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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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Not a question, but my acount was suspended for some reason. it was patd now its patde. alright have a good day.

Pat

You probably aren't really suspended. Something is wrong with the system. If you got a message a weird message saying you were suspended "0" times and there was no reason listed and they said it was til the Dec 31, then you are not really suspended. And you can use your old account, all you have to do is when that page pops up, click on veiw questions and go about your business. It shouldn't come up anymore.

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Ok i'm going to be 18 on July 10th and there is this dude named Jason who I like and he likes me too...he says that I have all the qualities he wants and in a girl and he just makes me feel real good...but there's a huge problem...He is 27!!!! ahhh I don't know wut to do!! I think when ur 18 ur legal, but still is it bad gettin involved w/him? I'm real confused!

About guys your age being immature I totally agree. So I feel you on that note. Who cares if this guy is 9 years older than you? So what? As long as he treats you well and makes you happy is all that matters. Relationships are based on how personalities bablance not ages. SO who cares what people think? This guy isn't obviously worried about if he likes you so much and treats you so well, right? And if you are worried your parents may not like him. Oh well. You are a grown woman. And let them know you are responcible and not stupid and this guy truelly makes you happy. If they can't understand that at 1st, they will eventually. But this a situation that you can be selfish in. This is about YOU. YOU and YOUR happiness. So forget everyone else, as long as you are happy that is all that matters. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)

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Hey I'm Bryant! There is this girl I like and I think she likes me what do i do ?

Ask her if she likes you, and if she does, tell her you like her too and if the 2 of you could go out sometime and spend sometime together. Remember to be confident and be yourself! Good Luck! :)

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ok ive never been kissed before and all my friends have been kissed and i was at a party a while ago and we were play truth or dare but only truth cuz there wasnt any guyz or w/e but then like it came to me and they asked who my first kiss was w/ and i said ive never been kissed and they all laughed and i felt sooo stupid i just wanted to leave cuz i was so embarassed and i know im not pritty n stuff so i know i wont get my first kiss for a while but im just sooooo scared tho to i dont know its just like i was up north and this one guy ((ive known him for a while)) and we havent seen eachother for a while and we talked to catch up on stuff and he said he liked me again and then he started asking me about kissing and stuff and i kinda turned him down but now i totally regret that cuz i rilly like him to and its just every time some guy wants to kiss me im afraid i dont know why i am its just i feel stupid when ive never kissed a guy.. how can i not be afraid and just kiss the right guy? help pleeeeez!! thanx!

Okay, it is totally normal to feel scared about your 1st kiss. Its something completely knew that you've never done before. And you probably want it to be special. And with someone who you will enjoy sharing a piece of yourself with. How you are feeling is fine. you should not feel stupid. Be proud that you are wating for just the right time and yuo're not being fast and running into things like your other girlfriends. This is special. But, what you need to do 1st is get some confidence. A guy does not want a girl who talks down on herself. If you go around saying and feeling ugly how is anyone gonna want to like you. Be happy about yourself. trust me even the ugliest girls get kissed, and its cuz they have confidence. Always smile and always look and feel your best. Guys like that. And when the moment comes for you to kiss someone. If you feel the moment is right, even if you are a little scared (which i said is normal remember :) ) just go for it. Onec you do it once, it may feel funny, but you will like it too. And you will become more and more comfortable with the guy, and pretty soon you will be kissing all the time and getting better and better at it. So just be confident, and things will start going your way. Hope I helped you and Good Luck! :)

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i've gotten really depressed lately. my parents relationship is (excuse my french) going to hell, and my sibs are mixed with alchohol.
my little sis is spoiled like god only knows, and i'm kinda left to life in the middle. i guess my mirror has a little play too... i'm 14, weigh 200lbs, and am 5'7. i'm starting to not eat that much anymore, and i really need some help with this.

