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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I really need help with this baby name. You see, I LOVE the name Krysten for one of my daughters, but one of my favorite boy names is Christian and I've liked it for longer. Would Krysten and Christian be alright for a brother and sister, or are they too close. I would also love the name Cassidy and like Jane and Kelsey.
They are cute names but I would find them confusing as they sound a bit identical.
Maybe go with Christian for a boy and do Kelsey for a girl. If you like the name Jane then maybe something like Kelsey Jane _____. That'd be cute.
I wouldn't want the confusion of simular name sounding but that's just my opinion.
Hey,
Okay so I'm soo fed up with my tummy. I have like a big muffin top and it used to be so flat :(
What's the best way of toning it up?Like some good exercises?
Thanks in advance.
Sit ups will do it
Do you attend a gym by any chance?
This is a really good machine. They have it at Planet Fitness
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She is very good girl ,kind and she always has stood with me (help me when I had troubles with teachers and classmates.On wed I called her just to say hello and she was very happy because of that.Then I asked her witch school she will move to.Her answer was just like a shock .She said the name of my new school.That mean we will study at the same school again.She has been wanting to go with her best friends (that are not me) but her parents refuse. I am shy and scared of moving to a high school and how to be a friend with her plz any tips and thanks you very much =)
You called her and she was happy to hear from you. That's a step!
Next time you call you could ask her if she wants to hang out sometime.
"I am also attending ____ I was wondering if maybe you wanted to get together sometime and hang out?"
If you both have the same lunch schedule then you could ask her to meet you for lunch. Just break the ice
Okay. So here's the deal. I'm 18 & I've applied to AT LEAST 30 jobs in the last month & no one has called or even sent an email. Is this normal? Should I call & ask if they've even considered my employment or reviewed my application or if they are still hiring for the position? Would I seem needy? HELP please. Thanks. -Ana
Never call a job three times in one day, That is not going to get you a job.
Yes, Call them but call them once a week. Nagging the hell out of a company could end up with them rejecting your application or turning you down each time you call.
One thing you need to keep in mind is that job are very hard to come by nowadays. So with the economy the way it is, No it's not unusual. Try fast food places, I know it's not your first choice but they are the ones that will usually hire you. Once you are in there then all you can do is apply elsewhere and call once a week hoping you land yourself an interview.
18/F
So, I'm currently dating this boy who is two years younger than me. He's very sweet and caring, never gets mad at me, mature for his age, buys me things (even when I tell him not to), and he's pretty much the perfect boyfriend. At first, I was so excited and giddy whenever we were together. We're both really shy, so it started out slow. It's still kind of slow as all we do is kiss and hug. We've been dating for a year and four months now too.
The problem? I don't think I'm fit for a relationship now because I don't really like kissing people; it feels awkward. I'm perfectly happy with just friends and family. Heck, I'm happier just sitting by myself at the computer. People keep telling me to take my relationship with my boyfriend further, but I honestly don't want to. I simply cannot imagine myself in a sexual situation and when I try to, my stomach churns and I just don't even want to think about it. Sex is just something I prefer not to discuss or imagine myself doing nor do I wish to try. I can't even get turned on about things. I'm a happy virgin.
What I'm trying to ask is (and I apologize for the length of this) should I just break up with my boyfriend? If so, how? If not, what can I do to make things more comfortable?
Let me ask you this, Are you happy in your relationship? I had a hard time nailing that down because you stated you were happy then you wanted to break up with him.
Honestly, If you don't want to have sex then don't. If he isn't pressuring you into it and nagging you about it then what exactly is the problem? I think you are perfectly capable of being in a relationship. Maybe you are going through a period of where you need to take a break. This doesn't mean split up it just means maybe tone down on how much time you spend with him. Maybe the kissing, hugging and holding hands just became almost like a habit? You could just maybe tone it down a little.
I really don't now what to tell you, If you truly aren't happy then you could tell him this;
"I've been thinking about our relationship lately and I don't feel we are really working out. I feel as if my feelings have changed and I think it would be best to go our separate ways"
There really isn't a nice way to break up with someone. It will be uncomfortable no matter how you drop the bomb on someone but there are certainly ways were you could try to bow out in a more peaceful way and that would be one of them I suppose. Also for the record, I would never try to remain friends with an ex. It's drama and chaos! So make sure this is something you really want to do before you go through with it.
