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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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My brother THINKS that he's an awesome brother, father, son, and everything else when the truth is that he's done everyone in our family wrong. I won't go into it all, but it's all because his wife hates us and keeps him from us and he's such a wuss, he can't stand up to her. He's a car dealer and was supposed to help my sister get her daughter a car. Her daughter is looking forward to it SO much. Her mom almost bought her a car from a dealer closer to their town, but when my brother heard, he said he had found a car for her and was going to bring it down in a couple days. It's been months since then and he's been making excuse after excuse for why he can't come and they can't go get it. I've just found out that he gave the car to his wife's kids and won't tell my sister because he's too much of a coward. He said he'll find her another car, but why would anyone trust him? My niece really likes him and I don't want her to be hurt, but I'm sick of him disappointing her. What should I do?
It's hard to judge a book that's missing the pages, This is only part of the story so my advice is given by what you said.
Honestly, If he is married then he is co-parenting her children. I'm not saying he hasn't made his mistakes but in his eyes he may be putting his family first. A husbands job is to provide for his family and his immediate family is his wife and step children.
I'm not saying his niece isn't family nor are you but what I am trying to say is he has responsibilities to take care of first before taking care of everyone else in the family. In a way, I think you should cut the guy some slack. It sounds like you may be expecting too much out of him. It sort of sucks he can't be truthful yes but maybe the guy just doesn't like confrontation and wants to keep his peace.
Last night my boyfriend and I decided to put an end to our relationship and this time for good.I feel that he's gone forever this time.
The thing is that we have always had these terrible arguments and misundestandings all the time,and he didn't trust me and neither did I.
Trust was missing in our relation and arguments had become the norm.
We both felt like it was over and decided to dump each other.I didn't even looked at his face when I left,and now it's really weard since I'm not missing him and I'm not expecting him to call me or text me either.
Is this time for real?Shall I start thinking that this is it?And that from now on my life's gonna be different?I mean,that I'm gonna be able now to make my own decisions?
What scares me is that I still love him.How can you love someone so much and cannot be with him?Why do I feel like staying away from him?And why do I think that this the best thing to do?
You are still missing him, If you weren't you would not be asking these questions and doubting yourself the way you are.
Fact is, If you both didn't trust one another then the best thing you could of done was end it. The way you move on is you withdraw yourself from any sort of contact. Don't call, text, don't even facebook him. Remaining in contact will only make the process a hell of a lot harder then it has too be. Go out with your friends and spend time with family and keep your mind off things. Sometimes we need to think and except before moving on. Meaning, Think about all the mean things he has ever said too you, How mad he made you when he said those things, All the arguments and use that too focus on moving forward. Moving on takes time but it gets easier each day. Just like I said, Cut all ties and focus on you.
My boyfriend and I met in 8th grade and we're both going to be seniors in high school last night. We never worked out in 8th or 9th grade, we were always on and off. We never offically dated but we are now. We started going out June 6th. He means everything to me. He takes words very seriously. Last night he came over and he saw on my phone that a guy cause love u and i said it back. He took it so seriously and broke up with me. I don't know what to do. He ended up forgiving me but then today he told me I broke his heart. I'm even looking at colleges in philly because that's where he wants to go to school. Upenn. Idk what to do anymore. Im 16 but i believe in forever and i believe in highschool love. He's never hurt me. I just want to make it last. he's everything to me. How can you hurt someone you love so much
He has jealous problem and you both have broken up several times before, This is already giving your relationship a rocky start.
Not to burst your bubble but there is never such thing as forever. Love is something we chance, Heartbreaks are something we risk and trust is something we are supposed to give and take. The word "Forever" is nothing but a fantasy, It's unreal.
Now I'm probably going to tell you what you don't want to hear but I'm being honest with you.
