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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also.

I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.

If you have a question that you would like to keep private, you can email me and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.

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well lets just say yea im 16 and have sex with my b/f but im not sure if one ball is bigger then the other of if it hasnt dropped yet. should i be afraid he wont be able to have kids if it hasnt dropped yet ? how could i tell which one it could be? or should i just ask him. o and he is 17 gunna be 18 this year. is it bad if on ehasnt dropped yet plz elp me figure it out?

It's still possible for your boyfriend to have kids, even with only one ball descended. Variance in size between the two is normal. If it bothers you and him a lot, have him go to the doctor to be checked out. I'm sure there's no problem but it's better to be safe than sorry.

Hope this helps.

after you get your first period whens the next time you get it? some say 5 months? or will it be one month?i got mine for the first time July 1st and i was just wanted a heads up for when the next time i'll get it

Periods vary from woman to woman. Some women go straight into the cycle of every month while some go months without having periods. If you're on a typical cycle, you should be due again around July 29th. Don't panic if it doesn't come on time since it takes your body a little time to adjust to the change. If you go more than 3 months without having another period, I would have your parents take you to the doctor for a check-up to rule out an underlying condition.

Hope this helps.

Hope this helps.

Ok i REALLY want to move back to my old house. Theres this house for sale right up the street from were i used to live. My mom said she moved to make everyone happy but me and my brother have told her our lives suck and were really sad. She moved in with her boyfriend to our new house and her boyfriend owns the house. I dont want to live in this house! The catch is she doesnt have the money to move back because if we move out,its not our house to sell,its her boyfriends. But i know shes afraid to say to her boyfriend that she wants to move out,there is litterally NOTHING here for all of us. My mom's boyfriend is NEVER home anyway! How can i get my mom to move back,or at least try and get some really good money sorta fast? Im only 13 and my brother's going to be 15 in august.

The best thing to do in a situation like this is grit your teeth and bear it until the money situation is better. Since it's ultimately your mom's decision whether you move back, you and your brother should sit down with her and calmly tell her your feelings.

Hope this helps.

What are some GOOD foods that won't load you up with fat, cause I have alot of muscle you just can't see it because i have "fat deposits" there. Thank you.

Foods rich in protein and water will help you lose the weight. Try to reduce your carbohydrate intake to help burn the fat also. Eating spicy food will rev your metabolism making your body burn more fat.

Foods such as asparagus, apples, beets, berries, broccoli, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, celery, chili, cucumber, garlic, lettuce, grapefruit, lemon, mango, onion, orange, papaya, pineapple, spinach, turnips and zucchini are all considered negative calories which means you burn more calories digesting them then they have in them. These goods are generally good for diets since they're considered freebies and you can eat as much as you want without worrying about calories. Just make sure not to prepare them in a way that adds calories.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

So me and my boyfriend were going at it the other day in his favorite position. I was sitting on his face kind of and he was licking me out and i orgasimed and from the excitment i sort of got a little rough, slammed down on his mouth, and got a small cut just below my clit. Is this bad? It doesn't hurt at all today (1 day removed) Is there anything i should do to take care of it? Can me and my boyfriend still fool around without hurting it anymore?

Keep the area clean and dry. Wash the area with an antibacterial soap to reduce the chance of infection. It should heal in a couple days. If it doesn't heal within a week, you should go to the doctor to get it checked out. It would probably be a good idea to wait a couple days before fooling around with your boyfriend so you don't take a chance on opening the cut again in the heat of the moment.

Hope this helps.

hi, i have a great voice but im to shy to preform infront of people ! can u help me get over that fear?Any good advice i rate high!!

A little trick that helps shy singers is to look out over the people listening to you or aim your gaze beside their head. That way it appears that you're looking at them, while avoiding eye contact. That always helped me when I was singing in public. Another good trick is to close your eyes a little. It helps you focus on your music instead of the people listening while appearing to others like you're simply into the music. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Sorry this may be a bit long but I need the help. 13/f

One of my guy friends told my best friend that he liked me. She told me and he found out and was making a big deal out of me knowing. I told him it wasn't a big deal because I like him too. He kept asking me why I didn't tell him and everything. I just said 'I dunno.' I haven't really got to talk to him since all of this. I was on vacation and just got back and he hasn't been online when I have been. He was acting a little different but now that it's been almost a week since we've both admitted to liking each other, What do you think I should do when I talk to him?(online) Like flirt? Act like I normally would? Or do you think since he's had time time to think he'll ask me out? Or he won't like me anymore? Or if I should just wait and see what happens? Or AHHH I dunno?!? Someone help please!!