(I am seventeen, girl, gonna be senior.. He is nineteen, boy, just graduated). So me and my ex have been broken up for about nine ish months? We dated for eight and had a reeeeally messy break up. While we were dating he, yes, had me pretty whipped. It's something I'm really not proud of. But he took advantage of that in a lot of ways and really hurt me... To sum it up he pressured/guilted me into physcial stuff, dumped me in a text, and told me he only stayed with me for so long cause he liked hooking up and he never actually liked me. Yet yeah, he had me whipped cause he reallly had me fooled that he loved me. He would actually force me to look him in the eye while he said he loved me... Didn't really think someone could lie to my face like that but ugh that's another story. Point is, I found out after we broke up that'd he'd talk a bunch of shit to his friends/baseball team. Just really disrespectful stuff you shouldn't be saying about your girlfriend. Anyway. Even though we’ve been broken up he will still mess with me. I’m pretty sure he gets enjoyment out of it. He'll just rip on me cause he knows I used to take it and he thinks I still will. Which okay... truth time: I'm not a very assertive person, he knows that, I don't know I'm just... a doormat. Or I used to be. For example, last week:
Him: Put some clothes on you look like a whore.
Me: You’re a dick.
Him: You love my dick.
Me: (quietly) Stop.
Him: Make me.
Me: Come on.
Him: You know what?
Him: I think I still have you whipped. I’m pretty sure I could get you do anything.
Me: You’re an idiot.
Him: If I dropped my pants right now would you suck me off?
Me: (attempted to push him away, he stopped me)
Him: I’m not gonna lie sweetie, you’re a tiny little thing. That’s probably not a good idea.
Me: Just let me go.
Him: I can’t take you seriously. You’re just so cute when you’re mad.
This is where he tries to pinch my cheek and I smack his hand away but he grabbed my wrist and pulled me up to him.
Me: Let go.
Him: (Laughing)
Me: Seriously, stop.
Him: Okay, okay. But remember, as much as you deny it you know you’re still mine.
UHM CREEPY?? Like I don’t even know what that means and I’m just so pissed off at him right now, like I honestly don’t even know what to do!! He’s basically dating this other girl so what the heck does he think he’s doing…? I want to talk to him but every time we talk he just has this way where as you can see from above, I can never find it in me to just REALLY tell him off. Sometimes I think he’s right. He gives me all this shit and I can never just yell at him. And it really takes a toll on me… The thing is, I don’t want to get anyone else involved (like my boyfriend) because I feel like I’m never gonna solve this problem until I can handle him myself. I need to do this for me. That last line has been in my head 24/7 for the past few days because I think he’s right. I need to tell him to piss off but but I’m scared I’m not gonna have the guts. Please help me… Tips, things to say? Anything.
This guy is a classic example of an asshole who has gone too far.
You posted "Him: I’m not gonna lie sweetie, you’re a tiny little thing. That’s probably not a good idea.
Me: Just let me go."
That right there is a threat, You should and need to let someone know what this guy is doing. It is pretty clear in the conversation that you are intimated by him and he is using that against you. You do not say anything to him, You let an adult know that this guy is had not only threatened you but he is harassing you. You had told him to stop several times and he didn't. That is wrong and definitely needs to be addressed. No one ever has the right to put a hand on you like that.
Also, From now on you need to say something. Be stern and tell him to fuck off if you have too. Never ever let someone walk on you, As long as you do people will always take advantage of you and I learned that the hard way.
Tell your parents or let someone know who can take action towards him.
My ex and I have been on and off for the past 5 years. He lives in a different lifestyle than me, his parents are insanely strict and he's always locked at home/have to abide to their rules. He didn't have a brain for himself so that's why I would get so frustrated...he would always do what people tell him to do and I feel like it's his parent's fault not giving him freedom.
Anyways, I miss him so bad. I used to have fears of being with one person but wanting to be with other guys...like I didn't wanna be tied down so early (I'm 18 btw). These past 2 years, I dated random guys and it all failed. Every guy was an idiot, pervert etc. All I wanted was my ex in the end.
