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hi ...i got married in 2011, after one year now i know that he is bisexual. i asked him when i got married whether he wae a gay..i dn't know but i some how felt so, but he managed me that nothing was wrong. after one year now i know that he is bisexual. i dn't know what to do... i love him a lot... but he did this to me. he says that he is committed to me and what ever he did was before our wedding. he had sexual relation with 50 guys it seems... for five years. i dn't know, i cant trust him... please help me....i feel like dieing.
im 26 years female, my husband is 27.
Get tested
This is pretty hard to give advice on as I'm wondering what suddenly prompt him to come out and tell you that he is bisexual? However, There is no need to do anything unless he is having second thoughts about being with you. Although he may be bisexual sure doesn't mean he loves you less.
I suppose it all depends on the situation really. Whether he is more into men, losing interest in you or having second thoughts about the marriage. Not enough detail to go on but I would talk to him .
I'm sorry this is so long. I just got carried away. I just want you to really understand who I am and my situation, and I didn't know how to be concise about it. I greatly appreciate all help, you don't even know how much
How do you get over that shame and insecurity? I still feel like hiding away from everyone in my own bubble, when that isn't productive. There were periods where I even had suicidal thoughts, but they the cons always outweigh the pros. I just don't know how to get out of my funk. I want to actually experience good things in life, I don't want my life to be ended before I do so
I just finished high school and I just feel really ashamed that I didn't live up to my potential at school and outside of school I hardly had friends, I suppose because I didn't try to conform to anything I didn't like, despite me being moderately physically attractive and being nice and nonjudgmental to everyone. I still don't understand why I couldn't have that teenage experience with a first boyfriend, best friend you have sleepovers with and can share your deepest thoughts, or even get invited to a few parties and other gatherings. Every year I thought this could be reached, but I feel like every year just became worse and worse, since 5th grade. Is it just because I allowed it to, or was it out of my control? I feel like it's mainly my fault
I started going to a therapist but I still don't understand what I did wrong, and I hope college will be better but I'm afraid if whatever I'm doing that's repelling people will continue. The therapist said she didn't see anything wrong with the conversations we were having, so I'm so confused. I don't know if my race had anything to do with it, being black and living in towns that were diverse, but with mostly white and asian people. I don't know if race was important to other people because I don't think that way about other people, and had a few "school friends/acquaintences" of various skin tones. I feel like the best friends I had were in elementary school, which is the only part of my childhood I still feel the most fondly of, and my best friends were Italian, Chinese, German, and a few family friends
I don't know if race was a factor some kids had with who they invited to hang out, as people began to get older, or idk. Anyways, so yeah now I just feel like a mess and don't feel like connecting with others and I spend a lot of time on the internet, too. My mom is concerned and tries to now block computer time (which I hate intensely), but I don't drive, so otherwise my home feels pretty much like a prison, since nowhere around me is in walkable distance. I've basically grown up online, since I was 8, and supposedly that's why I have social issues? I don't know. I don't think I'm socially inept; I think I notice social cues. I love meeting new people and I'm friendly.. but I've rarely felt such a deep emotional bond with others, to where I feel I can just share anything with them. It's easiest for me to do that on the internet, or to a therapist, because it's confidential. I'm like afraid that if I tell people my insecurities it will just give them more reason to abandon me, or look at me with a negative light. So pretty much last year I'd act like everything was fine in my life when I was basically allowing things to crash down. But I didn't want to give people who didn't like me something to look down on me for, so in the end, when it crashed and burned people must of thought it came from nowhere. but then again, why should I care what they think when they weren't my friends? well, because I wanted friends, unfortunately. or at least one. i wish i could have just been like a robot and been really efficient but no, I let stupid feelings destroy me in high school
It's like I'm now afraid of getting close to others because I've been friends with many people who over time, seemed to lose interest in me and stop being my friend. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'ts not like I'm a boring person.. I feel like people first are excited to get to know me and then the interest fades. Am I supposed to be inviting them to things first? It's so frustrating. I once invited a girl to something we both wanted to see, and even paid for her ticket, but I never heard from her again except her on a few rare occasions, acting like we were friends at school and saying a comment to me.
