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Should I Rat Out My Brother?
My brother THINKS that he's an awesome brother, father, son, and everything else when the truth is that he's done everyone in our family wrong. I won't go into it all, but it's all because his wife hates us and keeps him from us and he's such a wuss, he can't stand up to her. He's a car dealer and was supposed to help my sister get her daughter a car. Her daughter is looking forward to it SO much. Her mom almost bought her a car from a dealer closer to their town, but when my brother heard, he said he had found a car for her and was going to bring it down in a couple days. It's been months since then and he's been making excuse after excuse for why he can't come and they can't go get it. I've just found out that he gave the car to his wife's kids and won't tell my sister because he's too much of a coward. He said he'll find her another car, but why would anyone trust him? My niece really likes him and I don't want her to be hurt, but I'm sick of him disappointing her. What should I do?
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It's hard to judge a book that's missing the pages, This is only part of the story so my advice is given by what you said.
Honestly, If he is married then he is co-parenting her children. I'm not saying he hasn't made his mistakes but in his eyes he may be putting his family first. A husbands job is to provide for his family and his immediate family is his wife and step children.
I'm not saying his niece isn't family nor are you but what I am trying to say is he has responsibilities to take care of first before taking care of everyone else in the family. In a way, I think you should cut the guy some slack. It sounds like you may be expecting too much out of him. It sort of sucks he can't be truthful yes but maybe the guy just doesn't like confrontation and wants to keep his peace.
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I think you should have a talk with him. Tell him everything you feel and don't hold back, when you're done you'll feel a thousand times better. Don't insult him or disrespect him but tell him what you have to say, in a mature responsible way but say everything. If he can't open his eyes to the truth, maybe you can help him. Best of luck! {:
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