What makes me angry is that...our timing is always off. I notice that every single summer, he disappears from my life on purpose. He's hanging out with friends etc , like having the life while I miss him. When school starts, he falls on his knees and begs for me back. it's happened since 10th grade to 12th. We are both going to the SAME college this fall and right now he's not talking to me. I can't stand it. I want to cry so bad cause he doesn't give a shit about me in the summer.
I think he truly loves me, and I feel like college will give him the freedom he needs to be a good boyfriend. He would always leave me when he got upseet, which I want to teach him that relationships have their ups and downs.
I know I'm young, but I want to be with him ...forever. He's just one of those guys that you know there is something real. WE jusst had a lot of issues with his parents, his strict life...What should I do to convince my ex to let's stop this fighting/awkward/painful ignoring stuff and be together? We went out freshman year for a year...single sophomore and junior year (though we still went on dates and kissed...) and senior year, we dated for half a year.
We broke up multiple times cause there were points he was suicidal and didn't give a shit about his life and especially me. That really crushed my self esteem............
My ex is a good guy, he just has his emotional flaws. I love him, and I want to be with him. What should I do?
Fact is, If it hasn't worked out in 2 years it just isn't going to keep working. As long as you have the mindset that you can't move on from him then you won't.
The reason that your relationships have failed is because you allow them too. You are not willing to open up and give yourself other opportunities. Some will tell you that as long as you are in some kind of contact with your ex then the process of moving on is going to be harder for you. Allow yourself to move on from him and just stop contacting him. As long as you don't, You will continue to dwell on "what could be". If you aren't ready to date other people right now then give yourself a break from dating for awhile. My best advice to you is to avoid contact with the ex for awhile until you move on which you will in time. I dated someone for a few years, It took me a few months to get over it but I eventually did. Stop torturing yourself, Of course he is going out and doing his thing, You both are no longer together.
Cutting contact is probably your best bet. Continuing to take him back is just making it harder on you, The relationship is a waste of time and you should see that by now.
I need to know wot people think of rules in a relationship. I have this boyfriend with whom I got too many do's and dont's.
Well things like get home early in the evenings when out with friends (m talking 7 pm!)which is really early. Strictly no meeting up with Male friends unless my boyfriend is informed. Even if allowed to meet any, strict deadlines to get back home early. No talking to anybody after 10pm (be it anybody except family )family was made an exception on my request. No wearing shorts or sleeveless! though something i wud have loved in a store.Strictly no drinking when he is not around (he is in a different country). One of my best friend's happens to be a guy. my boyfriend never liked him since this friend cared a lot for me. So one more rule added- 'never talking to him again'!
Well all this i followed religiously until today where I got 2 days left for my birthday and my friends are planning a girls night out. so that means drinking involved. I tried asking my boyfriend if could have this party(strictly girls party) . But he says 'NO'! n also mentions its hurting to say 'no'. Last birthday he didnt let me receive phone calls! so i missed lot of people trying to wish me on my birthday. Later he justified saying he said that only when we were busy with something else. Is this healthy? peolpe say life is not a fairytale. is it true to this extent? what should I do?
You're boyfriend is controlling you. These are not "rules" it is mental abuse.
You are not his property nor does he own you. If you want to wear sleeveless, shorts, heels, in public. Then do it! It's free country.
If you want me to just spill the beans, Dump him.
Nobody ever has the right to tell someone how they can and can't dress. Again, He doesn't own you. If he doesn't like how you dress, act then tough! Move on and find someone way better. Truthfully? Relationships are about being happy with someone. Feeling good about yourself, partnership. Not telling someone what they do and how to live their lives. You do not need to ask him anything, If you want to go out with your friends then again you have every right to do so. Don't become his puppet!
Really please, Just dump him and find someone new who will appreciate you. Jealousy is not loving someone. I would cut the contact when you do, He doesn't deserve your friendship either.
HI so my bf is getting an operation done .. its not rll serious but yes any operation is painful .. i asked him if i could know the name of the hospital and he said no ... because he doesnt want me to c him weak like that .. i totall understand that manly feelings that guys have but .. as his gf i want to show up ... n give him flowers .. hold his hand through his pain! but m worried that if i show up (by asking his brother the adress of the hospital) he might get mad!
m rll confused .. pls help meh! what should i do? go c him or stay at home n give him my luck through the phone?
