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My sister and I alaways argue
My sister and I always argue. I recently got engaged and she didnt seem to care, congratulated me two weeks later by text. She always seems to find excuses for her actions, never apologize for her actions, says hurtful things and really does not care about anyone but herself. I have approached her numerous times to try and fix the tension between her and I, tell her how I feel about things but never works, we will be ok for a couple of days then argue about something. She is always right and thats it, it never goes anywhere, even when shes wrong. I'm not sure at this point what to do but have given up and just fed up with her actions towards me.
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At some point, you just have to admit that you're not going to get along with someone and such antipathy doesn't even necessarily need a rational basis in fact. Women have this thing about wanting everybody to play nice (even to the extent of greatly annoying their boyfriends or husbands by arranging playdates if they think that their SO isn't being social enough with his buddies or people you want him to be buddies with).
But you just can't control people like that. Everyone, even those in the same families, are ultimately individuals. And really, your needy attempts to reconcile with your sister only lend her greater power in your relationship ("the person who cares the least about the relationship wields the most power in it," one wise man said). So write your relationship with your sister off. If she feels the need to make nice with you she will.
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With what little information you have provided and not knowing your age difference. The best I can offer is sibling rivalry that has gone past it's time. Some siblings never get past their childhood rivalry. Why, I can't say I'm not a psychologist.
Since you will soon marry have you given any thought to asking your sister to be your maid or matron of honor. Doing so would hopefully show her that you love her and do honor and cherish her as you sister and want to include her in your life.
Of course she may see you offer as a family obligation put forth by you for which you must be prepared to confront head on. IF you have thoughts of asking here and you are not planning to elope. Then you might want to ask her by saying something like; "sis I could ask one of my friends to do this for me but I really want my sister to do this; would you be my maid/matron of honor? Hopefully this tells her up front you are not fulfilling some family obligation in asking her.
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Hi,i have a sister myself,and i understand what you're going through.Sometimes,this kind of tension and the fights that occur between sisters is probably because of jealousy.maybe your sister just doesn't feel good enough,or she feels like your life is better than hers,so that's stressing her out,and just making her distant from you.I know that you have tried talking to her,and expressing how you truly feel about your relationship,but try understanding her point of view,like let her tell you whats wrong in your relationship and let her provide the solutions in order to fix them,maybe if you try to fix your relationship according to her terms you guys will have a loving tight bond.Having a sister is a blessing,only if you know and understand how to deal with it.Trust your sister,get her advice,let her know that shes a valuable and important factor in your life,and that you need her.Then,she will want to stick around you more,and you guys will be close.Communication always works,you just gotta know how to approach you sister.Try talking about the things that you both love,and make a conversation about that.Goodluck.
A.I
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There seems like there's some deep tensions there. Did something happened in your past that caused her to be angry at you so much? Don't give up on her she's your sister. Approach her again & find out what her problem is. Maybe something happened before she started acting like this towards you. She is your sister and as much as she is driving you away you have to show her that her anger and words towards you are not going to stop your love for her or even stop you from finding out what's wrong.
Trust me sisters are a pain i have one. There rude and obnoxious, but there our sisters.
Sometimes there the only family we got when we need someone there.
Talk to your sister tell her your not putting up with the crap she does to you and she has to change. She has to tell you whats wrong & what's going on so you can be there for her & help.
Goodluck. You can e-mail me if you need more help im always available. :)
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