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Does anyone know any artists that did african masks or any good links to them, iv been searching for ages cant find any. for my gcse art!Cheers :)

I miss GCSE Art :)
Noone has answered so I thought I'd give it a go.
If you haven't already, instead of searching for "African Masks", try "African Tribal Art", as masks will be included.
You've picked quite a broad category, as there are different types of masks, as you should know.
http://www.artyfactory.com/africanmasks/context/function.htm
This is a good site for describing them etc, as well as:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African_tribal_masks
Just to point out, when you research artists, they don't have to be Just African mask ones. Find other African artists (or ones which aren't African) and explain how their work is like some of the masks you've researched, like Fanizani Akuda and Bernard Matemera's work (they are African).
Research is the main part where you get your marks, so the more, the merrier. and it doesn't have to tie in COMPLETELY with what you're doing. The assessors like to see how you've thought for yourself instead of just copying things from the internet and books.


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How can I lose five to seven pounds in two weeks to a month? Will slimfast and a lot of exercise help a lot? Thankss!

Exercise and eating right is all you need. Make your portions smaller, too.
Remember, Everyone loses weight at a different pace, so if you don't reach your goal of 5-7 pounds in a month, don't let it put you off.
Just stick to it and do it right. Don't over exert yourself.
Have fun.




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My breasts Have been hurting very badly for about a week now maybe more. I am suposed to be getting my period any day now but my breasts have NEVER hurt this badly when Ive been on my period. I use a condom EVERRRRYYY time I have sex so i really dont think im pregnant but i know breasts tenderness is a sign. Im not sure what to doo! I'm also afraid that for some screwd up reason I'll end up being pregnant and kill it because I do drink alchohal once in awhile. what should i do.

Just because they haven't hurt as bad before doesn't mean much. It's different for some people.
Breast tenderness is a very common sign of coming on, so it's just probably that. (yes it's a sign of pregnancy too, alongside other symptoms).
If you used protection correctly, then the odds you are pregnant are tiny, so don't worry about that just yet.
Give yourself a week. If you haven't come on, take a test.
Don't worry or stress over it though, because it only makes it worse.

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how come in "Take a bow" rihannas eye color is green? Isnt it supposed to be hazel?

Contact lenses, as well as other factors, such as lighting and editing - she is on camera after all. :)

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Technically I'm not a vegetarian, but beginning a few months ago, I stopped eating red meat. I eat chicken sometimes, but since I don't eat red meat I'm probably not getting enough iron. Plus, I don't know if this is the case with me, but my sisters have low-iron anemia.

I started eating a little bit of red meat last week.

The problem is, I haven't gotten my period yet, so I'm wondering if this change in diet is the cause of this. Or maybe because I stopped exercising around the same time I stopped eating red meat?

If any of you are vegetarians, vegan, or don't eat meat, has this happened to you too? or if you've tried this and it affected your period?

Please don't tell me to take a pregnancy test, I just want to know if this is a reason or not. Thanks in advance!

Yes, a change in your diet is a reason, as well as the change in your exercising. Another reason is stress.
If you get yourself into a proper regime with your eating, exercising etc, it should come back.
I don't know how long you haven't had your period for, but remember, they can take years to regulate.
I don't feel it's anything to worry about, but if it would help you put your mind at ease, why not speak to your doctor?
Good luck.

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Me and this girl, said some things to this kid, that we probably shouldn't have. it was really mean, and i regret it a lottt. however, i'm now worried about our safety. i don't know what to do. im really scared hes gonna like freak out, and come and like bring a gun to school or something. i seriously dont even wanna go monday. i mean the way he looked at me, freaked me outtttt. i dont know? am i over exaggerating? i dont wanna die? helpppp.

Okay, you are probably over exaggerating and I doubt he's going to come and murder you both, but you have to face up to what you have done and apologize. Tell him you were out of order and didn't mean what you said. Hopefully he will forgive you within time and you won't have to worry any more.
Don't miss school over it. Be brave and say sorry and let it be a lesson to you both.
Best of luck.

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Does anyone know if you can cheat by bringing a pocket laser with you? cause im going for school tomorrow and i really want to kick ***.

Thanks
Nate

Smart idea - but no.
If you could bring any form of laser, you'd have people cheating everywhere, all the time. Not to mention in a proper game of laser tag, only their equipment will work with one another.
Hope you have a brilliant time and kick ass, anyway!

