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my bf is getting an operation done n he doesnt want me to show up??!!
HI so my bf is getting an operation done .. its not rll serious but yes any operation is painful .. i asked him if i could know the name of the hospital and he said no ... because he doesnt want me to c him weak like that .. i totall understand that manly feelings that guys have but .. as his gf i want to show up ... n give him flowers .. hold his hand through his pain! but m worried that if i show up (by asking his brother the adress of the hospital) he might get mad!
m rll confused .. pls help meh! what should i do? go c him or stay at home n give him my luck through the phone?
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I wouldn't ask him again and I wouldn't ask anybody about any direction either,guys act like this because they think that we overreact in situations like this,but once they notice we're not there with them when they need us the most they start feeling miserable and that situation sometimes makes them swallow their pride,so if he asks you not to come then don't do it,don't ask him twice.The same used to happen to me with my boyfriend and I just got fed up with it.
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Well, I would not go there if he expressly asked you not to. I am not saying he is justified to act all macho, but if this is the way he deals with things then your presence might make the whole thing harder on him.
The only thing I would do is call him and try one more time. Explain to him what it means to you, but don't push. Then if he still says no, respect his wishes and let him go through it alone.
You guys can always talk about it afterwards and figure out if things should be different next time.
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Honestly, As shitty as this might sound, If he asked you not to show up then don't. Respect his privacy.
Maybe it sucks but he sounded pretty sure on the fact that he would rather have you not visit him in the hospital. If you go off asking his brother not only may he be annoyed at him but it could cause problems with you too.
If you want to send flowers that's fine, but I'd wait until he is released.
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