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Before I even begin, this is out of pure curiosity. I am too young to even be thinking of this and I don't know anyone who is looking to adopt.
If someone adopts a child, is it possible for them to un-adopt the child?
I say this because a lot of children in such situations have come from dysfunctional families before the adoption. If the child seems normal when the parents adopt him or her and then turns out to be too much of a handful, is there a certain amount of days allowed for them to try out the new family with it's new family member? I also know that as the years go by, the child may show characteristics from a past dysfunctional home that they didn't exhibit before--some being severe, I'm sure. Surely there are some sort of guidelines adoptive parents can go by in case of such an incident?
I know adopting is not like purchasing an item from WalMart. I know you can't just turn around and say, "This kid doesn't fit right!" after the adoption, but I was wondering if something could be done in severe cases.
Anyway, does anyone know anything about what I'm questioning? Thanks for any information! (link)
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I don't know how it would work with an
infant. I'm going to guess that just
like any normal child you would have,
any future problems you would just
have to deal with.
As far as older children. I believe
they start out as foster children
most of the time. Plenty of time is
given before adoption to make sure
everyone gets along ok.
I think once the adoption is final
you can't just take a child back. :)
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okay i started to give my boyfriend a bj last sunday, but i didnt really know what i was doing so i didnt go long enough and he didnt ejaculate. i told him id make up for it this weekend and give him one the right way.
well ive been thinking bout it a lot! and i know i cant get pregnate or anything, but is it safe?
im the first girl thats given him a blow job and hes never had sex or anything so like this is the first "sexual activity" either of us has had but i wanna make sure its safe for me and him both if i do it again. (link)
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Its not really any safer that regular
sex as far as getting an STD.
Cold sores, which anyone can get, are a
form of herpes. Read this short article
to be safe.
http://www.stanford.edu/group/SHPRC/ch4_ora.html
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i have pro-active and i absolutely love the refining mask it works so good on my skin but it only comes in the mail once...is their any way to keep subscribing so they send it to you with the package? (link)
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You can buy it here for # Retail Price: $8.00
# Club Price: $5.95
http://www.proactiv.com/index.php?uci=ous111&s_kwcid=pro%20active|3014622738&gclid=CLDMm6n0hJcCFROgnAod7AIMZg
Don't leave it on overnight. Use as directed
only, you don't want to make your acne problem
worse. :)
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this is my situation,
im 16 years old, 4 weeks pregnant i know i have options and i have been thinking about them a lot.
adoption is just out of the question if i did that then one of my family members would adopt my child and i wouldn't be able to deal with that. So im not putting my child up for adoption.
i have always told myself that i was against abortion not just because i think of it as killing a baby but because it can cause physical and emotional harm to you also.
if i kept the baby i know i would have sooo many people behind me my mom has 4 sisters and all of them including her had there first baby at 17 so i know they would understand i know they would all help me, but im sooo scared. Im a Jr this year and the baby wouldnt be born till late july early augest so thats summer i mean .. i want to go back to school after i have the baby i would do that.. but i dont know.. i mean im not sure the father will stick around my best friend is his sister i know she would help me but i dont know what to do... i really dont want to be someones mother right now and i know its my boyfriends and mine fault that this happened but .. HELP!
what would you do in my situation, tell me why and what you think I should do!... please help any advice will help me (link)
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I was in your situation. I had the baby,
married the babies father and we struggled
on our own and are still married today. We
are very lucky. We have worked very hard
at keeping our marriage strong and healthy.
If your not sure your boyfriend will stick
around, he probably won't. Can't depend on
him. I agree it would be just to difficult
to let a relative adopt the baby. I think
an open adoption where your info is
available when the child turns 18 would
be ok.
If you want to keep the baby yourself, that
is fine too. You need to remember that most
of the care needs to come from you. Its very
easy for example, for your mom to do a lot
of the care taking. A couple of years from
now when you are ready to go out on your own,
that could lead to big problems. She may
feel the baby is better off staying with her.
Just a problem that's best to avoid.
It all comes down to you being ready to
assume a very large responsibility. If
you honestly don't feel you can handle it,
adoption to someone not in your family is
the best way to go.