So I feel like all these years have been a waste and I can't even stand watching sitcoms about teenage life anymore, when it 100% hasn't been like that for me. Teen shows seem to be in some completely different reality. I don't even understand myself, much less other teens. I don't understand why I've been so cruel to myself by doing things against what will truly make me happy.
But I want to succeed in life. Perfectionism has also contributed to my downfall, because it's caused me to procrastinate a lot by going online (for comfort. since I'm not getting invited to social events, it's how I feel connected to the world) in lieu of schoolwork (which is really hard for me because I take very long to do it "perfectly", and have since a very young age). So I just feel like I've let everyone down; teachers, parents, and myself. And I don't know how to come out of it. I really want to make a difference in this world and people have gone through far worse than me and achieved such great things. What are their secrets? How do I get willpower? Cause I feel like I want to do things but then something stops me, and then I just feel guilty and hate myself for it and not even basically crash and burn than doing my best and getting a result that I feel is "less than my personal best".
I just hate being alone. I'm so relieved high school is finally over, but especially last year, for my senior year, I was achingly lonely and music and the internet were where I went for comfort, but I can't go to a dance with an Animal Collective record. I can't go with an internet friend, who lives hundreds of miles away, to a movie. I need to make real friends and FIX my life so I don't repeat these same mistakes in college (and in middle school I thought I wouldn't make these mistakes in high school.. I thought I'd take the smart approach to high school, ugh) and I want to just do things that actually make me happy and will very much HELP my future instead of just screwing over my high goals through my self destructive attidude, just because I didn't have "the teenage experience"
Seeing a therapist is a start.
Also, Only YOU can fix your life. Nobody can do that for you, Not even a therapist.
When I was in High School, I also did not party, I did not have a large group of friends nor did I date right away. In fact if I recall I actually starting dating someone beginning of my senior year.
You sound pretty normal to me to be honest. Maybe you didn't live up too your fullest in high school but you CAN change that. If you want friends then you have to be willing to try and meet the right people. Reality is, High School and College are much different. People grow up, move on and most of us grow out of being immature. High School is full of drama and peer pressure.
Anyway, You could be experiencing anxiety due to being fresh out of high school and soon to be entering college. Honestly? Completely normal.
In the meantime it's summer and you could try to start with finding a part time job to save money. You may even make friends who knows but you really should start setting some goals to for yourself. Even if they are small goals like trying to make new friends, Plan out how you want to enter college. If you go with a positive attitude then you are more likely to succeed
Okay so I was on this Porn web site(I'm should not be on)and out of no were my computer told me that something had tryed to attack my computer...okay not tryed had. nad know it was trying get rid of it if I said okay. I tryed but my mouse would not let me. Then Norton said it had block the attack in the first place. that it never made it on my computer. But windows said it did attack and if I click okay it would get rid of it. The reason that I could not click because it had put writing were the okay was.Telling me more about it. this is my mom computer. I think I have get scared out of watching any more pron EVER but that still does not dell with the trouble at hand. my friend told my about the site and said never had anything bothered her. Because I could not click okay I just x out. But Norton said that everthing was fine Help
I think you already know this but I'll say it just encase you don't.
Porn sites are the top sites that have viruses. Also, You are about 3x more likely to have your information hacked on a porn site then any other site.
Sounds to me you got hit by a virus. I can't tell you what kind of virus it is as I can't look at your computer but I believe restoring the computer back to an earlier date might wipe out the virus.
Start-Program-System Tools-System Restore
I would also avoid porn sites, I'm not sure what your age is but better off going to a store and just buying a DVD.
My boyfriend who lives far away (5 states) was talking to me by IM and he said he was really angry. When I asked him why he said that he asked one of his friends a question and she said that she would give him an answer but before she did she wanted to know why he was asking. He proceeded to swear and call her names (to me) and said he blocked her on facebook. He asked me what I thought and I didn't know what to tell him, he said she was lucky he didn't go and kick her a**. I was sad because i thought he was overreacting but I didn't want to tell him that... I'm afraid of hurting his feelings and him getting mad at me. What do I do? Also, he is kind of a secret, my mother is really strict and If i don't do something good enough she yells at me. She is always comparing me to my 22 year old sister who got straight A's in school and college. She says if she had it her way she wouldn't let me date until 50 years old. What do i do to gain her approval?
