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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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Hey I was wondering how you bleached your hair with clorox? Like what all you used, how much, and how long it was in your hair?? I'm very curious, I want to bleach my hair.

You NEVER use house hold cleaners to bleach your hair! House hold cleaners are toxic and have poison in them. Inhaling bleach/Clorox will make you sick, It can cause your lungs to clap, Respiratory problems and even be deadly.

If you want to bleach your hair do it the right way. Go to Sally's hair supply and by a bleach kit that is used for hair. Kits are usually no more then $10.00.

Here are some pictures of products you will need to bleach your hair properly....

This is what the kit looks like

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You can buy a packet of "Hair repair" conditioner for about $2.00 at Sally's.

Go in and talk to one of the sale representatives.

I am 16 and I'm going to be going to the gyno soon! I am still a virgin, I am going to get looked at because of a medical reason.

Anyway I am so not looking forward to this! And I don't know what it's going to be like so could you please share what it is like and be detailed. I shave so I know I am going to be shaven when I go see the docter but would it be weird if I was completely shaven like no sign of hair? I don't won't the docter to think I'm trying to look good for him or her. But I feel weird if I'm not shaven! I don't know I'm just so uncomfortable with having todo this. Did you shave? Will I be able to see the docter like in my vagina or is there something in between us?
Help please!!!:(

Listen Sweetie,

If you feel the need to shave then yes you can do so. What usually happens is they will give you a johnny to change into. You will have to undress from the waste down. The doctor will come in and talk to you, Likely explaining what they will do seeing it's your first time. They will have you lay on a stretcher and put your feet up on metal plates. Then the Gyno will take a sample and you will be all done.

Now it is normal to be nervous, Just try and stay calm. Trust me, You are not the only one they seen! They are used too it. They do it all the time and you to them are just another client. If you feel more comfortable you can request a female doctor. Just make sure to call the doctors office ahead of time and let them know you would like a female. It is a bit uncomfortable but does not hurt and usually very quick. It's basically a in and out sort of thing and it's only once a year.

My boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for 2 yrs. We loved each other a lot but often had fights over little things & he would temporary break up with me (like me refusing to eat fish-which is a very imp part of his culture). It was a Saturday and my last exam was over, i couldn't wait to spend the evening with him. We were having a very nice evening when i passed a comment about his family having no property of their own and staying in a rented apartment. This upset him a lot and he broke up with me. We had no contact for a week and i missed him. The following Saturday evening, he stopped by to collect his stuff from my place when i cried & apologized but he stuck to his decision. He was going to a pub with his friends (two guys). I felt sad and depressed that night and requested him to let me come along too to which he agreed. i tried getting his attention the whole time there but he ignored me & spoke to his friends about another girl he found hot and how she'd be a perfect fit in the family. I was heart broken & i allowed myself to get absolutely drunk and while they were dropping me back home, my boyfriend sat in front with one of his friends who was driving while i sat behind with the other..now i dont remember anything in the car but he saw me give his frnd a peck on his lips from the rear view mirror.The next day he calls me all sorts of names, tells his parents too..he said he would've gotten back if i hadn't done this..he says i cheated on him and i must be his bitch and get out of my skin to get him back. Its been 2 months now and he hasn't gotten back but treats me like his bitch. I have quit drinking out of my own will. i really love the guy, what must i do?

I sort of disagree with the user below me, I see two sides to the situation.

From what you wrote here :(like me refusing to eat fish-which is a very imp part of his culture).:

Then again here :he ignored me & spoke to his friends about another girl he found hot and how she'd be a perfect fit in the family.:

It sounds to me that he is looking for someone that he can share his culture with. Is he by any chance religious?...

Anyway, Onto my advice

Seriously, End the relationship. This relationship is childish and immature on both of your behalves. This guy is looking for someone to share culture beliefs with not someone who is going to refuse to eat fish when it is one of his traditions.

On the other hand, Making a comment about how his family lives in apartment is sort of a bit rude on your part. I would even be a little offended if someone made a remark about my parents living situation. Some people are just sensitive when it comes to their parents. However, I would be upset but would I go as far as dumping you over it? No.

