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Member Since: June 26, 2012
Answers: 24
Last Update: January 31, 2013
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Is it rude for my girl to call and text other guys in front of me? I tell her that its disrespectful an ask her not to do it an she gets all mad an defensive ahe says all they are is friends. I mean they get morr attention than I do. (link)
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Honestly,it is rude fo her to do that in front of you.I mean if she wants to talk to her guy friends when shes in a relationship,the least she can do istalk to them ehen shes not around you.If this bothers you,then i think you two should seriously should talk about this case before your relationship gets distant.I also think that if your relationship is close and intimate,then you should trust her,even if she talks to several guys,you should know that your relationship is ganna be the same.But if this matter us bothering you,then put an end to it,or at least make her reduce her calls with her guy friends.
Goodluck :)xx
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I notice that I have a social problem. I'm very kept to myself and it's not very inviting to people who want to get to know me. How do I become more social? It's kind of hard for me to make friends because I don't like to go out much. I'm an architecture student, so having social skills is necessary especially when presenting our project. But when I have free time, I like to catch up on my sleep. I don't understand how other architecture students can do it, but they go out and party and have fun even if they spent the previous night doing an all-nighter. I'm also more of a listener than a talker, but when I listen to people talk... I often don't relate to them because I really think that there are ways they could have prevented the situation but if I say that then in a way I'm telling them that they are wrong. Who wants to be told their wrong? Most people who talk about their problems are seeking some sort of comfort and are looking for support. If I agree with them, I'm truly not speaking my mind, but if I speak my mind then they won't agree with me. I don't appreciate that I have to put up a front to talk to other people, and it gets exhausting. Sometimes we connect and I can relate to them, and it feels like I'm free. But most of the time I just don't care to speak my mind. (link)
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At first its hard to come out of your comfort zone and express yourself,but sometimes taking that small step amd getting out of your comfort zone is whats ganna give you the strength to be a social and gregarious person.especially in our modern world,you have to be around people and meet people and talk and get to know people to get to where you wanna be.So try taking that step and getting into the outside world and talk to different people with different points of view.Therescso much you can learn with peoples experiences and knowledge.You have to be self confident and sure of your thoughts and personality and you have to know what you truly want in life in order to be the person you have to be.When takking to people understand their view pounts and circumstances and try to help them and give them advice without being rude.
Goodluck
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I have known my fiancé for about 4 years now, in that time he has become my other half, my light, love, and joy. Sadly he had to move away due to work and it has become harder and harder to even talk. I feel torn apart because I miss him so much and it doesn't feel like it used to anymore, dating and all. I trust him, and know he would never cheat. I'm not worried about that. I'm scared of the loneliness I feel every night without him. I don't think about other men, just him. But it tears my heart apart knowing I can't reach him as easily as before. I know I would rather be lonely then not have him at all but I also feel caged. What can I do to get over this sadness? I feel like I've been trying to avoid it but now it's bubbling up... (link)
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hey,since you guys have been together for a really long time,and your relationship is very close and your used to him being there for you whenever you need him,its ganna take some time for you to get used to the fact that hes not ganna be around anymore.You have to believe that your love will remain powerful and stronger than ever,and that distance shouldn't matter in a relationship if both partners believe in their true eminent love.As for the lonely part,find something to do.Go to the gym,study,find a job,rent dvds,catch up with some old friends,have a girls night,occupy yourself with things that make you happy and content. Dont constantly worry about whats ganna happen in the future or how yore ganna feel.Live in the present,and live your life day by day.You can Skype with your lover everyday,so its almost like seeing him everyday.Hang in there, that's all a part of life,it wont all be fun and games,you will face lots of challenges and obstacles,and the challenge is getting through them with a smile on your face,and confidence that there is a bright happy future ahead of you,with your fiance in it.goodluck!
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Okay, I am 18, female. I've known this girl all my life, basically. We went to elementary, middle and senior high school together and were put in the same home room every year because our last names both start with an S. She has been dating this guy for about two years. This guy and I talk a little, we have each other's numbers and text sometimes, rarely. I don't talk to this girl much, though. As we entered high school, she got to be popular and forgot her friends from elementary school (me.) However, tonight I went to a party. I saw her boyfriend kissing another girl, Not once, not twice, but many times and they were grinding on each other. His best friend was there and saw it all happening and didn't try to stop it. I texted my roommate and asked if she could ask the best friend if the couple is still together and he said that they were. He covered up for them and everything! As per me, I have a guilty conscience, but I don't talk to the girlfriend at all, I talk to the lying boyfriend more. I just don't know what to do. I don't think the girlfriend would believe me if I told her but I think the girlfriend has a right to know. I haven't talked to the boyfriend much lately because he's turning into a douschebag (I guess college does that to you).