Thank you! I'm sorry for the long length of this question!
P.S I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15 (16 in October)
I'm going to be blunt
You are young, At 14 years old you aren't going to be marrying the boy you meet over the internet. Not only are long distant relationships hard to keep in general but even adults who have been together for years have trouble managing long distance. It's just how it is
Frankly, I don't really know how to give you advice on this one but too tell you the truth, It sounds like a bunch of drama. I would suggest just meeting someone in person and not over the internet that lives 5 states over. Fact is, It's not the relationship for you.
i am a female and 24 yrs old. i am in a relationship with a boy from last one and a half yr. he was my classmate and we were very good friends for two yrs.the problem is that guy i love was into a relationship before we met...and that relationship was going well. i was secretly in luv with him during our studies bt never let him know about it...but later on aftr one and a half year he jst realised it that i loved him. i don't know how bt he also started liking me. we knew dat we like each other but didn't talked much about it because he was already committed to someone else. when he got job after studies and we departed.. he called me on phone and cried that he loves me alot and cannot live without me...i also luved him but told him that he must not ditch the girl he has in his life but he said that if he marries her...he won't be able to live happy himself and also wont be able to keep her happy either...since then we are together and i realised that he was not wrong..he truely loves me...and it took some time for him to move away from that girl which was painful for him and for me too. i know most of our friends are going to blame me for this but if i am going to leave him or if i would have left him in between he would have died. i want to know that whatever we did...was it right or we were wrong???? what else i could have done to sort out this problem? i really need your advice because this is something i cannot share with someone else
You did not interfere with his current relationship and were considerate of others feelings. You've done nothing wrong.
However, I am going to say that it was cowardly on his behalf to go as far as dragging possible marriage into it. If he isn't happy and wants to be with you then he should have the balls to tell that to his girlfriend. Instead he called you up stating that if he marries her that he wouldn't be happy. Nobody is forcing him to get married, Nobody is forcing him to be in a relationship he is not happy in.
On a second note too you, I would never date someone fresh out of a relationship. You want to make sure he is over her first and not dating you while he has feelings for someone else. Although he may insist he has moved on it's better to stay on the side lines and let the air clear between the two of them. I would probably remain friends for a few months and then once he's truly moved on then I'd take it slow.
If your friends blame you then let them think whatever they want. It is frankly not their business.
I am 19 years old, female, from a family background of muslims (surprise, surprise).
I'm pretty much not allowed to wear what I want because everything I want to wear is considered inappropriate.
For example, yesterday I wanted to wear a skirt that is PAST knee-length, and only shows the lower shin area... which is half way to the knees. No big deal, right? Wrong! My mom just looked at me with this shocked look in her eyes, and said that we're going on a family picnic and that it's just not nice or appropriate.
And then she started drilling me on how my clothing is not appropriate or "long enough". She wants me to find tops that are like up to my knees. Like seriously? seriously?
And then she continues to tell me how my cousins also think my clothing is inappropriate as well since one of them called her and told her that I was wearing inappropriate clothing and that she did not feel comfortable.
And this cousin of mine wears a burqa that covers her face so clearly we both have different ideas on what is appropriate.
Last time, I went to a sleepover at her house. And when I got dressed to go to the mall, she started yelling at me for my clothing. I was wearing chiffon top with a tank top underneath, but from the back I guess the tank was low that you could see my bra straps so she started freaking out, and yelling at me. And telling me that what I'm wearing is not appropriate, and I can't wear what I want to because it's not appropriate, and that I'm at her house. And when I told her I was wearing a tank top underneath, she called me liar. Until I ripped it out from underneath to show her. Which actually made her shut up with an "Oh..."
Anyways, I'm angry, frustrated and really annoyed. I'm 19 years old, I think I'm old enough to make decisions on what I want to wear without having people attack me or belittle me because it's not up to their standards.
I usually don't say anything or argue back to my cousin out of respect, and because we're really close. But honestly now, I don't think I'm interested in having to deal with her. She's a total bitch in general, and starts arguments for no reason.
Anyways, for the future. Would it be better for me to confront her and tell her to back off and mind her own business?