Your boyfriend is immature, Only an ass would drag along his girlfriend to make her feel like shit in front of his friends. Why did you even ask to tag along to begin with? He broke up with you. If someone breaks up with you then you should never ask to tag along as all it will do is make the situation more uncomfortable. Move on from him, You should of learned your lesson by now. If he has dumped you over petty things and talked about other women in front of his friends while you were there then it's pretty obvious he doesn't want to be in the relationship. Do yourself a favor, Cut contact and end it

I have recently started going on dates with many guys, as well as making new friendships. Now I have four guys who are all interested in me, but I do not know which one to go for. I am very athletic ad adventurous, outgoing, chill, person. So the first guy is older than me, he is a different nationality, very good looking, I met all his friends and they're all really great. He just isn't as adventurous as I am. The second guy is also older but we have alot in common. I have known him for along time but I never thought o us dating ever throughout the years of knowing him. So maybe I'm not that into him? The third has gotten me into fishing, he likes hiking with me and loves my dogs as much as I do. Te fourth is my age, cute ad we have alot of similarities, he also broke up with his girlfriend after he had started talking to me, and he was discussing it with me before, he is also someone I have known for a long time. I am also a 19years old.

Why are you dating so many guys at once?

Personally, I would go with who you can see yourself with and whom you may relate too the most. However, I'd chill out a bit on dating so many guys. I'm not trying to be an ass but from an outsiders perspective it could give off the wrong impression. Anyway, To help you out a little bit I think maybe this one may be a good one.

"he second guy is also older but we have alot in common. I have known him for along time but I never thought o us dating ever throughout the years of knowing him"

Sometimes the best relationships start off with knowing someone for awhile. I would definitely give that guy a shot but if you do, Please tell the other guys you are in a relationship and avoid the drama. From now on if you want to date, Just do one guy at a time.

Hi, whenever we go out he starts looking at the other women or girls but in home he makes me feel like i'm a princess. he's in his late 40's and single father and i'm in my mid 30's. when we started to date he was so sweet and kissing me all the time and holding hands. we love each other and we live together. so guys, my question is he obviously has a roving eyes that means is he wanting to cheat or is he just wishing that he could have a one night with those women? i mean i have jokingly told him that he has a very roving eyes and he replied, only looking not touching so it doesn't better. what does he mean? thanks.

Men are always going to glance from time to time but to do it in obvious ways where it becomes bothersome to their partner is not okay.

You need to sit down and talk to him about how you feel and how what he is doing bothers you. If he is in a relationship with you then really, he should have no reason to be looking at every women that walks by. That is rude and a bit ignorant.

Be upfront with him and let him know that it bothers you and makes you feel insecure. If you both have been together for 2 years then you should have no problem being opened about your feelings.

I'm 30. Years old and I have a 7year old and a4year old about 10 months ago I got clean from drugs I had a really bad year of using and I left my husban he took the boys down south to get a way from everything so now that I'm clean I have had the boys up every few months the thing is I have another child 7 months ago and the ex husban has wanted me to not tell the boys fearing they would not understand. Well my boys are going to be coming up on Monday and I have already told my ex I can't hide him anymore so when they get here I'm going to stay at my Moms and leave the baby with his dad and spend a day with just them my question is how do I tell them about there half brother I just don't want to hurt my boys anymore then I already have but I can't hide there brother from them please help

I agree with Solid, Just introduce them.

Do not explain to them that you were on drugs, Children do not understand that and also at 4 and 7 yrs that is sort of inappropriate to try and explain to such young children. They do not need to know that period

Just explain to them that they have a sibling.

how i made my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me

You cannot MAKE anyone have sex with you, That is rape and it is a crime. Have some respect or watch her walk. If you think along these terms then good luck finding someone who will stick around.

Relationships are about partnership too not just sex.

My skin tone is like this:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/81389812@N03/7457233430/in/photostream

I already have the same colored hair as her. I want to have 2 colors in my hair. Are there any other colors that match my skin tone?

