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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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okayy. my boyfriend is supposed to cumm to my house like saturdayy. && we were goingg to watch a movie. now what movie should we watchh. i told him i would pick the movie out. and mee i would get like the gayy'est movie out there, haha and we would be boreddd as CRAAAZY. so if anyone knos of a good movie "informm me!"
thannks muchh! :D

Disturbia.
Accepted.
Fantastic Four 2.
5O First Dates.
The Punisher.
Employee of the Month.

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does anyone know where i can buy headbands like this.... [on the blonde girl]

http://img125.imageshack.us/img125/8885/le88a5d697ee34928704bfaev1.jpg

they go all the way around and they are like thin and stretchy...


anddddd beanies like this..

http://img504.imageshack.us/img504/1831/l4e2a7a8cb2cc7f9d50fed2wt8.jpg






????? please please please help x0 its really important.

Headbands: Anywhere. Target would be cheapest. You could go to CVS, Claires, Walmart, Charlotte Russe, too.

Beanie: Hollister, American Eagle, Delia's maybe, Charlotte Russe, etc. Depends on the color you want.


-LM
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I'm 16/F

I have dyed my hair a couple of times, and I straighten it a lot although I do not think that straightening one's hair would make it fall out.

My hair falls out terribly bad, when I shower I have like fist fulls of hair and it is just so disgusting.

I have really thick hair so you cannot notice that it falls out, well it does not look like it falls out.

Anyway, I get my hair thinned out when I get my hair done and it still falls out really bad and looks really thick.

Does anyone have any ideas on why my hair is falling out so much?

Count how many hairs you're losing a day. It's quite normal to lose 100 or so (a bit more if you have thick hair). So what seems like a lot of hair may actually be nothing to worry about. If you're really losing a lot, or you notice it's falling out in a certain area or pattern, see a doctor if at all possible. They can test/check for possible medical conditions that cause hair loss. Also, a common cause of losing your hair is stress. This happened to my friend when she was ten years old so don't think you're too young for it. Things like that can usually be treated.

Besides something being medically wrong, make sure you're not using a brush on wet or damp hair. Use moisturizing shampoo and try to minimize the amount of heat you expose your hair to. If you get a lot of knots, try using a detangler when you brush your hair.

hope this helps :)
-LM
[15/f]

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what song is this pleasee anwer me
"i wont suffer be broken
then the chorus is like
run away run away
out of time
thanks

"Attack" by Thirty Seconds to Mars.
Use Google next time, it works!

only search advicenators.com

-LM
[15/f]

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I'm applying to Tabor Academy (Marion, MA), and Worcester Academy (Worcester, MA) next year. Does anyone know how much money they give you for financial aid? For both?

Worcester Academy:
http://www.worcesteracademy.org/admission/aid/

Tabor Academy:
http://www.taboracademy.org/admissions_financial-aid.asp

-LM
[15/f]

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Heyy, you give great advice, and i usually come to you when i need help with something. Do you mind if i add you on msn? I have problems alot, and it takes time to write them out, and wait for someone to answer it. Thanks alot! (14/f)

Thank you, I'm glad I've been able to help you out before =]

I use AIM [lauraxomichelle] and I'm on at least once a day (most days). MSN I gave up on a couple years ago because no one I knew had it =/
Emailing me is probably you best bet- and you wouldn't have to wait for me to be online, either. My email is lauraxomichelle@gmail.com and I check it basically every day. If you do email me, put Advicenators in the subject somewhere so I know to open it; Gmail has a tendency to mark everything as spam.

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how should i make out? like wat should i do with my toungue? how should i more my tounge? thnnkx in advance. please no links by tha way. videos and advice r fine.

It's probably not what you want to hear, but kissing really is one of those things that just comes naturally. You just kind of move your tongue around a bit... it's hard to explain. If you think about it too much you won't enjoy the moment because you'll be worrying about messing up. Just don't drool all over their face,make sure you brush your teeth that day, and breath mints are a huge plus. That's basically it.

