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Best Friend Conflict
Okay so... I have this um, inner problem. Okay let me start by saying that I'm sixteen right mow. Okay so I've been in this small clique since seventh grade. I wont tell you names but we we're four. Me A, E and T. Okay so I was always the one that was always shadowed by the rest because of my extreme shyness. Over the years though I've managed to get over it mostly - enough to dance and act. So in eight grade E left the school because she had really low grades but we kept on going out together to places like the movies. In ninth grade A distanced herself during the second semester so it was mostly T and I. What always angered me though, was that... Well A was always perfect and T was the same and at times E and T fought over who got to sit or work with A. I of course kept quiet during all that time and I never said anything. After A started hanging out with other girls me and T became BFFF's. I know that it's really wrong of me but... She and A are always sooo perfect... I get jealous OK? A has a boyfriend and has had some others before and everybody loves her and they think she's a total angel... They both had excellence on middle school graduation, they're good at every subject, they can dance, act, sing, they are social butterflies, they're pretty, they've both had their first kisses - I havn't - and T had it with the boy I'm NOW sort of crushing on... I feel so dumb, ugly, anti-social and depressed whenever they are around. I love T she's my bfff but there are times in which I can't stand seeing her and in turn I feel like a monster... My dad and mom fight all day and my mom had a meltdown in the laboratory and thanks to that I had to get four inyections - not only did I had to take a blood test but also an MRI because I might have epilepsy - Ok I think I just had a meltdown and I have a serious headache so I'll make this clear.
What do I do? Should I act like nothing's wrong? Or... Idk answer me soon so I can stop pitying myself into a dark miserable hole :(
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Why are you still in a group with those girls? If you don't like the way you feel as a person when you're with them, then you should leave. STOP MAKING YOURSELF FEEL BAD. BE YOUR OWN PERSON. You should never hold somebody to such high standards because you never idolize people because you never know what goes on behind closed doors. You need to start loving yourself and get your confidence back.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Most girls get like this sometimes. It's hard when you start getting jealous of friends that you care about. You end up thinking bad things about them and it just doesn't end well.
Here's my opinion, you shouldn't worry about being perfect. You probably already know that. It's easier said than done. But it is true, no one is perfect and you can't let it get to you. Jealousy is ugly and you don't want to do that to yourself.
Friends are also more important than boys. Boys aren't worth the drama they cause with friends. You're 16, you have so much more time to deal with guys and first kisses. It's really not that big of a deal. In my opinion, the longer you wait, the better it will be. Like you probably won't regret it.
Here's what you should do. Let go of the bitterness held towards your friends, find some new friends but don't lose touch with your close ones right now, and work on the jealousy problem.
Tackle one thing at a time.
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Hello,i know how feel.Being around perfect people (your friends) for a long time can make you doubt yourself.It can make you ask yourself am i good enough?Are they better than me?
Look hunn,your friends might seem perfect infront of you but nobody has a perfect life,they might have some family problems,or maybe health problems you dont know about,in the end nobody is perfect and everyone has faults.
The mistakes we make and our imperfections make us who we are.It doesnt matted that you mess up and your not "perfect" the important thing is getting back up and fighting for a better healthier happier life.
You should always be yourself and never try to act differently because you wanna be perfect or like A.I am sure that A does have problems,everyone does,so dont beat yourself up and dont be depressed because you think shehas a better life than you.
Everyday get up with a bright fresh smile on you face believing that you will achieve big and outstanding things in your life.After all youre just 16 and you have alot ahead of you.
As for your health,take care of it.Go to the doctor fom time to time,your health is very importnt and it will affect everything you do in life.
If you have something in mind,or something is bothering you,talk to your friends about it,after all you guys have been friends for a really long time and they have to undrstand.if it makes you feel better speak your mind,be brave,and be you.goodluck.hope i helped.
A.I
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