Red would look nice

i have been married for over 20 years,that has been many ups and downs.i was 45 years old,and she was 19 when we met.our getting together is a story of its own.My question is all through our marriage i have caught her either having affairs with other men,are trying to have an affair with someone.Of course she denys everything but it is very clear to me and anyone who has eyes that it is going on,there is no doubt in anyones mind that it gos on constantly.I think it has lots to do with how she was raised.an other story there too.She was brought up in a home that had no respect for truth,honer are morals.My question is she absolutly knows that i know what she is doing its as plain as night an day.But she will deny any of the relationships until its almost drives me wild.again there is no doubt she is doing this,and she knows i know it,yet she will deny everything until it drives me crazy.this is not an old guy with a big imagination.i could get 10 people to tell you the same thing.she has no girlfreinds,and no other close freinds,i have had women that work with her ask me why she doesn't want a freind.She is very forward with men,she has initionated all her relationships.She does it much like a man does when he wants to flirt are make out with a woman,she does the mans role.If she wants a certain man she will hustle him at all cost,This is a thing that would take writing a book on to understand,but the thing that really gets me is she will lie with out even thinking of the consiqinceses of her actions.She is aware that everyone knows the truth but its like she is thinking,if i do not admit it they will never know the truth.I have called her puyscotic but thats not it,her father was a habitual lier and all knew it including her.He had no freinds in his life and i think thats where her trouble starts,its like someone has taught her that as long as you deny it it is not a lie.This would be a interesting study for a doctor to get into,as you can tell by my spelling i'm not the head of the class but i'm not imagining this it is happening every day.it just blows my mind that when she is caught lying,she will never let on that she was.And one other thing i want to make clear,this is not a jealous husband with an over active mind,this is a true story and a very interesting one at that.if i had room to write of just one incident it would prove what i'm trying to get across.I will try anyway,one night she and another lady were sitting around visiting and talking,She had a phone call,an in minutes she came up with a reason she had to run to the store for something that sounded ridiculous,she left and the mstore was close enough she could have walked,yet she was goned over an hour,when i called her she said she had to go to another store to find what she wanted,I asked where this store was,she was suppose to be in the store looking for her item,we have been living in thism area all our life.she told me the street she was on,but she did not know the name of the store,i was going to tell her where to go are what ever,but she couldn't tell me anything,i said is there anyone in there that could help you.*(By this time i knew what was going on,)she said there wasn't anyoned around that could help her.So knowing what was going on,i started to mess with her,since i knew this was all being made up,she was somewhere with this guy that had called earlier,i mstarted making it hard for her,i said just ask the person at the register ,she said something rediculos,we had already discussed there was no one in the store but her.i asked her serveral things until anyone else would have given up and said ok you caught me,but she would never do that,i let her know that she was not mtelling me the truth,she said mshe was,but she was confused.i could tell that someone was talking to her as we talked,anyway this was getting so rediclous it was ashame,Later after some more looking into this thing,(this is mjust one of many)it came out that she had met this guy at his apartment close by and all the time i was talking to her she was having sex with him.This must be a turn on for her because it has happened many times since.talking to me and having sex woth someone else.Your big,question is i'm sure why am still with this woman knowing what i know??That is a good question but can't be explained in so many ways.i do love her,and i am now 70 years old,i am washed up as going out this late in,life and finding someone else,we have a son now thats 22 years old and he and his wife just had a beautiful baby girl that i am so in love with it is unreal.it would kill my business which she has done my billing and all for years,i would never be able to get into all that and figure whatmis what,there are many reasons i have tolerated it for so long.My health is bad at this time and she is in the medical field,she knows more about my health than i do.there is lots of personal reasons i put up with this,but yet the desire to have her ever come clean and just madmit it is all true is what i would like to see.It has been onteresting for me to see all this take place for many years now,and i just wondered if there are others out there like this and what medical class you would put them in,besides lier.Please someone answer my question,my email address is genostaxi@gmail.com i will be waiting for your answer, THANKS FOR READING MY MESS,IF YOU CAN GET THROUGH MY MISTAKES IN SPELLING MAND GRAMMER.IF THERE WAS A SPELL CHECK I WOULD USE IT,BUT CAN'T FIND ONE HERE. BYE NOW GOD BLESS EVERYONE

Give your wife an ultimatum - Marriage Counseling or Divorce

Yes, I am too curious to why you are still married too her? This women is burning you out mentally and emotionally. From the sound of it your wife has been having affairs for a good long time now. Also, She continues to do it because you are allowing her to do it. Sit her down and discuss your marriage status, You tell her your concerns. If she isn't willing to seek professional help and change her ways then file for divorce. I'll be honest but that may just be the best thing you could do for yourself right about now.

im 33 male. dated a 28 yr old girl for 1 yr and 8 months. she has a 9 yr old son. broke up this january. we had a lot of petty fights etc as time went on. abt a month ago i entered into a new relationship. she had done so as well (her new bf has been in and out of jail). i told her it was a bad idea and we fought throught text. they broke up and she informed me. last week she texted thanking me for my help as shes finishing nursing school. we have been texting a bit more often nothing ridiculous. texted a lot sunday and i sais i wanted her back. she said come over im lonely and want to have sex w u but no relationship. i did so, and spent the night cuddling, had breakfast etc. i told my current gf that i have feelings for my ex and need to step back a lot. my ex and i went for lunch yesterday. i keep saying ive learned a lot and wed do better. she is resisting my approaches but hints at future sexual meetings or maybe hanging out. i know i want her back but am emotional abt it and she sees it. what do i do??