I am not going to comment on the Muslim part as I really do not know much about it.
However, I will comment on the age.
You are 19, You are legally an adult and you can technically wear whatever you please. You may not get everyone's approval on it but it is your choice.
If you want to wear a pair of shorts, Flip flops and a tee-shirt so be it. It is YOUR body and you are of age. Lead life the way you want it cause you only have one.
So I'm 17/F and the other night I was at a party on a college campus and it ended up ending a lot sooner than I thought. I was supposed to be spending the night with one of my friends but she went off with her boyfriend because they were in a big fight and basically ditched me... This guy that I kind of have been having a thing with that was there (we'll call him Matt: 19) was like "hey we can just chill in my car and figure it out" cause we were both too drunk to drive. So we're walking to his car and this dude starts yelling stuff at me and I don't really remember what he said lol but I think it was pretty sexual/rude cause it pissed Matt off and Matt was trying to start something with him cause he gets like that when he's drunk... anyway last thing I remember after that was sitting down on the sidewalk being really confused. I woke up in Matt's car but Matt wasn't there, neither were the keys, and the windows were down. I got pretty scared cause I didn't know where he was and I was just sitting in this open car in the middle of a college campus and Matt's phone was in the car so I didn't know what else to do but call one of my freinds Jake to come pick me up. He picks me up and since my friend ditched me and I couldn't go home I ended up having to spend the night at Jakes hous. Jake and I have a history of almost hooking up but never actually doing it and he has a girlfriend now so I knew we had to be extra careful and I was like, I'm not gonna hook up with him. But I was really drunk and so mad at Matt for just leaving me in his car (he ended up texting me saying he was fine and that he was just gonna spend the night in his car so I knew he was okay but I was pissed he had just left me like that). Anyway,I was upset and drunk and I didn't feel well so Jake layed me on his couch and started rubbing my back. He put my head in his lap (on a pillow) and kept going but started to go under my pants... he took my hand and held it for a little while then started moving it toward his penis. I don't know what I was thinking but when he pulled down his pants and put my head there I just started giving him a BJ... I had been going for a little bit and then I stopped and he was like "uh yeah, we prolly shouldn't finish that..." I was like "wtf Jake. why did I do that?" and he says "I don't know but it felt so good I couldn't stop you. If I were single we'd be up in my bed right now but damn..." he didn't even seem sorry, I felt worse than he did and he was comforting me. We agreed we could never tell anyone about it but I'm just freaking out. He wasn't even drunk and he initiated it but if anyone finds out, I'm gonna be the one that gets called a slut and what not. He's going to college in the fall and his gf is only gonna be a junior so he was gonna break up with her at the end of the summer anyway and I know everyone hates his girlfriend cause she's a total bitch but that doesn't make what I did any better and I just feel so awful... He doesn't even seem to feel bad but he doesn't want anyone to find out either. Im just so scared he's gonna tell her or something and he's gonna say my name and oh my gosh... please help!!!
Jake took advantage of you, It's pretty much as simple as that. Someone who is drunk does not have the mindset of properly consenting. Also, He has a girlfriend and he still tried to fool around with you anyway. Yes, He was completely wrong.
I would also start to wonder whether this "friend" is really a friend or not. Although she was in a fight with her boyfriend friends do NOT ditch one another.
To put it real short it sounds like several cases of being irresponsible. You, Matt and this "friend" of yours.
