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my boyfriend of 2 years has a roving eyes. help!
Hi, whenever we go out he starts looking at the other women or girls but in home he makes me feel like i'm a princess. he's in his late 40's and single father and i'm in my mid 30's. when we started to date he was so sweet and kissing me all the time and holding hands. we love each other and we live together. so guys, my question is he obviously has a roving eyes that means is he wanting to cheat or is he just wishing that he could have a one night with those women? i mean i have jokingly told him that he has a very roving eyes and he replied, only looking not touching so it doesn't better. what does he mean? thanks.
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I don't think he's planning on cheating of you or even thinking he wants one night with those women. It just means he's noticing other people who are attractive. It would bother me. If he's staring, that's a problem. If he's just glancing, that's fine. It just means that he's a man and he's into women. But if he makes it obvious that he's checking some other women, it's rude.
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I am a firm believer that those who have eyes will look, and that it is fine to notice and appreciate the physicality of those around you. It doesn't necessarily mean someone is more prone to cheat than anyone else.
However, if he does this to extent that you notice and that he is completely aware of his 'roving eyes' then he is likely crossing the line from 'noticing pretty people' to 'being rude'.
What he means when he says "Only looking not touching" very simply that he doesn't think he is being rude, either to you, or to the women he is admiring.
He probably doesn't want to cheat. He probably isn't even giving it enough thought to 'want one night'. Most likely, he's just distracted by something shiny.
But it's worth reminding him that staring is rude. Staring is rude when you are staring a crazy person or an ugly person, and it's rude when you are staring at pretty people. No one expects him to never look at an attractive person again, but out of respect for you, for the strangers he's looking at, and most importantly, to set a good example for his children (especially if there is a are little girl) he should make a greater effort to check this behavoir.
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Men are always going to glance from time to time but to do it in obvious ways where it becomes bothersome to their partner is not okay.
You need to sit down and talk to him about how you feel and how what he is doing bothers you. If he is in a relationship with you then really, he should have no reason to be looking at every women that walks by. That is rude and a bit ignorant.
Be upfront with him and let him know that it bothers you and makes you feel insecure. If you both have been together for 2 years then you should have no problem being opened about your feelings.
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Hello,obviously you guys are in a serious relationship,and him looking at other girls is not okay,especially when youre around,i mean some guys that are in a relationship look at other girls,but they do that when their girlfrnd or wife isnt around.I think you should talk seriously about it,youre both mature responsible adults,and it might be a big deal in the future.So talk to him and be honest,let him know how you feel about it,some guys do it unconsciously,try to open up to him,because the most important factor in a relationship is trust.You cant worry about him looking at other girls or cheating on you all the time.Bottom line,be honest and speak your mind,hopefully he will be understanding and take what you told him into consideration.goodluck.hope i helped
A.I
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