What you need to do is build up your confidence! yeah, so you are a little big, big is beautiful too! :) Try pamperong yourself. Soaking in a hot tub with bath oils, giving yourself a manicure and pedicure or getting one done, giveing or getting a facial or a body massage. Stuff that makes you feel good and relaxed. Make sure you are always dressed nice, face is clean, you smell good. For some reason when people look good it motivates them to want to look better. Once you can boost your confidence, you will want to exercise and take care of yourself all the time. But you have to eat! No more no eating! That is not good. When you don't eat, your body actuall lives off of your fat cells and you gain weight before you loose it and when you do start loosing it you are not loosing it the right way and you will be anorexic. This is not the way to do things. Try eating less, you ahve to maintain a 2000 calorie diet per day. try the special K challenge. And do some crunches and go running or swimming. Break out a sweat. And after that sweat, start the pampering process all over and get in that relaxing bath. Trust if you can motivate yourself and stop feeling so down, you won't feel down. Only you can make you feel good about yourself. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)

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Hey,my situation is prolly a pretty common one,but i'll go into it anyway. I'm an 18 year old guy,who knows this really nice girl for over a year. The reason i never made my move on her was that she was always going out with one of my friends and still is. I am under the impression that i'm her friend and nothing more,b/c she tells me things prolly only her bf should know and i feel bad about this. I dont wanna wreck anybody's relationships,but it seems like she's more comfortable around me then him. What should i do?

It is messed up to break up a relationship. but maybe this girl is closer to you with talking about personal stuff because she feels a tighter bond with you than anyone. Maybe this is because you are great friend or maybe because secretly she feels for you as well. This I don't know. You have to step up and ask her what is going on, what terms are the 2 of you and how does she see you. if she does like you then go for her. you shouldn't let anyone stand in the way of true love. But if she doesn't then still keep this girl as a great friend, you shouldn't just ditch her because she must be in your life for a good reason even if the reason is not to be with you. I hope I helped and Good Luck! :)

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How do you get ur hair to look wavey and a little curly with gel or other products...when I try it with gel it just makes spiral curls and I don't like it!! =/

Try braiding your hair like over night in a couple of braids and dipping the ends in hot water. This will create a wave. Keep them in over night. When you wake up, take the braids out and sprunch and scrunch your hair up with lots of gel. After the gel spray it and tease it so it will be styled and stay the way youn like it. Good Luck! :)

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im really depressed and i dont know what to do with myself both of my best friends whom i hang out with all the time both have boyfriends, but me being the ugliest friend does not. i feel really left out the thing is no guy will notice me because im not pretty and im not fat but im not skinny im 5"8 and i weigh about 175lbs ive stopped eating basically, trying to lose weight. i just want to be happy again how do i get some confidence???? i have none at all... please help i feel like the ugly duckling of the group

first of all yuo will never feel good about yourself if you go around saying you are ugly. No one will like you if you don't even like yourself.
What you need to do is do some nice things for yourself to boost your confidence. Try giving yourself a facial, giving yourself a manicure and a pedicure, doing your eyebrows, shaving your legs, do alot of stuff that will make you feel better and look better. I know whenever I am looking all proper I feel alot more confident. Also, find a nice outfit or sundress, and tell your 2 friends to go out with you somewhere like the mall or beach or something, where you can go scoop yourself up a man. But remember, feel good about yourself, and smile. No one wants a girl with no confidence, Good Luck! :)

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my family and just switched to a new church that my cousin goes to. My youth group is taking a trip to flordia to a camp and we just moved so i don't know anyone. i really dont want to go alone and i asked my cousin if she was coming and she said she doesn't know. and i dont think she likes me very much but i really cant tell. the trip is this month and I'm scared that i'll be all alone.

Just be yourself. I'm sure people will be intrested in you becuase you ar3e new, and theyw ill ask you questions. Just make conversations out of those questions, and from the conversations you will be able to judge personalities and see what people you will take a liking to. I'm sure you'll be fine. Just be yourself, and make the best out of this trip, its supposed to be fun. Good Luck! :)

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well im 13 and i weigh between 110-115 and my legs are big and its all fat and my family said i have a beautiful figure and i like it and all but it to much fat for me i used to wear ones and now i wear 7 and i wanna try trimspa but im not sure if i should are not i need help and i tried exersize and it doesnt work!! help me plz
o yeah and i have had ppl tell me i wasnt skinny but i like my curves i just dont like being so big

You are too young to try that stuff. It could make you too think or even get you sick. That stuff is for people who are seriously over weight. If you want your legs to get trim, go running. Good Luck!