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so I just hurt my knee a few days ago (like a week ago) and i just don't know what's going on with it.
here are some pictures:
the day after i hurt it: http://i373.photobucket.com/albums/oo178/lizzyliz96/Image299.jpg
today(1 week later):
http://i373.photobucket.com/albums/oo178/lizzyliz96/Image315.jpg
the day after i hurt it, its just red.
today, its darker and the skin is beginning to peel and its a bit itchy.
i'm not sure what to do right now. when i shower i use a band-aid, should i just wash it without bandaid?(i tried but it hurt a lot)
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Leave the band-aid off. You don't have to really
scrub on it if it hurts, but let the water
run over it so it gets washed off some. If
you have any peroxide use some of that. It
will bubble and foam and get the germs off
it at least.
If it doesn't start to dry up and look
better soon, go see a doctor. :)
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unfortunatly we broke up last night.
we were offical for like a week.
yet lovey 2 weeks before that.
this kid wanted me to cheat on him with him.
and i said no, so i went to him and i told him about it.
and he like flipped out that i'll get with someone when he isnt around.
and all this crap.
then im like u act like u have something to hide...
and then he admitted he almost cheated on me because i wasnt around..and was afraid i was gonna do it to him.
so he was about to cheat on me, when i was far from doing that to him.
so im like this is a waste..and i broke it.
but as for the other one.. hes all 'we dont have to tell your bf were a couple..' it was pissing me off.. idunno what to do. were suppose to hang out on friday.. hes been asking to hang out for a while now.. before i started to date the other one. =X (link)
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Guess it can't hurt to hang out with him and
see if he's fun to be with. You never know!
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Male, mid 20's.
My girlfriend wants to get married. I don't think I'm ready. She keeps pulling this "why am I with you if we aren't going to have a future" bit, and if she was being bitchy about it, I'd snap back at her, but instead, she just keeps crying and crying.
I mean, I want to keep her in my life, but how do I make her stop pushing so hard to get married if I'm not ready? (link)
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You need to sit her down and have a very serious discussion about all this.
If you are not ready to be married, don't let
her push you into doing it. It would not work
out over the long haul. You would always blame
her for rushing you...not a good way to start,
as you know already.
That being said, women have a ticking biological
clock and women in their mid 20's may start to
feel like time is running out if they want kids.
If she is feeling all this big time, she also
needs to be free to find someone who is ready
to settle down. Unfortunately, that may not
be with you.
Be very honest with her about what you want.
Do not rush into marriage. Even if the talk results in a parting of ways, its better to
face that now.
It will ultimately be up to her to decide weather to wait for you or to move on to someone else who is ready for a family. Thats basically what it boils down to. You'll have to be strong enough
to let her go should that be the result.
Good luck. Reaching a crossroads in a relationship
is never easy for anyone involved.
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hi there. i am a guy . 16 years old . let me just get to the point . i masturbate reqularly and i have read lots of things telling me about the harms of it. i would really like to stop it ,whether it is harmfull or not, but because it is becoming more like an addiction . any 1 with some advice on how to stop please. thanks in advance. (link)
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First you are absolutely without a doubt normal.
Masturbating regularly and often is in no way
harmful or bad for you.
Guys your age have a big sex drive and going out and having sex with girls every time you get
horny is risky business. Masturbation is by
far the better way to go!
Now, if you really want to stop, you have to
get rid of all that energy another way. Run,
exercise, any kind of physical activity will
help.
Overall though, just don't worry about it.
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Ok im 18 and my boyfriend is 21 we have been daten for 6 years and we have been living togehter for 1 and we have not had sex yet..i want to but i dont know how to get him to
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If you've been together all that time
without even discussing sex there is
a problem.
He may not want to for religious or moral
reasons but, you need to sit down and talk
about it with him. Don't add sex to the
relationship if you have not discussed it.
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I had sex the first time today, with my boyfriend who I'm in love with. :) I was wondering, if after you come your supposed to be done? Because we didn't stop until a few minutes after and the condom was pretty filled..
And what are the chances of pregnancy?
And when would I start to notice any early pregnancy symptoms?
And what would they be?
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So long as it stayed on you're probably
fine. From now on though, he needs to stop
after ejaculation. Once the penis starts
going flaccid that condom could easily
slip off, making getting pregnant a real
possibility.