I've been with my wife for 12 years now... 6 of which have been living with her parents helping to take care of her father ( who passed away a few years ago ) and now helping her mother and paying bills. I gave up my life in my home state to be with my wife. I haven't seen my father since my wedding 6 years ago.. I have not seen my mother since MOVING HERE. ( quite frankly we are poor ) Ever since I got here I've been an outsider despite my efforts to be nice and do what needs to be done. I have worked hard to fit into their culture and family to no avail. Finally I gave up and just resided myself to trying to stay out of the way and not bother anyone. Not only do I have that going against me but I'm extremely over weight. ( My weight comes from not knowing the dangers of Rice when I move here until it was to late ) Anyways I've always been on the outside looking in no matter what. Some body talks shit about my wife.. I'm not allowed to respond cause of the problems it might cause. Someone talks shit about me? Same thing. Best examples I can give are when my wife's Grand Father passed away they had a microphone set up for anyone who felt the need to say a few things about Herman ( the grandfather ) This man was one of 2 people in this family that NEVER judged me... he welcomed me with open arms and a smile. I felt compelled to say something.... Well later on I hear that one of the daughters and her husband had some pretty mean things to say about me and how I WAS DISRESPECTFUL. I wanted to confront them.. not angry but still talk to them face to face... nope.. wasn't allowed. Just recently my sister-in-law's husband while drunk tried to boast about getting one gun and drawing it on me to confront me about a problem. Of course I wasn't there when he said it. My wife to me about it and quiet honestly I was angry.. I wanted to confront him... nope.. not allowed. IF I did the sister-in-law would take her 5 year old daughter and not let the family see her for a few months... ( which she'll do anyways when she gets into a fight with one of the other family members ) so nope.. not allowed. Never mind if he had said that about my wife she would of hunter his ass down... my brother-in-law would of kicked his ass... and my mother-in-law would of thrown him out on his ass... nope.. I can't say shit. I have been putting up with keeping my mouth shut for TWELVE YEARS. I dedicate half of my income to this house to help pay bills.. I have to buy my own food.. even use a separate outdoor bathroom cause I'm not allowed to use the house one. I'm not the lower rung on the ladder.. I'm not even on the fucking thing!!!! I have been known as the quiet.. laid back kind of guy that can get over everything... however I find myself just building in anger over this last straw.. I glance at my wife and feel nothing but anger....My thoughts have even started turning to inflicting physical harm and even just blind murder rage... how much can one man take? I gave up my life and my family for this?!?!?! I love my wife....but As much as I love her and don;t ever want to leave her.. I sometimes feel if I don;t... I WILL kill someone.. or more.
You need to have a talk with your wife, A serious one.
You start with explaining that your caring for everyone else is taking a toll on you mentally.
Like I tell many people, You cannot give everyone a free ride because sooner or later you will run out of gas. If you are overweight and unhappy then this is where you start. One man cannot take care of others if he is unable to care for himself. Meaning that you are so focused on worrying about others you ran yourself almost on empty. This may be your wife but you are NOT entitled to give your income to help the family. Also, From what you've written above you seem like a guy with a good head on his shoulders. Even the nicest people get thorns in their lives and the way to handle them is to ignore them. I've most certainly had my fair share of ignorant folks and this is why I never get personal. YOU come first before anyone! If you feel the need to work on your appearance then do so and don't ever let something stop you. If you need a break, Take one. When you and your wife have a chance go off for an entire day. The summer is here and it's a great chance to chill out at a beach and just talk. My advice is to come up with a way to move out of the house or set some goals for yourself that you and your wife can do together. You need something to keep your sanity and I would start with you. Also, If the in laws don't allow you to use a bathroom that you pay half of then fuck it don't give them money. That simple
You have the right to voice your opinions in a household. You are helping with the bills therefore this is partly your house too. Seriously, Open your mouth and start talking. Stop living in misery because what happens when people keep silent is anger just builds and builds. Use your freedom of speech.
My ex's mom was primarily responsible for our split up 20 yrs ago, but now being married and settled in life, i still have sleepless and tearful nights, thinking of the past. I sometimes feel i should call ex's mom and ask for a sorry, for i never listened to her repeated dissprovals, until the last threat of a suicide. is it ok to cal, her..i sometimes feel, the relationship should close, but i am also if might start a chapter by givind details of my whereabouts. sometimes i feel, may be i should let the blood boil as my life had turned upside down after the unexpected heart break with an abortion.
You ever heard that old saying "Some things are better left unsaid?" I certainly wouldn't bring up the past with her.
You see, If you want to forgive her then fine you can do that, but if she is an abusive person then likely she will not admit to her wrong doing nor are you even going to get an apology from her.
My husband's mother is an obnoxious person. When I first got together with him she did everything in her power to split us up and it simply didn't work. Anyway to make a long story short my husband and I haven't talked or seen her in over 4 years. We recently decided we'd set up a P.O. Box and remain mutual through letters only. You learn quick that sometimes it's best not to get personal with certain people. You could try sending her a letter but for your safety and your husbands you could try the P.O. box as well. However, If you decide to do so I would small talk and keep the private stuff out of it.