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i hav a friend . lets say her name in mary . well mary has always been bad to me in the past. me n her hav gotten into a lot of fights in the past three yrs. . for some reason i always keep crawling back to her and we become friends again . shes stolen from me in the past about twice now and she denys when i know she did it and shes talked behind my back many times , even if were still friends . and she laughs about it like its no big deal . my parents have told me to keep away from her in high school next year b/c nobudy will like u for hanging out with her . i know there right , i havt had a decent friend treat me good in a looog time . since ive been frends wit this girl . i kno its time for me to let her go as a friend . shes hurt me n my family in the past and i dont want to have evryone hte me for hangin out wit her . please help . what do i do!!!!

Think of it this way... Would you rather have a friend who makes you and your life miserable, or have no friend know that when school starts you will make plenty of friends? Your parents are right, i you are hanging out with this girl ans she is bad news, she will make you look bad too and people will think you are like her too. Also, never be friends with someone who steals from you, that is so disrespectful, I would be so pissed if my friend did that to me. Gte rid of this girl quick! Just tell her she is no good and she making your life hell and you guys can't be friends anymore. Let her ruin someone elses life. You are better than that. Good Luck! :)

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my boyfriend is moving to new jersey at the end of the month and i really like him but i dont know if i should break up with him..i live in new york..help!!

well it would help if I knew how old the 2 of you were. but what you need to do is find out if you will be able to see him again. If you are and you love him then you will be able to deal with him not always being around. But if you know you aren't gonna see him enough, then the best thing would be is to break off when he moves. Say your good byes and move on. I'm not saying this is easy but it is what will have to be done. And of course you and this guy can stay friends and tallk on the phone and stuff. You shouldn't have to end your friendships. Good Luck! :)

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I just found out that my best guy friend of 3 years has a crush on me. At first I was so confused about how I felt about him... I told him that I didn't know if I liked him back. But after I thought about it, I realized that I do like him. I would ask him out, but here's the problem: He went out with my sister *she's only a year younger than me* & he was pretty jerky to her. He'd hit on me right in front of her, and as if that isn't bad enough, he broke up with her by calling her from another friend's house (who was a GIRL btw.) Then a day after their breakup, he came over to my house & starting apologizing & crap, saying that his friend made him do it. He was so mean to my sis, so I'm afraid to get involved with him. But I think he might've changed. Should I give him a chance?

First you have to think if this will start any trouble between you and your sister. If it is, then its not worth it, because your friendship with your sister is forever, guys come and go. But, if it wont' be a problem, then you also need to make sure this guy has changed becuase he dogged the heck out of your sister and I don't think you would want to go through the same pain. Good Luck! :)

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I want to get to know this girl but i dont know how to start to talking to her. She is always with someone else and im too shy to go up to her and say hello. plus what if she thinks im a dork or something b/c she's like 17 and im only 14. What do i do to make her notice me??!

Just get some guts and say hi, and be yourself, if this girl likes you back or notices you like her she will react. Sometimes you just have to take things slow, and the 1st step is speak up! Good Luck! :)

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where can u get the cheapest CDs? thx, erin

Try Walmart! Good Luck! :)

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my mom hates spending money on me. She thinks that everything is too expensive. Everything cute is too expensive for her. She always wants me to wear ugly clothes dat she thinks is cute. Well i wondered how i could get my mom to buy me expensive clothes or where da lease expensive clothes store derrr is?? please help
~Amy~

Try Marshalls, Khols, Ross, or TJ Max. They have alot of cute clothes, that are name brand and are reasonabley priced. If that doesn't work, maybe a part-time job will help you to afford the stuff you want. Plus if you have your own money then you can buy what you want with it and your Mom won't pick you out anymore ugly clothes. Good Luck! :)