When people break up, It breaks the bond more and more. The trust becomes broken and it's very hard to get back because once trust is broken it's almost never the same again. Reality, You probably won't work out with him. Not only are you both young but breaking up so many times tells me you have no stability in your relationship and the road you take already has patched up potholes. Seeking a College because it is where he is going is not a smart choice, A College should be picked out based on what meets your educational needs not because a certain person decides to go there. Choosing the College he attends could only end up costing you unhappiness in the long run because the choice wasn't about you it was about him. Continuing to go back and forth is not going to prove nothing nor will it fix anything. It's like trying to start a car when the starter is broken. It's just not going to start not matter how hard you turn the ignition. It's a dead cause and you are both wasting your time.
hi i was adopted when i was ten, eight years ago. my brothers and sister do not accept me. they were grown and out of the house. they told my mom that they didnt want her to adopt me before i was adopted and later said that they hoped she could be as great a mother as she was to them. i had a lot of ups and downs growing up and my non-adopted siblings got to hear all about it. they and i are very distant apart and when they are around. they sometimes act like they hate seeing me. i would never call them on my own nor would they call me. i'm afraid that they will never like me and we will be a dysfunctional family like my mom said. earlier this year before my parents went out of town, they went out to eat with my brother and the next day went out to eat with me. it could not be at the same time. i'm afraid it will be forever like this. this year my brother that lives out of town and his wife had a baby and he invited everyone down to see him but me. sometimes they act jealous and beg my mom not to give me a dime for anything. though i dont ask and wouldnt ask her for anything for that reason. i hate being adopted. maybe it would be different if i was an adopted baby but i wasnt. i never was able to know my real family because i was adopted and now i have no family because i was adopted. i recently learned of my real family and they dont seem to care that i exist. i call my great aunt and she seemed to hurry me off the phone. i met my great grandma once before she passed and she seemed very sad that i never got to know my family. she loved me very much. when i was a little girl and i was with my real parents, no family helped us when my parents came to them in need. none would take me in and they knew my parents were struggling.
i never experienced the specialness of having a family. i experience what the great qualities of family vicariously through television. i enjoy the special bond between a mother and a daughter on tv. and more. i have visited my real family and there seems to be a special bond between us though we never knew each other. possibly because the idea that we share dna? i use to dream up of becoming a millionaire and giving great gifts to all my family. as i grew older i realized that i couldn't buy anyone's love. im never around my real family, they live too far away but they never call or write. the family i was adopted into, i dont know how to win their affection and be a family like i always wanted us to be. they would never love me by choice. how could they if they dont have to be around? should i even care about having their affection? i could always marry and have a family but it would be sad for the children to see that the majority of the family that cares about them would be on the father's side.
Have you ever tried writing your siblings a letter on how you feel? Sometimes people don't understand things until it's told to them.
Either way, I agree with Adviceman
The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on. Do what is best for you, Get an education and meet someone who love and appreciate every bit of you. Go off and make some friends, Get a good job and live your life. Be happy, Only you can make the change. In the meantime try to get yourself into counseling it may help you cope and feel better about things.
Like always said......
"Be the change you wish to see in the world" -Ghandi
Please help me;
I have been with my boyfriend for four months, but I fell in love with him well over a year ago. I had just gotten out of an extremely abusive relationship: my ex-boyfriend beat me, starved me, raped me, and every single thing that came out of his mouth was a lie. I suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from what I went through with him. Before that ex, I had another boyfriend who also lied about every single detail of his life and fed me lie after lie, and also robbed me of plenty of money to feed his drug addiction. So, I was really happy to be in a relationship with my long-time crush... For the purpose of this question, I'll call him Bob. I love Bob with all my heart, and I tell Bob everything and never keep secrets from him. He insisted that he does the same with me, but I have caught him in the occasional lie before.
Bob and I live together. Bob goes to work on the weekends while my job gives me weekends off, so today I have the house to myself while he was at work. I was fishing through my things upstairs when I came across a box with letters and things of Bob's. I was reading the letters from his incarcarated friend, who is a mutual acquaintance, when I found underneath the letters was a medical examination form of Bob's from when he was evaluated at his rehabilitation program a few months ago. On this form, I found out that Bob has Hepatitis C. It didn't say how long he had the disease, but the form was from just before we started dating, so he had known he was infected when he entered a relationship with me.