Why did you enter a relationship if you weren't completely over your ex?

My honest opinion, Your ex is nothing but a home wrecker. This women clearly does not want nothing more then a friends with benefits at the time. You didn't work out the first time, You likely won't work out the second time either. The reason I believe so is because she isn't looking for anything serious, You are a booty call. I really do believe with Rahzie it is a shitty thing to do to lead someone on. The women you were dating could of very well been the start of something new and good but you sort of blew that one.

One of the golden rules, You never befriend an ex. Unless you are the father of her son or there are parental issues between the two of you then there should be NO reason to be in contact with her. Also on a side note, If you were not dating her then whether it is a good idea or not you have no right too tell her whom she should and should not date. She moved on, You should of done the same.

You are pulling strings here and setting yourself up for another break up. If you want an emotional relationship then end it and find someone who is willing to give you the same and stop contacting your ex whom is nothing but drama.

Might sound weird. I'm M/17. I met a 12 year old girl on playstation. I didn't even know how old she was. Its kinda getting annoying and awkward. She emails me once in a while. The worst part is the texting, she texts me like all day. How can I get her to calm down? Without making her feel bad? Like I'll be with my friends or family and I get constant texts. Then its kinda awkward because shes like 12. And a 12 year old texting a 17 year old seems weird. I've known her for about a year too. I don't wanna be mean but...you know...its kinda annoying.

You don't have to be mean about it but you need to be stern.

This girl may have a crush on you. (Possibility) and you are right it is kind of weird. This girl is a child and she is way to young to be taking interest in someone who is 5 years her senior.

Now, In a blunt but not so harshly way you could say this; "I enjoy talking to you but I find the text messaging a little impulsive can you please tone it down" Hopefully she'll get the message but again as you stated she is a 12 year old kid. If she doesn't get it then just tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and you want her to stop.

I'm looking for 2 hair colors

My skin tone is like this:

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If you are looking for a change then I would say a dark brown. Maybe add some blonde or red highlights

20/f I've had a boyfriend for over a year. We usually do everything together, but some of my college friends have asked me to go out with them, specifically one of my good (girl) friends from school. She wants to go to a party at a house that will be coed so there will be other guys. She never said I could invite my boyfriend, would it be wrong for me to go to the party (not talk to guys flirtatiously at all) without my boyfriend? I want him to come, but I think if she wanted him to come she would have asked. I feel awkward now and I don't know what to do. Thanks

I honestly think you should ask your boyfriend to go, It is a social gathering and would be the right thing to do. If you wanted to spend one on one time with a friend then I would find that more an appropriate time to leave the boyfriend at home. It is a bit rude to not invite him to go to a party at least. If you are feeling the need for a day off from him then go out alone with the girls.

My boyfriend for 5 years is absolutely fabulous, but we have our differences. His parents are rich and way more formal compared to my living standards and it causes a lot of problems between us. His parents constantly judge my family and I, and push him to break up with me all the time. It gets to the point where they make up exscuses for us to not hangout, therefore we hardly get to see eachother and we are 17. it has been five years and they still wont accept him dating me! He always bails and flakes out on plans we make and it stinks. I come close to just letting them win and breaking up with him because it's like a 6th grade relationship if we never get to hangout and just make phone calls and text all the time, I want that boyfriend who can be there for me all the time and is over constantly. I feel bad for wanting to end it because he truly is a wonderful guy, just his parents are ruining it for us.

what should I doo?? I love him but i dont know if it's worth all the trouble and getting canceled on 30 minutes before every date..

If you have been dating for 5 years and they have not excepted you, Then they likely never will.

It is unfortunate but sometimes certain people tend to judge a book by the cover. You ever heard that old saying "You marry one, You marry the whole family?" Yes, Indeed it is very true. Sometimes people try and make a relationship work but the truth is the family baggage of disapproval and gossip is only going to drag your relationship further and further down. The stress and pressure is going to drain the hell out of the both of you. I know you are both very young but imagine this...