Now you didn't state exactly what your reasoning was to wanting to contact her. Is it because you need closure? It has been 20 years but if you still decide to do so keep an open mind that you may never truly get the closure you seek. Abusive people hardly ever see what they've done wrong.
You've got two choices, You can forgive her within yourself or attempt to remain mutual through a letter. Just do not get your hopes up too high....
My husband and I are having trouble getting pregnant and I am pretty sure the problem isn't with me, but I don't know a thing about male infertility problems at all and I am afraid to bring it up because I don't want to hurt his feelings!
What do I do? We want babies but we just can't seem to get pregnant!
Everyone is different, This doesn't mean your husband has fertility problems. Technically, You don't want to jump to conclusions until you've actually visited a fertility clinic. Bringing it up will kill his ego and his pride.
Did you know that it takes an average person about a year to become pregnant? It's true.
If you are having issues then like I said I would make an appointment with a fertility clinic and have them give you some tips.
I am 14 yr old girl and i have had sex. Over 13 guys have naked pictures of me. 5/13 were 18-20 yrs old. Am i concideres a whore.?
I am going to point out a few things that all these people left out.
1, You are a minor and anyone of age 18+ having a naked photo of you would be in possession of child pornography.
2, These photo's you've given, I hope you are aware they will be seen by many people. They could even leak through cell phones and be put on the internet.
A whore? Sort of yes. I honestly would chill out a bit as in most states you aren't even age to legally consent to sex anyway.
Seriously, Chill. At 14, You do not want to be giving yourself a bad reputation. These men are way to old for you anyway and having sex with men over the 18 at your age is considered rape even if you consented. You could put yourself in a lot of legal trouble as well as these older men you've been with. Stop.
You need to learn to show yourself some respect. I also hope you are aware that anyone under the age of 18 sending nude photo's.....Well they actually just passed a law on that in my state not long ago. Your phone could be traced and BOOM you just broke the law.
I'm not trying to be an ass but like someone below me said if you can't handle the truth then you shouldn't be asking these sort of questions.
I hope these people opened reality too you because this is just sad..
12/f
my life has been horrible. my mom & dad got divorced 5 years ago and for a year now my dad has tryed nothing to try to communicate with me. he is always fighting with my mom every day. he told my brother a month ago that my dog died in march, which makes me cry every night.
im thinking about calling him up and say 'get a life, and get along'. and im thinking about braging about my bf, we have been dating for 5 months, and my moms bf, they have been dating for the past 3 years.
my moms bf is a f****** a** hole. my mom took us to a restraunt with him to meet him, i could tell he was a bad person by looking at his face, his clothes, and all of his scars on his arm, not from cutting i could tell. i told my mom i liked him cause she adored him. since he has thoght he can be my father, and to tell the truth i really, really hate him now. he 'grounded' me yesterday,but forgot to take my ds so im asking for advise on this.
i just dont know what to do and i caught myself fixing to take a chunk out of my wrist earlier, but stopped thinking of my bf.
btw, im not going to finish with all my problems cause there are way to many to fit on this thing.
sorry for the lengh.
i just want to know what to do.
any advise will be very thankful!!
I really think you should give your mothers boyfriend a chance. It sounds to me that you are judging him by his appearance. Why don't you just chill out and get to know him a little bit? This does not mean you have to be the guys best friend but at least learn to respect him for the sake of your mothers happiness. If the guy makes your mother happy then why do you hate him so much? Don't you want to see her happy?
You see, My father also does not attempt to talk to me either. I am also not a huge fan of my step father but you know what? My mother is happy, He helps her and he loves her. That is all that matters to me.
You need to lighten up, Learn to forgive your father for his mistakes instead of trying to seek revenge. Someone told me long ago "Holding a grudge only does more harm them good" It's true. Being angry isn't harming anyone but yourself. You need to move on from that anger and learn to move forward. Trying to harm yourself is going to cause people you love harm. Your boyfriend will be alone, He will be very hurt. Your mother will be devastated that she lost a child and you know what? As much as you may think your father doesn't care I'm sure he will be very hurt too. Parents are not supposed to bury their children. That isn't how the cycle of life is supposed to be. If you need help then talk to your mother about getting a therapist but stop trying to harm yourself because it is not going to do you or others any good.