My ex, the one that robbed me, had admitted to me that he had Hep C a few months ago; Bob had calmed me down and assured me it was impossible to get it from sex. I wasn't worried then, though, because I'd been tested since dating that ex and knew I didn't contract it from him. Bob knew that he himself had Hep C at the time, and still didn't tell me. We are both IV drug users, and I normally don't share needles with anyone but we have shared needles on occasion; I trusted him and figured he would have told me if he had a disease I could contract from his blood. Once I found out he had Hepatitis C, I did some research and found out that it is possible, though uncommon, to get Hep C through sex, and more common ways included sharing toothbrushes and razors (which we do occasionally as well), and of course through sharing needles. So there is a very high chance that by now I have contracted the virus from him. He has shared needles with me, knowing that he had Hep C, and knowing that there was a high chance I would get it as well. I am heartbroken by this.
My question is.. How do I go about confronting him on this? I don't want to get aggressive right off the bat, because he'll get aggressive back and accuse me of snooping through his things. I plan on being honest, as I always am with him, and telling him I was looking at the letters when I came across the medical form. I don't know what to do. I love Bob to death, but he blatantly lied to me and let me use his needles when he knew he had the virus. I am so sick to my stomach from this. I know there is a high chance that I now have Hepatitis C. I have read that it can be passed onto children, can lead to serious liver conditions, and is normally permanent or chronic. So if I have it, this is something I will have to deal with for the rest of my life. To me, it is something I'd want to tell my partner, especially since we are IV drug users. Should I continue to stay with Bob, even though he lied to me about this? Is there a nicer way of confronting him, so he will not be immediately defensive? I just don't know what else to do; hopefully someone here can help me out with some advice. Thanks for your time.
P.S., I am f/23 and Bob is m/30.
If it were me I wouldn't confront him, I would start packing my shit and move out. You do not need to be around someone who is a full blown liar and will impact you and your kids lives negatively with drugs.
I am also a victim of domestic violence, You stated you have Post traumatic stress. I encourage you to get out of the unhealthy relationship you are in NOW. Get yourself into rehab and counseling that can help you cope with the trauma. I also encourage you to see a doctor and get tested for any possible STD.
I would be furious to find out such a lie from someone and you need to see beyond what you "love" and do what is in you and your kids best interest. Being in unhealthy relationships IS going to make that trauma even worse then it already is. I recon that you leave and find someone who will have a positive impact on your life. This is one hell of a thing to lie about and definitely not something that can be forgiven. The best thing you can possibly do at this point and start a new clean slate in your life and move on.
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My friends always touch my (butt( and call me a trucker butt and other horid names. These people whom are supozed to b mi frienz. is this molest?
It's sexual harassment
Friends don't insult other friends, They also don't go and sexual harass them either. Sounds like you need to find another group that will appreciate you for who you are and not what you look like.
Ok so I have been have this for about 3 years.
So when I go to sleep and and in my dream I feel like Im awake but I cant move because it feels like somethings holding me or my body is just paralized, my eyes are half and I can see around my room but I cant move because it feels like something is making me want to go unconcious, I try fighting my paralyzation and I can sometimes move my fingers or twitch my head but I cant relax or ill feel like going unconcious, but I dont want to because it TERRIFIES me! And then I wake by swinging up sweaty and out of breath. Can someone please tell me wats goin on.
Please its been happening to me almost everynight for 3 years.
Someone please help me, im afraid to go to bed
If you can't move then it sounds like you may have Sleep Paralysis.
I cannot diagnosis you as I am not a doctor but I would recommend talking to your parents about this and set up a sleep study as you may have a sleeping disorder.
I started masturbating when i was around 15 by sticking foreign objects like highlighters washing pegs and colouring pens up my vagina as well as my own fingers. At the time i didnt know much about stds and i dont think i washed these objects before i stuck them in. My hands were fairly clean from what i remember and to the best of my knowledge i had no warts or anything on them. However since i turned 18 two years ago Ive noticed these papules on my fingers which weren't painful unless u pressed them hard. Now the same patches r dry and hardened. Also Ive noticed random pustules near but not inside my vagina first filled with just pustule then later with blood... Am i being paranoid?
We are not doctors, We really cannot give you a diagnosis. However I most certainly would not be putting random objects up there as it's very unsanitary and does not belong up there.
I would schedule an appointment with an OBGYN just to make sure you don't have an infection.