I just don't know what to do. I know I would want someone to tell me if my boyfriend was cheating on me but, honestly, I don't think that I would believe the girlfriend if she just talked to me completely out of the blue and told me..
Help, please! (link)
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Hey,you can talk to the boyfriend and ask him about what you saw him doing in that party.
Or,as her friend,I think you should tell her.You will help her and she will thank you in the future.start with a sweet introduction,like we've know each other for a long time now and I would never do anything to hurt you,because I care about you I have to tell you something.She will be sad,depressed and angry,but its better to find it out from you than another hurtfull way.
Or you can stay out of it.Just pretend nothing happened.Suppose the boyfriend was drunk and didn't know what he was doing.You don't know the whole story.Maybe they have an open relationship,or they were on a brake.Avoid the drama and focus on your life.
Whatever you decide to do,goodluck
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My sister and I always argue. I recently got engaged and she didnt seem to care, congratulated me two weeks later by text. She always seems to find excuses for her actions, never apologize for her actions, says hurtful things and really does not care about anyone but herself. I have approached her numerous times to try and fix the tension between her and I, tell her how I feel about things but never works, we will be ok for a couple of days then argue about something. She is always right and thats it, it never goes anywhere, even when shes wrong. I'm not sure at this point what to do but have given up and just fed up with her actions towards me. (link)
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Hi,i have a sister myself,and i understand what you're going through.Sometimes,this kind of tension and the fights that occur between sisters is probably because of jealousy.maybe your sister just doesn't feel good enough,or she feels like your life is better than hers,so that's stressing her out,and just making her distant from you.I know that you have tried talking to her,and expressing how you truly feel about your relationship,but try understanding her point of view,like let her tell you whats wrong in your relationship and let her provide the solutions in order to fix them,maybe if you try to fix your relationship according to her terms you guys will have a loving tight bond.Having a sister is a blessing,only if you know and understand how to deal with it.Trust your sister,get her advice,let her know that shes a valuable and important factor in your life,and that you need her.Then,she will want to stick around you more,and you guys will be close.Communication always works,you just gotta know how to approach you sister.Try talking about the things that you both love,and make a conversation about that.Goodluck.
A.I
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I am currently a cheerleader in high school, and it's very time consuming. Music/singing is one thing I love more than anything. For me to be able to follow my dreams I would have to give up another thing that I love. I'm confused on what ro do, and I need advice. Music is my dream and love. But cheerleading is my life. (link)
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hey, you're in high school now,so i think you should focus on cheer leading and enjoy it while it lasts.And when you graduate from high school,go follow your dream of singing.In that way,you will get to do both and be happy.You cant achieve all your dreams at once,take one step at a time and enjoy everything while it lasts.
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So the past few years I've slowly began to accept the fact I am interested in both men and women. Not a lot of people know this, only my best friend and my boyfriend know. I really would like to tell my family, because it sucks not being myself and hiding a part of who I am from them. My father is a huge religious nut, he is very strict and self righteous, which I don't mind, I mean, it's his life.
But, he always sits and bashes and says rude things about people of other orientations, saying it's a sick abomination, his work had a float in the LGBT pride parade, he was disgusted and refused to take part. I've been thinking of coming out and telling him, part of me likes to believe he'd become more lenient and accepting, but the other part of me knows he's be disgusted and disappointed in me, it scares me and I don't know what to do, it took me forever to tell the people I told and I just want to stop hiding. (link)
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Hey,I think you should just go for it!Of course it won't be easy,but who said life was easy?Nothing we do is ever easy.You shouldn't have to pretend to be someone you're not,ever especially infront of your family.Your family and friends should be able to respect the decisions you make and support your decisions and lifestyle,as long as you choose how you want to live your life wisely.Go to your mom first,and see reaction,and explain to her how you truely feel,your 19,she needs to understand that you're an adult,and she can also help your dad cope with who you decided to be.After your parents know,telling the rest of the world should be easier because you know that no matter what happens you will always have your family to back you up.It won't be easy,and some people might be rude and judgemental,but you have to get back up and fight the criticism that you might get.Be strong,be you and don't ever try to be someone you're not.Goodluck.