Honestly, As shitty as this might sound, If he asked you not to show up then don't. Respect his privacy.
Maybe it sucks but he sounded pretty sure on the fact that he would rather have you not visit him in the hospital. If you go off asking his brother not only may he be annoyed at him but it could cause problems with you too.
If you want to send flowers that's fine, but I'd wait until he is released.
I'm a man and I like to wear make up just because I want to,because I like the way my face looks with it,so why is it still seen as a tabu that a guy likes to wear make up??????I wanted to buy a foundation in a shop today and felt really embarrassed because one of the st...d sale assistants laughhed at me just because I was buying make up???What's so funny about it?What do you think?I'm so mad
In today's society if it's not one thing it's another.
Who cares if you want to wear makeup? This is YOUR life not the coworkers and not someone else. If you want to wear the makeup then so be it. Free country, Don't ever let someone's ignorance effect you. Also, I would of reported her behavior to the management. That is rude and unacceptable. Don't ever tolerate childish behavior like that. Customers come first always.
I have a lot of guy friends that wear makeup to cover up acne, Big deal.
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this!
I am 20 and was in my second long relationship about a month and a half ago. We dated for about 3.5 years but were long distance for the last 2.5 years. (about a 6 hour drive but we would still see each other every month at least)
Well I ended things with him because right now things werent working out. He is seriously addicted to drugs(crack and pills) and relapsed after going 90 days strong after getting out of rehab. I have always been there for him and always talked to him and tried to cheer him up. But the fact was, I cant help someone who wont help themselves. My two older brothers suffured from addiction too and I so desperately wanted to free my life from that. Plus I'm in college working on my senior year and will end up doing what I love more than anything and I felt like I was being weighed down.
So those are all the reasons "being friends" wont work for me. I am completely in love with this kid regardless of the fact that drugs are the number one thing in his life. I pray and pray that he finds his way soon and I cant help but find myself holding onto the hope that we will someday make things work.
Here comes my other problem. I am constantly depressed because I'm just waiting for him to find someone else. I feel like he finds relationships to make himself less lonely and then will be clean for a couple months. I am so torn up about the idea of him moving on and being with someone else because I would like to think if he did get clean or did have emotional space to get a girlfriend, he would come back to me. I heard from a mutual friend that he may have been talking to someone else. I never felt worse in my life. Its horrible when someone can move on so fast. But the thing is they weren't sure if he was using "im going out with this girl" as an excuse to get his parents off his back about drugs and lend him money for the "date". because they wouldnt think he was doing drugs if he was dating. So I really dont know what to believe
Then for about a week he has been trying to contact me and left me a voicemail saying how much he wanted to get together and talk and how much he missed me. I ignored it and then 2 nights ago he kept calling and said please just answer so I did.
We havent talked for a month and a half and it was weird. He kept saying he reread and reread this note I wrote him while he was in rehab and how much he wanted to make it work with me one day but knew that he couldn't right now. He said he wasnt talking to anyone.
This call killed me. Now I'm waiting more! I love him so much but I know that I cant sit around waiting because chances are...he will just find someone else. I mean time heals all for most people and his feelings will lessen when he doesnt talk to me. I dont know how to move on and its so hard to resist the urge to just call him and try talking to him when I know hes not what I want right now (just becasue hes what I will want in the future maybe)
Please Please Please Help. sorry that was so long. Just feeling really bad :[
You cannot help him, He needs to be willing to want to get the help and want to change.
Sitting around waiting for him is a waste of time. I credit you for leaving the relationship, His addiction would of taken a toll on you and your relationship despite the effort of trying. People who are addicted to drugs generally put that before their relationships and even themselves for that matter.
Stop worrying about him and start worrying about YOU, You also have a life and you need to move on and do what is best for you. You will continue to feel bad about it as long as you let him drag you into his problems, For now I would suggest cutting contact. This will make the moving on process a lot better for you. As harsh as it sounds this is his problem not yours.