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My girlfriend is currently on her one month trip.. She left June 22 and I will see her July 24..
She spent a couple of weeks with family on her trip and the rest of the trip is with her old friend who she had to move away from. Soon she will be back.. But lately I feel like I am going crazy, before she got to her friends house she seemed fine, she made time to talk to me and she texted me normally and seemed happy and seemed to want to talk to me.
Now it has been a week since she got to her friends house and I feel like I'm losing her.. She is always partying or something and she doesn't make time to talk to me and if i was in her position I would try to talk to her and she hardly texts me.. but I noticed on her twitter she started to text her guy friend that lives here where we live and she doesn't even seem to see my tweets about her or like today I posted on her wall that I love her.. she never seemed to notice and I barely ever do that but I just noticed that. We have been together for 3 months. I told her how I felt and that I felt more friends with her cause of how she treats me and the other night we took a break, well space from eachother and she said she wouldn't do anything with any guys so I believe her but I just feel like I am falling apart and I don't know what to do..
I felt this way before with another girl where i felt i was going insane. I never figured out how to get over it. I have been cheated on before and I think that has caused part of it. I'm not sure what to do to make it these next 10 days from ruining my relationship and i have cried alot lately and I don't normally do that. Any help is appreciated and this isn't the full story cause that would take forever to type out but thank you for help
You stated you both took a break from one another, What was the reason?
Honestly, It sounds like she may be developing feelings for someone else.
I think it is cowardly that she couldn't come forward and be honest.
From what it looks like, She waited until her vacation to ween her way out of the relationship with you. I know it sucks, Trust me. I've been there plenty of times and I've cried too but I would maybe try one more time calling and leaving a voice mail. Don't assume that you are loosing her, Say something along the lines "Hi I'm just calling to check in, I haven't heard from you in awhile I miss you when you get a chance call me" This way you don't sound like you are attacking her with assumptions. If you don't hear from her within a few days, I might start to wonder whether she is maybe eyeing this other dude. If she is, You deserve better.
I have been on the depo shot for a year now. I heard that it can make you gain weight. I didn't have a problem for the first while. But lately I have gained a little weight, I have been eating about the same, maybe even less with my work schedule. Could anyone tell me what could cause this? My doctor recommends that I do not stay on it for longer than 2 years. Have any of you been on it for that long and had long term side effects? Thanks!
I am not a doctor but I was also on it for a few years as well.
I gained 30lbs from being on it, Thankfully I completely lost all the weight. All birth controls come with some sort of side effect just like a prescription drug would have a label warning. So, That's the best way I can explain it. I definitely recommend getting off of it as soon as possible. I also noticed once I got off the Depo my cycle was never again the same.
If you want a good one, Try looking into the Mirena IUD.
Okay. Well i really dont know where to begin but im gonna try my hardest to not make this long.
For the past 3 years, i have been head-over-heels for this guy. Long story short. Im practically in love with my step-brother. please dont judge me i have only known him for 4 years. Anyways, last year i was told by his mom, my stepmother, that he had a gf. O.o what? I tried to play it off because 1)they, she & my dad, didnt know how i felt, & 2)we were in a restaurant. So when she told me this my eyes started swelling up with tears & i ended up running to the bathroom. Okay i get it. You know at that time we havent seen each other for a year & now 2. I eventually ended up telling them & they were okay with it. Recently i got into an argument with my stepmom because she got mad at me over nothing, & i took it personally & assumed that now she hates me because of 'J'. She then apologizes & let me know that our relationship hasnt changed & she then told me that her daughter is inviting me personally to her baby's first bday party. I would absolutely love to go but the thing is that 'J' is going to be there... MOST DEFINITELY with his gf. & me, just by seeing their fb pictures together makes cry like a baby. I dont wanna go if im gonna cause a scene but i do want to go to support my stepsis. You know not only that but i hsvent seen the dude since march of 2010. i might need some 'closure' per say. Ugh i dont know. Please help me decide. I love this guy for no reason & ive been trying for so long to get over it but its just been impossible. What to do?
You need to come to terms that your step brother is your family and it will never work out between the two of you. Although you are not blood related you are still family and that is wrong.
