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Long Distance Relationship Loneliness &. Sadness
I have known my fiancé for about 4 years now, in that time he has become my other half, my light, love, and joy. Sadly he had to move away due to work and it has become harder and harder to even talk. I feel torn apart because I miss him so much and it doesn't feel like it used to anymore, dating and all. I trust him, and know he would never cheat. I'm not worried about that. I'm scared of the loneliness I feel every night without him. I don't think about other men, just him. But it tears my heart apart knowing I can't reach him as easily as before. I know I would rather be lonely then not have him at all but I also feel caged. What can I do to get over this sadness? I feel like I've been trying to avoid it but now it's bubbling up...
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The only salve you can really apply to that situation is making plans to enable you to join him. Time will pass and you'll be together again. At least he isn't in the military. Imagine THAT! But it does suck royally to be apart from the person you love. But don't overthink it.
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hey,since you guys have been together for a really long time,and your relationship is very close and your used to him being there for you whenever you need him,its ganna take some time for you to get used to the fact that hes not ganna be around anymore.You have to believe that your love will remain powerful and stronger than ever,and that distance shouldn't matter in a relationship if both partners believe in their true eminent love.As for the lonely part,find something to do.Go to the gym,study,find a job,rent dvds,catch up with some old friends,have a girls night,occupy yourself with things that make you happy and content. Dont constantly worry about whats ganna happen in the future or how yore ganna feel.Live in the present,and live your life day by day.You can Skype with your lover everyday,so its almost like seeing him everyday.Hang in there, that's all a part of life,it wont all be fun and games,you will face lots of challenges and obstacles,and the challenge is getting through them with a smile on your face,and confidence that there is a bright happy future ahead of you,with your fiance in it.goodluck!
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Well, it really depends on how long he's been away. If he has moved away recently, these feelings are normal, and will eventually go away. If he's been gone a while, then it may be something else.
Either way, there is only one way to stop you feeling like this: keep yourself busy. Don't allow yourself to get bogged down with these thoughts alone. Spend time with, or make friends. Read a book, watch a movie, etc, etc. Eventually, these feelings will weaken. Of course you may always miss him until he returns - that's normal. All you can do is try to minimize this.
If it is harder to talk, try texting. You can't always have a telephone call all the time. But you can discreetly text. Don't over-do it though, because he will still have to work and may get in trouble for texting whilst at work.
Also put time aside everyday to talk to each other. This could be 30 minutes before bed. A simple telephone call will suffice, but Skype video calls are excellent to see each other. They are free to conduct, and easy to set up and use.
Finally, is it not an option for you to move closer? If not, regularly try to meet up during the weekend or so, to see each other.
Good luck! :)
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How far away did he move? Why don't you visit him more often, or better yet move there by him! If those aren't really options than i suggest talking to him more often. I know you said it is hard to call him but come on, everybody has a few extra minutes every once and awhile to call someone!
Also, skype each other! Every day you can get on before he goes to work and say hey good morning! And at night you can say goodnight! It's a great way to see each other and feel close. Also what I do with my friends when I miss them is we constantly send pictures to each other. When we are sitting in class we send silly faces and just random pictures that show what we are doing. It's really fun!
I hope everything works out!
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