So, I hardly ever remember my dreams.
But I just wanted someone to figure out what this means?
Recently, I lost a very close loved one to cancer. She was like a second mum to me.
I dreamed that I was going to the airport to pick her up, and the escalator to get to her was really steep, and every time I got to the top, I'd fall down. I finally managed to get up, and when I did, I realised I was wearing boots she ordered me. They're yet to arrive from America.
I saw her, then I woke up.
Airport
To see a busy airport in your dream signifies the desire for freedom, high ideals, ambition, and hopes. It is an indication that you are approaching a new departure in your life. Some new idea is taking off or is ready to take off. You may be experiencing a new relationship, new career path or new adventure.
To dream of a deserted airport indicates that your plans or goals will be changed or delayed. You are having to put some aspect of your life on hold.
Escalator
To see an escalator in your dream indicates movement between various levels of consciousness. If you are moving up in the escalator, then it suggests that you are addressing and confronting emotional issues. You are moving through your spiritual journey with great progress and ease. If you are going down the escalator, then it implies repression and descent back into your subconscious. You may be experiencing a setback.
To dream that you or someone is going up the downside of the escalator implies that you are not confronting your emotions in an effective manner. Perhaps you are afraid of exposing yourself to vulnerabilities. Alternatively, the dream means that you are putting in too much work and effort into something that is not worthwhile. You are wasting your energy on unproductive pursuits.
Fall
To dream that you fall and are not frightened signifies that you will overcome your adversities with ease.
To dream that you fall and are frightened indicates a lack of control, insecurity, and/or lack of support in your waking life. You may be experiencing some major struggle and/or overwhelming problem. It may also imply that you have failed to achieve a goal that you have set forth for yourself.
To dream that you are free-falling through water indicates that you are feeling overwhelmed with emotions. You may feel that it is easier to give up, then to try to stay afloat or prevent yourself from going under
Boots
To see or dream that you are wearing boots refers to the power in your movement and the boldness of your position. You are taking a firm stance. The dream may also be a metaphor that you are getting the boot. Are you getting kicked out somewhere?
Last night my boyfriend took me out for dinner and as the table was full of things(saucers,silver wear,plates,glasses,wine,soda,etc)I decided to put my phone between my legs so it didn't get dirty,and it was reason enough for him to think that I was actually hidding it to text nobody knows who,we had a terrible argument and he ended up taking me back home,it was awful,what can I do or say to him? because I'm also really upset,thanks!
Although he was quick to jump to conclusions, you should of left the cell phone on vibrate in your purse. It is rude to have a phone out for display while you are on a date with someone. I'm not entirely sure he thought you were hiding someone but maybe he was rather offended that you didn't just turn it off.
Anyway, If it really is a matter of thinking you are hiding something then you both need to work on it. Not him, This isn't just about his lacking but yours as well.
You can call him up and apologize for being rude. Explain to him that you were wrong to off had the phone out the way you did and you should of left it in your purse. If it rings, You do not answer it until it is an appropriate time. In all honesty if someone did that too me I would also be a little offended. However, You made a mistake it happens. Just explain to him that you are sorry and let it blow over. If he still suspects you of hiding something then either talk about it and work on it or find someone else that won't constantly suspect you.
My sister is 3 years younger than me and she hits me and pinches me and even bites me, I have scars from her and I have considered self harm as relief from the stress she gives me. She tells my Cousin (who is 5) to harm me and he does, I feel like I can't escape. I always end up with the blame and my parents don't notice or say they don't want to hear it, if she is hurting me and I hit her to defend myself she runs crying to my parents and I always get the blame, I want it to end but I feel like I can't escape, please help!
You do not hit her, That is wrong.
Hitting her isn't setting a good example, It's feeding into what she is doing and she will not learn from it. It is difficult to really give proper advice as you left out the age.
If she is being a brat then either sit her down and explain to her how it makes you feel when she does these things or you sit down and talk to your parents privately again about the matter. If you decide to talk to your sister you approach it with a calm voice.
