorry I didn't get to this sooner, for some reasons my e-mail notifications aren't working. Hope I helped and good luck!
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hey everyone! omg- i need some help!! okay, well this guy, Eric, like me alot and asked me out last night, and I said yes. But, my ex boyfriend(our relationship was 1 year)is coming down from Oregon tomorrow and i still love him. Help, i dont know what to do!! i really love my ex and i still like Eric alot. I am sooo confused!! please help me!! (link)
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Well if u guys broke up there isn't much u can do. I would talk to ur ex and see if u guys can get back together if u still love him. but u have to make sure that u are willing to have a long distance relationship instead of one where the person is right there. And if ur ex doesn't want to get back together or if u change ur mind go out with the guy who asked u out! (if the date is be4 ur ex comes then go out with him and try to learn somethings about him and see if u still love ur ex more)
Hope it works out
~Reenie~
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ok theres this boy thats on my cross country team and we talked a little and out last meet he was with me that wwhole entire time then after that we stopped talking sorta then we started a couple of days ago adn today he had me walk with him to class and he walked me to class does that mean he likes me or just being friends (link)
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i'm on xc too and that happens all the time - my personal opinion is that he likes you but you can never be too sure. if you like him too start flirting w/him more and then you'll find out 100% :D trackie_chica
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Hi well i love playing the piano but i hate goin to lessons. I just HATE lessons. Does any1 kno how to make myself want to go to lessons? (link)
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reward yourself with something special after you go to a lesson...something you normally don't get like a magazine, your favorite food/dessert, etc.
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i have to write a 2 page essay, and it has to be double spaced. i have Microsoft Works Word Processor, and i cant figure out how to make it double spaced! (and i cant just press enter after every line because it will get screwed up when i print it) so if anyone knows how to do it tell me, thanks! (link)
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go up to the toolbar at the top, click on the format menu, scroll down and click "paragraph..." then when the format paragraph box pops up click on the spacing tab
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Hi,
i have just bought my daughter a guitar for her 8th birthday. I never had a chance as a kid so dont want my kids to miss out,. the only problem is that i dont know anything with regards to tuition on guitar so wondered if any1 knows best course of action for my daughter to learn.
If anyone has any advice that would be great (link)
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you could either get her lessons (i'm not sure how/where you could get them), but if you two have a busy schedule, you could even get an instructional video (that's how i'm learning) so she could work on it whenever she has a spare moment, and if she doesn't get something she can rewind, pause, and try it again.
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Um...okay, I have to wear a helmet to ride on rollerblades, a skateboard, and a bicycle. It sucks. I was wondering if anybody knew of a way I could convince my mom to let me ride without a helmet, because mine is really big and it has this visor, and I don't really need one. If this is a lost cause, which I think it is to tell you the truth, is there any sort of helmet that actually looks okay? thanks in advance (link)
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i don't know how to convince your mom to let u not wear a helmet, but if you can't, go to a sports store and try on different helmets and look in a mirror...different ones look better on different people so there's no certain one that'll look good.
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my friend had been my friend since like 1st grade and were are in 7th grade right now but she latly has been ignoring me and she has this new frind and she is like absest with her! she is always talking about her and totally being a big brat to me and ditching me all the time to be with her new frined! she used to always always wait for me to go to lunch together so then we would have some one to talk to but just the other day she ditched me to be with her new friend and like we were only 3 People apart in the lunch line and she never said one word to me so then i had to be all by my self then, we always sit together at lunch but she invited her new friend and four friends of the new friends so there was no room for me at the table and i had to go sit by my self! PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!! (link)
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Sounds like your friend is not worth your friendship.
I know how hard it can be to be alone, but she doesn't deserve your respect or your friendship. Anyone that would ditch a friend for other friends and not talk to the person they're ditching about it first or at least inviting them to go along with isn't a friend.
If I was in your shoes, I'd be making other friends. I know six years is a long time to be friends, but people change. And sometimes it's not for the better.
Good Luck.
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Hello ... where can I get the breast cancer bracelet from? Thanks (link)
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You can order them online, that's the only place I know how to get them. Hope i helped :)
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I’m female, 15, and I hate everything about my family, I’ve always been rejected and pushed aside and neglected, my brother is the center of everyone’s life because he is such an asshole, my parents give him whatever he wants because they can’t stand to hear him rage and scream and say everything bad and hateful he could possibly say. I think they give him such free rein because he has turrets or however the hell you spell it and they just blame his bad behavior on it. They have always been too focused on trying to help my lying, trouble making, hates-the-world, asshole of a brother, so I can never feel anything- they can’t deal with me being sick, or sad, or angry, because they can’t help me, they’ve stopped trying because as soon as their attention would switch over my brother would do something and start screaming and saying shit about me, and how much he hated me and my parents and that everyone else does everything wrong, not him. My parents won’t get him help, they now take their anger at him out on me, they yell and scream at me when I tell them what I think of my brother and how I think they’re doing stuff wrong with him and how he needs help, my dad always punishes him at the wrong time when he’s actually calm, he can never say anything right to my brother, and then they ask me to go give him food or ask him stuff and my brother takes shit out on me. I hate everything about my family, I’m tired of being pushed around and neglected, and they’re making me into a person I hate, what can I do that doesn’t involve anything that costs money? because I’m not that rich. Plz help me, I’m honestly ready to kill myself.
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whatever you do, don't kill yourself!!!! try explaining to your parents how you feel and if they don't listen, go to a friend, teacher, or guidance counselor - they can help you through this better than anyone on this site can.
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I have a livestrong bracelet...one of the yellow ones, but i was wondering if any of you knew where to find the pink and/or blue ones? (link)
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pink is to fight breast cancer...you can get those at target. the blue one's i've seen have bush/cheney 04 on them, but i'm not sure where you get them.
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Ok, my friend had been having a tough time, and I was wondering if any one knew any cute, memorable, and short little quotes or sayings I could tell her to brighten her days? Please help, I hate to see her sad and love to see her smile! I will give a 5 if it makes her smile! (link)
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one cute one is, "don't frown, you never know who's falling in love with your smile." you could also go to a site like www.quotegarden.com and it has different categories for quotes.
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I really want a boyfriend, i'm 14/f and i've never had a boyfrined... I mean i know i won't liek die if i don't have one lol, but if anyone has any tips please help! (link)
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If you want a boyfriend, ask somebody that you like. It's not even that great to have a boyfriend because you just start liking them and then all of a suddent hey break up with you and you just get mad. And also you start to act different after you have boyfriends. Really you should be happy that you haven't ever had a boyfriend. Hope I helped! **Good Luck!!**
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