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Having sex
I am 18/F and I'm still a virgin, I know now a days that's "something to be proud of" and I should want to wait forthat right person and blah blah but I don't want to wait, it's not because of society, or peer pressure or else I would've already done it by now, but I want to have sex, I'm ready I just don't know how to accomplish this goal. I've only had one boyfriend when I was 16 and I wasnt ready then. What should I do so I can finally have sex?
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Hey,I know that you've heard it all before and everyone keeps on repeating the same advice about finding the right person to do it with and waiting blablabla.But,stop and think it through.Seriously this time think it through.There are tons of guys out there that would die to have sex with just any girl.Just go to the bar,choose a random guy,ask him to have sex with you and he will say yes without even thinking about it,and yes its that easy to have sex.But the point here isn't just having sex,and living the experience,its having sex and living the experience with that amazing person right that respects you and takes care of your body.once you've lost your virginity,you can't take it back.So its a one time,no turing back desicion.You have to know that your partner is ganna be there for you during and afterwards.You have to look at it as an unforgetable amazing experience,so seriously think it through.I hope you find a guy that treats you the way you should be treated,and loves you truely,and then after you knew that you can trust and rely on him,ask him to have sex with you if you feel that that's the right thing to do. Goodluck.
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Go a doctor, get a full check up, a clean bill of health, and some birth control.
Then find someone you'd like to sleep with.
That will get you laid, but if your goal is less 'getting laid' and more 'having fun sex and feeling good about it' it might not be that simple.
I'm all for casual sex, but having 'casual sex' is a skill, it's something we learn how to do with respect and pleasure. Sex opens up emotional issues you never really learn to deal with until you face them. Sex just isn't all the good with people you've recently met - until you've had a lot of sex with people you've recently met.
And that is why casual sex is just not a good idea for inexperienced people. You just don't have the emotional or relationship experience to protect yourself, or know how to respect or protect a sexual partner.
So just 'getting laid' is going to be a pretty high risk thing for you to do.
So DATE. Tell your friends you want to date. Make a profile online. Introduce yourself to be people in your classes you don't know. Join a club.
Meet a nice guy, have a connection and a level of friendship and respect. Then have sex.
It'll be better in the long run.
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I'm not going to tell you to wait until you find the man you will marry. You should be proud of yourself for waiting this long and since you have I believe you should wait and not rush into having sex for the purpose of having sex alone.
This is going to sound old fashion though I feel since you have waited this long you should wait until you meet someone who will make your first time special for you. You deserve to have a wonderful first time.Unfortunately many teenage boys your age even ones with experience are still into pleasuring themselves and not worrying about pleasing the girl. In fact it is all over almost before it starts with many teenage boys.
No I'm not telling you to find an older man. What I am suggesting is to trust your senses. You will now when you have found the right person to have your first sexual adventure with. You are going to give him a very precious gift and a thoughtful lover will understand this.
In the mean time you should get on birth control. Learn how a condom should be worn and make sure the boy wears one. while condoms do not stop all STDs it does prevent many. You should also ask the boy to have be tested and to show you the results before you give him this gift. If he refuses he is the wrong person to give your gift to.
I know I'm straddling a line between the old world and the new world but today that has to be done for your protection. After waiting this long you have the right to have an enjoyable experience. Ask your friends that had sex at an earlier age. IF they are truthful with you moist will tell you it wasn't very enjoyable. It was painful, and over very fast.
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I know this isn't what you want to hear.... But wait! I know right now you want to do it very badly... But! When you are older you will regret having lost your virginity to someone other than your husband. Wait, until marriage.
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