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Question Posted Monday July 2 2012, 1:29 am

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my life has been horrible. my mom & dad got divorced 5 years ago and for a year now my dad has tryed nothing to try to communicate with me. he is always fighting with my mom every day. he told my brother a month ago that my dog died in march, which makes me cry every night.
im thinking about calling him up and say 'get a life, and get along'. and im thinking about braging about my bf, we have been dating for 5 months, and my moms bf, they have been dating for the past 3 years.
my moms bf is a f****** a** hole. my mom took us to a restraunt with him to meet him, i could tell he was a bad person by looking at his face, his clothes, and all of his scars on his arm, not from cutting i could tell. i told my mom i liked him cause she adored him. since he has thoght he can be my father, and to tell the truth i really, really hate him now. he 'grounded' me yesterday,but forgot to take my ds so im asking for advise on this.

i just dont know what to do and i caught myself fixing to take a chunk out of my wrist earlier, but stopped thinking of my bf.

btw, im not going to finish with all my problems cause there are way to many to fit on this thing.
sorry for the lengh.
i just want to know what to do.
any advise will be very thankful!!




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Xui answered Monday July 2 2012, 2:21 am:
I really think you should give your mothers boyfriend a chance. It sounds to me that you are judging him by his appearance. Why don't you just chill out and get to know him a little bit? This does not mean you have to be the guys best friend but at least learn to respect him for the sake of your mothers happiness. If the guy makes your mother happy then why do you hate him so much? Don't you want to see her happy?

You see, My father also does not attempt to talk to me either. I am also not a huge fan of my step father but you know what? My mother is happy, He helps her and he loves her. That is all that matters to me.

You need to lighten up, Learn to forgive your father for his mistakes instead of trying to seek revenge. Someone told me long ago "Holding a grudge only does more harm them good" It's true. Being angry isn't harming anyone but yourself. You need to move on from that anger and learn to move forward. Trying to harm yourself is going to cause people you love harm. Your boyfriend will be alone, He will be very hurt. Your mother will be devastated that she lost a child and you know what? As much as you may think your father doesn't care I'm sure he will be very hurt too. Parents are not supposed to bury their children. That isn't how the cycle of life is supposed to be. If you need help then talk to your mother about getting a therapist but stop trying to harm yourself because it is not going to do you or others any good.

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