My name is david and im 16 and im having trouble asking a girl out, but the problem is that she is my best friend, her name is tiana she is also 16, we have been best friends since 3rd grade and now where sophmore's. i recently broke up with my gf about a month ago for cheating and tiana has been helping me deal with it every step of the way, i started noticing that i liked her when i started dreaming about her in my dreams, and now i just cant stop thinking of her, everytime i meet her at school i get butterrflies, i just cant stop thinking of her. i want to ask her out on a date but im scared she might reject and we might stop being best friends. i dont know what to do i wanna be with her but i dont wanna lose her, i dont want to lose my best friend... SHOULD I ASK HER OR LEAVE IT THE WAY IT IS? i dont know what to think.
If I were in the situation I would probably remain friends with her. Dating someone is a chance you take, Some end badly and some don't. I would not want to jepordize the friendship by taking it to a new level. You could even hold off on it because the truth is you'd be more likely to work out when your a little older then 16.
how to judge a girl if she is virgin
I am not sure what your age is here but I don't see the big issue with someone wanting to know if someone is a virgin or not. Wanting to know someone's sexual history and how many partners they've been with is completely understandable but to judge someone on whether they had sex or not it a bit nosy to me.
13/f
ok so i was taking a shower and i noticed that there were small spidery red veins on my boobs.
i know veins are normal,but these were small and red and i never saw them before so am concerned.
what should i do?
any advise will be very thankful!!
I am going take a wild guess you are talking about red spider veins?
Spider veins can be caused by the backup of blood. They can also be caused by hormone changes, exposure to the sun, and injuries.
You may want to have a look at this link, It's pretty helpful
http://www.womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/varicose-spider-veins.cfm#A
Spider veins are not harmful, In fact they are pretty normal. I have some of them too on my arms, they aren't severely noticeable but they are there.
He's 7, btw.
He occasionally plays on some virtual gaming site for kids, where people can create avatars of themselves, to roam the little "gaming world", with has other avatars. I noticed his character was white with blonde hair, while he is dark skinned with black/dark brown hair, as he comes from a West African family. We live in America, in a small town that's diverse, but predominantly white and asian (specifically, mostly indians and koreans).
Multiple times I'd suggested he make his avatar look like him, and he refused. Weeks later, I confronted him about it and kept pressing him about why he made his avatar look the way it does. He said that he made the avatar to be one of his closest friends, a white boy at school, and even named the character after him. But then I asked him why he couldn't let his friend make an avatar of himself, and he (my brother) make one of HIMself. Then he told me that he wouldn't fit in with the other avatars, who are apparently mostly white, because of him having a different color. He said that he wouldn't have the same friends if he made his character look like him. But I asked him why he thinks that, when in real life he has diverse friends (he tells me he's friends with all the boys in his class) and color isn't important to them, but he wouldn't give me an answer. I told him that he wouldn't want to be friends with anyone who thought skin color was important, but he still didn't budge.
So I have no idea where he's getting this from, because the website has a filter, so I doubt anything racist could have gotten through, and my family says no racist things (as we're not racist), which leads me to believe that he may have been negatively impacted by something at school, or possibly brainwashed by TV (which he watches too much) to feel insecure, somehow? I'm not sure.
After I talked to him he started to cry, but I'm not sure whether it's because I kept pestering him or if it was because I uncovered some hidden pain he felt about his skin color? I have no idea. I don't know whether I should tell my parents about this, either. I'm 18, and I just don't want my little brother to grow up feeling badly about his skin color, for no reason. I never even felt that way at his age. I liked looking different from most other kids, and appreciated all of our differences. I never even knew about any reason to not like my skin color at age 7, and even though I'm more aware of the world now, I still feel the same. I spent my formative years mostly in the Northeast (in a much bigger, and slightly more diverse town, of the same upper middle class socio-economic status), so I don't know if it makes a difference now that we're now in Texas.. I don't know what kids here have been taught at home. We even go to a diverse church, too, cause churches that are predominantly one race just aren't the most comfortable. I like church to be a reflection of the same people I see everyday, not for it to be some kind of escape from the real world, where there is a degree of diversity.
But I'm just worried for my brother. I just want him to have a good childhood and feel good about himself. I don't want him to believe any stereotypes and feel badly about something that has nothing to do with him, personally. He's only responsible for himself and his actions, and can do w/e he wants, regardless of how the media depicts "black boys". If he got this notion from TV, I don't even know how, when he just watches only kids programming. COuld the lack of diversity on a lot of kid shows be the blame? But I've watched my share of TV while growing up, but I don't feel like he does. Am I overreacting, or if not, what should I do?