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hi i just turned 12 7/28/12 im a female,
ok so it was my bday and can you believe this??
ok well me and ma dad havent talked for about 6 months because of boy problems hAha...
any way he wont talk 2 me and he says im a hoe which im NOT but i was really excited i was expecting a call from him to say “happy bday” but noooooooo call:”( the only person that called me was his wife that is like a mother to me;}
but i dont know what 2 do i miss him but he is an irresponsible father that doesnt even care about his children except 4 2. and im not one of them:•{
any advice because i wish i never even was born because of all the things i suffer:/
THANXS!!! i appreciate your advice;>} (link)
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Hey,try talking to your dad and telling him how you feel about this situation.Express your true feeling to him,and let him know that you need him in your life.Tell him that his absence upsets you,and that you need him there for you.And after that,if he still doesn't talk to you,then I think you should just let him figure out that he also needs you in his life.Atleast you will know that you tried hard and didn't give up easily.be strong no matter what.
Goodluck
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Okay,
So at the moment I'm 17 but look 15. I want to change my image up abit partly to look older and also to be taken more seriously at college as I feel people judge me as I look younger.
I like the rock chick kind of look as it wont make me look so dreamy...what would anyone suggest I wear?! (link)
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Hey,I know how you feel since the same thing happens to me.The first thing that makes people guess your age is you appearance.You have to choose clothes that make you look older.You have to buy a whole new wardrobe and change your style.Buy blazers,they're classy and stylish.Wear heels,they make you look taller,they shape your legs,and they're fashionable.Your style should be like "hannah" in the series pretty little liars.Both classy and stylish,But not too classy,something a teenager can wear and relate to.The clothes you wear affect your personality and represent who you are in life.Also,try putting on simple classy makeup,like lauren conrad for example,her makeup is classy yet simple.Go to your hair salon and ask him which hairstyle suits you best,and makes you look older.
Ps,don't be upset if someone mistakes you for a 15 year old,trust me in the future you will wish you were 15.
Goodluck.
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Hey, what can I do to get rid of my split ends? (link)
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Hey,cut your hair at the hairdresser.And try to keep it healthy afterwards,avoid straightening and curling it too much,or using hairspray,just keep it natural,it stays healthier.
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I am 18/F and I'm still a virgin, I know now a days that's "something to be proud of" and I should want to wait forthat right person and blah blah but I don't want to wait, it's not because of society, or peer pressure or else I would've already done it by now, but I want to have sex, I'm ready I just don't know how to accomplish this goal. I've only had one boyfriend when I was 16 and I wasnt ready then. What should I do so I can finally have sex? (link)
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Hey,I know that you've heard it all before and everyone keeps on repeating the same advice about finding the right person to do it with and waiting blablabla.But,stop and think it through.Seriously this time think it through.There are tons of guys out there that would die to have sex with just any girl.Just go to the bar,choose a random guy,ask him to have sex with you and he will say yes without even thinking about it,and yes its that easy to have sex.But the point here isn't just having sex,and living the experience,its having sex and living the experience with that amazing person right that respects you and takes care of your body.once you've lost your virginity,you can't take it back.So its a one time,no turing back desicion.You have to know that your partner is ganna be there for you during and afterwards.You have to look at it as an unforgetable amazing experience,so seriously think it through.I hope you find a guy that treats you the way you should be treated,and loves you truely,and then after you knew that you can trust and rely on him,ask him to have sex with you if you feel that that's the right thing to do. Goodluck.
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Hi, we have been dating for 2 years. we love each other and we live together. he's a single father. he's defensive of his ex (well, that's what i reckon) and when i refer his ex girlfriend as an ''ex'' he says he doesn't think of her as his ''ex'' he says, she's the mother of his child and i say but she's still your ex because they broke up long time ago. so, guys my question is, is he still loves his ex or what is it? thank you all. (link)
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Hey,I think in this situation you have to be honest with him and ask him if he has any feelings towards her especially since you guys have been together for 2 years,and you guys live together and your relationship is serious.Since he has a child,he will never forget his ex-wife and she might be on his mind because they have a huge thing in common,which is a child.So just know where you stand in this relationship and ask him what his ex-wife means to him.Just say what's on your mind and speak the truth,that's the only way you're ganna know how your relationship is going and how he feels about you and about his ex-wife,or as he likes to call her,the mother of his child.Goodluck.