Imagine for a moment, If your child was abusing another playmate how would you handle it? What would you say to the child? This is almost a similar situation only she is your sibling. If your cousin is harming you then you need to have a talk with your Aunt and again, explain in an appropriate way of how it is affecting you.
If i want sex with any one wat in the advise plz say. My name praveen my age 15teen and from coimbatore. In india
This site isn't used for sex, It is used for people seeking advice.
Two days ago, I lost my virginity. I'm 16 years old, and I had only been on one pack of birth control. However, it's the kind with only three weeks worth, the last week open for when you have your period. I had finished the pack about 5 days before I had sex and my period lasted about 3 or 4 days, very light. Obviously the day after it ended was when I lost it. He had only entered me twice because of the pain, and even then only about 3 inches. We were not using protection. I've had stomach aches for the past couple days and as stupid as it sounds, it's freaking me out. What are the chances of me being pregnant?
This isn't very smart on your or your boyfriends behalf. Of course you can get pregnant, The birth control does not necessarily mean you are safe from possibilities. Why aren't you both using protection? Condoms are cheap and affordable and they are not that much of a hassle to use. Really, Start using protection because it's a hell of a lot cheaper to do so then to raise a child for 18 years.
Could you be pregnant? Well of course you could be. Wait 7-14 days before taking a test. In the meantime I'd be keeping your fingers crossed for a negative.
Hello, I'm a 20 year old girl and i have never believed in love. Lately, there's this guy in my college I've been crushing on, and it's the first time I've ever experienced something like this. I don't know what to call it but I always want to see him and I like everything about him even though I know some of his traits are funny to like.
The thing is; I'm not sure about myself. I can't talk to him because his girlfriend used to be a friend of mine but we ended up awkwardly not being friends because of him, though we never talked about it. But rumors sprang in campus that I like him and now he thinks he's all that, and I don't want to be the girl who liked him unrequited-ly so he thinks I'd be easy to get. That's why I can't approach him first, but I don't want him to slip away. He's broken up with that girl now and I really, really am interested in him. I don't think I can get over it now, and it's the first time I confessed this to anyone, even myself. My friends don't know and I won't tell them either because I'm usually the sane, no-shit brains among them and I'm feeling crazy in the head those days because of him.
Please help me, what should I do?
If he is not with that girl anymore then you shouldn't worry about her. I suppose whether I would approach it or not depends on when they broke up. If they recently split I'd give it a little more time before I jump the bandwagon.
Just start with small talk, If you see him you could exchange a smile. Drop hints
If he is interested in you then sooner or later I'm sure he will approach it. If not then just go up too him and say "Hi" ask him how he's doing, what's up that you like his shirt or something. If you don't say anything at all then yes, you could end up missing out on an opportunity. Small talk like you would anyone else.
Hello, My mother and father got divorced about a year ago. I am a 12 year old and that was very tough. My mother and father did not get a long. She says "I feel more alive now, free! She has been on some dates and some people have visited but I feel that she feels free from mothering. She feels like she can just take a break from mothering now. It has a very strong affect on me. She does not want to hear the truth and shes one of those people that always think thier right. STUBBORN! Dont get me wrong I love my mom, I just wished she loved me back! What do I do, she never wants to talk?
I don't think you understand what people go through when they divorce, This has nothing to do with your mother not loving you. Yes, she probably feels free but that is not free of being a mother that is free of being in an unhappy marriage. Of course your mother loves you. You are her daughter and you will always come first. Right now your mother probably feels like she wants to go out and have fun, enjoy her freedom and be happy. This is does not mean she doesn't care for you and I really think you should lighten up a little on that.
I notice when my finger is in my vagina and I reach a point up higher there is dangling thing (that's the best I can describe it) in my vagina and I don't know if this is normal or not? I am 16
This may help you understand better. It is a diagram
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&gl=us&biw=320&bih=416&site=webhp&tbm=isch&sa=1&q=diagram+of+vagina&oq=diagram+of+vagina&gs_l=mobile-gws-serp.3...18116.23831.0.24334.14.14.0.0.0.2.269.1505.0j7j2.9.0...0.0.5okhHoCBZ_s&mvs=0#i=43
I think what you may be feeling is the clitorus which is perfectly normal.