Your step siblings are just like your brother and sister only they are married into the family. I would distance yourself from him for awhile and try to get yourself to except that. The way to do so is to try and move on and meet someone else while he does the same.
I encourage you to go to the party, It's good practice.
im going into 7th grade this year, and in 2 days i will be going to all girls sleepaway camp for a week. it is grades 7-12, so i'll be the youngest going.
how can i:
-make friends really fast (there is a 5 hour bus ride)
-fit in with the older girls?
-be fun and liked while still being myself?
thanks, and please respond asap as im leaving on sun. morning
Chances are none of these girls all know one another. You are not odd or weird, You are just another one of them.
The best way to make friends is to talk to people. At a 5 hour bus ride I'm pretty sure someone would love a conversation. You could start off introducing yourself and talk about how you are looking forward to camp. Talk to them about hobbies, music etc.
Maybe you could bring a puzzle book and find someone who will be willing to play with you. Mad libs is a great one to play.
Here is a link to what I mean http://www.classroomjr.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/spring-mad-libs-bicycle-231x300.jpg
It's just like all the other friend's you've ever met, You just need to break the ice.
I have a beautiful new son who badly needs a name. The names I've come up with that fit him well are James and Tyler. My favorite is James because it's after my grandfather, but they're are already several James in the family, including my sister's fiancee's nephew, so if they get married, she'll have two nephews names James. They're aren't any Tylers, but I'm not sure that's my favorite. I've thought about Tyler James, but I know somebody with the first name Tyler and last name James and I'm afraid it'd make him feel awkward. I've also thought about James Tyler and call him Tyler, but I'd rather not call a child by his middle name. WDYT?
I like more unique sounding names so I would probably leave the common name second and go with Tyler James _____. That's just my opinion but you should definitely go with someone you want.
You could even mix up the way Tyler is spelled if you are looking for something a little different.
You could do Tylar James _____ or Tyler Jaymes _____
If you like the Jamie which is similar to James then you do Jamie Tyler ____ or Tyler Jamie _______.
It's about what you want, Those are just some options. ;)
I'm completely out of answers with a current problem and I'll try to be brief yet give enough detail necessary.
I have been clean off of drugs for 10 months with the help of Narcotics Anonymous meetings. I met the man that I am currently involved with in the meetings and after a casual friendship we took it to the next level. At the beginning, we had what I would consider to be the perfect relationship; we loved each others company, never argued or had conflicting opinions, etc. He is the single most genuinely chivalrous man I've ever met.
After about a month together, he relapsed in his recovery for the first time and it was a stressful day, however, I mainly felt bad for him because of his struggle. We quickly got back to where we were and he restarted with his program. On the third time this happened, it really started to affect me. He has 2 children (whom adore me and I, them) from a previous marriage, an unsupporting ex-wife (who gives him the drugs in the first place), and a lot of pain from feelings of failure from having to give up the life he'd worked years for (the house, family, cars, etc.) and also from losing his father tragically a few years back.
I know these things bother him daily and I know that he desperately wants to get and stay clean but my feelings towards him and our relationship have completely changed. I've become very stressed and sometimes go as far as really just not wanting to spend as much time with him as I used to.... I truly love him very deeply, and so does my family, but when he gets himself into these moods of extremes self loathing, we fight like mad and have actually begun this chain of breaking up and getting back together withing a span of a few hours.
I told him that I never wanted to be in a relationship like this.. I need stability and I really expected it because of our mutual love but he just delves so deep into depression at times that he leaves me to "save me from him." It's just killing me inside.. I feel like my heart just breaks for him, just completely shatters and I have no idea what to do...
I love him so much but part of me wonders if this is a type of (and I hate to even say this) abuse.. It mentally wears me down. I truly think he may be bi-polar because of his EXTREME mood changes. One day everything is literally perfect, and the next, just absolutely awful.
I don't know what I need right now... I don't know if it's help, advice, suggestions... I just need someone to talk to about this.
I thank anyone that takes the time out of their day to help me by reading this and know that I truly appreciate it.
I'm going to be a bit blunt
You met him at Narcotics Anonymous. This man was there because he is trying to recover from a problem of being a drug addict.