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I'm a lesbian and 15 and I'm hanging out with my friend tomorrow. Should I come out to her and tell her because I have the urge to tell my friends and my parents already know and they're ok with me but I've never told any of my friends yet and I have this huge urge to. My parentes are just nervous for me to tell People blecaute of how homophobic People are. Should i come out? (link)
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Hello.You said it yourself,she's your friend and you have the urge to tell her,so tell her.If she's really your friend,then she will accept you the way you are.You should never pretend to be somebody you're not,especially infront of your friends.So go out,have a fun day,and after you guys have bonded and had fun,tell her that you're a lesbian,and how you feel,just let everything out,and I'm sure she will be an understanding friend.Just don't be afraid what people are ganna think,there are always ganna be haters and people will always judge us,but we have to be strong and fight,no matter how hard it is.With the people you love supporting you,and your confidence of who you are and what you want,nobody can put you down.So be proud of who you are,and don't ever change for anyone.Goodluck.
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hi.... i am a 24 yr old girl. I've been dating this guy for three years now. we don't live in the same country i think our relationship is getting worse as he thinks that i don't talk much... see.. there's nothing much happening in my life and i don't have much to speak about.. he understands this and tries to adjust but sometimes get irritated... please suggest me how can i improve my conversation on phone and keep him happy.. he gets depressed by my behavior.. i don't do it on purpose... i don't know what to do.. (link)
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Hello.You both live in defferent countries so you should have LOTS to talk about.You can talk to your boyfriend every 3 days,and in that way you will have more things to talk about with each other.Hes your boyfriend,you should be able to tell him everything and anything.When youre on the phone with him,start by telling him how much you miss him,just lead and start the convo andlet him know that you care.Ask him how his day was,and how his workis going,tell him the latest gossips,just let him feel that you care,and that hes truely apartof your life.If you really want your long distance relationship to work,you BOTH have to work for it together.Goodluck
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If i want sex with any one wat in the advise plz say. My name praveen my age 15teen and from coimbatore. In india (link)
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Hello,you are still very young and you shouldnt be thinking about sex at age 15.Get interested in other usefull and fun things that make you happy.Just dont have sex at an early age because you will end up regretting it and putting yourself in complicated situations.
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Hello, My mother and father got divorced about a year ago. I am a 12 year old and that was very tough. My mother and father did not get a long. She says "I feel more alive now, free! She has been on some dates and some people have visited but I feel that she feels free from mothering. She feels like she can just take a break from mothering now. It has a very strong affect on me. She does not want to hear the truth and shes one of those people that always think thier right. STUBBORN! Dont get me wrong I love my mom, I just wished she loved me back! What do I do, she never wants to talk? (link)
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Hello,first i have to inform you that the most valuble thing for a mother is her child.Your mother went through divorce,and it must have been hard dor her even though she didnt show it infromt of you.You should know that your mother will always love you and will always support you no matter what.Understand that people will come and go in your life,but your mom will always be there.Try talking to yor mom and expressing how you truely feel about whats going on,and you will know that she truely does love hou back.So my advice to you is to talk to her and be completely honest with her, she is your mom afterall,and listen to what she has to say.If you need anything else ask me.goodluck.hope i helped.
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Hi, whenever we go out he starts looking at the other women or girls but in home he makes me feel like i'm a princess. he's in his late 40's and single father and i'm in my mid 30's. when we started to date he was so sweet and kissing me all the time and holding hands. we love each other and we live together. so guys, my question is he obviously has a roving eyes that means is he wanting to cheat or is he just wishing that he could have a one night with those women? i mean i have jokingly told him that he has a very roving eyes and he replied, only looking not touching so it doesn't better. what does he mean? thanks. (link)
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Hello,obviously you guys are in a serious relationship,and him looking at other girls is not okay,especially when youre around,i mean some guys that are in a relationship look at other girls,but they do that when their girlfrnd or wife isnt around.I think you should talk seriously about it,youre both mature responsible adults,and it might be a big deal in the future.So talk to him and be honest,let him know how you feel about it,some guys do it unconsciously,try to open up to him,because the most important factor in a relationship is trust.You cant worry about him looking at other girls or cheating on you all the time.Bottom line,be honest and speak your mind,hopefully he will be understanding and take what you told him into consideration.goodluck.hope i helped
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So this boy I was with for about two years hasnt really been talking to me. Im kinda over him but he still crosses my mind alot. I had a dream last night about how our relationship used to be. I woke up crying. He was my first REAL boyfrined. He was my bestfriend. My everything kind of. He helped me through any and everything but how do i tell myself to move on to someone else? Without feeling like crap :/
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Hello,look since hes your first real boyfriend then its ganna be exteremely hard for you to move on.
