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depressed, i guess...
i've gotten really depressed lately. my parents relationship is (excuse my french) going to hell, and my sibs are mixed with alchohol.
my little sis is spoiled like god only knows, and i'm kinda left to life in the middle. i guess my mirror has a little play too... i'm 14, weigh 200lbs, and am 5'7. i'm starting to not eat that much anymore, and i really need some help with this.
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First of all, start with yourself. If you're not comfortable with the way you are make so changes to help you feel better about yourself, then work on your family if you are comfortable with the way you are. Try to convince your siblings to stop drinking so much. ( get them help. )There is nothing i can say with your parents but maybe to got to marrige couseling.Your little sister will stop being spoiled when your parents are fighting or possibly getting a divorce. I hope you don't have to go through a divorce though.
Hope it all works out in your favor! Sincerely,
**Bridgette**
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1st off im sorry to hear about all this... ask a close friend or family member or a school consolar and go from there and try and find a diet that you could go on and jog and you will make progress i promise-trix
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My parents relationship is the same exact way.. what helps me is a good friend that i talk to all the time. i have also talked to my parents about it.. whenever they start to fight i usually ask them to wait until i leave or until later on when i cant hear it... dont worry about what you look like... keep eating dont stop that. that can be very bad for you. it could hurt you really bad.. just cut down on the snacks and eat 2 meals a day. thats what i did... u sould like a sweet girl so if ppl dont like you for who you are then they arent worth your time at all..... lil' sibs are always spoiled there is no way you can stop it. the best way is to avt like it doesnt even happen... i hope to talk to you later.. if you need any other help just ask me i will always me here for you sweetheart... im 15 so im kinda at the same stage as you..
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dont worry gurl...everything will b fine...everyone got problems...dont stop eating ...u crazy?!?! u gonna get sick...so start eating n if u having trouble eating again then u should see a doctor...xoxo effy *best wishes*
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Hey!! Well parents relationships happen like this all the time im sure your parents will work things out what you just need to focus more on is your sibs and yourself..now my brother is spoiled like your sister he gets everything and i get barley anything in less i ask and thats hardley ever and i get a simple no..inless i beg lol..your sibs need a little help alchohol isnt the solution to take care of things if they are depressed..and theres nothing wrong with you..you just are goin through a fase probably right now..and dont starve yourself its really bad for you and your health issues..DONT CARE WUT PPL THINK as long as your happy with yourself thats all that matterz really..good luck with this one
~bubbles~
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Don't worry about your family. Every family has problems. All you should worry about is your sibs and yourself. You and your sibs need to go get some help. I think your turnin anorexic! So don't stop eatin and get some help. So about your parents I assume they would be better off gettin divorced!
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aww...wow- seems like you've got a lot on your plate...but here's something- don't just flat out starve yourself, it will only make things worse- if you are wanting to lose weight...keep eating but just cut the portions a little, excercise and eat healthy...with your family- number one thing is don't feel like anything is your fault, even if you don't already...just remember that- your parents are having problems and all that you could really do is stick by your family...your siblings with the alcohol...try to sit them down and tell them that the only reason youre talking to them about it is beacuse you love them alot and care so much for them and would hate to see anything happen...if they are older- tell them youlook up to them...if they are younger, tell them that you're responsible as a role model and they shouldn't be doing that...your spoiled sister..there's really not much you could do- except talk to your parents about it at a calm time...tell her that she's not going to get anything that she ever wants all the time- because the world doesn't work like that...think of some family games to keep everyone interested and occupied..something that everyone can learn from- most of all..good luck and keep your head up..you'll be ok- =] hope i helped..let me know
love elle
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well whatever you do don't starve your self... i can sugest a really good diet it called the Weight Watchers Diet...i went on that diet and lost 40lbs. in in six months..GOOD LUCK... BYE!!!
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ok, first things 1st, everyone has family difficulties so your not the only one who has to deal with this type of situation. But that doesnt mean its not important. Talk to your parents about yuour sibs and your lil' sis. alchohol is a big deal and that needs to be dealt with! ANd forget abouut your wait! that isnt important. But it might help if you come up with a healthy eating plan! Good Luck! if you need more help just leave another message and ill get back to you!
*melody
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don't stop eating whatever you don't stop! that is the worst thing ever and many young girls do that.. it's not the answer. just try excercising and focusing on yourself,also try having a talk with your family. my parents didn't have that great of a relationship and i just tried to ignore it and do my own thing. :)
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Being depressed is hard to pull out of, but some things help more than others.
Exercise definitely helps. It releases endorphines. I know it is easier said than done, but if you can find a way to exercise with other people, like classes at a city recreation center or YMCA for example, you have also kept yourself from being isolated, too. They don't have to be aerobics. Dance, swimming, etc., work just as well.
Try to find a good friend to talk to, even if the conversation isn't about your problems. Social interaction helps distract you, improve your state of mind, and reduce the sense of isolation that's common with depression.
If you start to feel suicidal, you need a professional or a doctor. If that happens, call a crisis hotline in the front of the phone book. Clinical depression can be very dangerous, but is not necessarily permanent.
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What you need to do is build up your confidence! yeah, so you are a little big, big is beautiful too! :) Try pamperong yourself. Soaking in a hot tub with bath oils, giving yourself a manicure and pedicure or getting one done, giveing or getting a facial or a body massage. Stuff that makes you feel good and relaxed. Make sure you are always dressed nice, face is clean, you smell good. For some reason when people look good it motivates them to want to look better. Once you can boost your confidence, you will want to exercise and take care of yourself all the time. But you have to eat! No more no eating! That is not good. When you don't eat, your body actuall lives off of your fat cells and you gain weight before you loose it and when you do start loosing it you are not loosing it the right way and you will be anorexic. This is not the way to do things. Try eating less, you ahve to maintain a 2000 calorie diet per day. try the special K challenge. And do some crunches and go running or swimming. Break out a sweat. And after that sweat, start the pampering process all over and get in that relaxing bath. Trust if you can motivate yourself and stop feeling so down, you won't feel down. Only you can make you feel good about yourself. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)
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