I can't give you any numbers concerning
the chances of your being pregnant. If
it was still on him pretty good, chances
are small. This time.
First sign of pregnancy is a missed period.
Other signs don't come for about 30 days.
Nausea, breast tenderness are the main ones.
keep in mind breast tenderness can also be
a symptom you get before a period anyway.
Missed period is the main one to be aware
of.
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Ok im a 17year old guy I really really like this girl who is in my school and I think that she likes me though i cant be sure but the problem is that she is 3 years younger than me.I was wondering if i asked her out would people think that im a wierdo because im going out with 14year old girl?.
Im still going to ask her out but im just curious. (link)
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Yes they will probably think its weird.
Keep in mind that you have reached the age
of consent in most states and she hasn't.
Touch her in anyway considered sexual and
you could be in trouble really quickly.
People think you have to be 18 but you don't.
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What do guys mean when they say don't worry I know when to pull out for using unprotected sex? Can they really know when?
And what do you people mean by saying going in all the wayy????
Im 14 f. And still a virgin, but I have a bf that wants to do things.....
Please help me!
Thanks and I appreicate it
=] (link)
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"What do guys mean when they say don't worry I know when to pull out for using unprotected sex?"
It means they just want sex and don't understand
the consequences that could result. The are
immature and not ready for sex. DO NOT EVER
fall for that line. Especially from a young
teenage boy. It is very hard for them to stop
even if they know its coming. Be responsible
and never have unprotected sex, no matter how
much you may want to please any guy. If you
get pregnant they can walk away and go on
with their life as usual. You can't. You
get pregnant and your life is changed forever,
weather you keep the baby or not.
Going all the way means having sex.
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well... me and this close freind of mine whenever we hang out we get really close and this one time we were at a party and watching a movie in the dark and he was like trying to lift my shirt and was tracing the line of my shorts ( low rise shorts) and like almost unbuttoning my shorts and i feel really uncomfortble like i really like him but im not sure if i want to go that far and im not sure even if he wants to so im kinda confused and im really shy like about showing my body to any guys but hes the one i would feel most comfortable around if i had to... and another question is it a turn on or a turn off to have hair (down there ) haha please help =/ (link)
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Most important...If you feel uncomfortable,
ask him to stop. Make it very clear to him
you aren't ready for that yet. If you let
him continue he will get the message that
you are ok with it and will push it a little
further every time. Never doubt he wants to.
All guys "want to".
Hair is your preference. I don't think
guys really care one way or another.
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senior in HS... living in NY.
I want to be a Ultrasound Tech... aka sonographer.. but i cant seem to find any schools who offer an associates degree in this field.. i want to stay in NY and just want to study two years ... no institutes like sanford brown =/ someone help me? idk how this works... can i study certain classe or does it have to be a program for sonography and get the associates degree? gaaaahh HELP!!!!
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From what I could find, it looks like it
is 16-20 months of study. Don't know if
you get a degree or certificate.
I found a site that will give you a list
of schools near you, but you need to put
in your zip code.
http://www.allalliedhealthschools.com/featured/sonography-schools/
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i haven't mentioned anything lately on 'him'.
we haven't talked really, he came to me friday because he saw i wanted to about something.
then started a way to fight with me to look bad.
i've been over him, for a month now.
i miss him sometimes though.
i see his dad from a distance every now and then.
and im kinda in a relationship now.
but an hour away is a pain. :-\ (link)
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I'm glad you're moving on. Don't
let him pull you back into it again.
Misery loves company!
Glad you've started a new relationship.
I know an hour away can be a pain. Give
it a try and if it doesn't work out
look closer to home. Just don't look back!
LOL :)
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My mom is pregnant with a boy (her first boy). She's 36 weeks pregnant now. She's having some really hard problems today and I thought I'd post it on Advicenators to see if someone could help her cope or tell her what is going on.
She says that her vagina hurts a lot and almost feels like it's on fire. This pain is causing her to be unable to pee on her own. My mom said it hurts so much that she feels like she just can't let go of the muscles to go pee. She simply cannot relax.
The more she tries to go, the more it hurts. She says it's not like a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection) as she's had them before. There isn't anything to cause the burning like a UTI because she cannot even start.