Now to spill the beans, Probably not the best place to get involved with someone. If you want stability in your life then you should find someone who is not trying to recover from things. You are there to help yourself, To ween away from the problem. While his problem still consist and will do nothing but drag you right back down again. We can care deeply for someone but you need to put yourself first, Focus on your recovery. You will never truly start a new beginning in life as long as you allow things to be in your way. Maybe this man is a genuine guy but his habit is toxic and he is not stable at this point in his life. Right now I think you may want to move away from the drama and meet someone who will have a positive influence on you.
hi, we have been dating for almost 3 years now and we live together. we love each other and we're saving up but he's a single father and his ex seems to be very manipulative because they have a kid together therefore he lives quite close to his kid. sometimes she asks for a money quite early before his actual pay day and we always have to take money out from our savings for his ex which i don't like coz it has happened couple of times. it's always something. i told him next time she has to wait until he gets paid, that's where he said if i keep talking like that about his ex then that would split us up, now guys, what does he actually mean? does he still loves his ex or what is it? does he still care about her? i'm a possessive person but i care about the kid as well. he says hates his ex. he's only staying this close coz of his kid. she's so unreliable as she persuaded him that he can't go or move anywhere far as he has a kid which i find very selfish of her just because they have a kid together. it's terribly hard. thanks u all.
It sounds a bit like he is defensive when it comes to the mother of his child. However as a father his child is going to be a main priority in his life. That is the way it should be with every parent, His child is going to come before you. If you are in a relationship with him then you both need to work it out. You need to respect that he is a father. Also, Why is he giving his ex money from a savings account that is shared by the both of you? This is HIS child but yet if it is your savings account too then that would mean you are also paying for a child that is not yours? I would also probably not want to be with someone that threatens a relationship the way he did. On the other hand there is a bit lack of information for me to really give say on what exactly you should do.
Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
I know it's always better and relationships work out better when you take it slow. But what if it was the total opposite? Do you think it could still work?
I think the way you carry yourself in the beginning has a big impact on how the relationship will end up. If you start off as sex or friends with benefits then there may be a bit of a hump to overcome before actually falling in love with that person. When someone has sex without being in love then after so many times of sexual encounters it almost becomes like a habit. That habit is having sex without intimacy. I am not saying it's not possible but definitely does not come without a challenge. In order to fall in love with a relationship that started as sex, You must bring yourself to love that person and put the sex on the second burner.
A relationship is best if you get to know a person first.
well im a female, 18.
me and my boyfriend broke up around 3/4 days ago, well he ended it :'( he ended it cause he says he don t trust me any longer..
we were dating for like 1 year :(
the reason he ended it with me is because i forgot to mention one detail that happened to me when i was 14 ... he says he cant trust me anymore that im a liar.
well my point is , when a guy shows he doesnt care anymore , is that when he still cares the most?
+ im his first love, like inside me i know he cant forget me , and i honestly dont want to move on , when my heart feels something like this for him..
we all make mistakes and choices.
ah this is so harddd:'(
Whatever happened 4 years ago should not matter in your relationship. It's the past, Whatever it is it's over and done with. You both were dating for a year and therefore you weren't even with him at the time.
Right now I would advise you to try and spend time with friends and family. The worst thing you could do is sit here and allow yourself to fall into a depression. Of course it's normal to be depressed but getting out will help you and keep your mind off it. I think the quickest and easiest way to move on from a situation is to fully withdraw yourself from it. If he can't trust you, Then you must move on.
Lately, I've been really struggling to control my anxious thoughts and compulsive tendencies. I recently started working at an internship and have great difficulty forcing myself to go due to the anxiety I feel by the social obligation it requires. As a result, I am often absent during the week. I am always worried about what people think of me or if people are judging me. During times of great stress, I feel like running away. This is irrational and unrealistic seeing as my savings have been greatly reduced in order for me to finace working at this internship, which happens to be unpaid. I'm not currently on medication nor am I seeing a therapist because I don't have health insurance. Another factor that concerns me is my age. I am twenty-six years old and still living with my parents. I feel like I'm not advancing or progressing in life because of my anxiety. I often seriously think about running away but I know this is irrational, illogical and unrealistic given that I don't have enough money to support myself. I worry that I'll never fully be able to care for and support myself like everyone else does. Everything in life, especially social interaction, is very difficult and strenous for me. I currently have $250 in my savings account--I know most of the responses will try to dissuade me, but I would like to know if there are any options I can pursue in order to move forward with my life. I'm thinking about possibly going into the airforce; I know it would be a great challenge but they provide housing and a stipend every month for food. Plus, I'd be earning money and living independently.