Why were you asking him these questions? The kid is only 7 years old. If he wants to play a game then let him, If he wants his character white then so be it.
Apart of me is wondering to whether bringing up the subject with your brother triggered him to think a little bit or whether he is REALLY feeling the way you say he is. Maybe he felt as if you were pointing out that he was different from the character he created? I am just pointing out possibilities.
This is what lead me to believe that: " Weeks later, I confronted him about it and kept pressing him about why he made his avatar look the way it does."
This right here sounds racist. You are pointing out the difference, You are making it pretty obvious that he looks different and you also compared him.
To be honest, I find it a little offensive that you even questioned that with him. If it bothers you you could talk to your parents about it and have them explain that he should be happy with himself. but when it comes to something like a game I really wouldn't be nagging him about it. I think rather then focusing so much on your brother you need to focus on you and adjust your views a bit.
Why is it that a lot of music videos& concerts don't get deleted on youtube, but mine does?
I see a lot of videos that are concerts and people uploading music on youtube. But when I do the same thing my videos get blocked or removed. Is there some special software that prevents music/concert videos from being deleted or something?
9 times out of 10 it's because of copyright. There are so many videos on Youtube that they just can't catch up with everyone. Many people even have to get permission nowadays just to put up a song.
This is why I mainly stick to self done videos unfortunately.
So I'm 17/F and the other night I was at a party on a college campus and it ended up ending a lot sooner than I thought. I was supposed to be spending the night with one of my friends but she went off with her boyfriend because they were in a big fight and basically ditched me... This guy that I kind of have been having a thing with that was there (we'll call him Matt: 19) was like "hey we can just chill in my car and figure it out" cause we were both too drunk to drive. So we're walking to his car and this dude starts yelling stuff at me and I don't really remember what he said lol but I think it was pretty sexual/rude cause it pissed Matt off and Matt was trying to start something with him cause he gets like that when he's drunk... anyway last thing I remember after that was sitting down on the sidewalk being really confused. I woke up in Matt's car but Matt wasn't there, neither were the keys, and the windows were down. I got pretty scared cause I didn't know where he was and I was just sitting in this open car in the middle of a college campus and Matt's phone was in the car so I didn't know what else to do but call one of my freinds Jake to come pick me up. He picks me up and since my friend ditched me and I couldn't go home I ended up having to spend the night at Jakes hous. Jake and I have a history of almost hooking up but never actually doing it and he has a girlfriend now so I knew we had to be extra careful and I was like, I'm not gonna hook up with him. But I was really drunk and so mad at Matt for just leaving me in his car (he ended up texting me saying he was fine and that he was just gonna spend the night in his car so I knew he was okay but I was pissed he had just left me like that). Anyway,I was upset and drunk and I didn't feel well so Jake layed me on his couch and started rubbing my back. He put my head in his lap (on a pillow) and kept going but started to go under my pants... he took my hand and held it for a little while then started moving it toward his penis. I don't know what I was thinking but when he pulled down his pants and put my head there I just started giving him a BJ... I had been going for a little bit and then I stopped and he was like "uh yeah, we prolly shouldn't finish that..." I was like "wtf Jake. why did I do that?" and he says "I don't know but it felt so good I couldn't stop you. If I were single we'd be up in my bed right now but damn..." he didn't even seem sorry, I felt worse than he did and he was comforting me. We agreed we could never tell anyone about it but I'm just freaking out. He wasn't even drunk and he initiated it but if anyone finds out, I'm gonna be the one that gets called a slut and what not. He's going to college in the fall and his gf is only gonna be a junior so he was gonna break up with her at the end of the summer anyway and I know everyone hates his girlfriend cause she's a total bitch but that doesn't make what I did any better and I just feel so awful... He doesn't even seem to feel bad but he doesn't want anyone to find out either. Im just so scared he's gonna tell her or something and he's gonna say my name and oh my gosh... please help!!!
I don't understand why you posted this question twice when you got pretty decent advice on the last question....
Like we said, Matt used you. These "friends" aren't true friends. Jake took this call of help as an opportunity for a sexual invitation. Jake pretty much raped you, He sexually assaulted you and does not say anything because he knows what he did was wrong. No different then someone taking a date rape pill, You were drunk.