-LM
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14f
my cusin is the complete opposite of me and shes the same age[14]! she has huge boobs/ass is really smart and gets what ever she wants.
i'm flat, i have to study for tests and i never get anything i want.
Lately, shes been driving me crazy.. she hangs out with people from my school, and it pisses me off cause shes taking everyone from me.
Today I was with my friend on a street right, and then these guys from our school show up. And lets call him "F" He was like hey, wheres your really hot cusin? And i was like i dont know i dont care. The like i dropped my cellphone so i picked it up and then "F" was like do you even have an ass?
It made me feel terrible. All the guys love her for her body and nobody knows the terrible person she is, seriously shes a huge bitch.
I mean i have a loving boyfriend but it still pisses me off, when guys come to me asking whats your hott cusin doing and stuff.
I dont know exactly what my question is but i needed to expose my feelings to something.. blah

Look, it's not your cousin's fault that a lot of guys find her attractive. You have a loving boyfriend, so stop worrying about other people so much. If your cousin's actually acting like a slut (hanging out with a lot of guys doesn't make a girl a slut, it means she has friends that are guys) you can offer your opinion on it, but it's her body & her life. When someone asks "Hey where's your hot cousin?" you can say, "I don't know where Sarah is, call her or something" (use her name, it might help make you feel less annoyed) As for thinking she's a huge bitch, you can't really help what other people think about that, either. Just worry about your OWN life and your OWN boyfriend who loves you, okay? =]

-LM
[15/f]

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what are some ways to help quicken the recovery time for mono i know theres no cure and that alot of rest is requred but i unfortunatly dont have that option to rest alot i have to work. so is there anything else that anyone knows of that helps quicken it?

I don't know much about mono, since I've never had it. But you'll be a lot better off if you take one day off work to rest and get better, as opposed to going when you're still sick, doing a half-assed job, and possibly getting other people sick. Like if you go to school when you're sick and for the entire day, you're sitting there thinking "I would be so much better off sleeping right now".

Feel better soon!
-LM
[15/f]

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i have a bf, but he lives a little more then 1 hour awy. nd i relleeee like him, more than nething. but theres this kid at my school that i like, and i think he could possbly like me 2. what should i doo!!!?

Well obviously you like both of them. Figure out which one you like more. It's unfair to your boyfriend to date him when you're interested in someone else. That's all there is to it.


-LM
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I am getting a new cell phone and this time I woul dlike to know something beforehand. I have seen these:

Samsung SCH-a870

UTStarcom 8915
LG 245


As long as I can download ringtones, text, and it has the vibrating alert I will be happy. I am rough on phones so what would be the best one to go with?




Also another question I have is is there anyother way I can get ringtones without paying the extra 20 dollars a month?

Typically, a slightly thicker phone is more durable. When you go to buy the phone, ask the salesperson which one is more durable, they can tell you. Most, if not all, phones have texting and vibrating capabilites nowadays, and you can easily find out if these phones do by testing the display model. Dropping them on the floor to test durabiity is a poor choice, however. Consider getting the insurance if you have a tendency to break phones.

As for free ringtones (that work & won't ruin your phone, etc):
http://www.myxertones.com/default/


-LM
[15/f]

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my homecoming is coming up.
where can i get a really cute cocktail
type dress that does cost a crap load.
im a size 1/2/sometimes a 3.

also, i need to able to dance in it.
cause there will be grinding and what not.
and i dont want my dress riding too far up. (:
and if i helps, i live in the houston area.
THANK YOU!

I've always gotten dresses at Macy's, on the sale/clearance rack ($10-30 for most). Regular prices are around $40-130ish. Deb had cute dresses too, you'll pay around $30-60 depending on the style. If you can believe it, I got a floor-length Snowball dress at Deb on clearance for $5. Shop around & you'll find a good deal.

Kohl's sometimes has My Michelle dresses. I would describe them as more "elegant" as opposed to "flashy" (like, they're not typically made of all-shiny material, and would probably be more confortable to dance in, too)

Have fun at homecoming!
-LM
[15/f]

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I have a HUGE crush on this guy. We are both in high school, I'm a sophmore, but he's a freshman. Is that really wierd? Can a sophmore girl and a freshman boy date without being made fun of? Also, how do I tell if he likes me?

No one cares about ages.
People will make fun of you if you're older than him.
People will make fun of you if you're younger than him.
People will make fun of you if you're the same age.

So it doesn't matter at all. It's not weird, and if you like him, let him know. Flirt with him or even ask him out- nothing wrong with that at ALL.


-LM
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honestly... Do you think age 15 and a half is too young to staart thinking about having sex when i'm like, 16?

In my opinion, it's a bit young to be sexually active. At the same time, it's a heck of a lot better to be thinking about it in advance & knowing that you're ready, as opposed to having sex with a random guy without protection.

But hey, it's your life, and if you want to have sex at age sixteen, go ahead. At least be smart about it, get on birth control (assuming you're a girl & you have the opportunity) & buy yourself some condoms. And be sure that the person you're with is someone you care about (unless you don't want it that way... which would be weird!)


