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Binge drinking boyfriend
hi i am 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, we were so close and had a relationship that our friends were jealous of, i cant think of 1 person that would say our relationship wasnt good.we were like best friends, things started changing a couple of months ago i noticed he was taking cocaine and some other drugs he did do this before but not to this extent.he was more withdrawn from me and we literally do nothing together apart from he will come stay at my house come round at 11pm then its literally straight to sleep, like he has no interest, i havent let myself go i take pride in my appearence and look after myself but it seems he just doesnt see me in that way any more, he says he loves me and i do believe him, i just think he's "settled", things also got bad when he would say he was doing his own thing e.g on friday which is fair enough but then i would call him saturday and their would be no answer and it would be like this for up to 4 days. when he eventually text me he would say he was sorry and the reason he didnt answer is cos he knew i would be pissed.(which i do believe) anyway he didnt speak to me for four days and then i get a text saying im sorry u dont deserve this im an idiot i think its best that we split up u deserve better than this. personally i think this is down to the drugs and the extreme amounts of alcohol he would consume when out with his friends he would literally drink untill hes asleep in the street, i just think he cant stop but wont admit it, he only drinks at the weekends but i honestly thought i would marry this guy and i dont want to throw it all away, i know i cant go on being neglected like this but on the other hand i wanna fight for us and get him to see someone any advice?
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The only way to help or save your relationship is if your boyfriend seeks professional help for his drinking. Your boyfriend has to want to change and be willing to except the help, You cannot do it for him. If he isn't willing to help himself then yes, you should move on.
His binge drinking is going to in time wear you down, stress you and before you know it you are the only one fighting for whatever is there. Relationships are 50/50 and they take team work. Your relationship will not work if it's a one man game. The best you can do is try and talk to him when he is somewhat sober. Do not point out his flaws just explain that you are concerned about his well being and how it's effecting you. If he doesn't seem to want to reason or listen to you then yes, It's time to part ways.
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