Stop talking to them, Find new friends. Not someone who uses you for fun and games. Nobody who is drunk has the right mind to consent to sex. Move on from it.
Also, I would recommend telling your parents what had happened to you that night. Tell someone and let them handle the situation.
I wonder which games people play both on the computer or not. For example, I am a great fan of word games, like Letter Star or Text Twist.
I don't play any games but when I was younger I remember some game called "Runescape" It was free too. MMORPG generally for the 12-16 age group.
My neighbor is dating my ex-boyfriend.I dated this guy for a really long time. He even stalked me for awhile, and hes only dating her too upset me. I don't care what he does anymore, Ive moved on, but it kills me to see her get used. Ive told her everything but shes 15 and wont listen. My ex however, is 19. I'm not comfortable seeing the two of them together.
My question is, how can her to realize he's only using her?
Well, I'm not saying go for revenge here but it's pretty sad when a 19 year old is dating a 15 year old.
There really is no need to "get back" at them. It already is pitiful that he would dip as low as dating someone that age. The girl is only 15 years old. Having sexual relationships with a minor is considered statutory rape and he could even be viewed as a pedophile.
Anyway, To give you advice IGNORE IT. You may not be happy to see them together but not only is it up too you, but he isn't exactly giving himself the best reputation by dating a young girl like that. Chill out and move on from it, Ignoring the situation is actually probably the best thing you can do. Why get yourself all worked up over it? Trust me sweetie, You are getting the last laugh not him. A 15 year old? Com'on now....
Laugh it off and be mature about the situation
Why is it so hard too kill yourself?.... I've tried it soo much . I can never do it! Ive puttin soo much knives to my throat i even asked people if they would do me the favor. I offered a couple grand. Just im sooo depressed ! The love of my life is in mexico visiting family! Im just soo sad cause out of no were she calls me and i barely wake up and she says i cant deal with your bullshit anymore, soo i say what ?? Whos this ? She says yesenia and i was like wasup babe?? She says she doesnt wana talk toe anymore. She clicks and i call her aunt and says she doesnt want to talk to me ever again! Soo i gave her time to think a couple of days and i call her again and she dont answer her aunt says shes busy or do something! You know what i think is she found somebody else over there in mexico and probably did something with him and she doesnt want to feel guility so she broke up with me..... I would still take her back thats how madly in love i am with her ! Shes my life ! I live for her ! I want to get married with her , i want to have kids , have a great family, have tons blessings, and be very healthy , the most important thing is to be with my wife! I know she wont take me back sooo im giving up! Its the easiest way! I know what im going to do. Im going to make her CD and leave my girlfriend yesenia a letter say i want her to be happy amd how much i love her! And her to have tons of kids and have a great husband cause i cant! Im a mess up. I know i dont make her happy at all. Im the most horrible person! Being heart broken is sooo painful ! Ive lost 15 pounds in 9 days i never want to eat. i just wish we together and she was laying on me shoulder just telling me how much she loves me! But i know thats never happeningg! Im 15 and im going to kill my self ! The best way listening to our songs and staring at pictures we took and just get hammered and just cuting my wrist. Doesnt sound painfull at all. I want yesenia to have a great life and just to be happy! I wish i would of gaven that to you babe! I love you! I love you soo much more then love! Te amo mamita chula mi princesa! Love you babe!! Us way past forever te la promento ! I more then promise and swear maybe well be together after life who knows!! I love you my queen! Bye.
You are 15, Way to young to be hung up over a girl like that.
Seriously, Lets look at reality for a moment. Yesenia isn't the only girl in the world that is going to take interest in you. As hard as it is to hear that's just a fact. Also, If she doesn't want to be with you then it is her loss. True happiness doesn't come with relying on other people, It only comes with being happy with ourselves first.
Instead of dwelling on it, Fix it. Move on and meet someone else. Stop contacting her.
The best thing you can do is just move on from it and focus on you. At 15, You are old enough to get working papers and get a part time job. If you feel extremely depressed where you are loosing rapid weight then see a therapist or see a doctor for depression. Yesenia is not the end of the world, You have a future ahead of you.