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i dont think any one cares about me at all
I know you are going to say im wrong but im crying as i am writing this i dont feel anyone in my life cares if i live or die i have a boyfriend but it is to his advantage he dont meet my needs i have 2 children one is almost 18 and just hit me tontie i felt that she and i were quite close till this i guess i was wrong my son acted up so bad he had to go live with his father over a yr ago and he hardly comes here to visit maybe i would be better off if i died i am miserable
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I'm very sorry for your distress. And I'm here to help give the best advice I can. Since you didn't ask me a direct question it makes it hard to give the advice you seem to desperately need. But I'm going to try and help and you let me know if it helps or not. It's the best I can do.
You say you feel everyone in your life doesn't care if you live or die. What you need to do is ask yourself, "Do 'I' care whether I live or die?" You have to push aside your perceptions of what people may or may not think and focus on yourself and your priorities.
Okay, you have a boyfriend and the relationship is one-sided, leaning in his direction. Talk to him about it. If you already have and he hasn't responded or just doesn't care, leave him. Find someone else that will treat you and cherish you for who you are. Find someone that will fulfill your needs and desires. Find someone that respects you, that you respect in return. That person can be found in someone else, but I'd prefer if you found that person in yourself. You don't need anyone in your life in order to be a person that is well liked and loved.
As far as your 18yr old is concerned: You're the parent and shouldn't take that from your child. If I was in your shoes and she hit me she'd be out like a light. I did that to my mom once, I've always regretted it, but you know what? She kicked me out and it's the best thing she's ever done for me. Our relationship is stronger for it. If you feel that's too big of a step for you, talk to her. Talk about the hitting and find out why she did it. She's an adult and should act like one, as well as you. Try to compromise, but stand your ground. But remember, tough love.
And your son... Have you tried talking to his dad about maybe coming to see him? Have you called him recently or often? Maybe he hasn't come to visit because his dad doesn't have the time to take him back and forth. Or your son just doesn't like coming over for some reason. Again, talk to him about it. Call him up and ask why he doesn't want to come over. There may be a possibility to work around his misgivings about visiting. Talk to his father to see if it's a problem with drop off and pick up.
No one is better of dead. I can understand and sympathize about the miserable-ness of the situation, but only you can change the situation. You can sit there and let things go on as they are and be miserable or you can stand up for yourself, get yourself out of the situation and make a better life for yourself.
All you have to do is keep on trying. That's what I do. And sometimes, yeah, I think I'd be better off dead. But you know what, there's always at least one person out there that doesn't agree with you. Life is hard, but life is precious because of it. Be strong, be brave, stand up and fight, and turn things in the direction you WANT them to go.
Good luck my friend and I hope you feel better soon.
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