I'll rate for good answers.

It seems to me like he's a little embarassed that you found out that he was crushing on you. Act normal next time you talk to him to help calm him down. Flirt a little if he seems to be reacting positively to you acting normal. Since you said he was a friend, it's possible he's worried that a relationship might ruin the friendship. The best thing to do once you get him to relax a little is to tell him you value his friendship and you look at a relationship with him as an extension of that friendship. It's always good to be friends with the guy you're with.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

hey does anyone know any modeling jobs i can get if im only 5'4" everyone says i should model becauses "i am gorgeous looking" and im 14 but with a lot of makeup on i look like im in my 20s neone know??

Models do more than just appear on the run-ways. The people you see in flyer for Walmart and catalogs for clothing are all models. While the general perception of modeling involves being tall, clothing models for catalogs and magazines are all shapes and sizes.

Get together a few good pictures of you. It does not have to be professional, just a clear shot showing who you are. Both face and a full-body shot (clothed) should be sent. Make sure to not go overboard with the makeup as most modeling agencies have their own idea of how their models should look.

Then go online and find a reputable agency. One that has the Better Business Bureau logo is a good shot since they are watched closely for any "weird stuff". An example of a site you might try is www.supermodelscouts.com. This site allows you to post a profile which modeling agencies can search through when they're looking for that perfect person for a job.

I hope this helps. Good luck in your modeling career.

im not really sure what category this goes under, but i REALLY need it answered if its possible....ive been lookin for an answer so long. does anybody else have visible pores on their legs? and like whenever they shave, it looks like their skin is made of a million small circles? would a certain kind of lotion eliminate this? should i stop shaving and start waxing? should i try that new kind of nair (it smells bad tho lol) if ne body had ne ideas or has the same experience id really appreciate your opinion or comment or ne thing thanks so much!

Visible pores is a common problem with women. Try finding a good quality pore reducing cream or wash in the beauty aid department of your local store. A pore cleanser will also help by cleaning your pores, making them seem less visibile.

Hope this helps.

Hi umm i need a little advice i like these to boys but they r best friends ther names r Jimmie and Elijah. Jimmie is cuter but Elijah is more my type which one should i go wit hwhen school starts because they both like me. what should i do

Signed Beautifulmamii05

It's generally a good idea to go for the guy that's your type. That way you have something in common with them. Since you're all friends and they both like you, you may want to consider finding another guy to keep from hurting one of these guys feelings.

Hope this helps.

for clothes shopping online, do you have to give out credit card stuff? can you pay in cash or something instead? and what happens if the clothes dont fit you, can you take it back? or whatever?

ive never done it, and i kind of want to.

so let me know if you can.

♥ nicole

Many online stores will also accept checks, money orders or even Paypal. Another option would be to find what you want online then print out the order form and mail it in with your money. It's generally a good idea to send a money order or check rather than money since cash sent through the mail often gets lost or taken by unscrupulous people. If you do use a credit card (or even a bank debit card since these are now widely accepted) make sure that there is an icon of a padlock (usually found on the bottom right of your screen) which lets you know that you're on a secure server.

If the clothes don't fit or you realize that they're not really what you were looking for once you see the outfit in person, most stores do have a return, exchange or refund policy. Most online stores have a FAQ link somewhere on the site which usually provides their policy on returns and such. One exception is items purchased on clearance. Most times the store will not accept the items back for whatever reason, unless you received the wrong item.

Hope this helps.

Last year was a great year for me, But over the summer I didn't get invited to hang out as much as I usually do and I spent most of my time on the internet.
So I wanna come back as the "new" me. You know, just to impress people and make me more exciting and outgoing instead of the same me. Any tips on how to make the change before school starts in 3 weeks? *nothing dramatic like dying my hair*

Building your confidence (Studies show we're more drawn to confident people.), adding some new activities to your life (so you're more likely to have something in common with other people), and even smiling more (Studies also show that we're drawn to people that smile more.) can all help. Increasing your circle of friends will cut down on the likelihood of you not be invited to hang out since you'll have more people to hang out with. A simple hairstyle change can also draw attention. If people are used to seeing your hair up, try letting it down for a change.
Hope this helps. Good luck in your new school year.

