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so me and my boyfriend finally did it like 2 weeks ago. he only went in once and he had a condom on. but i am late on my period. one of my friends said it was cuz he popped my cherry. and others say i might be pregnant. which one is more likly??
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First off, your friends are very confused as to what your hymen is apparently. In short, it doesn't matter if you bleed when your hymen is broken or not--your period is not affected by such. A lot of women experience late periods after losing their virginity because they begin to stress over a possible pregnancy, thus delaying the period a few days.
I'm very concerned that you're not knowledgeable of your own body and how things work so I really feel I should add in some details to help you in the future. It is really in your best interest to educate yourself as much as possible about sex (and everything that sex involves) so that you're more prepared for the many possibilities.
The hymen (or "cherry" as you are referring to it as) usually has a small hole in it as it is. A hymen is made of very thin tissue and it is fairly easy to tear or stretch. It's located at the entrance to the vagina so, actually, it isn't inside of the vagina. The hole is there to allow menstrual blood to escape the body and is usually too small to accommodate an entire penis to enter the vagina without being stretched.
If you do have vaginal intercourse and you do not completely break/tear your hymen it will stretch out and create a larger hole, just as your vagina will naturally stretch out to accommodate the penis. Some hymens are elastic enough to permit a penis to enter without tearing, or they will tear only partially, and there may be no bleeding at all.
The blood that comes out of your body during your menstruation is actually the lining of your uterus being expelled because of an unfertilized egg. Your body does this, in short, to rid itself of the waste (egg that can no longer be used). Losing your virginity has nothing to do with this part really and you should still be experiencing your regular cycle (maybe a few days off because of the stress of worry).
Engaging in sex means always taking the risk of becoming pregnant since NO contraceptive is 100% effective and there is no such thing as perfect use because nobody is perfect. Obviously, you're completely aware of this fact since you are concerned over a possible pregnancy. It also puts you in a very vulnerable state for years to come.
The media is telling younger and younger generations that sexual activity makes them famous, popular, attractive, wealthy, well-liked, and feel-good. This is not true at all and if you and your partner aren't educated enough about sexual activity then it's pretty much a waste of time and can leave you with emotional insecurities.
Having sexual relations is a major thing. It puts you in a very vulnerable state. You are risking STD/STI transmission and possibly pregnancy along with emotional, physical, and mental hang-ups to develop. If something bad goes wrong then you're stuck with that feeling for your next sexual encounters.
Just because your hormones and the media are telling you to do it, it doesn't mean it's right and acceptable. If something bad happens, things get out of hand, or you catch something from the activity you cannot magically pretend it didn't happen. We should make it a special point to choose careful who we give it to.
It takes only one sperm to fertilize your one egg. They are designed to do everything possible to ensure reproduction. Your body also does just about everything it can do to make sure the sperm can successfully fulfill their duty. Because of this, you are fertile every day of your cycle, including the days you are on your period. The only time you are more fertile than usual is when you are ovulating (when the egg has been released from the ovary and begins traveling down the fallopian tubes).
Then there is always the risk of pregnancy. No matter what birth control method you use (even if you use two) it isn't going to be 100% effective on preventing pregnancy and STD/STI transmission. A baby takes a lot from a woman's body during pregnancy and if your body isn't mature enough to handle it, it can really be rough. In addition, if you don't have good support from your partner then you're left holding all of the bags. You'll have to figure out what to do with the baby, decide if you can raise it and how, and give up any future goals you have so that you can focus on the child. A baby takes 100% of your time, energy, money, and emotional support 100% of the time.
It's even tougher if you don't have a life-long partner to help share that huge responsibility. What's even scarier about that is that men and women today are just up and leaving their children with their partners to handle the responsibility all alone. This means people need to be pickier on who they reproduce with and stop sleeping with any thing that crosses their path even if they claim to love them. Making children isn't hard, it's raising them that gets complicated.
One night of sex can result in creating another life or living with a disease the rest of yours. I know many people who lost their virginity and became pregnant (or had gotten the girl pregnant) the same night. They weren't emotionally ready to have children but they made one mistake and they now have a tough road ahead of them trying to make enough money and time for their child.
Even if you think that you can have an abortion if there happens to be a pregnancy, think about the consequences of that action even. Some women suffer major depression for many years after having an abortion. There are cases of women committing suicide years after having an abortion because they couldn't deal with what they had done. Some women become infertile and can no longer have any children. Some really good men refuse to be with a woman who has had an abortion. Throwing a life away because you wanted to have some fun should be an unacceptable option.
Here are some serious facts you want to consider on pregnancy:
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You risk STDs/STIs with each sexual contact. These can render you completely infertile and you won't be able to ever have children. If it doesn't do that, it could hide in you and you could end up spreading it to every partner you ever have without knowing it. Even at that, some STDs can deteriorate the brain and be so severe that they cause a long, painful death years later.
A lot of people have STDs/STIs and don't even know it. Many people don't show symptoms. This means that many mothers pass on things to their unborn babies. I'm sure none of us would like to find out 20 years from now that we had contracted HIV/AIDs and that our baby has it too now because we passed it along.
Here are some amazingly scary facts about STDs currently that you've be really surprised at:
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..and here's some photos of SOME STDs (graphic photos of mostly males, you have to click on links to choose which ones you want to see though so if you click here it isn't going to pop up a bunch of photos). It's important that you check these photos out so that you know what STDs can do to a person's body, just in case you experience problems in this area:
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You should not be in a rush to have sex. You have plenty of years ahead of you. You're, most likely, young and should be enjoying your youth rather than trying to make major life-altering decisions. There are plenty of things to do that you can be having fun at that doesn't mean risking your health and emotional state. Obviously you're aware that you're not ready for the responsibilities of having a child so please reconsider the activities you have been engaging in.
I know what it all comes down to is that it's your life, your body, your decision, and possibly even your mistake. I am really concerned for your well-being though. It is best to keep yourself informed and well-educated. Please sit down with your partner and discuss the possible outcomes of your sexual activities together. You may also find it helpful to view the above sites with him so that you're sure he is just as informed as you are.
Now, you may want to drop by your local store (Wal-mart, various pharmacy, etc.) and pick up a pregnancy test. When you're late by a few days you should be able to get a decent read-out from the test. If you're truly concerned (since these sort of tests can show a false negative--and no, there is no false positive) you may want to make an appointment for a pregnancy test in your local clinic.
I hope you become better informed of your body and what you've been doing with your boyfriend lately.
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None. "Popping your cherry" won't affect your period. and if you used protection correctly, you aren't pregnant.
My guess? - Irregular period.
Don't stress over it. It only makes it worse.
Just wait to see if you come on within the next week. If not, take a test.
Good luck.
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Neither, I'm assuming you're young. When you're young your period is most likely not regulated. You're probably just late because of that. I'm glad you used protection (good job). =)
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