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15/f
me and my bf have been going out for 7 months and we are in love. for some reason i cannot get over the fact that he has gotten a bj before, one time [i think] from one girl. by the way i have never given a bj or aything before. idk what my problem is. we haven't done much sexually (were taking it slow pretty slow :] ) but i don't think i would be able to progress sexually with him until i am over this stupid issue. but like the whole thing kills me inside. he says he kinda feels the same way that ive gotten fingered before but besides him i've only gotten fingered once or twice by one other guy, and my bf has fingered numerous other girls before so its definetly not the same. idk does anyone understand how i feel or any advice of what i can do to get over this? by the way saying something like oh its in the past now and theres nothing you can do about it does not help :/

I'm pretty sure everyone knows how you feel. When you love someone, it can be a horrible feeling knowing they've done things previously with other people and haven't kept it for you. but you must understand everyone has had a past and within time, you'll accept this. You should be focusing on your future and ways to satisfy each other - not dwelling on their past, because unfortunately, you can't change it.

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do those un-tangling shampoos really make a difference to your hair? is it worth buying?

They certainly do, however, it will be best if you use other products too. Do you use conditioner? If not, do it. It's great for tangles.
Next time you're out, have a look around for products available (creams, sprays. etc) and use them as well as the shampoo.
Also, make brush your hair thoroughly after you wash it.

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There's this guy that I liked. He is a really really great guy, and I never felt like I had to be anyone else around him.

He found out I liked him from a friend, and me and him kind of talked about it over text, and the next day, he was acting all smiley around me. But a few days later, things went right back to being awkward. I sent him two more texts between Monday and Friday, asking him his thoughts about it. He never responded, but just acted weird and nervous.

For the past two days, I kind of haven't talked to him, because I was a little hurt that he never responded back, or tried to talk to me in school about it. I don't know what reason there was for it. I thought he liked me, judging by the fact that he'd always come to talk to me, and gets nervous around me.

School is ending on Friday. I mean, I'll see him next year, I think. But I am just sad that I never got to find out whether or not he likes me. It wouldn't be appropriate to text him again, so I won't.

I will just miss him. He's such a cool guy.

I would do something, but what can I do? I don't want to irritate him, if he is giving me the "back off" sign, but I feel like there is no closure here.

I mean....he has my number...if he wanted to call, he could.

You're absolutely right. I know it's a horrible way to think about it - but if he wanted to get in contact with you, he would.
He knows your feelings and now it all seems like it's in his hands.
It's impossible to say why he's acting this way, as there are multiple reasons (he is confused, he's having problems at the moment, he likes you but he's scared, or he's afraid of telling you he doesn't feel the same)..
I know it's hard, but if I were you, I'd lay off contacting him for now.
Perhaps before you leave you could talk to him, or send him just one more txt. If he doesn't reply or it's awkward etc if you chat in person - It's pretty obvious where you stand.

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ok...
so me and my boyfriend finally did it like 2 weeks ago. he only went in once and he had a condom on. but i am late on my period. one of my friends said it was cuz he popped my cherry. and others say i might be pregnant. which one is more likly??

None. "Popping your cherry" won't affect your period. and if you used protection correctly, you aren't pregnant.
My guess? - Irregular period.
Don't stress over it. It only makes it worse.
Just wait to see if you come on within the next week. If not, take a test.
Good luck.

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ok so whenever i send my bf a message on msn he never gets it. we can only talk when he's the one starting the convo. and i only have this problem with him. its no trouble talking to anyone else.
lol does anyone else have this problem?
thankss

Have you tried removing the current MSN from your computer completely and downloading it again?
If not, it's worth a try.
Has it always done it? I remember for about 2 weeks, it randomly wouldn't let me send messages, but after I'd removed it and got it back, it worked a charm.
If you're still having the problem, it might be worth contacting them and explaining your situation. The trouble might not even be caused from your end and might be your boyfriend.
You could also try installing a different version. If you have the newest one, they sometimes don't work as well and have more bugs :S

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Hello... I'm having boy troubles. I have a boyfriend and his bestfriend [who is a girl] likes him too. He is always hanging out with her more than with me. Should i ask him if he likes her or would that damage our relationship? Pleases help



Sincerely,
?LoVeStUcK?

