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Should I tell her that her boyfriend cheat?
Okay, I am 18, female. I've known this girl all my life, basically. We went to elementary, middle and senior high school together and were put in the same home room every year because our last names both start with an S. She has been dating this guy for about two years. This guy and I talk a little, we have each other's numbers and text sometimes, rarely. I don't talk to this girl much, though. As we entered high school, she got to be popular and forgot her friends from elementary school (me.) However, tonight I went to a party. I saw her boyfriend kissing another girl, Not once, not twice, but many times and they were grinding on each other. His best friend was there and saw it all happening and didn't try to stop it. I texted my roommate and asked if she could ask the best friend if the couple is still together and he said that they were. He covered up for them and everything! As per me, I have a guilty conscience, but I don't talk to the girlfriend at all, I talk to the lying boyfriend more. I just don't know what to do. I don't think the girlfriend would believe me if I told her but I think the girlfriend has a right to know. I haven't talked to the boyfriend much lately because he's turning into a douschebag (I guess college does that to you).
I just don't know what to do. I know I would want someone to tell me if my boyfriend was cheating on me but, honestly, I don't think that I would believe the girlfriend if she just talked to me completely out of the blue and told me..
Help, please!
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Honestly I would have taken a picture and shown it to the girlfriend a picture means a thousand words. But don't do anything this time but if you catch him again then take a picture and tell her only!
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Hey,you can talk to the boyfriend and ask him about what you saw him doing in that party.
Or,as her friend,I think you should tell her.You will help her and she will thank you in the future.start with a sweet introduction,like we've know each other for a long time now and I would never do anything to hurt you,because I care about you I have to tell you something.She will be sad,depressed and angry,but its better to find it out from you than another hurtfull way.
Or you can stay out of it.Just pretend nothing happened.Suppose the boyfriend was drunk and didn't know what he was doing.You don't know the whole story.Maybe they have an open relationship,or they were on a brake.Avoid the drama and focus on your life.
Whatever you decide to do,goodluck
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My advice stay out of it as nothing good can come of it. My advice would be the same if you were still friends. This is one of those situations that you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
I realize that even though you too are not true friends anymore you do not want to see her hurt. Telling her will hurt her and she may not believe you probably causing a further rift between you. You don't need to have her turn on you which is very much what could happen.
They are dating and not engaged, at least you did not say they were engaged. This was a party and he did a little more than flirt. If he was there why wasn't she there with him? A question that you don't need an answer too but does leave open the questions as to why he was more than flirting with this girl.
My thought is that you know what you know. If she should comes to you and ask if he was flirting with other girls at this party? You tell her the truth. Otherwise let sleeping dogs lie.
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Your situation does pose some quite difficult problems. You barely talk to this girl anymore, you caught her boyfriend with another female, and your conscious is telling you to tell the one being cheated on. Perhaps going straight to her would end up just adding more to the problem. Personally, I would stay out of it honestly. Despite what my conscious was telling me I should do. You don't want to take the chance of possibly ending up in a huge argument, as I've seen many "popular" girls do. They always seem the type to be overly emotional. At least while I was in high school, that's how the girls were. If you feel you must, then I would suggest to stay out of any possible arguments, and just put a note where she would see, and no one else would notice you doing so. Though with how most people are, they won't believe it without proper proof. IE; Pictures or whatever.
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