The only way she has been able to go pee is by filling the bathtub up with warm to hot water, sitting it it, and then going. She says that the warm-hot water takes away the pain.
She doesn't know if this is normal since she's pregnant with a boy this time around or if it's pain associated with her age (late 30s). She's 36 weeks pregnant, her doctor is out of town, and it's Saturday so she cannot just head over to the doctor's office since they're closed for the day.
I am trying to convince her to go to the ER (Emergency Room) but she is afraid that this might be normal and she'll rack up medical bills for nothing.
Can anyone shed some light on what is happening? If this is as serious as I would take it, could someone please tell me how to convince her to seek emergency care? (link)
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Well here it is Monday and the problem has probably been solved already.
I just wanted to add that no 2 pregnancies are alike, however the sex of the child has absolutely nothing to do with it.
Saturday, Sunday, or in the middle of the night...
call the doctor. They have message services 27/7.
If her doctor is away, they will call whoever is taking your moms doctors patients while he is away.
Always call if something isn't right. Believe me,
they know when they become doctors that there is no such thing as time off. They are on always and have someone helping if they can't be. So always call.
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Hi,
I underwent an abortion ( MTP) on the 21st October and the doctor has told me that she cleaned everything...No bleeding occured for the first one week, then the bleeding started...it started becoming more and more over the days and then continued till 2 weeks thats when I approached another doctor ( bcoz I moved from India to Sweden)...The doctor has checked and told that its normal and the bleeding could continue between 3 to 4 weeks...On the third week, it started coming down and I was thinking it would over soon...But, all of a sudden from yesterday the bleeding went un controllable and with lots of clots in it...this morning I visited the clinic, they checked, did the ultra and foudn nothing wrong...the doctor prescribed a tablet to control bleeding to be taken 3 times a day for 4 days ( Kryst 500 mg)...Now the blweedign is still continuing with lots fo clots....I am worried...
Can anyone suggest me whats going on and what can be done (link)
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If all doctors say it is normal then
I wouldn't worry about it. Your body
has undergone major trauma ans long
term heavy bleeding is normal.
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in 8th grade i had a four hour long surgery. now im 18 and i am still a virgin. they put a catheter in me and im not really sure exactly where they put it, or what type it was but could it possible have broke my hymen or cherry? thanks! (link)
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No they wouldn't have broken your hymen.
A catheter goes in through the urethra.
The hymen covers the vaginal opening.
Here is a photo that will show you the
location of both. Beware it is not a drawing.
http://www.coolnurse.com/anatomy.htm
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im an 18 yr old girl and there is this guy i have known for all my life told me that he has feelings for me.. that he loves me and would marry me any second all i have to do is say yes. but the thing is he has a gf that he has been with a lil over a year but he says he is tired of her and wants to break it off but cant b.c he dont want to disappoint her family.. i have loved him for a longgg time and i want to be with him for the rest of my life but i dont know whether to believe him or not. please help me!! (link)
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A little over a year ago he was probably
telling her the same exact thing. Hes
trying to make you fall for it so he can
keep her and have you on the side.
Since you have asked many similar questions,
I think you know in your heart what you need
to do. I know its very hard to give up, but
you need to just totally stop communicating
with this guy until you're well over him.
Look for someone else who has time for only
you. Who knows, give him the cold shoulder
and he may break up with her. I really
doubt it though. More than likely you'll
see him putting the moves on another girl
while still dating the poor girl he is
dating now.
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i want to get a paint job for my carr. my mom said it might cost from about 200-1000 dollars, but that's alot! anyone who might be sure about the price, know how much it costs? might as well buy a new carr, haha. i want to have it painted metallic purple [: (link)
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I have a brother in law who has done this
for a living. 200 dollars would be just
a touch up job, not a major paint job.
In all honesty you would be looking at
several thousand for a full paint job.
Metallic is more expensive too.
Now, what you could do, if you have the
time and/or patience is do it yourself.
There are plenty of online how tos I bet.
You could pay as you go, learn something
that could be useful in the future, and
boy you'd be proud of that ride!
Just an added bonus...the guys will be
wanting to discuss how you did this and
that. Great way to get into conversations.
I've done my share of body work on my
own car. Its time consuming, but fun. :)
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