-LM
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So there's this guy and he's really nice lets call him "Andrew".. but he doesn't talk much.. he only talks to his guy friends!

But thats not the questoin so Andrew told me that he liked me as a friend and I'm like thinking "Wow this shy guy likes me as a friend and he never likes any one as a friend thats a girl" So one of my other guy friends says that Andrew likes me and I like Andrew too!

But can't keep a conversation going.. well it mostly the guy that just stops talking... so what are things to say to start and keep it going if he stops talking?

Ask him what his favorite pick up line is, and use it sometime. Haha. Ask him questions that require an answer besides "Yes" or "No". Like "Would you rather hug a random stranger or call your teacher Mom for an entire day?" as opposed to "Hey, do you like chicken?" Something weird, that will catch him off-guard. Or, how do you normally keep the conversation going when you're talking to someone else? If you're on the phone, mention something about what you're doing (i.e. if you're cleaning, say "Holy crap, I haven't seen these things in forever" or "Aaah, dust bunnies attacking me". etc,etc.

Good luck! =]
-LM
[15/f]

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How often should I exfoliate my face? I have a pretty mild exfoliating cleansing scrub, but I've heard that exfoliating too often can be too harsh for the skin.

You can probably get away with exfoliating on a daily basis. I have extremely sensitive skin (moderate excema, three crazy-intensely strong acne products, the whole deal) and I use St. Ives Apricot Scrub every day without a problem. If you notice your skin getting really irritated, switch to every other day or so.

-LM
[15/f]

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i wanna a plain white t-shirt but i want it tight and girly and with sleeves so it cuz im a girl and when i where plain t-shirts in public it makes me feel wierd so do you guys know where i can get a plain white shirt thats tight with sleeves that is cheep like under $10

Under $10? try Target.
Oh, and Charlotte Russe, sales & clearance sections.

-LM
[15/f]

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When it comes to taking pictures; it's like I can't be captured in a positive way on film...I'm comfortable with the way I look, so that's not an issue. I just don't understand why my skin is so pale no matter the lighting. In general, how could I make my pictures less bland and have more of a presence in my photos? Thank you!

In addition to what ygsgirl already said, try taking pictures in different lighting & different flash settings. Smile naturally & don't try too hard to "pose" or anything like that. Also, if you wear foundation make sure it's the right shade (you probably got tanner over the summer) and the paleness of makeup sometimes shows up more in photographs.


-LM
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what is the name of this song? its the first one that plays in the video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCAijM9d840&mode=related&search=

Freezepop - Get Ready to Rokk
It's right in the video comments :)

& the second song is The Curse of Curves, by Cute is What We Aim For.


-LM
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i'm male,19,and have been quite healthy so far,lately though i have a problem

My hair seems to be thinning,and like dropping out,and I don't know why

what happened:basically,i was picked for this 3 month national army camp and they shaved my head,no problem right?right

then after the camp,i still didin't like my look with the shaved head and all so i decided to wear a cap,everytime to college,no problem?maybe not

i also wanted my hair to grow fast so i washed my hair with shampoo like 2 or 3 times a day,and used hair tonic,no problem?maybe not

all those 3 incidents,which i mentioned,mainly because these 3 were new ...schedule runs i picked up,in all my 17 years,i never ever shaved my head bald,except i had to for the camp,and i never washed my hair that much and never wore a cap everyday to college/school.

after that the thinning begins,now all those events happened last year,yup,2006,now is 2007,i still have quite a lot of hair,it's just thinner than my usual hair mass or whatever and i want to do something before it gets bad.i already have like 5 or 6 comments from my friends that my hair seems to be thinning so yeah...

besides that ,i pierced my lips,don't know if that would effect

so do you guys have any suggestions as to what do i do,use,when to use,how to use?please please please,really need your help, i read that the balding process only starts when you are 30 or 40,and i'm only a teen,i also read that thinning during teenhood is because of some lack of nutrition and is only temporary,what could be wrong?

thanks a lot

It's possible that you're simply not used to the look & feel of your hair growing back. How long is it now? If it's still peachfuzz-y, give it some time. Washing your hair too much makes it fall out so don't do that more than once a day, once every other day if you can get away with that.

Since it's been over a year & other people are noticing, I suggest seeing a doctor if at all possible. A vitamin defiency could be causing all this, in which case they can help you fix it. Also, you could be stressing out a lot & have alopecia areata. I'm not a doctor & can't diagnose you, but hair loss among young people is often caused by that disorder, which is treatable.

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/guide/alopecia-areata


So your best bet is to see a doctor, who can rule out other possible health problems. Good luck.
-LM
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