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A couple of problems
I'm not even sure if you want to answer such an immature, teenage-like question. I probably wouldn't. I'm sure I'm making you more and more anxious to read and answer this, aren't I?
I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?
The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scars origins? Should I just drop it then or what?
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Well, I can't really say what your age limit should be, being that my husband and I are eight years apart in age. But, you'd also have to take into consideration the age laws in your area. Four or fives years apart isn't a huge age difference, but when you're 20 and she's 16 it could be a problem. If you were 30 and she 26 it wouldn't be. It might be that you're guessing her age completely wrong.
As far as her cuts/scars are concerned I wouldn't ask unless you somewhat know the girl. Since you don't know her age I would say that you don't know her all that well. But you are concerned and that's an admirable trait that you can try using to your advantage. Maybe next time you see her and can see her cuts, take the hand of the arm that's hurt and just ask, "Oh, 'insert name here', what happened? Is there anything I can do? I'm really concerned and that looks painful?" etc. If she's a cutter there's a good chance that she'd pull away before lying to you about it. But it really isn't any of your business until you get to know you better.
Now, as for getting to know her better (even though you haven't asked). You can already talk to her, but you're using the excuse of going in and buying something in order to talk to her. You need to take the next step, but leave it up to her. Give her your phone number or messenger s/n and tell her to call you. Tell her you'd like to get to know her better. Even if nothing romantic comes out of it you'd have made a friend.
Sorry I didn't get to this sooner, for some reasons my e-mail notifications aren't working. Hope I helped and good luck!
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