If you ever did end marrying someone who's family disapproves of both you and your family. There would be no family gathering, Likely you will have a nice portion of yours of his family that isn't willing to participates in special occasions. This is one of the reasons my last relationship didn't work out the only difference between you and I is that religion got in the way. You stated at the very end that his parents are ruining it for the both of you. Sweetie, They are going to continue to do so until they finally get what they want. If they have been making life miserable for the both of you then they may continue as they've been doing so long.

Now there are 2 options; Your boyfriend can have a sit down with his family and explain that he cares for you a lot and that he feels they are ruining his happiness and see if they come around. Or B, You can just save yourself the hassle and stress and just move on.

Remember, If he does end up talking to his family this isn't just about YOU it's about excepting where you came from as well.

However, I will be blunt if this has been going on for five years. I'd personally be at the end of my wits and I'd probably just end it. If you do not have their approval in all this time you will never truly get their approval whether he talks to them or not.

I don't know if it is ok to have sex in the shower without a condom is it safe could I catch an STD from the shower water?

If you are sexually active, Then yes you can catch an STD water does not prevent this. Also, Yes you should always wear a condom as again water does not protect you from that either. Be safe

So, I'm going to be 20 in a few months,so I'm not a teenager (though I feel far too young to be a parent!) and my boyfriend who i have known for a year but we have gotten serious the past few months has been saying he wants children with me one day.
I'm at university at the moment, and I love children I'm studying to become a child psychologist in fact! so he said while I study, no children at all but still, 22 doesn't seem old enough to be raising a family!

I know it's all a big "what if" and "you may not be together" but I have a feeling we will still be with each other after my course is done.
He has one child which may or may not be his (I am very doubtful personally) and I know he is a good father to him... But still, the idea of having children terrifies me and sends chills down my spine, idk if I'd be a good mother and I am certain I don't want to go through all that pregnancy malarkey, is that a normal feeling? Do you agree that 22 isn't the right age to have children?

Also, when does it become a danger to have them, for all my fears I do WANT a family, I just don't want to wait until it will all go wrong! help please

You are not ready to be a mother at this time.

This is not a matter of "What if" it's a matter of bringing a child into the world and knowing you cannot properly raise it at this time. If your boyfriend wants children then that's great but he should cool off on the talking of being parents. At least wait until you are financially stable and out of college.

Children aren't just a cute little thing, They are a lot of responsibility. They are expensive as hell and they are a 24.7 full time job. The real questions you should be asking yourself is if you live on your own, financially stable, Do you own a car?, Are you able to put food in your house? This isn't a lecture these are all things that you need to think about before even bringing a child into this world. You want a family but yet you have years to worry about that. Seriously, Do what's best for you and the child and wait until you have more stability in your life. Right now worry about college not kids

hi i am 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, we were so close and had a relationship that our friends were jealous of, i cant think of 1 person that would say our relationship wasnt good.we were like best friends, things started changing a couple of months ago i noticed he was taking cocaine and some other drugs he did do this before but not to this extent.he was more withdrawn from me and we literally do nothing together apart from he will come stay at my house come round at 11pm then its literally straight to sleep, like he has no interest, i havent let myself go i take pride in my appearence and look after myself but it seems he just doesnt see me in that way any more, he says he loves me and i do believe him, i just think he's "settled", things also got bad when he would say he was doing his own thing e.g on friday which is fair enough but then i would call him saturday and their would be no answer and it would be like this for up to 4 days. when he eventually text me he would say he was sorry and the reason he didnt answer is cos he knew i would be pissed.(which i do believe) anyway he didnt speak to me for four days and then i get a text saying im sorry u dont deserve this im an idiot i think its best that we split up u deserve better than this. personally i think this is down to the drugs and the extreme amounts of alcohol he would consume when out with his friends he would literally drink untill hes asleep in the street, i just think he cant stop but wont admit it, he only drinks at the weekends but i honestly thought i would marry this guy and i dont want to throw it all away, i know i cant go on being neglected like this but on the other hand i wanna fight for us and get him to see someone any advice?

The only way to help or save your relationship is if your boyfriend seeks professional help for his drinking. Your boyfriend has to want to change and be willing to except the help, You cannot do it for him. If he isn't willing to help himself then yes, you should move on.