First,you have to put in mind and truely believe that you haveno feelings for him and that you are ready to live your life without thinking of him.
Go out with your friends,go to the mall,get your nails done,have some fun,get a job,focus on your studies,occupy yourself in order not to think of him.
You can also try make new guy friends,that will help you move on and maybe have another real boyfriend.
Why would you feel like crap?its normal for you to try to move on since you guys arent together anymore,its a part of life,accepting reality and moving on for the better.
You have your whole life ahead of you,your still 14,im sure youlle meet other decent guys that will make you feel speacial.
For now,live tour teenage life,and have fun to the maximum.
Live your life wigh no regrets,life goes on and people come and go so dont worry!
Oh and if you still really love him,and have deep true feeling toward him then why dont you talk to him and show him how you truely feel about him?what have you got to lose?speak your heart out and be yourself,what if he cant move on too?
Goodluck.hope i helped.
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Okay so... I have this um, inner problem. Okay let me start by saying that I'm sixteen right mow. Okay so I've been in this small clique since seventh grade. I wont tell you names but we we're four. Me A, E and T. Okay so I was always the one that was always shadowed by the rest because of my extreme shyness. Over the years though I've managed to get over it mostly - enough to dance and act. So in eight grade E left the school because she had really low grades but we kept on going out together to places like the movies. In ninth grade A distanced herself during the second semester so it was mostly T and I. What always angered me though, was that... Well A was always perfect and T was the same and at times E and T fought over who got to sit or work with A. I of course kept quiet during all that time and I never said anything. After A started hanging out with other girls me and T became BFFF's. I know that it's really wrong of me but... She and A are always sooo perfect... I get jealous OK? A has a boyfriend and has had some others before and everybody loves her and they think she's a total angel... They both had excellence on middle school graduation, they're good at every subject, they can dance, act, sing, they are social butterflies, they're pretty, they've both had their first kisses - I havn't - and T had it with the boy I'm NOW sort of crushing on... I feel so dumb, ugly, anti-social and depressed whenever they are around. I love T she's my bfff but there are times in which I can't stand seeing her and in turn I feel like a monster... My dad and mom fight all day and my mom had a meltdown in the laboratory and thanks to that I had to get four inyections - not only did I had to take a blood test but also an MRI because I might have epilepsy - Ok I think I just had a meltdown and I have a serious headache so I'll make this clear.
What do I do? Should I act like nothing's wrong? Or... Idk answer me soon so I can stop pitying myself into a dark miserable hole :( (link)
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Hello,i know how feel.Being around perfect people (your friends) for a long time can make you doubt yourself.It can make you ask yourself am i good enough?Are they better than me?
Look hunn,your friends might seem perfect infront of you but nobody has a perfect life,they might have some family problems,or maybe health problems you dont know about,in the end nobody is perfect and everyone has faults.
The mistakes we make and our imperfections make us who we are.It doesnt matted that you mess up and your not "perfect" the important thing is getting back up and fighting for a better healthier happier life.
You should always be yourself and never try to act differently because you wanna be perfect or like A.I am sure that A does have problems,everyone does,so dont beat yourself up and dont be depressed because you think shehas a better life than you.
Everyday get up with a bright fresh smile on you face believing that you will achieve big and outstanding things in your life.After all youre just 16 and you have alot ahead of you.
As for your health,take care of it.Go to the doctor fom time to time,your health is very importnt and it will affect everything you do in life.
If you have something in mind,or something is bothering you,talk to your friends about it,after all you guys have been friends for a really long time and they have to undrstand.if it makes you feel better speak your mind,be brave,and be you.goodluck.hope i helped.
A.I
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Ok so I have actually had my first kiss before but my new boyfriend hasnt and we've been dating since november. He says he wants to kiss me before the school year ends (thursday) and I said okay but truth is im so freaking nervous =/ WHy am i nervous about this when Ive had my first kiss before? Advice? Hes really shy.. (link)
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Hello,look its normal to be nervous about your first kiss with this boy,obviously you like him so youre nervous about how its ganna feel and be between you guys.Dont be nervous,just be yourself and go for it! Kiss him as if you two are the only people in the world ,kiss him and let him know that hes the one,kiss him and enjoy it.Dont worry about a thing,and just let things be. You will see for yourself,in the end everything will turn out the way its suppose to be.And if hes shy,talk to him before you guys kiss,let everything out and express yourselves,let him feel comfortable around you,and that will make things a lot easier for your relationship and your kiss.Goodluck.Hope i helped.
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