Ever since I quit Competative cheerleading I put on a few pounds. * 2 or 3 * So I started to eat better, ( no soda . little junk food ) But I cant seem to fit in time to excercise, to be honest im not so motivated to excercise. What should I do to lose weight more efficently?

Exercise does not have to be sit-ups and running every day. A vigorous house or room cleaning, walking an active dog, playing frisbee or basketball in the park with friends, babysitting some very active children, and even walking around the mall are great activities that provide you with exercise benefits without actually having to exercise.

Parking at the end of the parking lot of a store so you have to walk farther, taking the stairs instead of the elevator, adding spicy foods to your diet (revs metabolism making your body burn more fat), adding a good quality multi-vitamin to your diet, and increasing your water intake are all easy lifestyle changes that will also help you lose weight.

Good luck.

ohkay.. first off, i am NOT sexually active at all. i've had my for about 2 years. around january i got my period but didnt get it again until the first week of april.. and i still havent gotten it since april!! im freaking out .. is there something wrong?

Many things in a woman's life can affect her period. Changes in diet, a new exercise program, or stress can all change a woman's cycle. Just to be on the safe side, consult your doctor to make sure there's not some underlying problem causing you to not get your period.

i am a girl that is very sexual with my boyfirend. and every time he eats me out or we have sex i always moan and etc but i dont cum.. he cums all the time when we have sex or i give him head.. and etc.. but why arent i cumming too?

Ok you're not doing yourself or your boyfriend any good by faking it. He's gonna think he's a great lover when, in truth, he's doing nothing for you. Take things slow, lots of foreplay, and if he's not hitting the right spot for you, gently urge him to the right one.

what do you do when all your bestfriend does when you's hang out is make out iwht her boyfriend and you cant tell her anything cause you dont want her to get mad cause you's are such a great friends and you dont want to ruin her and her boyfriends relationship

Make one night a week a girls night. No guys allowed, but gossip about them is. It's important to keep friendships going strong even through a relationship.

I know this is gross and stuff...but its true....i was raped by my teacher and he swore that if i tell anyones hes going to kill me and I see him all the time...like he is following me or something to make sure I am not telling...and so I dont know how to tell anyone beczuse he said he would kill me...anyone have any ideas...because i am scared to tell someone
plz help!
thanks

Definitely tell someone-a parent, a friend's parent, or other trusted adult. What he did was wrong. Him following you sounds like stalking to me. You need to let the police know what happened and what he's doing so they can arrest him and get you the protection you need.

my friend is very down..i really want to help her but i dont know what advice to give her. Her old next door neighbour died following her great uncle following her cousin who was 24 following her grandmother..please help me so i can help her

The best thing you can do for your friend right now is be there for her if she needs to talk. Try to get her to let her emotions out because it's not good to hold stuff inside. She's lucky to have a caring friend like you.

hi
my friend is skinny and she asked me to post this. She is 5'6 106ib and can't eat meat and she has high metabolism. Can u help her with some advice?

Thanks

At 106 lbs, your friend is underweight. The ideal weight range for her 117-143 lbs depending on her frame. With some more information (activity level, frame size) I can give a better picture on what she needs to do to gain some weight. Hope this helps.

Okay, so my boyfriend's mom is moving away soon, and she and I are the same size, so she's been packing up a couple of boxes of clothes to give me. I appreciate it, 'cause she has awesome style and we have similar tastes, but I feel like I should give her something in return. At least something to remember me by.
I love her like a second mom and I'm gonna miss her like crazy.
What do you guys think I should give her? I can knit, but somehow I doubt she'll want a scarf in Florida, lol.
Ideas? She's artistic, she loves colorful things, etc...

A scarf doesn't necessarily need to be used as it's intended. Make a small version in a light-weight yarn for her to use as a belt or to hold her hair back.

Even though Florida is generally hot, it can sometimes get cool in the winter evenings. Try knitting her a light-weight blanket. That way every time she snuggles up under the blanket, she thinks of you.

Hope this helps.

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