I am not trying to burst your bubble here believe me but if I know in the Army if you show signs of medical problems you will be medically discharged depending on the situation. If you are having problems with anxiety I suggest seeking counseling to help you learn techniques to help you cope. If you do not have any insurance to get medication then you could call around to see if there are any mental health places that are willing to put you on a sliding scale where you can pay monthly. There are always options out there, Even when we have no insurance. You could check your local area to see if there is a Thundermist near you. I do know they are one of the few places that are willing to let patients pay monthly on their bill. I'm not highly familiar with the Air force but I wish you the best luck.
ok, i like this boy but i get way to nervous around him. i start sweating, stuttering, and i cant stop staring at him. i really dont know what to do and i cant avoid him because he comes over my house sometimes. someone please help me?
Chill out
You aren't the only one that is nervous, The more you think about it the more obvious and nervous you make yourself. The best thing to do is just be yourself, Breathe. Take it slow and get to know him first. Find out what he enjoys. Favorite hobby, band, movie etc.
Chances are he is just as nervous as you. If you think it would benefit you could plan out what you will say to him first.
Sorry that it would be long. But please have patience reading this. I am 25. I met this guy when I had my vacation in Europe last year. We fell in love with each other and spent 3 months almost together. When I went back to my homeland, I just found out that I am pregnant. When my stepfather learned about it, he was really mad and said really hurtful words towards me and my fiance. I accepted everything. Good thing my stepfather lives in different country, so we just talk thru email. He's mad that I got pregnant without having savings yet same with my fiance and because my fiance is a Moslim. He is really a good guy, responsible, loving and the sweetest guy Ive ever met. My stepfather hates Moslims, he's very judgemental and really strict. He paid for me since I was 11 until before I got pregnant. That's why he is really controlling towards me. I don't think that he really sees me as a daughter, I think more of an investment. There was a time too that he had bad intention towards me, he touched my breast few years back. It didn't happen again after I confronted him about it. But I just don't feel really comfortable everytime my stepfather is around.
I gave birth to a healthy cute baby girl and he's still mad. When my fiance and I decided to get married next year, my stepfather really disagrees. He is the most negative person on earth. Since I got pregnant, until now, he sends email to my mother about his negativity towards me and my fiance, it stresses my mum already. I understand that he wants me to marry a guy who has savings and an own house but my fiance is doing his best for me and our daughter. We are planning to bring me and our daughter in his country when everything is stable already. He talks like my fiance is a criminal or something, as if he knows him. But he just saw him one time. What really insulted me is when my stepfather asked me thru email "are you that cheap?" I never felt insulted my whole life. I told him I'm not gonna read his emails anymore. And that I don't feel like he sees me as a daughter. You wouldn't tell your daughter, are you that cheap? I respect the man but I have enough. He cant control me my whole life and I want to decide for myself. Im gonna choose on whom to marry, not him.
I just want how you guys think about this. At the end of the day, of course, I'll still stick on my decision. Thanks in advance.
You are an adult, You can make your own choices in your life with or without your stepfathers approval. If he is going to disrespect you and your fiance then he is probably going to do the same in front of your daughter also. Some people never get a grip on reality, Reality is you are making your decisions in life and he is unhappy about it.
If you want to move, Then move. Make sure this is what you want and always have a plan B encase all else fails you. God forbid, but things do not always go as planned. In the meantime, You could try writing your stepfather a letter to how his negativity has taken an effect on you. In this letter you could state that you are sorry he disapproves of the choices you made but you are going to continue to go on with our without him. You could also explain that you will keep your email opened and if he ever decides to come around then to email you but all rude emails will not be replied too. Be stern and lay down the ground rules. Sometimes in certain cases we need to have control over a situation and in this case you are in control of your own life not him.