It won't damage your relationship if you ask him. He is your boyfriend - you are supposed to talk to each other about anything that's bothering you with your relationship, so you can get through it.
Just don't keep getting on at him about it, because it can push him away and he will think you don't believe/trust him.
Who knows, you might be able to come to a compromise where you two can hang out together more. Don't get paranoid about him spending time with friends, though. He shouldn't neglect them because he has a girlfriend.
I wish you the best of luck.

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well i think my friend is just bein too overprotective about me knowing some of her friendsz but shes like no! but i still think so. could that be true and im worng or she is being over protective and not know that she is?

More information would have been helpful as to why you think she's being over protective, but yes, it is possible she isn't aware how protective she is being - it could be in her nature.
She may even be worried you'll go off with her friends and forget about her.

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hi, pls can anyone help me? i am in relatioship with a girl which i dont love. she took it very serous. pls how can i come out of it.

Try to break up with her in a decent way (to her face). She'll respect you more for it, instead of a txt for instance.
Just tell her you are sorry and you don't want to be in a relationship any more. If she asks why, just say you aren't ready or it doesn't feel right.
Done.
Good luck.

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I got a deep cut from glass on my thigh, its been bleeding for about, 4 hours. It doesn't look like it needs stictches to me, but it also looks pretty deep.
Do I have to get stitches? What will happen if I don't?

"Before you make that decision, rinse the wound thoroughly with cold water, squeeze the edges together and apply pressure with clean gauze. If it's actively bleeding, elevate the area above your heart. Check the cut after 10 minutes: If you are still bleeding or see that the wound is deep or jagged, you'll probably need to get sewn up. Head to the ER—waiting only increases your risk for infection and scarring."


My advice.. get checked out.
1. You've been bleeding for 4 hours
2. It's a deep cut
If it doesn't need stitches, they'll clean it properly and put on a dressing. If it does need stitches, it's not a problem, plus it'll reduce future scarring.


Get better soon.

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well i heard that if you have sex to much your vagina gets loose.how does that happen?

It doesn't happen. The only thing which can make it loose is giving birth - as you can imagine. You can tighten it up again with pelvic floor exercises (also known as kegal).

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Do people who feel the need to hide things or lie ever really change? I want an answer from someone who has been in a LONGGGGG term relationship

The answer is simple.
Some people change, some people don't. It depends if they truly regret what they've done and if they realize it was a mistake.
I do believe in second chances, because I feel everyone has the ability to change for the better.
and I personally know of people who have changed. :)

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I've already sent her a txt message saying that I do want to kiss her and she agreed and she wants to also, but every time I get a good chance to I screw it up, for some reason I get nevouse and mess up, and there are a bunch of other guys that keep on making fun of us cause I have yet and that rely pisses me off alot and I want to alot but for some reason I cant get myself to do it. Any advice?

Hey there.
What you're experiencing is normal for a first kiss. It's just your nerves getting the better of you. When you finally do it, you will realize that you had nothing to be scared about and you'll feel comfortable doing it whenever.
Screw those other guys who make fun of you. They're just making the situation worse for you. Don't listen to them - it's none of their business anyway.
When you and you're girl are together, a way where you can't really mess up and she will know what to expect is to take her hands, look in her eyes, move your head closer and plant your lips on hers (close your eyes for this bit) and do a closed mouth kiss for, say, 2,3 seconds. Keep it short and sweet. It's foolproof :)
Because you're really nervous, I don't recommend using tongues just yet.

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Why do people think "well this is what all men do deal with it" when it comes to porn? Honestly, does every man in the world watch it? Isn't any woman confident enough to believe she is enough to please her man's sexual desires? In addition, why should one have to deal with something they feel is disrespectful? That's like saying that it's okay to be disrespected. While some people feel that it's okay, shouldn't those who feel otherwise have their wishes respected?

1. Not ALL men watch porn.
2. Women watch it too.

Men probably know these porn stars aren't only fake, but set a bad example as to what sex "should be like". It's also a good reason why women shouldn't feel inadequate - It's not like men will compare you to them.
If a man you're with watches porn, it doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive or he doesn't love you any more. It's just sex. and sex is fun, right? Watching it and doing it are different.

If a guy you happen to be with watches porn, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. He could cut it out all together or do it without you knowing.. but would you rather it be what you don't know hurt you.. or would you be upset he's doing it behind your back? Is it even worth to get into arguments about? Not really..

People will have different views on this. Some people mind, some people don't.
Whilst I don't feel watching it is necessary, I doubt I'd get annoyed. over it. Heck, some couples even watch porn together.

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