His binge drinking is going to in time wear you down, stress you and before you know it you are the only one fighting for whatever is there. Relationships are 50/50 and they take team work. Your relationship will not work if it's a one man game. The best you can do is try and talk to him when he is somewhat sober. Do not point out his flaws just explain that you are concerned about his well being and how it's effecting you. If he doesn't seem to want to reason or listen to you then yes, It's time to part ways.

Ok well I know that I'm being stupid and all but yeah I told my mom and my teacher about it and yea they believed me but I still feel scared and cofused,alone,uncomftable I still cry so much and my brother in law is still out there my mom doesn't report it! I don't want my mom to know I'm upset because its awkward talking to her.sometimes I feel as if I want to comit suicide but I know its wrong. The only person I feel comftable letting them know how I feel is my best friend and my teacher.like its not like I can go to a counslir because I don't want my mom to know that I'm not ok.by the way I'm 12 he's 32 and he started when I was 9 turning 10.I told them about a month ago about this but yeah I cry myself to sleep every single night:(I hate my life!

If your mother won't do anything to protect you, Then you need to tell another trusted adult who will. If you are in fear, You NEED to tell someone. Many people who are sexually abused need counseling or a type of therapy to help them cope.

Yes, You did the right thing by telling someone. It's not stupid at all to vent out how you feel about someone who violated you. You are a victim of sexual abuse and you have the right to be safe just like everyone else. I would recommend talking to a school guidance and let them know what happened and your worries.

Ok, I had my first boyfriend about 3 and a half years ago. We were purely a 'hugging' couple, never even kissed. I left the country for a month then we met up again the weekend before school started and everything was fine. On the very first day of school, he barely looked or talked to me. He broke up with me 3 weeks later. I wasn't upset, just a little put out, but I accepted the fact. A year later, he started liking me again (infuriating me) but stupidly, I asked him if he wanted to go out again. The second time around was far more physical and I began to lose interest steadily. The day after he told me he loved me, he found out I was losing interest and confronted me about it. It was then we broke up. He took it really hard, even told me he contemplated stepping in front of a train.
I went away for a year after this and when I saw him again, he seemed fine, was able to talk to me normally and everything. However, because of that pain I caused, I can never see myself in a relationship again. Help? (Sorry for the novel-like question, just want all the facts there :))

You are wasting your time with this guy. Allowing yourself to keep crawling back to him is going to prolong your pain. You hurt because you have not given yourself time to get over him. Sometimes in order to move on you need to keep your distance from them. Focus on you and find someone better

ok so I'm a 12 year old girl and I met this guy on facebook he said he's 13 and we never met but ya he started like talking to me sexualy but then he said he's 15 and I didn't mind and he got my number and asked for naked pix and I sent them well after a while he said he's 18 and stil I didn't mind and he started sending me pix and stuff and he said he's 20 then 25 and now he wants to meet up but I'm scared he's older and say now he's like a really old perve and rapes me ! Flip I'm scared must I go and trust his age? How do I know how old he really is?

You NEVER EVER send photo's of yourself to people you do not know. Even if they send you a photo or claim to be a certain age. I am now convinced that this man is a pedophile looking to nab young girls off the internet. I can't begin to tell you how many sick and perverted people use facebook as a target. I am not trying to scare you but your photo you've sent will probably be seen by many many people and not just the person you were hoping it would go too. Yes, You should be a bit nervous but here is how you handle the situation.

You need to contact Facebook and let them know what this guy has done.

You can do this Here:

http://www.facebook.com/help/?page=178608028874393&ref=hcnav

Second: You must let you parents know that you are being harassed through facebook. Be upfront and honest with them, You tell them you gave them your photo and phone number. It's a hell of a lot better to face the consequences from your parents then to risk your own safety.

You NEED to change your phone number, That number COULD go to many many other perverts or even worse get leaked onto the internet in the wrong places.

You NEED to set your privacy settings on facebook so that ONLY people you know can contact you. Also BLOCK him do not reply to his messages or even phone calls. You can block him by going to his facebook and under "message" it will say block. Next, I would also warn all your friends on facebook so that they can be safe as well and won't try to target you through friends.

You can do this here: Log into facebook and go to "Account" upper right hand corner and click the privacy settings. If you do not understand how to do this then have an adult help you with it.

This is a lesson, Please do NOT do it again. You just put yourself in danger.

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