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ok i love my parents, both of them equally. but lately (past couple years) they have been fighting quite a bit...sometimes it gets physical on both parts. ive never really stepped in b4 ive usually kept to myself or expressed my feelings later when they were in a better mood. but just like a month ago while my family and i were on vacation and in the middle of the night they started yelling at each other! and u wanna know what it was about!? a friggin hat!! i guess my mom felt guilty for buying a 40$ shirt and w/ no reason got on my dads case about his 40$ hat. and my dad got "hurt" by it. it was pathetic at the most. so finally upset by the fact that they woke me up and we still had a full day ahead of ourselves and just cause i was tired of it all i got out of bed and barged in on them. my mom in tears yelled go back to bed but i yelled back no this is stupid u guys r fighting while we r on vacation. anyways i ended up mediating for them until 3 in the morning when things seemed to finally be settled and they thanked me and apologized profusly. anyways things were ok the next day until i duno all of a sudden they were yelling again in the middle of disneyland. my mom was crying nad they were both yelling and acting so childish. i was so embarrassed i just ran away from it hoping to reach a bathroom. my dad caught up w/ me and told me he was sorry and that "we would fix this" and i yelled at him a bit for how stupid it all was and he apologized and we went back to my mom and they both apologized then too and hte rest of the vacation was great. i love my parents they r awesome and since then everything has been great... nothing wrong. but now this morning!!! im not sure what started the fight because i was still sleeping until my dad started screaming. but it ended up being that they were fighting about who "broke the rule" first. i guess my mom slapped him aside the head to get him to calm don and my dad slapped her across the face and they are now currently as i type yelling about who started what. its soooo pathetic!! i just wanna walk in and thell them how friggin childish and immature they r!! but im not sure if i should... really it hurt when i had to mediate for 3 hours. i dont know what to do... they swore they would get counciling when i was helping them a month ago but nothing has happened of course. oh and my dad is bypolar and add. and my mom seems to expect to much w/ his condition....grrr

I think your parents should see a councelor, especially becuase sometimes the arguments lead to violence and one dau it could get out of hand. Also because your Dad had bipolar, your MOm just might piss him off on the wrong day, and he amy really hurt her. So counceling is very important. It seems like you said your parents argue over silly things so this is a problem that can be fixed if they can realize how stupid their fights are. Good Luck! :)

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i really like this boy!
Hi my name is Jessica Im 12 yrs old and i really like this boy. We dated for about 8 and a half months then we broke up. But I went out with another boy about 3 weeks after we broke up but i realized when i was going out with my new b/f that i missed my ex so much so i dumped him now i want my ex back and now hes saying he doesnt know if he still likes me and maybe he might go back out wth me. What should i do

If you really like this boy, then give him time to make up his mind. But, remember taht you are still young and you have your whole life for boys, so don;t just sit around waiting for one. Good Luck! :)

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ok. ive liked this guy for a couple yrs now and i thought he liked me too. but ever since he started talking to my friends online, all i ever hear is how he likes them and how hott he thinks they are-- but he's never even met them! sometimes me and this guy (he's also my neighbor) walked around the neighborhood at night and it seemed like he liked me as more than a friend. but other times im jsut treated like the "annoying next door neighbor". ive tried to tell him how i feel by writing a note, but he read it threw it away. i know he knows i like him but he doesnt even acknowledge it in any way. i dont know what to do about this. it seems as if he ignores me when im around him; i dont know what to do!

Trust me if a guy likes you, and especially if he knows you like him back he will let you know some how. But by this guys actions, it seems as though he is not interested in you. You say he threw away your note and he treats you like the annoying next door neighbor or doesn't acknowledge you, then what should that tell you? Maybe he did like you before when the 2 of you used to take those walks, but now he's sending mixed messages and that is messing with your head. You don't deserve that you are better than that, and you need to move on and find someone who will appreciate you. Good Luck! :)

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does anyone kno if the loreal self tanner stuff works? i wanna try it out but i need 2 kno if it works or not. thx.

It works, but you have to be careful when you use it because it may streak, then people will be able to tell it is fake. And if it makes your skin look kinda of orange instead of tan, then lay out and tan and it will darken. Good Luck! :)

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